You have two solutions after a breakup. In the first option, you can decide to turn the page and just be friends with your ex, or cut contact. If however you’re on this site today, I’m pretty sure this isn’t what you want…
Just like most of my readers, you have made some mistakes as well in your attempt at getting back together by wanting to see your ex again too soon and you’re looking for solutions that can help you backtrack and get back on track! You’ll need specific techniques and methods for rekindling the flame and for putting an end to the pain of a breakup. Oftentimes, it’s in these difficult moments that you realize how you really feel, and how much you really love this person. Unfortunately for you, it took a breakup for things to become clear, but that doesn’t mean that all hope is lost because you can change things. You’ve already made the first step by coming to this site looking for answers in my articles and by taking advantage of all the advice available to you from a specialist in the art of getting back together.
The love you feel for your ex is sincere, just like your desire to repair your family…but sometimes this desire turns into impatience and results in mistakes in your attempt at getting your ex back. Wanting to get back together too quickly is understandable, but it’s not something that you should do. In truth, under these circumstances, you should never rush things. You have to keep a level head, and in this article I’ll tell you why.
The steps to follow when getting back together too quickly with an ex
It’s true that sometimes it’s very hard to digest a breakup; to accept it, and yet this is essential if you want to get your ex back. This is the first step! Many people don’t ask themselves why they’re in their current situation, and then 2 days after the breakup (instead of asking themselves pertinent questions) they go out and buy some extravagant “take me back” gift for their ex. I’m sure you can understand why these types of gestures aren’t going to get you very far.
Even if it feels like you’re twisting the knife in the wound, you have to ask yourself why the magic you had felt in the beginning of your relationship has been replaced by sadness. Understanding the breakup and accepting it are obligatory in any situation. Whether you had been married for 20 years or if you had experienced passionate love at first site (relationships that lasted under a year) you have to do this.
Why shouldn’t I try to get my ex back too quickly?
After a breakup, there is a period in which you need to review the situation. On top of the steps I’ve already mentioned, you have to ask yourself another very important question: Is getting back together a good idea? Sometimes men and women are subconsciously guided by their pride and want to get back together even if they’ll end up suffering. I’m referring to people that have experienced domestic violence because in my experience, I have seen how determined some of these people can actually be to rebuild a solid relationship with their husband or boyfriend.
In any case, rushing things can lead to errors, it can blind you to the right choice, and worse still, can make things considerably worse. If you have sincere feelings and you truly feel that getting back together is the solution for you, which is the case most of the time, you have to take your time. I know that this isn’t easy, but you have to think about what’s best for you. You don’t just want to get your ex back, kiss them, spend the night together and then just go your separate ways again… No, you want to rebuild your relationship. It is therefore necessary to do everything in good time, at the right moment, so that you can put all the odds in your favor.
A breakup never happens without reason and subsequently bitterness, incomprehension or different desires can still exist between you and your ex. These things need to be fixed so that you don’t have to deal with bad memories that will resurface and threaten your new relationship together.
Advancing quickly without skipping any steps
Looking to not fall into the trap of getting back together too quickly doesn’t mean that you should sit around and wait. You can start preparing your return already, and this is unfortunately a detail that a lot of people don’t realize. There is a period of thinking things through and organizing, because you don’t want to try to get your ex back any which way.
If you’re familiar with my philosophy, you know that I suggest multiple techniques based on your situation. I’m of course talking about radio silence, which allows you to rebuild yourself as well as to make your ex miss you. There is also the handwritten letter, which is another great way to approach your ex and revive their feelings for you.
You’re not short of advantages… But as for when your friends tell you, “Do it! Don’t waste any time,” you should know that despite their goodwill, they’re mistaken. It’s best to wait and to determine the best actions instead of having to improvise and not knowing how to proceed.
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