You’re starting to wonder if perhaps your ex isn’t over you… Whether you were the one that ended the relationship or your ex was, your gut might be telling you that their feelings for you haven’t disappeared. Maybe you are still in love with your ex and you’re looking for signs your ex still loves you… In today’s article you’ll find some of the most obvious indicators of an ex with feelings for you as well as some subtle signs that you might not have even thought of!
Breakups are hard to handle, especially when there are still feelings involved! That’s why I’ve spent years helping couples get back together, and why I’ve created detailed Audio Seminars to help people throughout the world take control of the recovery process by having a clear plan!
What happens when it’s obvious that an ex has feelings for you? Do you also want to get back together? Do you want to continue being apart? Learning to recognize the signs that your ex still has feelings for you will help you to get a clear picture of the situation. Once you know what you’re dealing with, you’ll be able to design the proper plan of action, so let’s get started!
I’m starting to get a hunch that my ex still loves me, why?
Intuition is a powerful thing, so when you start thinking that your ex still loves you something is probably up. You can get a clearer picture when you know what to look for, and that’s exactly why I’ve written this article. I had written an article on signs an ex is over you but today I wanted to approach the subject with all the signs that your ex is absolutely NOT over you!
After a breakup, there is often a bit of “I want to be back together again” even if the relationship had gone downhill… But sometimes that evolves into something more, and a person can find themselves starting to go out of their way to get closer to their ex. Keep in mind that this can also be a very subconscious thing…
If you’re looking for a way to get back together with your ex, it’s going to be extra important to pinpoint concrete clues about how they’re feeling towards you because it’s the best way to design your plan of action. If you’re starting to realize that you’re seeing signs an ex still loves you, you’ll have to do something very different than if you were to not be seeing signs your ex still has feelings for you!
How to tell if your ex still likes you: Look for the signs
Without further ado, let’s jump into why you began reading this article in the first place! How do you know if your ex still loves you? Well there are going to be obvious signs and there are going to be not-so-obvious signs and you’re going to have to train your eye to really see what’s going on. Sometimes people think that if they’re out of touch with their ex then there’s no way for them to figure out how to know if your ex still loves you.
I’m here to tell you that even if you aren’t talking anymore, there are plenty of ways to pick up on clues that an ex still loves you!
How to know if your ex still loves you: Obvious signs
So what are the obvious signs that your ex still loves you? To be honest, there are so many that I had to narrow it down to some of the most common ones. If even you’re unclear about whether or not your ex still has feelings for you, don’t hesitate to get in touch with us here!
If you’re still in touch with your ex, some of the more straightforward signs that they still love you include:
– Nostalgic conversations: When an ex keeps bringing up happy memories you shared, or saying things like “Remember when we fought about that stupid stain on the table? What we should have done was…” It means that they’re thinking about the past and regretting the way that things turned out. They’ve even given some thought to how certain problems can be avoided. By sharing these things with you, they could be testing the waters to see how you react and whether or not their love is requited!
– Contacting you for all kinds of random reasons: Another one of the obvious signs ex still loves you is if they’re constantly coming up with excuses to talk to you. “Hey, do you have any screen protectors? I cracked mine already” “Hey, do you know any good spaghetti recipes?” “Hey, look at this funny meme.” Unless you’re best friends, this type of behavior often means that they want a reason to talk to you and to get closer to you.
What about when you’re not really in touch, or at least not regularly?
– The drunks texts/calls: If your ex is texting you after midnight to come to some bar, or calling you after they’ve had one too many, you can bet that they’re not over you. Alcohol is an inhibitor and if you’re the first person they call when they’ve been drinking, something’s up!
– Trying to make you jealous: Another way to know if your ex still loves you is if they’re uncharacteristically active on social media, and posting pictures that are clearly aimed to make you jealous. Be careful with this though; If it’s a picture with a friend from work, it might not mean that they’re trying to make you jealous. But if it’s some hot person in a club… Well, they might just be trying to get your attention.
