Getting your ex to take you back is rarely easy. The most important thing to do is to realize what needs to be done; and it’s usually a personal change. This is hard for many people because of their ego. So if you’re ready and willing to make changes and improvements, know that you are very brave and I congratulate you. You’ve made a huge step towards finding the happiness that you deserve!
A person’s love life can sometimes have some nasty surprises, but that doesn’t mean you should let it get you down because there is a wide variety of techniques to help you once again find happiness in love. Sometimes you can find yourself in a situation in which you’re not the one that is most unhappy. I often hear people tell me “my ex has issues and they are not all together there…but I still want to get back together! In many cases your ex partner is having certain problems that may have nothing to do with your relationship, and their decision to break up is a result of those inner struggles. Whether it happened because your ex wanted to protect you, or if they knew the breakup was inevitable because they just couldn’t deal with everything, there is good news. There are tips and methods to get back together with an ex, despite their personal problems.
Despite everything that went down, you don’t want to give up the idea of being together again; but how do you proceed when the person you love has personal issues? Is it the right time? Is it a good idea? Find out in this article!
What kind of problems could your ex encounter
Love isn’t the only thing that occupies the minds of men and women, and so love isn’t the only thing that can pose a problem. In fact problems outside of your relationship can lead to problems within the relationship. Misunderstandings in love aren’t solely responsible for all the negative aspects of life.
Through one on one coaching sessions, I’ve not only been able to help thousands of men and women, but I’ve also seen how radically different relationships can be. And whenever I think I’ve seen it all, and found an answer for each question, I encounter a new issue. So I’ve come to realize something; many of the problems that people come to me with aren’t stemming from their relationship. They’re rooted in something their significant other is experiencing, that has nothing to do with love.
So we see that sometimes love isn’t enough, and not everybody can be happy in love, simply because there are outside factors that can make getting back together with your ex harder than expected.
When a person is ill, or mourning someone, it’s normal that their love life isn’t their priority. Unfortunately for you, your attempt at getting your ex back is being affected by outside factors, and it doesn’t depend entirely on your actions. It’s not always easy to approach a person that has fallen sick, or who has recently lost a loved one. Some people could see this as opportunism, even though your feelings are sincere and you’re acting out of love.
My ex has issues and personal problems can we still make it work? It’s possible!
The problems that the person you want back could be experiencing can happen to anyone, so you shouldn’t blame them for something they have no control over. It’s important to note, however, that this doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t stick to rules and guidelines that will facilitate your success.
Taking the time to understand the breakup is especially important. In this situation, you need to know if it happened because of external circumstances, or if the problem really was rooted in your relationship.
Putting some space between you can also be an important strategy in this case. You can adapt it to your situation. For example, if your ex is ill, or if someone close to them has passed away, it wouldn’t be a good idea to delete them off Facebook and cut all contact. In fact, given the situation, reaching out and showing your support is one of the first things you should do. Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you should “take advantage” of the situation, or suffocate them either. Work on your own well-being and morale as well. Getting your ex back when they have personal problems, while trying to overcome heartache at the same time is not the best way to envision rebuilding a solid and serene relationship.
Similarly, nothing is holding you back from writing a letter with the hopes of getting back together. This is technique that would be great in your situation, if you find yourself saying my ex has issues that go beyond our relationship; or when your ex is going through a difficult period. What you need to think about is the timing. There are certain principals and “don’ts” that have to be respected.
On top of breaking up, the man or the woman that you loved is going through something painful, so for the sake of your goal of getting back together, and to really be there for your ex, you have to help them overcome whatever is ailing them. You have to think about their needs and desires, and if you succeed in getting back together, you’ll also share their problems.
There is one more thing to keep in mind. Financial problems, physical problems, or professional problems should never serve as excuses for letting an ex get away with anything. You shouldn’t devalue yourself just because the person you want to be with is suffering. Likewise, never use these problems as an excuse for turning a blind eye to issues that may have led to your separation.
I wish you all the best,
Your coach if you find yourself saying “my ex has issues”