15 Signs Your Ex Still Loves You and what to do about it!

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Signs Your Ex Still Loves You

You’re starting to wonder if perhaps your ex isn’t over you… Whether you were the one that ended the relationship or your ex was, your gut might be telling you that their feelings for you haven’t disappeared. Maybe you are still in love with your ex and you’re looking for signs your ex still loves you… In today’s article you’ll find some of the most obvious indicators of an ex with feelings for you as well as some subtle signs that you might not have even thought of!

Breakups are hard to handle, especially when there are still feelings involved! That’s why I’ve spent years helping couples get back together, and why I’ve created detailed Audio Seminars to help people throughout the world take control of the recovery process by having a clear plan!

What happens when it’s obvious that an ex has feelings for you? Do you also want to get back together? Do you want to continue being apart? Learning to recognize the signs that your ex still has feelings for you will help you to get a clear picture of the situation. Once you know what you’re dealing with, you’ll be able to design the proper plan of action, so let’s get started!


I’m starting to get a hunch that my ex still loves me, why?

Intuition is a powerful thing, so when you start thinking that your ex still loves you something is probably up. You can get a clearer picture when you know what to look for, and that’s exactly why I’ve written this article. I had written an article on signs an ex is over you but today I wanted to approach the subject with all the signs that your ex is absolutely NOT over you!

After a breakup, there is often a bit of “I want to be back together again” even if the relationship had gone downhill… But sometimes that evolves into something more, and a person can find themselves starting to go out of their way to get closer to their ex. Keep in mind that this can also be a very subconscious thing…

If you’re looking for a way to get back together with your ex, it’s going to be extra important to pinpoint concrete clues about how they’re feeling towards you because it’s the best way to design your plan of action. If you’re starting to realize that you’re seeing signs an ex still loves you, you’ll have to do something very different than if you were to not be seeing signs your ex still has feelings for you!

How to tell if your ex still likes you: Look for the signs

Without further ado, let’s jump into why you began reading this article in the first place! How do you know if your ex still loves you? Well there are going to be obvious signs and there are going to be not-so-obvious signs and you’re going to have to train your eye to really see what’s going on. Sometimes people think that if they’re out of touch with their ex then there’s no way for them to figure out how to know if your ex still loves you.

I’m here to tell you that even if you aren’t talking anymore, there are plenty of ways to pick up on clues that an ex still loves you!

How to know if your ex still loves you: Obvious signs

So what are the obvious signs that your ex still loves you? To be honest, there are so many that I had to narrow it down to some of the most common ones. If even you’re unclear about whether or not your ex still has feelings for you, don’t hesitate to get in touch with us here!

If you’re still in touch with your ex, some of the more straightforward signs that they still love you include:

– Nostalgic conversations: When an ex keeps bringing up happy memories you shared, or saying things like “Remember when we fought about that stupid stain on the table? What we should have done was…” It means that they’re thinking about the past and regretting the way that things turned out. They’ve even given some thought to how certain problems can be avoided. By sharing these things with you, they could be testing the waters to see how you react and whether or not their love is requited!

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– Contacting you for all kinds of random reasons: Another one of the obvious signs ex still loves you is if they’re constantly coming up with excuses to talk to you. “Hey, do you have any screen protectors? I cracked mine already” “Hey, do you know any good spaghetti recipes?” “Hey, look at this funny meme.” Unless you’re best friends, this type of behavior often means that they want a reason to talk to you and to get closer to you.

What about when you’re not really in touch, or at least not regularly?

– The drunks texts/calls: If your ex is texting you after midnight to come to some bar, or calling you after they’ve had one too many, you can bet that they’re not over you. Alcohol is an inhibitor and if you’re the first person they call when they’ve been drinking, something’s up!

– Trying to make you jealous: Another way to know if your ex still loves you is if they’re uncharacteristically active on social media, and posting pictures that are clearly aimed to make you jealous. Be careful with this though; If it’s a picture with a friend from work, it might not mean that they’re trying to make you jealous. But if it’s some hot person in a club… Well, they might just be trying to get your attention.

Dating someone very similar to you: If you’re wondering if your ex still in love with you take a look at the person they’re currently dating. Do they remind you of yourself? Sometimes a person tries to replace the one they love with someone similar…

– Bumping into you: Has your ex bumped into you in places where it’s not unusual for you to be…? This could be a pretty big sign your ex isn’t over you. If they’re deliberately hanging out in places where they know you’ll be, chances are that they’re still feeling something for you.

Subtle signs your ex still loves you!

Sometimes it’s not so blatantly obvious whether or not your ex still has feelings for you, but there are still some indicators that can help you figure out what’s going on. If you see a few of these indicators happening at the same time, your ex most likely still loves you.

– Reaching out to you from time to time: Though the fact that your ex wished you happy birthday might not be a surefire sign that he or she still loves you, if they reach out to you on every holiday or special occasion, it’s safe to say that you’re still on their mind.

– Sticking around to chat when they run into you: An ex that doesn’t have feelings for you, or one that has negative feelings for you, typically won’t dive into conversation with you when you bump into each other somewhere. If you run into your ex and they enthusiastically engage in conversation with you, they may still have feelings.

– Keeping in touch with people close to you: One of the more common subtle signs your ex still has feelings for you is when they remain in touch with your loved ones even after you separate. A bonus is if they ask about you and want to know how you are and what you’re up to!

– Being awkward around you: If you’re wondering does your ex still love you, take a look at how they act around you. Are they bashful and a bit awkward? Perhaps you’re still giving them butterflies!

– Not dating at all: One of the biggest indicators that an ex still loves me is if he or she hasn’t dated anyone else since you’ve broken up. If you’ve been separated for a while and they won’t go out with anyone else, they might still have only you in their heart.

– Reaching out when they’re in need: When an ex is having a rough time and they reach out to you for a shoulder to lean on, it might seem platonic at first, but you’ll quickly realize that this definitely means something. They still feel close to you and feel better when they talk to you.

Let’s put this into an example. About four months ago, Claudia called me looking to determine if her ex was still into her. She noticed that he would look at things that she’s put on social media (even if he wasn’t necessarily acknowledging them!) and would reach out to her every passing holiday without fail. However, that’s really all she had to work with.

Together, we developed a tailored strategy to answer this question (without jeopardizing the way she looked to him in the case that he wasn’t interested in rekindling). Soon after, we determined he did still have feelings for her! Now, they’re back together and going strong.

How do you know if your ex still loves you: Signs it’s not the case

As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, I’ve written an entire piece on how to tell if your ex isn’t in love with you anymore, but I wanted to give you a brief summary here as well.

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Basically, the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. If an ex is acting out, trying to make you jealous, being aggressive, and trying to get a reaction out of you, it means that they’re feeling something very strong towards you. Though it might be anger, the fact that they’re experiencing such a strong emotion means that you conjure up intense feelings in them. If you so desire, you can always turn this into something positive by embarking on the process of getting back together.

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When an ex shows no signs of emotion towards you, you’ve got something else on your hands. It doesn’t mean that all hope is lost if you want them back; you’ll just need to use a different method. Again, as each situation is so very unique, one on one coaching is always the best bet to ensure that you don’t make any mistakes.

To get back to the point of this section, let’s take a quick look at some of the signs your ex is not in love with you anymore.

– They want their things back: Sometimes a person leaves their things at their partner’s place so that they know that it’s all still there, and so that they may have an excuse to see their ex sometimes. When an ex wants all of their things back immediately, it can be a sign that they don’t want reasons to see you in the future.

– They tell you they see you as a friend: This often happens after short-term relationships. It’s the dreaded “friend-zone,” but it can be overcome by focusing on seduction.

– Happily in a new relationship: When an ex is in a serious relationship that seems to be going very well, there is a chance that they’ve really moved on. Once again, that doesn’t mean things can’t be changed; it just means that more effort will be required on your part.

