When a relationship ends, each person has a different way of dealing with the pain. Some people tend to isolate themselves and wallow in misery for a while, others try to numb the feeling by partying and having wild nights out, some turn to self care, while others turn to seeking comfort in someone else’s arms. This is where we see the rebound relationship come into play.
Unfortunately, if your ex is the person who has jumped into a new relationship right after your breakup, it just adds insult to injury. As if you weren’t hurting enough, now you come to find out that your ex is spending their evenings with someone else! So you’re wondering, “How long do rebound relationships last and how can I tell if my ex’s is going to work out?”
You’ve come to the right place because I’m going to provide you with answers to your questions right here in this article!
Is my ex in a rebound relationship or a serious one?
As this article is going to deal primarily with how to deal with rebound relationships, it’s important that we go over the indicators that your ex is in fact rebounding and not in a serious relationship with this person.
Because this is such a common topic, I wanted to go over some of the biggest rebound relationship signs.
So, it is very common for an ex to jump into a relationship very fast following a breakup. Dating someone new can feel like a bandaid that numbs the pain of a broken heart. You might be thinking that you’re ex is the one who broke up with you, so there’s no reason why he or she would be suffering, but many people make the mistake of thinking that the one who pulled the plug on the relationship doesn’t experience the pain of a breakup. Both people involved will suffer because both of them are experiencing disappointment in love.
For many people, the easiest way to distract themselves from that pain is by getting involved with someone else.
So how do you know if your ex is on the rebound and this relationship isn’t anything serious?
My ex is in a rebound relationship: They started seeing this person right after we broke up
First things first, let’s take a look at the timeline. Did your ex’s new relationship begin within a few weeks after your breakup? When two people break up, the feelings of love and connection do not just disappear overnight. They might be buried beneath some other emotions, but they’re there. If your ex is already dating someone new after just a few few weeks or maybe even a month or two, chances are that they’re trying to keep their mind busy by being on the rebound.
Rebound relationships can sometimes be identified by the person your ex is dating
If you’re wondering if your ex is rebound dating or if this is the real deal, take a look at “your replacement.” Are they the complete opposite of you? Sometimes an ex tries to overcompensate for the pain they’re feeling by finding someone that is nothing like you. They figure that the best way to get over you would be to go out with your polar opposite.
Similarly, they might the thinking that the relationship clearly did not work with you so they will have higher odds of success with someone that is very different. Whatever the case may be, your ex is using this new person as a tool to help them get over you, which means that they still feel something for you.
Exactly how long do rebound relationships last?
Rebound relationships last a different amount of time for each person. Generally speaking, they don’t last longer than a few months so the longer it’s been going on, the less likely it is that it’s a rebound.
To give you a simple answer to “Is my ex in a rebound relationship,” just think about it this way: The definition of a rebound relationship is a relationship in which your ex is acting very much out of character. If your ex took a very long time to introduce you to his friends and family, but he’s introduced this new person after just a few weeks, then it could be a rebound.
If it’s too passionate and something about it feels false to you, it’s probably a rebound relationship. If your ex is broadcasting this new relationship all over social media (especially if they aren’t usually one to post much), it’s probably a rebound!
So now that you’ve got a better idea of what we’re dealing with here, let’s take a look at whether or not it’s built to last!
What to do if your ex is in a rebound
I want to be very clear about something. Whether or not your ex’s new relationship is a rebound, whether or not it’s going to last a few weeks or even a few months, it doesn’t matter! The labels do not matter.
What does matter is how you’re going to handle this situation. Your actions from here on out are what are going to make the biggest difference. There is no sense in fixating on your ex’s new relationship, whether it’s a rebound or not, comparing yourself to your ex’s new partner is not going to help anything, and wasting your time trying to define your ex’s new relationship isn’t going to get you closer to your goal.
The key right now is going to be fine-tuning your plan of action so that you can get them back. If you spend too much time fixating on what to label his or her new relationship, it’s going to hurt your attempt at getting back together simply because it does not matter.
If you catch yourself starting to panic, keep this in mind. Your ex is going to compare their new partner’s shortcomings to what you used to bring to the table! After all these years coaching people in these types of situations, I can confidently tell you that it’s not the other way around, trust me.
You are in control of your own actions, and there are so many tools available to you! I highly encourage you to get in touch with me or a member of my team so that we can design the perfect plan of action for you.
Have faith in what you bring to the table and focus on what you have to do in order to bounce back! Right now, it’s all about becoming the 2.0 version of yourself so that
1. You can feel better than ever
2. You can protect yourself against emotional dependency
3. You can create more balance and confidence in your life
4. You can re attract your ex by showing them that their life would be considerably better with you in it
What are the odds of this rebound relationship working out in the end?
Now, I know that you’re looking for a little but of reassurance here, so don’t worry, I won’t disappoint!
The success rate of rebound relationships is very, very low. They just don’t have what it takes to develop a solid foundation that leads into a fulfilling, long lasting relationship. A relationship that buds under such circumstances sit on a weak foundation, so chances of it developing into anything are slim.
In order to be able to fully invest and nurture a new relationship, you have to heal from your last breakup and feel whole. The few weeks following a breakup aren’t enough to do this, so stepping into a new relationship at this time isn’t ideal if you want to make things last.
Yes, there are rare cases in which a rebound can turn into something serious, but it’s not something that happens often. So even if your ex is dating someone new, don’t panic! Oftentimes the disappointment that follows a rebound relationship highlights what your ex loved and misses about their relationship with you.
As I mentioned above, we are here to help so don’t hesitate to reach out or leave your question in the comments section below.
Wishing the best of luck in life and love,
Your coach when you’re wondering about rebound relationships,