Have you broken up several years ago but still wondering if it is possible to get back with that ex? Many times relationships don’t end up working out but circumstances can change. Other times you just mature or are faced with certain life lessons that push you to understand mistakes that you may have committed in the past. You are left wanting a second chance because you firmly believe that your ex may be the one or simply because you strongly believe that you can both be really happy together.
Rest assured getting back with an ex after years apart is most probably still within your reach! With the right game plan why wouldn’t it be possible for you to claim the heart of someone who once deeply cared or perhaps even loved you? If you were able to seduce him or her before you will most likely be able to seduce them again; and in this article we will tell you how!
Getting back with an ex after years apart starts with your attitude and outlook
In most cases it is possible to get back with an ex when you have a positive attitude and outlook. Even if you dated someone in high school or years ago it is still possible for you to start a new love story with that person if you set your mind to it. To want to be together and to believe that you can seduce your ex is more than half the battle won. If you are negative or lack the self-confidence to approach your ex, you will unconsciously create barriers or obstacles. You will make it a lot more difficult than it has to be and simply get in your own way! So in order to get back together after a long period of time you must ensure that you are in the right mindset but also that you feel good about yourself. A simple smile, positive body language or even optimism and excitement will attract your ex once you have been able to re-establish contact.
You can also inspire your ex or capture his or her imagination if you live with purpose or display a positive growth since the last time you were with one another. To live with purpose is to be passionate about a cause or an endeavor; this passion fuels you and becomes a central driving force in your life and the one thing that no one can take away from you. It is the opposite of coasting through life, of being passive or lacking motivation. When you are passionate or once you have found your element, you will be in a state of grace and you will inspire and draw people to you organically.
If you are able to convey your growth and show positive evolution since the last time that you spoke or were officially together your ex will be drawn to you. He or she will want to learn more about what you’ve become and instantly start to envision a future in which you are together.
But first you must establish a platform of communication especially years after having broken up
Before you can display your growth and showcase all that you’ve become it is necessary to establish a platform of communication. Quite simply it is impossible for you to get back with someone that you love if the two of you are not in touch. It may sound simple but I’ve encountered countless situation where people would play out different scenarios in their heads and create a mental block or come to the conclusion that they cannot get back with their ex even before having touched base with them again! Getting back with an ex after years apart is possible but you must first be able to talk to that person; not a just sporadic conversation here of there. You need to really be back in touch and create what I like to call an open platform of communication where you feel comfortable to reach out to someone without second guessing yourself.
In order to get to this stage you will need a bit of courage and show a genuine interest for your ex; in other words you need to provide him or her with attention to make them feel valued and be an active listener. Whether you reestablish contact via a Facebook message, in person or through an email the important thing is to show that you are genuinely interested in how they are doing and in what they’ve become. Ask him or her questions and pay attention to their answers and concerns in order to rebound on something that they may say or give more importance too and create an organic free flowing conversation. Especially in the beginning or during the first few times that you communicate. He or she will feel your genuine interest; although you may not have talked in years it will seem as if you’ve been in contact all along. He or she will quickly start to confide in you and you will have your opportunity to re-seduce your ex!
Seduce your ex and seal the deal during a face to face meeting after more than 2 years apart
You can seduce your ex in many ways and I have already disclosed 2 unique and natural ways to attract him or her without even having to court them or directly flirt. First you can attract them through your positive attitude and passion. By not coasting through life and having a passion or calling that makes you excited to wake up every morning. Second you can seduce your ex by being an active listener and genuinely showing interest about their life and their concerns. We are social creatures and most people want nothing else than to have someone to talk too; someone who understands their concerns and that does not judge them!
You can also seduce your ex in a more traditional sense; by creating intimacy or by flirting and complimenting them. It should be very easy for you to convey attraction or to sexualize a conversation due to the fact that you have been together before. Ultimately, especially if you have been broken up for more than 2 years you will need a face to face meeting to seal the deal. If you have been talking via social media, email or phone for some time and you feel that you have re-established a connection, a face to face meeting is the only way to take the next step. Physical contact, grabbing his or her hand and even a kiss or an evening together can bring you even closer together and create that permanent need to be with one another. So don’t be afraid to ask your ex out on a date or to do a fun activity that you will both enjoy because it is the best way for you to finally meet your goal of getting back together after several years apart!
If you have been able to re-seduce your ex after years of being apart and ultimately got back together for good don’t hesitate to share your thoughts and ideas in the comments section below. Your approach and tips could be of great benefit to someone looking to get back with a lost love!
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