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How to tell if he still loves me?

When you go through a breakup and still have strong feelings for your ex boyfriend your instinct is to try to convince him to get back with you. You may have begged your ex to take you back if he’s the one that broke up with you; or even pleaded or begged for a second chance because you are still in love. This presents two problems; Not only are you putting him on pedestal and giving him way too much control over you, but you are also not giving him the time and space to have to face the breakup and miss you. Your ex won’t even be able to tell that he is making a mistake by leaving you if you are constantly reaching out or trying to convince him to get back together in any way possible.

On top of that, you won’t be able to tell if he still loves you because you will be smothering him. So the first rule to be able to tell if an ex boyfriend still has feelings for you is to never be omnipresent or needy after the breakup. Once you have provided him with space, you will know that your ex still has feelings for you. If he gives you the hot and cold treatment; sometimes he’s nice and opens up about his feelings, emotions or what could have been, and other times he is completely removed and it feels like speaking to a wall, it can be because his heart is telling him one thing but his mind is telling him another. He still has feelings but his brain is telling him that he just can’t be happy with you in the long run.

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Another way for you to be in position to tell if he still has feelings is by regaining some emotional stability and some inner peace. Once you have entered into a positive dynamic and you are no longer shattered or depressed, you will become more receptive to others and to signs that the universe will send your way. You will also of course be a lot more appealing to him, and to everyone around you. You will be a lot closer to once again being the person that he fell for at the beginning of your relationship!

At which point his reactions, the attention that he gives you, his eyes and his words will give you hints about how he feels about you! Trust me you’ll know… just like you knew something was about to happen at the beginning of your relationship; before you officially started seeing each other!

Does he still love me if he won’t commit?

Even if your ex boyfriend has feelings for you he won’t necessarily commit if he thinks that he won’t be happy or if he feels like you can’t meet his needs. That’s why it is extremely important for you to understand the mistakes that you made during your relationship in order to prove to him that you’re ready to evolve and to make him happy.

I know my ex still love me

I’ve been asked the following question a lot: “We keep going back and forth. Does he still love me if we’ve been broken up for months now but he still won’t commit despite everything that I’ve done for him?” If you too can relate to feeling this way it means that you are simply not credible in his eyes. He still feels that you are doing certain things just to make him love you.
You cannot make or force someone to love you.

You can only inspire him through the way you carry yourself, your values and what you stand for. It’s very important for you to remember it when you start to wonder why your ex simply won’t commit despite all of your efforts. Maybe you are focusing on the wrong things; and perhaps you should put more emphasis on yourself instead of on him or his unwillingness to take the next step!

We can tie this back to Claudia from the last example. When we first discovered her ex still had feelings for her, he still wasn’t ready to commit to her. They didn’t hit a switch and start dating seriously again. On the contrary,

He was very hesitant because he didn’t want to just return to the same old relationship that didn’t work. Over time, though, she was able to showcase her evolution and all the ways she had improved as a person and a partner since they broke up. Over time, he became ready to re-commit to her.

Focus on you and not on him!

If your ex boyfriend feels that you are just trying to get him back he will not believe that you have really changed, and will put walls up or be weary of committing to you again. This is true even if you have spent the last 6 months trying to prove to him that you’ve changed; instead of actually focusing on simply meeting your goals and staying true to yourself.

There are countless ways to stay true to yourself; one of my favorites is to set all kinds of goals in different facets of my life. This approach can also be applied to getting back with an ex boyfriend and doing the right things to prove to your ex that you are the right person for them in the long run. Set goals on a daily, weekly and even monthly basis in order to accomplish whatever you set out to do. It’s by taking this approach and focusing on you that you will one day wake up to the realization that your ex has strong feelings for you and that he wants to commit again.

If you are currently wondering if your ex boyfriend still feels a certain way about you or if you have any other questions, feel free to leave me a comment below. It would be our pleasure to answer any questions that you may have or to help you figure out the next step to take.

This was the key to Claudia’s success. When her ex saw her in such good spirits, exuding self confidence and comfortable in her own skin, he became re-attracted to her and began feeling the desire to commit. Claudia didn’t show all of those things because she was faking it – she was that way because she genuinely felt GOOD about herself!

Does my ex girlfriend still love me and what should I do?

When you begin feeling the things I described above, don’t wait. There is nothing worse than torturing yourself alone, feeling these emotions, watching the person that has your heart drift farther and farther away. If you’re no longer together you shouldn’t be asking if your ex is still in love with you or not; you should focus on the game of seduction and tips on how to steal their heart again.

It’s not easy to let someone in so completely. It feels like you’re opening up the deepest parts of your heart to someone and you’re asking them not to break it. It’s kind of the same thing when you start working on getting back together, but if you’re not daring to do it you should know that you might be passing up an incredible love story and it might haunt you in the future. True love waits for no one, so why not enjoy it.

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By using some poignant actions you’ll be able to get back on track and breathe life back into the relationship that has been faltering lately. It’s important that you don’t take their emotions for granted thinking, “I know they love me…”Even if this is good news and a very important step, it’s not enough to get you back together; especially if you have broken up multiple times. So in fact you have to work on seducing your ex partner and to not just automatically expect them to return. Make the effort so it can happen naturally. Based on your situation, we can design the process of getting back together to be short, medium length or long, but when you’re following the steps it’s crucial that you don’t skip any of them.

In the ideal situation, the feelings are reciprocal and this makes things considerably easier. In a less than perfect situation, the feelings aren’t being reciprocated by your ex, but you shouldn’t worry because you’re adapting your actions to your circumstances and you’re not going to wake up one day years from now thinking, “If only I had tried…” On top of that, emotions are never set in stone and love can always be reawakened!

You have to use techniques for getting back together and not be afraid to really go for it. Of course love is wonderful, but it’s not enough, you’ll have to have a plan and work at it. I don’t want you to be back on the site in 6 months because you thought that just because your ex still loves you that you didn’t have to make any valiant efforts! Even if you broke up, it was for a reason, and it’s usually not the consequence of just one fight. You have to take things into your own hands and truly look to evolve…so get out there are start changing the course of action!

What to do when you see signs that your ex still loves you

So if after taking some time to reflect on the situation you’ve come to realize that you’re seeing signs your ex still loves you, you’re going to have to figure out what you’re going to do about it. What do you want to do? What kind of relationship do you really want to have with this person?

I know my ex still loves me and I want them back

When you’ve seen signs he still loves you and you feel that you could be happy being together again, there are some very specific steps to take. As each situation entirely unique, it is best to get in touch with us for a one on one coaching session to design the perfect plan of action.

Getting back together with an ex is completely possible, but it’s important that you realize that it’s not a walk in the park. It will require a huge amount of patience, self-control, introspection and self-improvement, and you’ll have to master the art of not letting your emotions get the best of you.

If you get back together, you need to succeed in creating an entirely new relationship because the old one wasn’t working. This means that you’ll have to pinpoint what exactly went wrong, and design solutions that you can implement on a daily basis. You’ve got to build on a solid foundation and avoid falling back into bad habits.

My ex still loves me but I don’t want to be together again

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If on the other hand you see the signs your ex still loves you and the feeling isn’t reciprocal, you’ll have to find a way to communicate that in a respectful manner. I’m not saying that that you absolutely must sugarcoat it, but rather, sometimes it’s helpful to explain the main reasons behind your decision so that your ex may have some closure. You don’t have to go off listing all their flaws, but you can tell them if you don’t feel that you share the same goals or that you’re simply not compatible.

One of the best ways to do this, especially if you’re worried about how it’s all going to come out, is to write a letter. It might sound silly to you, but you could also rehearse what you’re going to say before you actually go see the person.

