How to rekindle feelings with an ex and get back together!

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rekindle feelings with an ex Nothing is more valuable than feelings. They are precious and you have to know how to make them evolve throughout your relationship. At the beginning of your love story, you have to work on giving them life so that you can reel in the person that you want. Once you’re in a relationship, you have to know how to carefully preserve them. In order to do this you have to ceaselessly maintain them by using diverse actions that will ensure that your mutual attraction never dwindles. If things end in a breakup, you’ll have to set into motion actions that will revive them and result in the return of your ex’s attraction and desire for you.

I prefer to be honest with you my friends, rekindling the flame isn’t a piece of cake and if you’re lucky enough to still be in a relationship you shouldn’t waste any time before taking action. If you’ve already separated, don’t worry, it’s still possible to rekindle feelings with an ex but this will require a considerable amount of effort. In love, nothing is simple or easy, you’re going to have to brace yourself but know this: if you succeed in getting back together, you’re going to have a solid relationship.

The importance of feelings in a relationship

This probably isn’t news to you but sentiments hold the upmost importance in a relationship. It’s tricky to say that feelings are the most important thing in a relationship, because as we explain in our eBook “70 Pro Tips To Get Back With Your Ex,” there is an element that is even more important than sentiments and it is crucial to never neglect it.

Throughout your relationship, you’ll have highs and lows and what you feel for your significant other will evolve. The risk is that either you or your partner will one day tell the other that your feelings have disappeared, and this is pretty much the cement in a relationship. It’s imperative that you revive your ex’s feelings for you so that you can preserve what you’ve built together.

The complexity of sentiments

If there is one element that is hard to define in a relationship, it’s emotions. How can you know if your significant other feels the same thing that you feel? How do you know is these feelings are sincere? These are some of the hardest questions to answer because each person perceives love in a different way.

One thing is sure; it’s very hard to revive an ex’s feelings for you because you have to act in a very specific way, never lose your way, and make the right choices.

If you had been together for a few months, you’re going to need time… a lot of time before your ex’s feelings for you disappear completely. When nothing is working anymore in your relationship and your other half tells you that they don’t feel the same way about you anymore, in truth, it means that over time they’ve become less attracted to you. But the day that you hear these words come out of their mouth, it doesn’t mean that they don’t feel any attraction for you anymore. It’s just that the negative took precedent over the positive. This is the main reason why I say that it’s totally possible to revive your ex’s feelings for you, but don’t wait too long before you take action. A breakup has immediate consequences but it doesn’t have to have long-term effects.

The longer you wait before taking action in order to reestablish your ex’s sentiments for you, the more likely they will be to disappear. Throughout my experience as a coach, I’ve noticed that people that take action right after the breakup have a 30% higher rate of success than people that take action two weeks to one month after the separation took place. There is a reason behind this. If you want to revive your ex’s feelings for you, you have to act before they disappear completely. You have to act as early as possible and show the person you love that they do in fact still feel something strong for you, but you had just lost a little influence on their judgment and on your future together.

To get back together with your ex thanks to emotions, you have to be able to show yourself in the best light and there are two ways to go about doing this.

How to rekindle feelings with an ex?

When you want to revive your ex’s feelings for you, just like in all human relationships, communication is key.

The right words for making things better

When you want to rekindle feelings with an ex, dialogue will play an essential role. When I say “words,” I mean communication both oral and written, The most important thing is to be able to properly communicate your message in a clear and impactful way. You might feel more comfortable writing than speaking, or vice versa.

In order to get closer to your goal and enhance your chances of stealing your ex’s heart again, you will seamlessly combine writing and speaking. Start with a handwritten letter as soon as you can (remember, don’t waste time!) and a few days after you can get in touch either on the telephone or face to face. The key here is to have an attitude that is both laid back and detached.

Actions to revive your ex’s feelings for you

When it comes to the things you need to do in order to revive your ex’s feelings for you, it has nothing to do with lavish gifts or threats because these things damage your chances of success. When you want your ex to fall for you again, the best thing to do is to work on a change in your attitude so that you can bring back the affinity that used to exist between you.

Being lighthearted is one of the best ways to rekindle the flame in a relationship and it will help both you and your ex feel better. You have to focus on recreating a connection and showing the person you love that you’re still on the same page.

