Once a breakup takes place, it’s hard to know what to do, how to speak to your ex, when you should take the initiative, how to act and especially what actions to set in motion.
These first gestures, first words, first days after the breakup are actually probably the most important if you want to put the odds in your favor in terms of getting back together with your ex.
In truth, even if you know why you want to get back together with your ex-partner you can still make mistakes that could make things worse, and even if they can be fixed, you risk losing time and creating a fair amount of stress. Whereas some people see the separation as liberation, you feel like you’re about to pass up an incredible opportunity, you’re sad, and the only thing you can think about is getting back together with the one you love.
But what are your real motives for wanting to be together again? Finding an answer to this question isn’t always a piece of cake, so you think, “I have to try everything, I want to avoid regretting a break up for years to come.”
A lot of people don’t set out to get their ex back just because of their feelings, because of love, and just like you they do it because they don’t know what tomorrow holds. Maybe with time you’ll start to regret not having tried everything you could in order to be together again so the most important thing is to be able to say “I have no regrets.”
For other people, wanting to get back together immediately after the breakup becomes their main goal because they know in their heart that this person is The One. You don’t want your past love life to surge back up in the future and in order to avoid this you have to try everything you can.
After a separation, beginning the process of getting back together can seem like a huge obstacle for many people. It’s true that advice from other people can also make you hesitate so I wanted to give you a boost of energy with this article. It’s time to get started!
I want to avoid regretting a break up so I’m going to get my ex back!
Whether it’s because of pride or because of embarrassment, you’re having a tough time setting actions in motion that will help you to rekindle the flame.
Not everyone is brave enough to try to get back together with the one they love but as I always say, remorse is better than regret over not having tried everything and not having seen things through.
Despite the love you feel and the desire to rebuild your relationship, fear and a misunderstanding of techniques that can rekindle the flame in your relationship explain a large part of the situation.
You’re telling yourself that you’d be better off without them, that it’s pointless to try and come back because the breakup was the best solution… But if you really believed this you wouldn’t be on this site right now looking for advice, trying to find solutions to change things.
It’s time to take action and to not let the situation beat you down. Waiting around or letting “fate” control the outcome is not going to help you succeed in getting your ex back. Your initiatives and your motivation are what will help you to reach your goal.
A painful breakup always leaves a mark and even if the shock is often immediate, you don’t think about the future and the months that are about to follow. Even years after the breakup, memories about your relationship can still surge up and hold you back from truly moving forward in your love life.
Why does a situation like this come about?
It’s simply because you haven’t forgotten your previous relationship, and you’re maybe even still in love with your ex-partner.
This is exactly why you want to get back together with your ex and have no regrets in the future. Doing this will keep you safe from ending up in a situation like the one I just described.
Instead of forcing yourself to turn the page and moving on from this relationship that didn’t end the way you would have liked and the one that you want to give another chance, you have to start being proactive and start designing your plan of action for getting the person you love back in your arms.
In love, one of the worst feelings is regretting decisions you’ve made. It’s hard to make up for this and it requires a certain amount of time and courage. The ex in question might be working on rebuilding their life, starting all over again with someone else and this is why you have to do whatever you can to make sure you don’t end up living in regret.
When you are facing things like this, you feel stuck. Working on getting closer to your ex again, even if you’re in this situation will help you to avoid feeling uneasy. In love, sometimes decisions are made too fast, and breaking up maybe wasn’t the right solution, so you should go out and make things right instead of sinking into nostalgia.
I don’t want to have regrets with my ex: Is this pride or love?
It’s normal to ask yourself if wanting to avoid regretting a break up is a question of pride instead of love. After all it could look a little selfish because your concern isn’t to make your ex happy, you aren’t setting out to make up for mistakes you may have made while you were together… No, you just want to make sure you don’t suffer in the future.
This process is actually something totally normal in terms of personal development! Nevertheless, before you do anything to either forget about your ex or to get them back, ask yourself this very important question: How do I know if getting back together with my ex is the right decision?
It’s pointless to try and ignore the truth that each attempt at getting back together has a self-serving aspect to it. In truth, whether or not you want your ex back because of your feelings or because of pride, it’s primarily because you want to be happy.
You want to smile, and you want to share both fun and intimate moments, but you’re thinking of yourself. You shouldn’t look at this as something negative because you just want to restore your ego a bit after the breakup. If you really feel awful, we have an eBook on how to rebuild yourself after a breakup.
Pride is a normal part of a person’s love life, whether or not you want it to be. It’s important to learn to accept it and to not be ashamed of it. Nevertheless, you have to make the distinction between pride and vengeance.
When you want to be happy or get back together with your ex, you’re going to have to make compromises and sacrifices, and if vengeance isn’t fueling you, you will be more than capable.
Human beings search for happiness, especially in their love life and this has always been the case. We all have an ego (and its size depends on each person’s personality,) and if it can make you suffer, it can also push you to take the right initiatives. Pride isn’t only negative!
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