If you’re not sure about what is the best option for you, take some time to reflect on it and as I said, we are always here to help!


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88 Responses

  1. Hi there ,

    After reading through, I do noticed one or two points that I can relate to.

    Well, me and my boyfriend had a hurtful breakup last week and now, it seems like he is deliberately making me jealous by posting pictures of another person on social media .

    We both are from the same department at a workplace and yes, it’s really often that we bump into each other .

    After the breakup, I did the no contact on him, on the next day I noticed that he kept on coming into the office, if he really hates me that much , I don’t think he would want to be near me but it doesn’t seem like it .

    He kept on coming into the office not for any reasons related to work . There was a time when he “visits” , he just approached my work desk and when my colleague asked him what was he looking for? He answered a document . But there wasn’t any document and only scrap papers and my leave application form ontop at my desk .

    I was quite surprised that he flipped back to see what was written on the leave application form .

    Although he has done all these but he still didn’t make any contact with me or initiate a talk , there are stuff that belongs to him which is still with me but he still did not ask me to return it or whatsoever .

    So, for this case. Do you think that We have a high chance in getting back together ?

    1. Hi Amanda, thank you for your share. I know how hard it is to find ways to ensure that our ex is still interested in you. However, in order to really make the relationship work, please take some time reflecting on why it initially struggled to last. You’ll have to find solutions to these problems in order to make sure it’s a good situation for you both for the long haul.
      Coach N.

  2. I’m so confused with it all. My ex and I have been broke up for two months mutually. Almost immediately he entered into a relationship,which seems to be roller coasting along. I chose NC and to work on myself,even though I missed him terribly. I went out with friends and met a man who put a smile on my face and is good fun,and we have met a number of times. During the time, my ex has come and gone for things (we also have a child) and literally rubbed my nose in the fact he’s ok,blaming me for everything,taking no responsibility. Well once he found out about another man being interested in me he rang, screamed, turned up at the house,said he would kill him, then returns the next day,pretty much saying the same. I told him he was being unfair, and that I would always love him as the father of my child, when really I wanted him to say he wanted to come home. He said I looked fantastic, then in the next breath talked about what I did and didn’t do in the relationship…( we were together for 22 years – the first ten on and off, then lived together for 12 years with our child before we split) . Hes at her house most days,and because we live in a town where everyone knows everyone, people are happy to let me know. Inside I’m dying, but I just say if he’s happy then I’m happy for him. It’s a complete mess,and I wonder if it’s too late. I want him back but I’m so hurt I just cannot tell him for fear of rejection…help!

    1. Hi Sue,
      Thank you for your share and I”m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know it can feel very painful when determining what your ex’s true intentions are and what your ex feels about you. I invite you to consider rebuilding the relationship via friendship – this can spare you from feelings of rejection while giving you the opportunity to showcase how much you’ve grown and worked on yourself!
      Coach N.

      1. Thankyou Natalie. I’m not sure why I’ve come to my decision to leave my ex
        behind and move on, but I’ve come to realise I don’t want to try. Yes the time we spent together was an eternity, but I know I wasn’t happy for the last two years. I’m happy to let him live his life and hopefully find real happiness. And that’s exactly what I want. Being bombarded by a man,whose only motivation to get angry was because I was moving on simply isn’t enough for me. I’m worth so much more, I’m calm, content and happy to have realised I’m entering a new phase in my life and being truthful with myself has been truly enlightening. Thankyou. This site is amazing and I have learned so much about myself x

  3. There’s this guy I met a couple years ago at a day program I used to go to and his current girlfriend goes there too so I know her. They dated numerous times before I dated him, then we dated for almost a month then he broke up with me and right away he went back with her and he’s been with her ever since for over a year now since last march. He acts like he wants me when he has her. But… I feel like I love him. He also acts hot and cold with me. Like I called him a couple days ago on private, and he answered and I said “how are you doing?” Then he said “Que quieres?” Which means “What do you want?” And something else in Spanish and I said “what?” He said “Just let me do my life and you do your life. Bye” I hung up. And today I called him and I was able to have a good talk with him. So I called him back and said “Can I tell you how I feel?” He said “Go for it.” I said “I still feel like I love you.” He laughed and called me loquita which means “crazy girl” or “crazy little girl.”

    1. Hi Kaylee,
      Thank you for your share. I know how painful this can be. However, it’s going to be important to control your emotions with him right now. He needs to know that you aren’t indefinitely available to him. Believe it or not, men find this attractive. If you need help developing a plan, I invite you to book a session with me. I have just the one.
      Coach N.

  4. I have broken up with my live in guy of about 2 1/2 years. We have been broken up for about 2 months. We have had sex about 2 times within this time. I believe he stills cares. He works all week out of town, but when he returns he contacts me. But when he is away I do not hear from him.
    I really love him, but I do not contact him.

    1. Hi Anna,
      Thank you for your share. I think you’re on track. Make sure to let him continue reaching out, and don’t be infinitely available when he reaches out to you. Make him work for it!
      Coach N.

  5. My ex and I broke up 2 months ago. We have a child together but do not talk solely about the child. We have kept almost daily contact, have continued to see one another intimately, and has even slipped up and said he loved me. Recently I found out that he has been hanging out with other women, late at night. I called him out on it out of anger, and he denies sexual relations. But when I put “in a relationship” on fb with an unknown man he flipped out on me. Why is he acting jealous if he is exploring other options with other females?

    1. Hi Kayla,
      Thank you for your share. It certainly sounds to me like he still cares, but is questioning whether or not the relationship can really change. Take some time to assess what may have triggered the breakup. Spend time reflecting on what the two of you will have to work on and change in order to make it work. I feel that if you can answer those questions, you’ll know a bit more about what he’s thinking and why.
      Coach N

  6. My ex broke up with me exactly 1 month ago today, we are both in high school still but we were together for a long time & we are each other’s first everything. He started talking to someone else less than a week after he broke up with me & is still talking to them now. He is so hot & cold with me has told me he never wants to see me again & then talk to me hours later. We are also neighbors & im best friends with his sister so we see each other every day. He posts about this girl a lot & even said she’s “the love of my life”. At the moment he seems to hate me for no reason & it’s so confusing. People tell me he’s probably using this girl as a rebound & he probably still loves me. In my heart I think he does. But he is such a mess with me & I don’t know what to think. My question is do you think he still has feelings for me? Or does he truly never want to see me again & hates me. I’m so confused

    1. Hi Ashley,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how painful this can be. I think that he certainly still cares for you, but only distance will help him realize it. Even if you’re neighbors, I encourage you to try to keep apart. Let him miss you. There’s a lot of power in longing for someone.
      You can do it!
      Coach N.

  7. My ex and I were together for just under a year and he broke up with me saying his feelings had changed he didn’t love me the way I deserved and he didn’t think he saw a future. It’s been about a month and he’s been in contact daily. We work together and he always comes to talk to me at work. He says he has days where he wants to work on it others when he doesn’t, that he needs time and space. He has still told very few people he ended it and tells me he’s always here for me as he thinks he sees me as more a best friend. Should I do the radio silence or should I just move on?

    1. Hi SK,
      Thank you for your share. I would definitely try implementing radio silence. I think this could really help him realize what life without you will be like. Remember, since you work together, RS could be tricky. If you need help on how to implement it, I invite you to book a session with me.
      Wishing you the very best always,
      Coach N.

      1. Thank you for your reply. I understand RS will be hard but I am just so confused as to if he still cares. I want to try RS as I don’t want to give up on him. But I don’t want to waste my time. I believe he still cares deep down as he still texts me and always talks to me

  8. Hi Jeeny,
    I’m so sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how painful this must be for you. I invite you to spend time really assessing on what may have triggered the cheating. What was straining your relationship? Were you neglecting him? Or, were you overly needy of his time?
    It’s in these answers that will determine your plan of action. If you need help, I’m here to support.
    Wishing you the best,
    Coach N.

