Love isn’t always perfect. The situation you’ve found yourself in today is very different from how it was in the beginning of your relationship. Passion is dwindling, the flame is slowly dying and you and your partner have already started thinking about breaking up.
Despite the months or years that you’ve spent together, the home you’ve built and maybe even the family you have together, the relationship is suffering. But there’s still a glimmer of hope… In fact, there are two.
The first piece of good news is that you’ve found my site and you’re going to be able to benefit from pertinent and efficient advice that has already helped thousands of people. The second piece of good news is that despite this difficult period, you two still love one another and so your relationship isn’t doomed.
Yes, you still have feelings for one another and you both would like to improve the situation. How can I be so sure? Simply because you wouldn’t be here, reading this article about taking a break from a relationship if you had already broken up for good and this means only one thing!
Very often, people ask me, “We’re taking a break; what should I do to make my partner return to me?” or “Is it a big deal if we’re taking a break?” These are the principal problems that men and women in this situation have in this “relationship pause.”
Your emotions are turned upside down and you don’t know how to act and you especially don’t know how to get out of this slump. It’s now time to discover what to do and to know if this time apart is going to help you rebuild your relationship or not.
Is taking a break from a relationship a good idea?
This is the main question you’re asking yourself and unfortunately the decision has often already been made. Rest assured; I’m not writing this article to make you feel worse. I’m going to give you advice and I really want you to understand how important it is to not rush decisions in love.
Just because you’ve heard that a break can do wonders in a relationship, or you’ve seen it work in the movies, or your friends have suggested it doesn’t necessarily mean that you should do it too.
A lot of men and women don’t actually realize what taking a break from a relationship actually means really means. Consequently, mistakes are often made and I’ll talk a little more about this in the next part. This can happen whether or not you are the person who made the decision to take the break.
If you follow my philosophy, you know how important I always say communication is in a relationship especially in terms of fighting, but it has to be used before you reach this point.
You might find it strange considering that I always talk about radio silence as well but it’s important to note the difference between these two methods! Concerning our topic today, the breakup hasn’t happened. You’re still more or less together officially but if you make distance between you, this ambiguity will make it hard to find adequate solutions to your problems.
Taking a break from a relationship, meaning sleeping in separate rooms or staying with your parents for two weeks won’t help anything if you’re still in a relationship.
In fact it’s very likely that things could get worse. Sometimes it’s preferable to break up, because when it comes to your emotions you should never do anything half-way.
This usually ends up making things even more painful. So sometimes the best thing is to show your changes and improvements, rebuild yourself and to perfectly understand the breakup and be able to analyze it.
The goal is to make the required changes or be able to talk with your partner honestly about what needs to happen for both of you to be happy.
When there’s a break, you often think that the feeling of missing one another means that a real breakup is not the right way to go. But you’re going to miss your significant other no matter what if you’ve been with them for a while, so you have to look beyond this in order to make a decision.
In terms of teenage relationship it’s a little different, but you should know that giving an ultimatum is never ever a good thin in a relationship.
Mistakes to avoid making while on a break
Very often the break results in something unfavorable because certain mistakes were made while it was going on.
The break has nothing to do with sex
A lot of people think that the break should only concern sex. You’re not sleeping together, you have no physical interaction, but otherwise nothing else has changed. You still text each other all day, you go out together.
The “distance” between you is only present in bed. If you’re going to make this decision, you have to go all in. It has to be all or nothing or else nothing will change. I’m not saying that you should break up; just that you have to know what you want.
On the other hand sometimes people do the opposite and keep sleeping together but don’t share anything else. Sex can help you to make your ex want you back but the sad truth is that this only works for a very small percentage of couples taking a break. You have to resolve the deeply rooted problems and focus on what you’re significant other is feeling.
We are taking a break, is there an ideal length of time this should last?
“We are taking a break for a month and after that we’ll see.” Even if the length of time varies from relationship to relationship, most people determine the length of time before they start the break. As I’m sure you’ve understood, this is definitely the best thing to do because it’s impossible to know the time it’s going to need in order to improve the situation.
Going out with an ex during the break
This is the worst thing to do! Sometimes you feel like you’re suffocating in your relationship. You weren’t going out enough, you weren’t seeing your friends and so now you want to take advantage of this sudden freedom. It’s not unusual that you’d meet someone. This can bring everything into question.
Your partner would obviously respond negatively to a move like this. A break is meant for giving you time to think, not for making even more problems!
Tips for getting out of a break
One of the most delicate things when a couple is taking a break is figuring out how to get out of it. You can’t approach your significant other as if nothing had happened by sending them a little text message. I’m going to reiterate the importance of communication once again, and you have to combine it with another important element, exchange, in order to change things.
There are different ways to end the break, whether or not the decision to press pause was yours or not. It’s going to have to be accompanied by a serious discussion and tangible changes based on your partner’s expectations. You have to do this so that you can make your relationship more solid and so that you will no longer make the same mistakes you made before.
This is a theme that we highlight in our eBook that is immediately accessible: 70 Pro Tips To Get Back With Your Ex” and it will help you envision a solid and serene future with the person you love.
If the break isn’t conclusive, you know the consequences because a break up is never far. However, you shouldn’t live with the threat of a breakup hanging over your head because in reality, every problem in a relationship can be surmounted. You have the coach’s word!
The coach when taking a break from a relationship