– Dating someone very similar to you: If you’re wondering if your ex still in love with you take a look at the person they’re currently dating. Do they remind you of yourself? Sometimes a person tries to replace the one they love with someone similar…
– Bumping into you: Has your ex bumped into you in places where it’s not unusual for you to be…? This could be a pretty big sign your ex isn’t over you. If they’re deliberately hanging out in places where they know you’ll be, chances are that they’re still feeling something for you.
Subtle signs your ex still loves you!
Sometimes it’s not so blatantly obvious whether or not your ex still has feelings for you, but there are still some indicators that can help you figure out what’s going on. If you see a few of these indicators happening at the same time, your ex most likely still loves you.
– Reaching out to you from time to time: Though the fact that your ex wished you happy birthday might not be a surefire sign that he or she still loves you, if they reach out to you on every holiday or special occasion, it’s safe to say that you’re still on their mind.
– Sticking around to chat when they run into you: An ex that doesn’t have feelings for you, or one that has negative feelings for you, typically won’t dive into conversation with you when you bump into each other somewhere. If you run into your ex and they enthusiastically engage in conversation with you, they may still have feelings.
– Keeping in touch with people close to you: One of the more common subtle signs your ex still has feelings for you is when they remain in touch with your loved ones even after you separate. A bonus is if they ask about you and want to know how you are and what you’re up to!
– Being awkward around you: If you’re wondering does your ex still love you, take a look at how they act around you. Are they bashful and a bit awkward? Perhaps you’re still giving them butterflies!
– Not dating at all: One of the biggest indicators that an ex still loves me is if he or she hasn’t dated anyone else since you’ve broken up. If you’ve been separated for a while and they won’t go out with anyone else, they might still have only you in their heart.
– Reaching out when they’re in need: When an ex is having a rough time and they reach out to you for a shoulder to lean on, it might seem platonic at first, but you’ll quickly realize that this definitely means something. They still feel close to you and feel better when they talk to you.
Let’s put this into an example. About four months ago, Claudia called me looking to determine if her ex was still into her. She noticed that he would look at things that she’s put on social media (even if he wasn’t necessarily acknowledging them!) and would reach out to her every passing holiday without fail. However, that’s really all she had to work with.
Together, we developed a tailored strategy to answer this question (without jeopardizing the way she looked to him in the case that he wasn’t interested in rekindling). Soon after, we determined he did still have feelings for her! Now, they’re back together and going strong.
How do you know if your ex still loves you: Signs it’s not the case
As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, I’ve written an entire piece on how to tell if your ex isn’t in love with you anymore, but I wanted to give you a brief summary here as well.
Basically, the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. If an ex is acting out, trying to make you jealous, being aggressive, and trying to get a reaction out of you, it means that they’re feeling something very strong towards you. Though it might be anger, the fact that they’re experiencing such a strong emotion means that you conjure up intense feelings in them. If you so desire, you can always turn this into something positive by embarking on the process of getting back together.
When an ex shows no signs of emotion towards you, you’ve got something else on your hands. It doesn’t mean that all hope is lost if you want them back; you’ll just need to use a different method. Again, as each situation is so very unique, one on one coaching is always the best bet to ensure that you don’t make any mistakes.
To get back to the point of this section, let’s take a quick look at some of the signs your ex is not in love with you anymore.
– They want their things back: Sometimes a person leaves their things at their partner’s place so that they know that it’s all still there, and so that they may have an excuse to see their ex sometimes. When an ex wants all of their things back immediately, it can be a sign that they don’t want reasons to see you in the future.
– They tell you they see you as a friend: This often happens after short-term relationships. It’s the dreaded “friend-zone,” but it can be overcome by focusing on seduction.
– Happily in a new relationship: When an ex is in a serious relationship that seems to be going very well, there is a chance that they’ve really moved on. Once again, that doesn’t mean things can’t be changed; it just means that more effort will be required on your part.
