Marriage doesn’t always look the way it does in fairy-tales. You’re more than aware of this because for a little while now, you and your husband have been going through a rough patch in which tensions are rising.
You’re having trouble overcoming certain issues and it’s becoming harder and harder to find the passion you used to share. You’re expecting the worst… If the worst hasn’t already happened.
Even though some other people would have already decided to separate and to move on, you believe in your relationship and if you’re reading this article right now it’s because you want to save your marriage.
You have a family that you want to preserve, projects together, and maybe even dreams that you want to bring to life together so you don’t want to throw your relationship in the trash.
How do I get my husband to love me is a question that I hear almost every day; The first thing you should know is that it’s perfectly possible to make your husband fall for you again. You are perfectly capable even if you’ve already talked about separation, you no longer live together, and even if your husband has brought up divorce.
Your job now is to follow a precise path and to not veer off course. You’re going to have to use actions that I will recommend to you throughout this article and also on this site. Don’t wait for the day that your husband comes home and starts talking about a lawyer or a family court judge before you take action.
As soon as you’ve read this article, you’ll be able to set into motion constructive actions that will preserve your relationship.
Despite what you feel for your significant other and your desire to change things, you’re not using the right methods, or at least you’re not seeing results. So what should you do? How to do get back on the right track?
I will explain exactly what you need to do in this article, and I can always accompany you personally if you feel like you need more information.
Ideally you should act before the breakup
It goes without saying that taking action before you breakup is always best, but you should be careful not to overdo it. Even if you’ve already broken up, it doesn’t mean that you should feel defeated because even if things are a little more delicate, all hope is not lost.
Most women (and men) wait till the last moment before they take action in order to make the person they love fall for them again. One day, after many years of trouble, he brings up divorce and it’s a shock. You think, “My husband is talking about divorce but what have I done to deserve that?”
You become aware of the situation and of your partner’s unhappiness and you start asking yourself thousands of questions. You’re imagining yourself single, hurt, and there’s not a more natural reaction than that, especially if you didn’t see this coming.
For most women that I accompany in personalized coaching sessions, breaking up had been unimaginable. To be perfectly honest, most of them had no idea it was coming and they felt like they had been hit by a freight train when their husband announced the news. I bet you weren’t thinking that he’d dare leave and move on; you might even be thinking,
“After everything we’ve been through, he’s just throwing me out like trash?” But don’t think that this is making him happy either… He’s suffering as well, and maybe even more than you. If you can understand this you’ve made a big step in the process of getting back together!
Of course if you’re reading this article just after the breakup, you might be thinking that everything is over, but this is most certainly not the case. I’m not just saying that to make you happy; it’s the truth. It’s not by accident that hundreds of people get back together after having visited my site.
With my help and guidelines, you’re going to be able to set into motion effective and impactful actions that will do wonders for your attempt at getting your husband back.
That said, I know that some of you haven’t actually separated from your husband. You’re looking for a way to do some damage control and this is great because it can help you avoid a real crisis.
You’re experiencing certain tensions in your relationship and you’re looking for advice. Congratulations on having an attitude like this, and as the saying goes, it’s better to prevent than to have to heal.
You have to be careful to not lose time and to not wait for your husband to make the first move. You shouldn’t just react; you should be the one being proactive, the one controlling the situation. I know it’s not easy to do but keep in mind that your family and your happiness are at stake!
How do I get my husband to love me again and how do I control my emotions
Very often, women that call upon my services tell me, “ because he doesn’t anymore; he doesn’t want to come back or he abandoned me and he’s a coward.” If your husband was madly in love with you a few months ago and you’re finding yourself in this situation today, then something happened between then and now.
A separation or a divorce is always caused by something. He’s not happy about his feelings dissipating or about feeling unhappy in your relationship…As I mentioned above, he’s not happy about this either!
More often than not, this decrease in feelings for you and this desire to emotionally discover something new stems from the fact that the relationship had settled into an all-encompassing routine. So no, you’re not the only one to blame because your husband is partly responsible for the situation as well.
Nevertheless in order to stealing your husband’s heart again you shouldn’t point fingers. Leave the past behind you and take the initiative to improve things.
If you want to rekindle his feelings for you, you have to step out of the daily routine and suggest new things to him. Think about the last amazing evening you spent together, the last romantic weekend you spent just the two of you…was that months ago? Years ago even? You should never stop seducing and making your man happy.
If you want your spouse back, or to revive his feelings for you, you’ll have to bring the passion from the beginning of your relationship back and this happens in intense moments like the ones you had shared in the past.
Search your memory for the things that would please him most. Even if you’re not longer officially together, you can always still suggest going for dinner together…
The importance of timing when you’re rekindling the flame with your man
Since the beginning of this article I’ve been talking about getting back together with your man, and this doesn’t only apply to situations in which you’ve already broken up.
Many people use methods of getting their husband back that actually aren’t appropriate for their situation. You have to think about the context in which you’re using the techniques. Does a hunter looking for rabbits run into the forest with a bazooka…? You get the point.
Many of you might be in full radio silence mode even though you haven’t broken up and you’re still living with your significant other (and maybe you’re even sharing the same bed.) So obviously cutting all ties is not going to help anything.
Ceaselessly trying to communicate or being needy aren’t going to help either, so what you need to focus on are subtle things that will re-seduce your man because this is how you’re going to make him fall for you again. You can find out more about what I’m suggesting by reading articles on the subject on this site.
You’ll find paths to take if you’re not quite sure how to proceed. All you have to do is browse a little on the site or type what you’re looking for in the search bar!
If you’ve separated, radio silence will help you to make some distance between you before you act, not only to make your significant other miss you but also to give some weight to your actions.
Whether you’re going to write a handwritten letter or an original text message, you have to take a step back before you act so that you can make your more even more impactful. It’s important that you employ radio silence only when it’s appropriate (i.e. not right after a huge fight) because RS is a technique to handle with care as we explain in this eBook!
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