How do I give my ex space so that they can fall in love with me again?

How do I give my ex space When you go through a breakup, especially when it’s unexpected, you tend to have some bad reactions and even more so if your feelings for your ex are strong. It’s hard to accept the separation and you want to do whatever it takes to be together, but this can result in some false moves.

A lot of people think that by giving their ex gifts, by making big promises, or by stifling them they’ll get them back. If you want to successfully get back together with your ex, you have to let them breathe.

I know that your friends and colleagues are urging you to tell your ex everything about how you feel, but an expert in human relationships and getting back together is telling you that there are important rules to respect in order to avoid making things worse!

Now is not the time to declare your undying love or to treat your ex to expensive meals in fancy restaurants. A separation means that you both need to put some space between you. If you know my philosophy, then you’re aware of the dos and don’ts of getting back together.

For those of you who aren’t yet familiar with this topic, these are actions to avoid doing at all costs in order to preserve your chances of patching things up. Unfortunately, a great number of people reading this article right now have a very tough time following these rules and end up making their ex want to cut ties for good.

But asking yourself how do I give my ex space is a good place to start; it means that you recognize the face that there’s a problem in the way you two have been interacting. So, if you want to be happily together again, you’re going to have to change the way you’re acting.

The solutions are pretty straightforward when you want to know how to make your ex want to get close to you again, what tips will help you break this distance, and why your ex is acting like this… Keep on reading, leave a comment on the bottom of this article if you have any questions, and follow the advice that you’re about to find!

Why does my ex need space?

Even if it isn’t common, sometimes breakups don’t result in conflict and the two partners are able to remain in touch and on good terms. Sometimes even friendship can bud with an ex, even if one of the two would like more…

That said, it doesn’t look like you’re in that situation simply because the person you love has decided to take a step back.

Generally speaking, when an ex decides to put even more space between you after the breakup has already happened, it’s because you’ve perhaps been a bit overbearing. You’re always sending messages, you call often, and you frequently suggest meeting up. In other words, you’re not accepting what’s happening and sometimes you even deny the obvious.

This is what makes you have trouble respecting their need for space and go against what they’re expecting from the breakup. The solution to this problem is simple; put some space between you.

When you harass your ex, don’t be surprised if they end up moving on… If you don’t respect their wishes and make things even more complicated, it is going to be considerably harder to get back together.

It’s important to note that an ex’s desire for space sometimes isn’t your fault. Maybe you had still been together just a few days ago, and you’re not doing anything wrong, but you’re still faced with your ex’s need for distance. This is often the case when the separation didn’t ‘go well.’

I’m referring to situations in which there was infidelity, multiple fights, or a crisis, because a person’s anger or disappointment has been brought to a fever pitch. Even if it goes against your nature, sometimes you have to take a step back so you can change your approach.

Accept the breakup to make sure you don’t suffocate your ex

How do I give my ex space and not be too needy?”

This is the biggest question you need to ask yourself if you want your attempt at getting back together to work! For now, don’t put so much focus on getting your ex back, because if you don’t focus on being less present and creating a proper balance you can kiss your dreams of being with your ex goodbye.

The only way you’re going to move towards your goal is by giving your ex a new image of yourself. The very first step is to accept and understand the breakup. When you keep acting as though you were still in a relationship it means that you’re in denial and you haven’t accepted what has happened.

It’s understandable; I want to reassure you because it’s so common for people to feel this way, but you must understand that this has to change if you want to be with your ex again!

You should know that accepting a breakup doesn’t mean that you’re giving up on being together again. In truth, the relationship you had is over, let’s be clear about that, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t build a new one with the person you love!

You’ll have to create a much more solid and balanced foundation and show your partner that you understand and can meet their needs and expectations. Once you understand this, you will stop breathing down their neck.

how do I give my ex space using radio silence?

You shouldn’t be thinking, “OK, I won’t do anything and I’ll just wait.” No longer harassing your ex isn’t synonymous with sitting around and waiting for them to come back to you. The good news is that there is a very effective technique that combines distance and the process of getting back together and I am of course talking about radio silence!

By using it, you’ll be able to respect their need for space all the while you prepare your return. Personal reconstruction, and psychological and physical evolution via a new physical activity are actions that will make you feel much better and will send a positive message to your ex.

They’ll no longer see the person that was begging them, that was crying and depressed, and they’ll see a new person that they could really like (as long as you’ve made these changes for the long run.)

I know that what I’m telling you to do isn’t simple, and that’s exactly why I am here to help you with an ultra-effective method! In this eBook I reveal all the secrets of how to marry taking a step back with actions that show your evolution to your ex. I invite you to check it out by clicking here!

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  • Fighting4Love

    Hello – I am needing help
    and after reading your article which has been an eye opener I have a few
    questions. My ex broke up with me about 3 months ago there was many issues in
    our relationship and she was unhappy for a while. I failed to really put in my
    part and over the last 3 months I have learned how much I have hurt her. I have
    been working on myself thinking she was doing the same but I found out she was
    dating someone right after our break-up and that has me broken to my core. She
    informed me she loves me and misses me then goes cold and tells me she doesn’t
    having feeling her heart isn’t in it because she is so hurt and is upset that
    she is at this point. Over the last couple of weeks I have found myself being aggressive
    and wanting to push her – but she told me she needed space. My ex informed me
    that the girl was just a rebound and she informed her that they could only be
    friend nothing more because she needs to really work on herself and find her
    happiness. I guess I am needing help I decided that I need to stop talking
    about the relationship and I am accepting that its over but I don’t want to
    lose her so I am leaving the state for a month to rebuild myself and surround
    myself with my family. So my question is how can I get her back – I see you
    speak on the radio silences which from what I have read that would be “No
    Contact” – do you think im on the right path of leaving for a while to
    create space? We work together and I have to see her every day that is the main
    reason I am leaving is because my job is allowing me to work from home/
    different state so I figured out of sight for a while would help to let her
    think about things and maybe miss me but I can really work on myself. Im scared
    that she will let this other girl in – even though she informed me she is just
    a friend and was a rebound but Im also scared if Im not reaching out she will
    forget about me or feel that she doesn’t want anything with me. Please help I
    need some peace of mind.

    • Coach natalie

      Thank you for your share. I know how hard it can be to assess how to give your ex space so they can fall in love with you again. I really encourage no contact. We actually have another article in our blog regarding how to implement no contact if you work together. I highly suggest that you read it! I think it can be a great point of reference for you.
      Coach N.