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How to tell if he still loves me?
When you go through a breakup and still have strong feelings for your ex boyfriend your instinct is to try to convince him to get back with you. You may have begged your ex to take you back if he’s the one that broke up with you; or even pleaded or begged for a second chance because you are still in love. This presents two problems; Not only are you putting him on pedestal and giving him way too much control over you, but you are also not giving him the time and space to have to face the breakup and miss you. Your ex won’t even be able to tell that he is making a mistake by leaving you if you are constantly reaching out or trying to convince him to get back together in any way possible.
On top of that, you won’t be able to tell if he still loves you because you will be smothering him. So the first rule to be able to tell if an ex boyfriend still has feelings for you is to never be omnipresent or needy after the breakup. Once you have provided him with space, you will know that your ex still has feelings for you. If he gives you the hot and cold treatment; sometimes he’s nice and opens up about his feelings, emotions or what could have been, and other times he is completely removed and it feels like speaking to a wall, it can be because his heart is telling him one thing but his mind is telling him another. He still has feelings but his brain is telling him that he just can’t be happy with you in the long run.
Another way for you to be in position to tell if he still has feelings is by regaining some emotional stability and some inner peace. Once you have entered into a positive dynamic and you are no longer shattered or depressed, you will become more receptive to others and to signs that the universe will send your way. You will also of course be a lot more appealing to him, and to everyone around you. You will be a lot closer to once again being the person that he fell for at the beginning of your relationship!
At which point his reactions, the attention that he gives you, his eyes and his words will give you hints about how he feels about you! Trust me you’ll know… just like you knew something was about to happen at the beginning of your relationship; before you officially started seeing each other!
Does he still love me if he won’t commit?
Even if your ex boyfriend has feelings for you he won’t necessarily commit if he thinks that he won’t be happy or if he feels like you can’t meet his needs. That’s why it is extremely important for you to understand the mistakes that you made during your relationship in order to prove to him that you’re ready to evolve and to make him happy.
I’ve been asked the following question a lot: “We keep going back and forth. Does he still love me if we’ve been broken up for months now but he still won’t commit despite everything that I’ve done for him?” If you too can relate to feeling this way it means that you are simply not credible in his eyes. He still feels that you are doing certain things just to make him love you.
You cannot make or force someone to love you.
You can only inspire him through the way you carry yourself, your values and what you stand for. It’s very important for you to remember it when you start to wonder why your ex simply won’t commit despite all of your efforts. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things; and perhaps you should put more emphasis on yourself instead of on him or his unwillingness to take the next step!
We can tie this back to Claudia from the last example. When we first discovered her ex still had feelings for her, he still wasn’t ready to commit to her. They didn’t hit a switch and start dating seriously again. On the contrary,
He was very hesitant because he didn’t want to just return to the same old relationship that didn’t work. Over time, though, she was able to showcase her evolution and all the ways she had improved as a person and a partner since they broke up. Over time, he became ready to re-commit to her.
Focus on you and not on him!
If your ex boyfriend feels that you are just trying to get him back he will not believe that you have really changed, and will put walls up or be weary of committing to you again. This is true even if you have spent the last 6 months trying to prove to him that you’ve changed; instead of actually focusing on simply meeting your goals and staying true to yourself.
There are countless ways to stay true to yourself; one of my favorites is to set all kinds of goals in different facets of my life. This approach can also be applied to getting back with an ex boyfriend and doing the right things to prove to your ex that you are the right person for them in the long run. Set goals on a daily, weekly and even monthly basis in order to accomplish whatever you set out to do. It’s by taking this approach and focusing on you that you will one day wake up to the realization that your ex has strong feelings for you and that he wants to commit again.
If you are currently wondering if your ex boyfriend still feels a certain way about you or if you have any other questions, feel free to leave me a comment below. It would be our pleasure to answer any questions that you may have or to help you figure out the next step to take.