  9. my boyfriend left me again for the 2nd time, brake up was yesterday been together 4 months this second time, First time was about 3 months. The first time we spilt was because I wanted a family with him, and he didn’t want the same due to his age. He also struggled coming to terms with our age gap. That we should find someone near our age. I told him straight I wanted him only he is my happiness. This time I knew he wasn’t happy well only last night i sensed it. I said to him I guess I don’t bring you happiness anymore. ( There was more in the text) His reply was yes, your right, obviously I was heart broken, crying, feeling sick and so on. When I knew we were over again, I ask was he certain he doesn’t want to see me again, are you definitely done with me . I also said I don’t wanna go through this the third time and he said the same. I said if you think in time we can sort things between us let me know. he says yes this was our time was thinking the same but I think your charity kids are more important to you. you have the heart of an angel to them hope they appreciate all that you do for them one day. you sponsored them before seeing me so I don’t have a right to say anything. I said to him his happiness is my everything. He did say it breaks his heart too saying it and that he loves me in his heart too forever. I told him will miss his parents and I send them my love. he replies yeah I know send your mum my love too ( with crying emotions). then a text saying he is gonna miss me with sad faces.

    I said I don’t wanna lose you, your my world. He replies he’s not sure how we could go forward I couldn’t work full time coz of my illness and I give 2 much money away, ( I guess he thinks I could contribute with housing that we both wanted). I have under active thyroid , Fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, Depression and Anxiety. As I said me and him wanted a place together ( he doesn’t want to pay on his own which I understand). So I guess he is overthinking and thinks he should be with someone his age. ( When I just want him) I just want us to work out! he says he doesn’t want to do my head in. I said I am deep in love with him, and it will destroy me forever if I lose him. he ask me how did I see the future, what plans did I have in my head. I told him and he said thought you were quite happy to go separate ways, I Guess he thinks he can’t go through a relationship with me again sadly.

    he said we do have quite different interests, I said no way, i’m not quite happy for us go separate ways. I wanted to do things we both liked together. Then I said ok will accept that you want to move on and I don’t have a third chance. i’m devastated but will love you forever. I sent him a pic of me crying so he could see I was hurting. He said oh hun I really don’t wanna hurt u this much. he doesn’t think he’s the vest man for me. he gave me so much happiest, he was the best, I feel there’s no guy like him, I just want him I need him, I will pray for his happiness, that I love him, miss him, and he takes care of himself. someone to do better then what I did, and he’s happy forever. That I love & miss him millions, and he’s happy forever. That I love his parents and miss them. I want all there happiness and their health is well. I keep saying to myself I hope he finds happiness, but if he found another women I’d hurt like crazy, and if we got back together 3rd time lucky , what if he does it again. I wouldn’t go back to have another relationship with him after 3rd. I said to him God bless will never forget you. He said will never forget you too sweetie. he said we can still be friends if you want. I said give me time before i text again as not in a good state.

    He said when I feel up to it whenever I want text him, he is so sorry I am hurting so much it hurts him too. I asked him to go on video call one last time, we did for 36 mins cried on there and told him how I felt. he doesn’t want to mess my head or heart anymore. he said for me to take care of myself and my mum and my cats. my dad died Christmas day 2016. he supported me all through that and can’t thank him enough. I think i know several reasons why he changed his mind again. he will be giving my stuff back when i’m ready he said. I said I need time before he gives them back to me. he sense of smell will be on them and it would make me cry and want him more. I want him back so much, But not sure if he does and if we do will he leave me again. it seems he still loves me and cares for me. when we went on video call for 36 mins i did see him wipe his eyes which he hasn’t ever done before when we been on video call when we were together. I can’t remove the necklace he gave me, it’s still very special. I maybe am a fool but I don’t want to give up on him just yet! I said give me time and we will be friends, I obviously can’t text him as much as I did when I was with him though would love too. but I won’t. But I would like to know how much should I text him. At the moment I am giving us a break and will text him again maybe beginning of July. I would need help in what to say in the first text. I need help and professionally, but I cant afford 1-1 which I really need hope you can help!

    1. Hi Sammy,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I would refrain from reaching out for now – as to allow time to work with you and allow for the two of you to heal. If you need help, I will offer you discounted coaching, so as to help you create a game plan.
      Wishing you the best always and looking forward to connecting,
      Coach N.

      1. Can my comment be deleted, I think I gave too much information and I think that wasn’t good of me to do that!

  10. Hi Northernfemale,
    If you’re trying to get your ex back, you’re in the right place. We have a variety of content geared toward achieving this goal. If you’d like a tailor approach, Adrian and I also do one on one coaching sessions. Please feel free to let me know how we can help.
    Wishing you the best,
    Coach N.

  11. i am a 14 year old girl and i think my Ex wants me back…again. Two days ago at breakfast he tapped my butt and yesterday he tried to get of the bus at my house. The first time we dated it lasted 3 months. The second time it lasted about a month. The second time he broke up with me it was because he liked another girl and he didnt want to hurt my feelings. Lately he has been trying to get closer to me and he keeps staring at me. I think he wants me back but i dont. So how do I tell him I dont want him back without hurting his feelings?

  12. hi,i and my ex started dating last year it was a good one we were close but we found out we couldn’t get married because,of our genotype he is As i am also AS but we still kept the relationship, going.it wasn’t easy and we started having too many fights i will accuse of cheating insult me countless times tho he was cheating i knew he was.later he found out that i cheated on him with a married man he checked my phone and saw nude pictures i sent to this married man the painful part was i sent those pictures to my ex too .he got upset and stopped calling him i tried begging and he eventually took me back. later, i became tired because he became suspicious of my movements and i couldn’t complain so i decided, to break up with him on valentines day.that night i told him i couldn’t go on because, i felt guilty and he started acting funny i left his house and sent him nasty harsh messages telling him it was over and i am tired of him. he replied none i didn’t call him for four weeks then i decided to and he didn’t pick up, i left him for a week i called again and he responded we talked and i could sense anger in his voice but he tried hiding it. he kept saying i left him for weeks and now i have decided to call him when i felt like and he said we should move on with our lives i felt so bad i tried begging to see him he refused, so i allowed him.in April,i called him to wish him a happy birthday he responded and that was the last time i called.later in june i tried callin him again he responded very well we talked at length and he started asking me about my personal life i couldnt answer because, i didnt date any guy after the break up but i made him feel i had someone sigh after that i asked him again if i could see him he said he would call me but i knew he wouldnt then i tried calling again to ask him if he was okay with both of us seeing he refused to pick my calls or reply my messages i felt so bad 🙁

  13. My ex and I dated for 3 months and have been broken up for 4. We are both young professionals in our early 30s. We had a harmonious relationship. He left because he was dealing with personal issuses and said something was missing. However he was very emotional during the break up, cried, told me no one understands him like I do and he’s never met anyone so similar to him and how we share such a deep cinnection. He told me he cares for me very much, but something is missing and he doesn’t know what. We had no contact for a month after. Since then we’ve restablished contact, text a few times a week and meet up every couple of weeks as friends. I initiate most of our contact, but when he sees me he initiates lingering hugs and reminds me that he isn’t dating anyone. Our meetings are friendly but a little formal feeling-
    I don’t feel friend zoned. Also, he will tell me personal things one minute like things he is dealing with, but then will act like I don’t know him well the next. For example, he might bring up a fact about his apartment or job that he knows I am aware of from dating him, but will mention it as if it’s totally new information. Does he still have feelings for me?

