People often think that the end of a relationship means that the feelings disappear, and that the 2 people that had been together are now strangers to one another that have no trouble whatsoever ignoring each other. This isn’t the case at all. More often than not, the relationship doesn’t just evaporate into thin air overnight. There are some couples that continue to sleep together after the breakup, there are some people that start working on trying to get their ex back, and other couples that remain good friends. Basically, a breakup doesn’t always put an end to exchanges between two ex-partners.
Nevertheless, there are some strange types of behavior after a breakup. Strange, yes, but completely understandable when you take a closer look! Jealousy is often present in relationships but surprisingly it can also show up between exes. Despite the breakup, there are still some reflexes that a person continues to have, and this puts you in an odd situation. The woman you had been with is still acting jealousy and you don’t know how to react.
Not everyone asks themselves, “why is my ex is jealous,” but what do you do when this is the case? How can you interpret this type of behavior? Is this a sign of love? Whether you want to get back together with your ex or not, it’s important to understand this jealousy because it can sometimes make you make mistakes and result in you adopting the wrong attitude.
Why is my ex jealous?
After a breakup there are certain reflexes that are still present. You had spent passionate months or years together, so it’s normal that not everything stops at the moment you break up. One of the most unsettling aspects of this situation is that the man was often left by the woman, and so their jealousy makes even less sense.
When you’re the one that makes the decision to leave it makes perfect sense for your ex to be the one that wants you back and to not give up that easily. But when it was her decision to break up, her fits of jealous are hard to analyze and even harder to accept.
One of the main explanations is that you’re confusing the breakup with the loss of feelings for you. When you decide to leave someone it’s not necessarily because you’re not in love with them anymore. This is probably the case for your ex, and maybe she even regrets having left, especially if you’re employed radio silence. It’s normal that she’d be experiencing this emotion when she sees you with other women or enjoying life to the fullest.
Sometimes people feel the need to control everything, and this can also explain an ex’s jealousy. Maybe she still feels that you are “hers” and it’s not malicious; it’s subconscious. Seeing the man you love with some other chick, seeing that he’s liking pictures of girls in bathing suits on Facebook, or seeing his lascivious poses on social media are far from pleasant. A woman isn’t going to hide her opinion from you.
Should I play into my ex’s jealousy?
I know that a lot of the men reading this article want to get their ex back once and for all. I also know that some of you are using jealousy as a tool to succeed in your endeavor, whereas some of you are just trying to live your life without having realized the effect that your actions were having on your ex-partner.
We often think that jealousy is proof that your ex is still in love with you and that if she’s acting like this it’s means that she’s dying to jump your bones… If you’re still stuck in this mindset you didn’t understand the first part of this article. She may very well still be in love with you, (and it’s very likely that this is the case,) but this didn’t stop her from leaving you so why would she come back? Ask yourself this question, gentlemen! Thinking, “My ex is jealous” doesn’t guarantee that she’ll come back and if you want to change things you’re going to have to use this to your advantage and use proper techniques.
I also would like to point out that using jealousy as a technique for getting back together isn’t the way to go because you start playing with fire. If you’re seeing a woman just to make your ex jealous, and you tell her, “I love you please come back…” Don’t be surprised if she does the same thing with another man. When you want to get back together it’s best to focus on the most efficient actions that you can read about in full detail in this eBook.
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