If only we could just snap our fingers and make your ex wake up and realize that your relationship still has so much potential, that the love you have for them is still there, and that letting you go would be a huge loss! Unfortunately, the breakup has taken place and you’re left wondering how to make someone miss you, and how you can make your ex want you back.
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So let’s take a look at how to make someone miss you!
The basics of making someone miss you
Right off the bat, I can tell you that it all boils down to your ability to change.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend left you, it means that he or she began to doubt your overall ability to make them happy in the long run. That means that if you want to make him or her miss you, you have to show that you are able to make the changes that would make it possible for you to offer them longterm happiness.
So if your ex left, it means that they lost faith. They felt that you were not going to be able to make the changes that would protect the relationship and make them happy. This is one of the key elements to keep in mind if you want to know how to make him miss you.
There are so many things that an ex may have wanted you to change. Just a few examples are clinginess and neediness, selfishness, laziness, temper, and the list goes on and on.
Another thing to keep in mind is that your ex doesn’t want to hear empty words. You know the expression, “Actions speak louder than words?” Well, it is very true and at this point, your ex feels like they haven’t seen anything that would make them believe that you can change. So begging, pleading, and promising your ex that things will be different is not going to be enough to genuinely make him or her miss you.
There is another thing I want to mention before I dive into the how-to’s of making someone miss you like crazy. It is important that you ask yourself if the changes you are going to make for your ex are going to serve you, too.
For example, what if your ex is someone who doesn’t mind messiness or disorder in the house, but you’re someone that has always been very tidy. Your need for tidiness is actually what drove your ex nuts and made them want to leave the relationship.
If you are genuinely happy with having a clean home, then instead of trying to make an ex miss you and become messier, it might be a better move to go back to the drawing board and reconsider who you’re working so hard on keeping in your life, and who you’re dating.
Now, on the flip side, perhaps you have exhibited a negative character trait that drove your ex away, and you too have recognized the importance of making some changes in that department. Then now is the perfect time to change! You’ve got motivation, and it’s also going to positively impact your life for the REST of your life!
So, let’s take a look at how to make them want you in their life again.
The importance of distance when you miss someone
It may sound counterintuitive, but one of the best things you can do right now is take a step back that you can make a stronger come back. Things are probably tense right now and the breakup has left a bad taste in your ex’s mouth, which means that we need an opportunity to hit the reset button.
When a person is feeling heartbroken and vulnerable, they are at risk for making some of the most common post breakup mistakes (like begging and pleading).
This is where the no contact rule comes into play. If you are familiar with our philosophy then you have undoubtedly heard of this powerful technique and how it can be used to make someone miss you like crazy. To briefly summarize, it consists of cutting all forms of communication with your ex for a predetermined period of time ranging from three weeks to three months.
The goal is to give your ex boyfriend or ex-girlfriend an electro shock that makes them realize they love and miss you. In addition to this, the time you spend out of contact with your ex needs to be used wisely.
By zeroing in on the changes you need to make, you can fill up your schedule with people and activities that benefit you and bring you joy.
The moment your ex realizes that you are becoming the new and improved version of the person they fell in love with, the person that is showcasing the changes they didn’t think were possible, you will present yourself an entirely new light and become irresistible.
Again, actions speak louder than words. So use this time to your advantage. If the fundamental problem in your relationship was the fact that you were selfish, start going out of your way to help others.
Start doing some volunteer work, tutor your little cousin after school, go out of your way to make a difference in someone’s life. Post pictures of yourself on social media with the new people you’ve been meeting while you’ve been doing this.
The more you do, the more your ex is going to take notice. I know that you’re thinking, “I miss you so much” right now and it seems like that’s all you can think about, but I encourage you to use this as fuel! Make these feelings motivate you make the changes that will improve your life while sparking your ex’s attention.
Highlighting the positives when you want to make them miss you more
While you make a conscious effort to make the changes you needed to make, it’s also going to be helpful for you to remind him or her of the positives that you brought to the table; the things your ex loved about you.
Think about the things that made him want to spend more time with you, the things that made her smile, the things that made your ex proud to tell their friends about you. These don’t have to be big things!
Maybe it’s the fact that you love to bake, so start to bake things for your friends, or even the people behind the counter each time you go to your post office to mail those packages. Start thinking about how you can share the best things about yourself and make others happy.
If you want to know how to make someone miss you, I can tell you right now that it’s not going to happen by posting pictures of yourself with attractive members of the opposite sex at clubs every night. If anything, this is going to look like you’re trying to get your ex’s attention, which puts you at a disadvantage.
We need your ex to feel inspired to gravitate back towards you because you’re living a life that they would want to be a part of. It’s easy to let your ego get the best of you when your heart is broken, but I cannot stress the importance of not doing anything that you’ll regret later on enough. You don’t want to make your ex resent you and push you further away.
Making someone miss you by making important changes
At the end of the day, you are in control of much more than you might realize, so i encourage you to get active starting today! Start by going for a run that clears your mind, and then sit down and start to explore what exactly you need to be doing.
How can you fill up your schedule with people and activities that are going to create a shift in your life? How can you carve out time for your passions and hobbies? How can you give yourself new challenges? How can you evolve and work on flaws that drove your ex away?
The more time you spend focusing on making these changes, the more your ex is going to miss you. They will see that this breakup did not break you. In fact, it served as a catalyst for very positive evolution and there is no way that they won’t recognize the significance of that.
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Wishing you all the best in life and love,
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