    1. Hi Sevvy,
      Thank you for reaching about and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation – I am confident that this can be turned around, but I”m going to need some more info so I can help. I invite you to schedule a coaching session with Adrian or myself. Please visit this link: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
      I sincerely hope to connect with you!
      Coach N

  14. I left my ex two years ago because he became to jealous. We always argued and I walked away and he taunted me with me with mean messages. Spoke very bad about me to people. I never took part in it. Then another female swooped right in making him believe she is perfect. The been together now for two years. Out of no where his new best friend sent me a request on facebook , neither of them knowing that I know they are best friends. The friend I believe is sending me messages trying to kick it to me, and I believe my ex put him up to it to see if I would go for it. Also keeps asking if I am single. Then I was sent a video by this friend but actually it was my ex doing the video and talking through it about the job. Then turned the video on his friends face to look like he was doing the video. I have no clue what is going on here. I looked at video and made a quick funny response not acknowledging the exes voice in it. They think they pulled one over on me but no. Anyway I got a message again later that night and next day saying I should come help him at his job , they cut down trees. The video was of how high he was in the tree but my exes voice speaking. Must have started working together after we split. Anyway I would like to get anyones opinion as to what the hell might be going on. I know my ex would be pissed off thinking I didnt even recognize his voice, but i am playing the game with them for now. What is up with these actions. Seems very wierd since hes still with the other female

  15. Me and my ex broke up about 2 months ago because I got severely depressed and gave up on life after my dad passed away. He said he was unhappy because I gave up. He said he loves me and I’m his world and it hurt him to end things but he had to make himself happy. He still responds to my good morning and good night texts and will have a little small talk here and there. He even agreed to see me “one last time” when I asked. I’m so confused if he still has feelings. We had a great relationship. We never fought. We were best friends. Always laughing and having a good time even just sitting on the couch doing nothing. And being able to be ourselves and be weird without judgement. I have over come my depression and am doing great things and getting back on the right track. I am trying to show him that I am different than i was a few months ago and that I can be that girl he fell in love with again. I just hope there is some light at the end of the tunnel.

  16. My ex and I have been broken up for a year. We randomly have reached out on several occasions to just check in. In the last 3 months we met for lunch and talk every day all day. But he’s dating someone new now. He’s on an emotional roller coaster. One minute he misses me and the next he’s remembering why weren’t together. Does he still have feelings? Should I even try? I’d like to but don’t want to make a bad choice here.

  17. I’m in a very difficult situation and can’t really determine what to do. I had been with my ex for 14yrs and caught him cheating. Now after a year and half of not being together we kept contact the only thing now is he recently had a baby with this girl he cheated on me with. Every once in a while will see each other or message each other he’ll tell me he misses me and loves me and doesn’t want to lose me. I feel the same, though there’s thoughts in my head that he might love her too because he’s with her and has a new born baby with her. Him and me dont have children together, so that I took very hard when I found out about him having his first child. I would love to get back with him but I dont know if he feels the same. We have talked before about our mistakes and all and he feels like since he would get angry with me at times he would try and hit me and he says that thats the reason why he feels like we can’t be together. He scared to hurt me physically. What can I do in this situation. He is short tempered at times is like I dont know what to say because if I ask a certain question or tell him something a certain way, will he take it wrong and be upset with me. I have to constantly over think in what way to ask or how to phrase it. I’m very emotional so I speak with my emotions and he doesn’t like that.

  18. I need help! My boyfriend and I broke up about three weeks ago and we still live together for the next few weeks. I know he still loves me but we’ve had a few long talks about us and he is so pained by my behaviour of choosing work over him and not making time for him. I’ve shown him so much kindness and compassion these last few weeks and he has told me he’s noticed but doesn’t trust it will last. He still comes to talk to me when he gets home and touches my arm or gives me a hug, but says right now he just can’t and needs space. He hasn’t said we’re over for good but has said he can’t say there’s hope for us or not. I need clarification and help on how to handle this situation! I don’t want to lose him.

  19. I broke up with my ex about a month ago and I’m having feelings for him again. We weren’t nice to each other at first, and then we stopped communicating for a few weeks. Now he is texting me and making casual conversation. I ignored his texts at first, but recently we chatted via text after he sent me a text saying he was thinking about me. Our conversation was just about what we’ve been up to lately but then I said so you were thinking about me were you? He said yes and he mentioned some of the things we used to do together, I laughed and commented on it. But when I told him it was hard to believe we’ve been apart this long, he stopped responding. I don’t know if he was just reminiscing or if he wants me back. Why won’t he let me know how he feels? I’ve always been the one to end our fights. How do I get him to admit what he’s feeling and what he wants?

    1. Hi Confused,
      The way in which you communicate this will be really critical when it comes to getting back with your ex. I invite you to schedule a session with me. I can help.
      Coach N

  20. Me and my ex just broke up a few days ago but I still have feelings for her and she still shows signs that she likes me but she says she doesn’t. What should I do?

  21. Hi Sierra,
    Thanks for reaching out, I know no contact is hard. However, is reaching out doing any good? It seems to me like no contact is at least the lesser of two evils. If you keep reaching out, he’ll just get more frustrated and consequently, lose interest in rekindling the relationship.
    If you want to speak one-on-one, I’d love to discuss.
    Coach Natalie

  22. My relatation with this girl is a lot more complex. We were friends for about 2 years before I had asked her to be my girlfriend. She said yes but we only went out for a few days because said it was weird and suggested we stay friends to get to know each other better. She’s 10 years older than me and we used to work at the same job. So we tried it for a few months and I tried asking her out a few times. She said I’m too young and won’t understand what she wants in her life but as friends we were very close and I felt like she really liked me or possibly using me because she has asked me for multiple favors. About 2 months ago I asked her again if we can me more and she says I want to be your friend. I had lost it and sent her a few mean texts. She said she hate me. I sent her a hand written letter apologizing to her and brought her chocolates. Last went I sent her another letter still apologizing, reminiscing about the good times we had and told her I love her and don’t want to be just her friend. At this point I gave up and think it’s best to just move on as she has me blocked on social media, changed her # and hasn’t gotten back to me at all. How can I tell if she actually liked me? When we were friends she seemed happy and didn’t want me to leave her life but that was after I gave her $20. She was so angry at me afterwards that she could barely make eye contact then recently when I visited her she did seem angry and fully listened to what I had to say. Aside from the letter I sent her it’s been about 1 month of no contact. What should I do from this point on?

    1. Hi Richie,
      I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation. I invite you to really give her space – let her miss you. Let her remember all the value you added to your relationship! This way, when you approach her in the future, she’ll be receptive.

      1. Thanks Coach but wouldn’t it be better to have her contact me instead so that I’m sure she’s interested on giving us another chance? Because we left off with her saying that she honestly doesn’t see a future with me but I don’t know whether she’s sincere or not

  23. Hey, my ex is married to his rebound after 6 months of dating. Two of those months he cheated with me and I didn’t know they were together. When she found out he messaged me telling me to stop communicating with him so he can work on his relationship. I did just that and focused on myself. A month later he reached out wanting to meet up and talk about life and his girlfriend and their trust issues, i told him to not ever speak to me again out of anger. 3 months later their married. Is marriage a clear indicator he’s moved on? Part of me wants him back but the other part says why bother, I’ve said some mean things to him and he’s married now. What do you think?

    1. Hi Tiffany,
      It’s important to give the relationship space. It seems to me like he’s really leaped into something new, which tends not to work out long term. For now, spend time really assessing whether or not you want this man back.

  24. Hey Natalie. I have been dating my ex for 10 months. We’re in long distance after the 8th months of dating. We broke up 2 months ago. I never plead and beg in this relationship. I bet she has high attraction to me. Because I always able to walk away when she dumps or tests me. I already applied no contact as well. I know many psychological and dating stuffs. So I know what to do and what not to do. Now she is dating someone new, but she did reach out to me saying she misses me and I just replied her in a very positive way. I’m now at uk and she is at Malaysia so I can’t set a date. She also posted on social media about our good memories. So I bet there is a chance. I never initiate contact even she likes my facebook etc. I know it’s trap. Should I just reply her text if she reaches out to me in the future for the time being or should I ask her to come to visit me or what u think the best for me to do?

