I was speaking with one of my clients recently who told me that it seems that her ex has actually been trying to make her jealous. It was definitely working and she wanted him back more than ever before, but didn’t quite understand what was going on. He had clearly told her that he didn’t want to be with her anymore. So was he just being petty? Or did he secretly want her back?
She asked me, “Why is my ex trying to make me jealous? I’ve heard that people do that when they want someone to miss being with them… So is this his way of trying to make me ask for him back? I don’t get it.”
Truth be told, an ex that is trying to make you jealous isn’t always doing it because they’re trying to make you want them back. I’ve written this article for you today in order to go over the different reasons behind this type of behavior, and what you can do about it!
Why is my ex trying to make me jealous? I thought they didn’t care?
We often make the mistake of thinking that the opposite of love is hate, but that’s not the case. The opposite of love is actually indifference.
At this point in time, you’ve noticed that your ex has been doing things with the intention of making you jealous. You’ve noticed that he or she is posting pictures of themselves with attractive members of the opposite sex, they’ve been flirting with other people in front of you, or they might have even started talking about their recent escapades with other people with you, when they know that it wouldn’t make you feel very good.
The fact of the matter is that your ex is trying to get a reaction out of you. The reason behind this will of course vary from person to person, so let’s take a look at the possibilities.
My ex is trying to make me jealous in order to test the waters
Sometimes a person will regret breaking up with their partner, but won’t know how to go about figuring out whether or not there’s still a chance of getting back together. Perhaps your ex broke things off with you and then realized that you’re actually the one they want to spend the rest of their lives with, but they can’t tell how you feel about them anymore.
They might try to make you jealous in order to test whether you still care! Similarly, you may have been the one to pull the plug on the relationship, and your ex is trying to make you jealous because he or she wants you to realize that you still care for them and don’t want to lose them.
If it’s working and you’re feeling jealous, it’s important to analyze what exactly you’re feeling. If you know that you want your ex back, I encourage you to click here to find out how to get back together!
Ex trying to make me jealous because I’m dating someone else
Your ex might be trying to make you jealous simply because they found out you’re seeing someone new, and they want to make you think about them again. They might be trying to make you feel like you’re missing out by not being with them anymore. It can also be to make themselves feel better and to boost their own ego. No one wants to be the one that is less happy than the other after a breakup.
Jealous ex: They might be overcompensating
If you see that your ex is suddenly posting all kinds of pictures on social media and it seems like he or she is trying to show off how happy they are now, it could simply mean that they’re still hurting.
We use social media platforms like Instagram and Facebook to showcase our lives, and we try to make our lives look as fantastic as possible. This is especially true when we are unhappy. We often want things to look better than they actually are.
How to know if your ex wants you back when they’re trying to make you jealous
If you’re on this website chances are that you’re interesting in getting back together with your ex… So I wanted to include a section on how to tell if your ex wants you back.
If an ex is trying to make you jealous because they secretly want you back, you’ll be seeing some of the following signs:
• They go out of their way to always initiate contact
• They are trying to maintain a cordial relationship with you
• They care about what is going on in your life
• The trust and support is still there between you
If it’s more vindictive, he or she will just be pressing your buttons to get a reaction out of you. They might even be trying to convince themselves that you’re the one who has the bad attitude.
The most important thing is to avoid giving in. If you want your ex back, you have to give them reason to want to impress you, instead of trying to make you jealous. Too much jealousy between two people can have a very negative effect on the relationship and can give rise to insecurities and trust issues.
The best thing you can do, whether you want your ex back or not, is to focus on becoming the absolute best version of yourself and making your life into what you’ve always wanted it to be. Prove to yourself that you can make yourself happy and that you are in control of your emotions.
Jealousy in relationships
As I mentioned above, a small amount of jealousy is not a terrible thing. It builds seduction and can even increase excitement. Seeing that someone is desirable can make you want them more.
It’s just important to keep a healthy balance because you don’t want things to get out of hand. If you’re planning on getting back together with someone, it shouldn’t be simply because you don’t want them with anyone else. Possessiveness can damage the connection between two people and emotions should not be toyed with.
When the trust between two people starts getting damaged, you have a problem.
I’ve worked with so many people struggling with these types of issues, and I’ve noticed something that I’d like you to take a moment to think about. Perhaps it will strike a chord with you, perhaps it won’t, but sometimes a person’s imagination can run wild.
They can start imagining their partner in scenarios and they can get really upset thinking about something that’s not even happening! It can just take a picture on Instagram of your ex with someone else… People daydream and fixate, and their thoughts can get carried away. So, the next time you notice this happening, turn it to your advantage.
Try to create positive daydreams. Imagine your ex in situations that make you feel good! Use your imagination to make you feel better… not worse.
Start practicing awareness. Think about what the reality is, and what the current situation is. Focus on positive moments. If you know for a fact that your ex is trying to make you jealous, take the high road and don’t give in. Focus on yourself.
As always, I am here to help so don’t hesitate to reach out or to leave you question in the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best in life and love
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