After a breakup you can be devastated but also relieved when you recognize that you and your ex were incompatible. This doesn’t necessarily make it easier to let go of someone that you once deeply cared for and that you share many memories with; however you can find solace knowing in your heart that he or she was never going to fulfill you and make you truly happy.
When you are able to look back with such perspective on your relationship it is a lot easier to forget about your ex and find the one for you. It is actually possible for you to put certain actions in place in order to increase your chances of meeting your soul mate or that special someone that will uplift you and push you towards your dreams.
Understand what went wrong
You shouldn’t dwell on your past relationship and drive yourself crazy thinking about what could have been but it is necessary for you to take a little bit of time to reflect on what went wrong.
Having the capacity to be self-critical can enable you to identify some of your character traits that you can improve upon in order to be a better partner moving forward and easier to be around in regards to certain facets of your life.
If you don’t look to evolve you will be stuck making the same mistakes over and over again. Even if your ex was difficult or not easy to deal with realize that it takes two to tango and that you most likely played a part in the arguments or issues faced within your couple.
Being willing to look within in order to become a better person is a positive sign when it comes to future relationships and ultimately finding the one; you are in essence starting to get into a certain mindset that will help attract people to you.
It is also a positive sign of maturity when it comes to relationships with people in general; such an exercise will enable you to develop a keen eye towards understanding other people’s points of view and thus make you a more social person.
Focus on You and the things that you can control
Once you have understood where things may have gone wrong and the role that you played in making your previous relationship collapse, you should take somewhat of a selfish approach and focus on you and the things that you can control.
You need to make a concerted effort to be happy. Sometimes it entails not staying in touch with your ex in order to not be tempted about getting back into a relationship that you know in your heart won’t fulfill you.
Look to see what you can do to find a sense of inner peace on both a physical and emotional level. On both levels it is absolutely necessary for you to stay proactive and to have a vision for what you are looking to achieve.
There is a very strong correlation between your physical well-being, your emotional stability and your overall sense of happiness. Exercise as much as possible within reason over a set period of time of at least a few months and you will start to feel a lot better about your body.
Channel your inner creativity and find a cause that speaks to you and be engaged in your community; giving selflessly to others will help you find a sense of emotional stability and ultimately feel better about where you are at this stage of your life.
When you are able to take control of your life from both a physical and emotional standpoint look to give to others and to stay in shape you will be happier and more fulfilled. By this stage and after a few weeks you will already have forgotten about your ex and be one step closer towards finding the one.
A clear path towards your life project
The key to attract the right people into your life, to forget about your ex and find the one is to live with purpose. There is something magical about being passionate about a cause or in the pursuit of something greater than you.
Finding your calling doesn’t happen overnight; you need to be in an active mindset and look to find something that resonates within and that will enable you to have a reason to wake up every morning. It entails having dreams and goals and being somewhat self-less.
Nothing can be more attractive than someone living with purpose; you will draw people to you who will be in awe of your ability to have a goal or an ideal that you are looking to move towards every day. You will be one step closer towards finding the one because you will be attracting like-minded people or others who will cross your path destined to help you take the next step towards achieving your dreams and goals.
Push your comfort zone and meet new people
Once you are able to take a selfish approach in the sense that you are focusing on you and looking to become a better person; it is absolutely necessary for you to get into the mind set of pushing your comfort zone.
You need to get into the habit of breaking those inner barriers in order to realize your full potential and see how far you can really go when it comes to your abilities, in your hobbies or even in social settings.
You need to be looking to meet new people, to discover new things and to interact in different environments. You do not need to necessarily travel in order to accomplish this endeavor.
Even in a small rural village you can change your habits, talk to someone that you may have seen but never spoken with or stepped into a place that you have passed many times but never took the time to go into.
By stretching your outer and inner worlds, you will again be one step closer towards finding the one!
Forget about your ex and find the one
In order to forget about your ex and find the one you need to take control of your life. Do not go searching for your soul mate as you will most likely never find that person. On the contrary look to find your true essence and your soul mate will find you!
It all starts with understanding what went wrong in order to become a better and more compassionate person. Then put your efforts into what you can control and take a selfish approach in the sense that you should focus on elements of your life both on an emotional and physical level that will help you be more at peace with yourself.
Finally zero-in on your life project and live everyday of your life with the purpose of accomplishing this feat that will be bigger than yourself. Eventually the one will find you and you will have forgotten about your ex along the way!
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