  25. Hey Natalie. I have been dating my ex for 10 months. We’re in long distance after the 8th months of dating. We broke up 2 months ago. I never plead and beg in this relationship. I bet she has high attraction to me. Because I always able to walk away when she dumps or tests me. I already applied no contact as well. I know many psychological and dating stuffs. So I know what to do and what not to do. Now she is dating someone new, but she did reach out to me saying she misses me and I just replied her in a very positive way. I’m now at uk and she is at Malaysia so I can’t set a date. She also posted on social media about our good memories. So I bet there is a chance. I never initiate contact even she likes my facebook etc. I know it’s trap. Should I just reply her text if she reaches out to me in the future for the time being or should I ask her to come to visit me or what u think the best for me to do?

    1. Hi Johnson,
      I think you’re on the right track with waiting for her to reach out. Or, if you decide to initiate, do so about something that won’t have her thinking that the underlying goal is to get back together. Leave it ambiguous.

  26. Hi Natalie. I have been dating with my ex for a year. We were in long distance for 3 months during the summer as we were going back to our home country. Ever since that summer holiday started, things has been going downhill for our relationship. As we used to always stick together for the past 9 months, so its very hard for me to suddenly be in a long distance relationship especially when i used to see him every single day. We had a lot of fights, some of the were because of my insecurities due to his past action that cause me to lost the trust in this relationship. Even though I sincerely believed that he has changed ( as he swore to me to never do it again and he cried and begged for me), I still have the insecurities. Plus during the summer its so hard for me to call and actually receive a reply from him. He said he is not much of a texting person and he can’t really call as he is in the house with his family. At one point, he said he is too tired of texting and calling everyday the same general question. he said he needed a break and so i gave him the break. After that he told me that he still loves me a lot, everyday he looked at my pictures and he said he want to talk to me and look into my eyes, but he felt like we went to far to get back together again. The thing is now he is moving to a different university, he is in London while I’m in Exeter, 2.5 hours away. We ended up breaking up because of this long distance and he said he has so much things to focus on and he is unwilling to put the effort. I cried so much and begged him to comeback but he said its not my fault its his fault but he can’t change. He told me that i could still contact him if i want to but i don’t. Three weeks after the break up he still checks on my social media (my second account on instagram) very regularly. I kind of feel that he still has feelings for me and still love me. And I too, have a very strong feelings toward him and for some reason i feel like we are meant to be together. Do you think i should text him and ask how is he doing? or just let him text me first… i know its only been 3 weeks after the break up, maybe he still need the space and time to figure out.. what do you think best for me to do?

    1. Hi Jaclyn,
      Thanks for reaching out. I think that a lot of changes is coming your way and his way – spend some time to let everything settle, and then try to reconnect with him. Let him find resolve – he’ll be more receptive in the long-run.
      I hope this helps, and if you need a strategy, I’d love to coach you.

  27. My ex and I have been broke up for about a year now. Within that year he’s been dating this girl while still involved with me. Three months ago he announced on social media that she was his future ever since then it’s been none stop pics of them. Well about a week ago he shows up to my house says he misses me and can’t leave me alone. Of course I told him he had to because he had a girl he got mad and said to stop bringing her up. Then he stated you still don’t get it and walked out. He texted me that night and said got company tonight dont be mad plz. The next day pics of them all over social media. I don’t bother him because I know he’s with someone but he want leave me alone. I’ve changed my number. He ends up getting it and calls I want answer. Then he pops up at my house if this girl is his future then why want he leave me alone. Does he still love me and wants to commit sometime in the future or should i just leave him alone because yes I truly do still love him.

    1. Hi SA,
      Thanks for reaching out – thank you for sharing your story with me. I do think you’ll be able to rekindle the relationship, but you’ll have to break a few bad habits if you two want to be happy long term! I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me, so we can reset your relationship with the man you love for good.

  28. I had break up with my boyfriend about 7 months ago and now he added a status on whatsapp telling “her name is written on my heart but we don’t talk anymore ” when I saw all this I remembered one thing he told me he said he is single if he was single it means he wanted to give me a sign that he still loves me if its true what should I do to make him commit that to me ?

    1. Hi Elif,
      Thanks for reaching out – I can tell that he still cares. Without knowing much of the story, there’s little I can do to guide, but I do encourage you to spend time assessing why the breakup happened. What can you do to prevent this from happening again in the future? Answer those questions and the rest will fall into place.

  29. want to do the one to one coaching but I need to know if it’s worth it.
    We were together for 4years and we have a one year old. It has been a miserable relationship for over a year. I broke it off three months ago but we’re still living together it became nasty and evil arguments all the time. In the last month something changed and we started becoming loving and touchy felt together we are still living together he held me every night up until 6 days ago saying he loved me so much I said am sorry and I miss him and I want him back so badly. HE now in 6 days has said we will never get back together and moved into the other room. I have cried I have pleaded and I’ve got angry and shouted basically down everything wrong when I saw he was on a dating website and is texting a girl all the time and infront of me as well. He thought I went on a date the other night I went out but I actually went out with the girls to the cinema !! I got back he said just be honest i know u went on a date but I don’t care am glad as itl get u Over this jealousy quickly as ure so jealous. so now he is going to a random town hours away to stay with a woman for a night ?? he laughed when I said this is a new relationship he said clearly not. What is going on? Iam so confused and this is killing me. Does he still love me or is he pure evil and hurtful and is basically cracking on with women …I can’t do that cos I love him still how can he how can he say he loved me 6 days ago and now be like this it’s doesn’t make sense, plus I can’t do no contact cos of our child ? Please help

    1. Hi Dionne,
      Thanks for reaching out. I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through. Due to the complexity of your situation, I do encourage you to consider a one-on-one coaching session with Adrian or myself. Your situation is delicate.
      Coach Natalie

  30. So my ex and I broke up a little over a month ago….We still text one another quite often and she still comes by and grabs dinner occasionally. She did move all of her stuff out of our house and moved in with a friend She did leave some things here, some cloths, belts and some of her school supplies (shes a teacher). She still tells me she loves me and tells me she wants to be with me and she misses us (me and our dogs) and that shes miserable where she is at but she just can’t do it. She says shes trying to make the right decision for the both of us and its extremely hard for her. She keeps telling me she wants to do the no contact thing but then the next day we end up texting one another. I start the conversation majority of the time though. She still wants to come by every so often as well and come see the dogs and every time I see her it just kills me. I want her back. I have been improving on my self and setting goals I have lost almost 20 lbs and been in the gym everyday, I also have been focusing on my business a lot more, which definitely stressed me out during our relationship and now my business is doing much better. I don’t know what to do. If I should give her some space and I should do the no contact thing, when I do text her though she does say it makes this much harder on her, I bring up old memories and things we used to do in the bedroom and she says it just kills her…that this is making it much harder on her by me doing these things. Do I keep doing them or do I give her space….I know she has been texting another man because every time she is over and she is on her phone she locks it right when I come to sit down next to her and its an unsaved number so there is no name attached to the number, just the number itself. What do I do?

  31. My ex boyfriend of 2 years dumped me. He said that he still loves me but needs time to figure things out. He says he’s trying to figure out where he’s going with his life and wants to work on himself. Were both very young. He’s 21 and I’m 25. He cried when he broke up with me. A few days after the breakup he told me he isn’t sure if he made the right decision. He said he’s trying to figure out how he feels about everything. About a week after the break up he said he’s conflicted, and wants to see me and hold me but he also doesn’t want to see me to clear his head. He told me he needs space for awhile. I told him I would respect his decision and give him space. I wished him luck and told him I know he will figure it out. I told him I still love him very much and that I forgave him for everything and want him to be happy. I just found out that he started seeing someone new. They have gone on 2 dates and been “talking”. We haven’t talked in almost a week but he still has me on facebook and he continues to like my posts. I miss him so much and don’t know what to do. Does he still love me or is he just keeping me on the back burner?