This was the key to Claudia’s success. When her ex saw her in such good spirits, exuding self confidence and comfortable in her own skin, he became re-attracted to her and began feeling the desire to commit. Claudia didn’t show all of those things because she was faking it – she was that way because she genuinely felt GOOD about herself!
Does my ex girlfriend still love me and what should I do?
When you begin feeling the things I described above, don’t wait. There is nothing worse than torturing yourself alone, feeling these emotions, watching the person that has your heart drift farther and farther away. If you’re no longer together you shouldn’t be asking if your ex is still in love with you or not; you should focus on the game of seduction and tips on how to steal their heart again.
It’s not easy to let someone in so completely. It feels like you’re opening up the deepest parts of your heart to someone and you’re asking them not to break it. It’s kind of the same thing when you start working on getting back together, but if you’re not daring to do it you should know that you might be passing up an incredible love story and it might haunt you in the future. True love waits for no one, so why not enjoy it.
By using some poignant actions you’ll be able to get back on track and breathe life back into the relationship that has been faltering lately. It’s important that you don’t take their emotions for granted thinking, “I know they love me…”Even if this is good news and a very important step, it’s not enough to get you back together; especially if you have broken up multiple times. So in fact you have to work on seducing your ex partner and to not just automatically expect them to return. Make the effort so it can happen naturally. Based on your situation, we can design the process of getting back together to be short, medium length or long, but when you’re following the steps it’s crucial that you don’t skip any of them.
In the ideal situation, the feelings are reciprocal and this makes things considerably easier. In a less than perfect situation, the feelings aren’t being reciprocated by your ex, but you shouldn’t worry because you’re adapting your actions to your circumstances and you’re not going to wake up one day years from now thinking, “If only I had tried…” On top of that, emotions are never set in stone and love can always be reawakened!
You have to use techniques for getting back together and not be afraid to really go for it. Of course love is wonderful, but it’s not enough, you’ll have to have a plan and work at it. I don’t want you to be back on the site in 6 months because you thought that just because your ex still loves you that you didn’t have to make any valiant efforts! Even if you broke up, it was for a reason, and it’s usually not the consequence of just one fight. You have to take things into your own hands and truly look to evolve…so get out there are start changing the course of action!
What to do when you see signs that your ex still loves you
So if after taking some time to reflect on the situation you’ve come to realize that you’re seeing signs your ex still loves you, you’re going to have to figure out what you’re going to do about it. What do you want to do? What kind of relationship do you really want to have with this person?
I know my ex still loves me and I want them back
When you’ve seen signs he still loves you and you feel that you could be happy being together again, there are some very specific steps to take. As each situation entirely unique, it is best to get in touch with us for a one on one coaching session to design the perfect plan of action.
Getting back together with an ex is completely possible, but it’s important that you realize that it’s not a walk in the park. It will require a huge amount of patience, self-control, introspection and self-improvement, and you’ll have to master the art of not letting your emotions get the best of you.
If you get back together, you need to succeed in creating an entirely new relationship because the old one wasn’t working. This means that you’ll have to pinpoint what exactly went wrong, and design solutions that you can implement on a daily basis. You’ve got to build on a solid foundation and avoid falling back into bad habits.
My ex still loves me but I don’t want to be together again
If on the other hand you see the signs your ex still loves you and the feeling isn’t reciprocal, you’ll have to find a way to communicate that in a respectful manner. I’m not saying that that you absolutely must sugarcoat it, but rather, sometimes it’s helpful to explain the main reasons behind your decision so that your ex may have some closure. You don’t have to go off listing all their flaws, but you can tell them if you don’t feel that you share the same goals or that you’re simply not compatible.
One of the best ways to do this, especially if you’re worried about how it’s all going to come out, is to write a letter. It might sound silly to you, but you could also rehearse what you’re going to say before you actually go see the person.
If you’re not sure about what is the best option for you, take some time to reflect on it and as I said, we are always here to help!
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