It takes skills to manage a relationship in order to overcome life’s ups and downs. Just as you may seek the help of a coach to get in shape or a teacher to learn an instrument, it can be of great benefit to seek the support of a relationship counselor or love coach to give yourself the best chance to remain with the one you love.
Relationship advice can come in many forms and friends and family will freely give you their opinion when it comes to your love life; but where has their advice led you? If you are on the verge of breaking up with your significant other or if you are already separated, know that it is possible for you to salvage your love story with the proper relationship advice that you deserve and need.
In this article Adrian, our love coach who specializes in helping people get back with their ex, will provide you with a roadmap and some of his secrets free of charge in order for you to maximize your chances of being in a healthy relationship with the one you love.
Are you still together?
For those of you who are still in a relationship that may be unravelling it is time for you to pull the alarm and take a step back. You need to stop looking at your couple with your own interests in mind or from your perspective. The first piece of relationship advice that I can give you and the one that probably will be most beneficial to you is the following: Look to put yourself in your ex’s shoes when it comes to every possible contentious topic.
It may sound pretty simple and straight forward but this is actually quite difficult to do. Don’t simply tell yourself “oh yea, Mike thinks that I go out too much and he wants me to be less social” – that would be too way simple. No, you must really try to gain a 360 degree perspective of the issues; from your partner’s perspective while taking into account their fears, insecurities, desires, needs, their emotional past and their upbringing. Try to really take the time to dive deep into the issues facing your couple to really understand why your ex thinks a certain way and how your action impacts them on a deeper level.
By doing so you will be able to develop a sense of compassion in regards to your ex and shift your approach and reaction in regards to their behavior. You will be able to engage in a new dynamic and be more positive when it comes to the little things that have left your couple on the brink of separation.
What if you are already broken up?
For those who have already been broken up with, realize that all hope is not lost and that I can provide you with relationship advice that applies to your situation as well. If you find yourself single but still in love and looking for ways to make it work with your ex or to get a second chance, you must first figure out what went wrong. Once again you need to be able to develop the ability to look outside of yourself and your own needs in order to figure out what are the real causes that pushed your ex away.
In general a breakup or separation is simply a need for a new beginning for both parties; only one person sometimes does not realize or wish to acknowledge it yet! The person who is broken up with is 95% of the time either too needy or too removed from their relationship to give their partner the love and attention that they are seeking. Finding the right balance is hard and that is why so many relationships fall apart or don’t withstand the test of time.
If you were too needy you pushed your partner away because you were too emotionally dependent on them and the relationship. You existed through your couple and lost a sense of self. You may have identified with your ex’s friends, hobbies and outlook and were no longer your own person. If you were too removed from the relationship you may have turned down your ex’s attempts to spend more time together by prioritizing work, a hobby or your friends.
Either way, if you have a deep desire to be with your ex it is most likely still possible for you to correct the mistakes that have led you to this point. But to do so you must first identify what went wrong and then act decisively based on the relationship advice that we will provide to you below.
Find inner peace or a common life project and seduce your ex
When people reach the point where their relationship is either over or on the brink, they are usually not in the best emotional place. The trap would be to think that you are sad or depressed because of your love life; that getting back with your ex will make it all better!
Please pay close attention to this piece of relationship advice; find your inner peace and happiness and your relationship will soon get back on track. When you are living with purpose and stable on your own, with an unwavering sense of direction or if you develop the ability to find happiness in the little things and live in the present moment; most if not all of the issues that surround your relationship will almost instantly vanish.
You won’t be as frustrated about trivial things; you will have a more positive outlook and be more compassionate when it comes to your ex’s imperfections. Focus on what you can control: your actions on the day to day, your positive outlook, dreams and goals. Realize that you have the power to dictate your own happiness and that your significant other is simply there to learn more about yourself along the way and to potentially give you that extra push that you need to get you to where you want to go!
When you are able to finally live with purpose, you will seduce your ex or your significant other without even trying. In essence you will be able to stay in that realm of when you first met and fell in love because you will be fulfilled on your own. Most of the issues that couples face are the manifestation of their own frustrations and insecurities placed unto their significant other. Understand this simple concept and you may not need any more relationship advice for the time being.
Relationship advice should start with self-help
There can be a stigma when it comes to self-help or seeking counselling in order to deal with some of our own inner struggles or our overall well-being. A lot of people have trouble accepting that their unhappiness is rooted in themselves; it is so much easier to blame others and not take accountability for all the little decisions that we have made along the way and that have led us exactly to where we are now!
But I as often say to the people that I am fortunate enough to interact with over the phone on a daily basis during coaching sessions; getting back with your ex is only the end of a journey that starts with getting back with yourself.
If you are currently going through a breakup or if you have been separated for some time and wish to get back with the one you love, simply reach out to me and it will be my pleasure to enable you to meet your goals.
Your coach to provide you with the relationship advice you need to be with the one you love,
Adrian