  32. My ex and I have been broken up for a year and 6 months. Throughout the time me and him would talk every now and again when we first would talk we would talk about the relationship what’s went wrong point fingers so on and so forth. Then we’ll stop talking for months. Then I would hit him up again jus checking up on him. I eventually stopped all together and hadn’t talked to him in 6 months til 4 days ago. I started the conversation off with how my cousin always feels he has to tell me about him and what he has going on. And instantly he says is good hearing from you, long story I asked him how everything was and he informs me they’re going good he had some trials and tribulations but for the most part they are good. He’s even thinking about proposing to his girlfriend next year. I tell him wow congratulations and that I am happy for him. And informs him that Despite the fact that I’m still in love with him his happiness is my main concern. And I’m jus glad he’s happy even if it’s not with me. So he proceeds to say he misses me and he thought that I won’t sweating him no more he’s ready to settle down he’s not the same man nonore he jus want to be a better man. So I tell him I understand and if he feels that the right thing to do then ok jus make sure that your sure because marriage is a lifetime commitment. And he replies your right. And I love you. I tell him I love him too and he goes to say I miss you more than you’ll even know I wish I could see you and I say the same so from there wetry to come up with a day and the day he wanted to meet up I couldn’t do I try to change it and now his responses are shortened he’s not responding like he was he said ok maybe next year..(because I flaked on him once before, last year) I mean am I waisting my time? Please I need answers.

  33. I am currently separated from my wife of 2 years, together for 6 years. We have a 2 year old little girl together. We went from talking everyday to just small talk about our daughter. I can’t get her to go to mediation and she hasn’t gotten any lawyers or anything. I know for a fact that I still love her. While she’s told me that she’s over me, she still gets angry and snappy over whatever I say.

    We broke up because of trust and anger. She was a stay at home mom and I worked. She feels I never lifted her up. I felt she never appreciated the hard work and extra hours I put in trying to keep the household together. One day it was obvious that her anger was huge. I caught her texting another guy. Then in return, I invited a female friend over when I knew she would be coming home soon. So, we did alot of tit for tat and revenge. It wasn’t a pretty split, but I don’t think she totally hates me. She refuses to talk about anything us.

    She’s invited to do things like Disney world trip with our little girl. She even insisted that I stay with her parents with her although I’m separate rooms. We’ve also been to the movies together recently. She’s also asked to go to a basketball game with me. I know my wife is dating and having sex. She’s a beautiful woman. I’m not naive.

    I don’t understand keeping things in limbo or going out together. I told her I don’t want a divorce. And she hasn’t said she definitely wants one yet. Everyone I know close to her says all I have to do is be patient and keep doing what I’m doing; which is being there whenever she needs me. What are her actions telling me? Her refusal to talk but still not admit wanting divorce puzzles me. Plus, wanting to go places together. What do i do?

  34. I recently caught up with my ex of 6 years who I never stoped loving; he is married so am i.
    we met sometime and had sex as a result he promised me his love.
    since that incident we’ve been in touch with each other.
    but it seems he doesn’t want me cos he does not call me except i call which most of the time he will not answer or call back.
    his excuses are am busy or out of town.
    i love him and hope to embrace the future with him beside me but am confused. does he love me?

    1. Hi Anastasya,
      Thanks for reaching out. Without more information, I can’t really determine where you two stand, but if he’s not answering – then I would step away. Remember, we want to also showcase that we’re exited by our own lives, and don’t need their contribution.
      I hope this helps!

  35. Hello Francisca, a question I would ask yourself is what habits do you see from him as to why he only talks to you when his girlfriend is out of town? Also, what relationship do you and the son have to his girlfriend? It’s important that the father is involved in the child’s life as much as possible so my suggestion would be to heal anything and everything that has happened in these relationships. Meaning the ex, you, and his girlfriend so he will hopefully show up more in your son’s life. Also, what is the real question behind all this? Do you want him back? I encourage you to reach out to Adrian or Natalie if you need some assistance or guidance with this process.


    WMEA Team

  36. I’m confused I mean really confused! My ex bf and I were together for 6 years separated for 6 months then got back together. I thought things were going ok until I was contacted by a women who claimed they were in a relationship as well. After numerous conversations I walked away in Early 2016 because this women was a liar and completely manipulative on top of being dramatic. Needless to say the communication between the ex and I had turned into a very volatile situation which led to name calling and going to court for loans I provided. It was a horrible year now fast forward August 2017 he reached out to me trying to get info about my current situation, calling me everyday several times and being very personable, like how it was when we first met. After many hours of conversations we hooked up and we haven’t stop. Oh and he supposedly in a relationship with the same dramatic woman. In reality we both have relationships but can’t seem to leave each other alone. He gets upset if I mention my current which and he never mentions his. He lies if she calls or if he hanging out with her, it’s weird but now I’m stuck and not sure what’s going on. I know it’s a lot but I’m confused and need any guidance. Sorry it’s long but it’s more which I tried to condense.

    1. Hello T,
      Thank you for your comment. I would take the time to do a bit of self-reflection and ask yourself if this is healthy for your personal growth. Also, I invite you to take some space to figure out what it is you want.
      WMEA team

  37. Do all comments not receive replys back? I made a post 19 days ago and no reply. I see where ppl have made comments 3 days ago and have gotten a reply back. Just curious….

    1. Hello Tmac3310,
      Typically we try to get to all the comments but we are very busy with coaching and it is sometimes hard to give advice without full context of the relationship thats why we always encourage coaching. Please look at your previous comment as we were able to answer there.
      Wishing you the best,
      WMEA Team

  38. Hello Tmac,
    Thank you for your comment. I cannot 100% tell you if he is still interested without knowing and having a conversation about this relationship. Its seems as though he may but also may want you in his life for a friendship. Pleawe feel free to reach out to us here. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
    WMEA Team

  39. Hello Eseta,
    Thank you for your comment. I understand its difficult and it seems that you may have been looking for closure. Unfortunately sometimes we can come off being controlling when we ask for closure in this way and your ex may still love you as in relationship you share a lot of memories and growth. I would suggest that you move forward and show him a positive confident side of you. Devote this time to developing yourself and see what happens next for you.
    WMEA Team

  40. Hello Heidi,
    I would try to invest your time into something you are passionate about and also be a little social with your friends. Show him that you are busy and also show happiness and confidence. Workout and maybe even change your look a while. Also, reflect on the relationship and see what is going wrong. If you would like more assistance reach out to us here. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
    WMEA Team

    1. I can not afford that at all right now. But I need some hope I do not know what to do at all.
      He ended up calling me (spoke about 2 hrs)day before Christmas, Christmas Day and seen him for a few minutes after Christmas. And emailed me Happy New Year’s on NY Day. I will have to see him again Saturday for our sons baby shower. We have grown kids. 22 and 19. We are expecting our first grandchild. But I have a feeling he will not come. He tells his sister n law n brother or whoever it is that the feelings are gone and he moved on. He loves me as mother of kids that’s it. He wishes I would find someone to make me happy. That we didn’t have a good marriage for 20 yrs and sure the heck would not now. But I’ve changed and he has. Why can’t we get a chance to even see if that’s possible? He says nothing bad about me. He asked if I was dating someone the other day. I don’t understand. Help ple