Best wishes,

Your coach when looking to rekindle feelings with an ex


13 Responses

  1. Hi I tried the waiting, he told me to leave it, I did for a few weeks, forward a month or two he told me the trust was gone, why I went to visit he was at the bathroom one of our mobs pinged, both same texts sounds it wasn’t mine so I checked his, that was enough, I’ve tried months later, a friendly text no pressure, just a Ive passed by one of our old haunts, I remember, what you said back then, another a week later, then I rang Xmas eve, to say hi I know you get hung up over the festive season, he w ok yet , never enquired how I was, so after about 90 seconds I said it’s only a check up call to see how you are and ended call. We were together 2 year, lack of his commitment took its toll, it’s a year February coming we split, it’s time for me to move on do you think.

    1. Hi Ilana,
      I hope this finds you well. Thank you for your share. Without knowing more about the situation, I can’t assess your current standing, but I do want you to take some time to reflect on his lack of commitment, as you mentioned. Are you sure you want to try to rekindle with someone who isn’t’ expressing the values associated with commitment? Could you possibly be dodging a bullet? I encourage you to book a session with me, so we can discuss this over the phone.
      Wishing you the very best,
      Coach N.

  2. So my ex and I started our relationship abit to prematurely when we had only known each other for about a week and we were Fuck buddies and after the first day together we decided that we wanted to date. It started out all normal with the common romance and feelings but we had sex abit to often. On numerous occasions I tried to ignite a conversation to get to know her more but everytime I tried she just wanted to have sex and it just felt like she wanted me purely for sex. As months passed she told me that she let my brother go down on her which I forgave both of them for but it only started a downward spiral which eventually led to her believing that a threesome might help us get the feelings back for each other but it didn’t help as less than a month later then relationship ended. I have been single for almost 2 weeks and she is already moving on and trying to get with my brother and I wish them the best but all I want is my ex back so much that I don’t know what to do anymore. I cried everyday for a week after the break up which I didn’t tell her due to wanting to keep my pride but on one of the days I broke down in front of her and she cuddled me and then made out with me then gave me a blowjob and I felt great after that, we are fine and friendly when we are alone but if someone else comes into the room we suddenly start arguing what should I do? The part that gets me the most is she suddenly started feeling nothing at all during sex and I can’t help but think it’s something to do with me because it went from intimacy one day to no contact for the next week so I need help to find out if I was the problem in this relationship???
    I feel like my relationship was a tutorial type thing for how she should be with my brother because they are always talking about themselves and getting to know each other while I’m sitting here wondering why didn’t she let me do that.

    1. Hi Josh,

      Thanks for reaching out and I”m sorry to hear about your current situation. This sounds really painful. Frankly, I think you should ask yourself whether or not this woman is worth chasing – it seems like she’s insensitive. If you’d like tips on how’d to get her back, however, I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me. I can help you create a gameplan. Please visit this link if you’d like to connect :
      Wishing you the best and hoping to hear from you, I’m invested in your story.
      Coach N

  3. Hello Zachery, thank you for your comment and I know right now is a very difficult time for you. At this moment I would encourage you to reach out to our coaches and schedule a coaching session. Your particular situation is unique because you were away for a while and she stated she wants a “break”. You still may have a chance, but it’s important that you reflect on the Zachery she first fell in love with. It seems important that you get this fire back into the relationship id encourage for you to reach out to Adrian or Natalie so we can get you back on the right track with your ex. Hope to hear from you soon.


    WMEA Team

  4. Hello Rose,
    I cannot tell you if you will be able to get him back, but I can tell you what can help. Stop begging and no more apologizing. Spend time with yourself and involve yourself in social activities. If you both follow each other on social media, then post positive things and you happy with friends socializing. Take this time to focus on you, and he will possibly reach out again.
    WMEA Team

  5. Hello Yolanda,
    Without knowing the context of the relationship through a private coaching session I cannot advise you were things went wrong. But it seems as though there may have been something that happened where he lost a spark, or possibly isn’t a man that is truly devoted to you.
    I would invite you to do some self-reflection and ask yourself if he is a good man for you since you know you deserve the best.
    WMEA Team

  6. Hello Kate,
    Are you socializing often? I would suggest you to not be too available for him. Make him wonder at times what you are doing and also be extremely confident around him.
    WMEA Team

  7. My ex and I work together 6 days a week. I know that there’s still feeling for me but what can I do to ex him back?

  8. Wait. I’m confused. You recommend rekindling right after breakup? IM confused. I thought radio silence was important but it seems you do not advocate radio silence and instead advocate reaching out right after breakup. Maybe I’m not understanding.

    1. Hello Terry,
      This approach is usually after no contact or depending on the breakup right after the breakup. Typically we don’t suggest no contact if you were disconnected from the relationship. Meaning didn’t talk about the future, feelings, or communicate with your ex. Hope this is clearer for you.
      WMEA Team

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