      1. Hopeless,
        As much as we would love to help you we have private coaching sessions and clients that we need to help as well. We have very limited time to respond to comments throughout our day and I cannot give you exact tailored advice without speaking to you about the context of your relationship. We have resources under our products that are a lot cheaper that will help you move forward but the private coaching sessions are tailored to your dynamics and for you to get an experts advice. From what you have been writing I think this will help you with your step by step process. https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/the-reset-method/
        WMEA Team

  41. Hello Becky,
    It seems as though you may giving him too much as a result of him pulling away. If your ex made the decision to break up with you then I would advise for you to pull back a little an show him what he is missing. Take some time to work on yourself and show some more change. I would invite you to not be intimate until you are together again.
    WMEA Team

  42. Hello Emma,
    I would set aside time to really show her change through your actions. Reflecting on what went wrong in your relationship and taking the time to reflect and change will be key to getting your ex back.
    WMEA Team

  43. Hello Hannah,
    I know there is a lot more to the relationship and it’s hard to discover through a comment. But what I can tell you are a couple things. Either the relationship is good for him as he is getting what he wants and does not want to put the additional pressure for a title, there is a lack of seduction, or he may be scared of something that happened when you broke up. I invite you to reach out to use for a private coaching session so we can help you get back with your ex if this is your primary goal. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
    WMEA Team

  44. Hi Alex,
    Does she usually initiate and then stop the conversation? You should let her initiate and sometimes you tell her you to have to run. Seems like she might have more control in the contact and you will be available Switch this up a little.
    WMEA Team

  45. Hello Alex,
    If she initiates the conversation then I would try to end it every now and then. You want to keep in control of this too.
    WMEA Team

  46. Hello Sophie,
    He still cares but I would focus on you and your personal development. There is something here that pushed him away. In order for you to get him back he is asking for you to grow as a person since some things may have happened in the past. I am referring to his “normal” comment. Even though its not respectful way of communicating understand that there are boundaries too. Just move forward with yourself and he will come around.
    WMEA Team

  47. Hello,
    Me and my ex broke up 7 months ago and we been together for 12 years on and off i have strong feeling for him and my daughter do too every now and than i’ll get a phone call letting me know what he accomplish in life this part is tricky to me because he has a girlfriend now and he called me like every other month could this be because he still in love with me or is he just throwing up what we could’ve had together “another thing is we have matching tatttoo with eachother name on one and other he constantly asking me did i covered it up does this mean he still has feeling me…

  48. Hey, so my ex broke up with me in October and he told me when we broke up that he wasn’t ready for a relationship and needs to work on himself but still cares for me so wants to keep me in his life and he isn’t able to give me what I deserve because he isn’t mentally prepared and if a relationship comes about again, we could try again. We were together for 4 months. We were still friends during the breakup and he would occasionally flirt with me, comment on my social media posts and even wanted to me come over to his house on 2 occasions but I couldn’t come because I was simply busy with school. After a while, I found out he was talking to other girls and I do know that he’s single but he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship so it confused me. When all that happened, I fell into depression mode and I couldn’t eat or sleep. My friend ended up telling him I wasn’t eating properly and he messaged me encouraging me to eat and that he’s still there for me. During the ending on December I decided to do the no contact with him because I came to a realisation that the longest we had gone without talking was only 5 days meaning that we never really had space from each other so I thought it was a good opportunity to get myself back up again. Around the beginning of January during my no contact, he messaged me saying that he wanted me back and wanted to work on things but didn’t want to jump straight into the relationship. I agreed thinking he would be serious about me. I decided to ask him how serious he wanted to be with me and in conclusion he said if I wanted to talk to a guy who messaged me, I am free too and his actions will show how serious he will be about me. After about 2 weeks of observing his actions, I realised he wasn’t making much of an effort to talk to me like we would have a great normal conversation, then all of a sudden he would stop replying, he wouldn’t want to call me and that’s when I realised he was talking to another girl (which by the way didn’t work out). I confronted him telling him that I had been observing his actions and it didn’t seem he was making much of an effort and if he didn’t want to make an effort, we could stop talking. He then told me ‘I don’t know what I want so we can stop talking on that level but I’m not trying to hurt you’. I got really mad because it felt like he wasted my time and I told him how I feel like he was keeping me as some sort of side piece and he told me he wasn’t then he apologised. I told him I couldn’t believe he did that when he told me his actions would show and he wanted to work on things but he didn’t reply after that. It has been 8 days since this happened and we haven’t spoken since. He still watches my stories on Snapchat and is usually the first one to watch it within a minute of me posting it. Even after all this, my gut is telling me he potentially is the one and the thing I know about him is that he has a hard time speaking about how he feels (he’s an introvert) and I feel like I need to know what made him say he doesn’t know what he wants. I really do want it to work but I don’t know what to do. Any help and advice is appreciated

  49. Hey, my ex broke up with me on Jan 1,2018 . Pretty much me venting and being in my own feeling n there was no boundaries set in the relationship which i think ishalf the reason why we broke up . We been together on and of 15 yrs and three kids . At first he said he don’t trust me and feel uncomfortable calling me his wife . He wanted me to leave the kids with him and his family . He wanted me to leave the house . He been giving me mix signals . 1) he don’t trust me but he is comfortable with me cooking and clean and taking care of him when he sick 2. Told me I could leave my stuff at the house I can come back and get later 3. Day a lot we stuff 4. He leaving the door open 5. We had sex two weeks ago three times. And the list is long . 6. He told a female co worker he is single but unavailable . She thought he flirting with her . 7.one time he said what am suppose to mix this with my hopes and dreams and I went got the sauce and handed to him and said here your hope and dreams and he laugh and said I thought you took it the wrong way( concern about my feeling ) 8. He calls me a good friend 9. Gives me back rubs twice 10 . Let’s me walk around in under garments11. He wants me to help him with stuff12. Wants to go to the gym with me 13. He claims he still wants to live with me 14. He allows me to call him my bf and he don’t correct me but yet he tells he is single and the list goes on and on. We still live together and sleep next to each other . He touches me in his sleep . Almost every time we break up with me . We end up pregnant again . He also been saying he is a polygamist . He doesn’t include me when he picks ppl to have sex and I see he talks to them more nor show me how it works . He told the kids we are not together . The kids wants us married . I don’t want to be with no one else . Him n his family been there for me n the kids in their own way more than my family . He giving mix signals which leaves me royally confuse and starting to feel like security blanket.

    1. Hello Jessie,
      Thank you for your comment. I would do a lot of self-reflection here and ask yourself if this is a relationship that you really want. It seems as though your ex is approaching your relationship with disrespect since he has the control over you and he knows that you will still be there at the end of the day I would ask if you can feel comfortable being in a relationship with him how he is now. If not, then I invite you to walk away until he changes. Setting the boundaries again is going to be key in getting the control back in the relationship.
      WMEA Team

  50. Jessie here an update. His mom is like don’t worry about my son just talking shit . I told his mom base on what he been telling everyone ( his friends n co workers ) and what I found msg from one of his friends. Even tho I don’t want to be broken up . After what happen yesterday I am trying to figure what is my next move because we both still with his family . His mom positive that we will get back together . I think this break up is serious because he told the kids . His mom doesn’t believe me and she said atleast ur having sex . I told her that just because a dude have sex with u or have kids with a guy don’t mean he gonna stay . His mom laugh and said who said that ? I guess she just trying to b supportive because of the kids . here the kicker he wants me to put him thru hvac training which is 1040 plus . He was playing footies with me in bed and pick up my leg put on his other leg n he put his other leg on top of mine for long time yesterday morning . I’m trying to force my self to face reality that relationship might be truly over . Every time I think about the situation I break down and start crying because kids, time invested and he help me by wedding dress $2,000. Now the dress is just sitting in plastic container . He bann me from talking to anyone about him n our situation and that’s not fair. I’m going to keep tryin to force my self to face reality . If he come back correctly that’s fine.

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