There are a few questions that I am asked on a regular basis from all kinds of people, with all kinds of different backgrounds, all kinds of different situations. Not a day goes by that someone doesn’t ask me about when is it time to give up on a relationship. When exactly does a situation become hopeless and how can you know for sure?
When you’ve lost the person you want to be with, it’s common for your head to be filled with doubts. You might be thinking that it’s a lost cause, that you’ll never be able to get them back… This is even more true if you’ve been actively working on getting this person back and you haven’t been seeing the results you want. It might feel hopeless, so this question comes up. The truth however, is that when you think it’s hopeless, it usually isn’t!
What a lot of people don’t realize is that there are very few circumstances in which the situation is actually hopeless. There is always something different that you can try if your methods don’t seem to be working. Our team has spent years working in the field, developing methods that are tried and true. Each situation is entirely unique, so one method might be more potent than another. We are here to guide you towards success, and today’s article will explore the situations in which it actually is time to turn the page and move on so that you can find happiness.
How to know when to give up on a relationship with your ex partner
When you’re in the thick of it, wrapped up in spiraling emotions, it’s really hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. It’s not uncommon for someone with a broken heart to feel like their situation is hopeless, when in reality there is still so much that you can do in order to successfully get back together with the person you love.
When hopelessness sets in, you begin to feel a sense of desperation. You feel like all is lost. The surge of negative emotions can give you a sense of tunnel vision where all you see is the bad. You can’t see the numerous possibilities at your fingertips that could allow you to reorient the situation in your favor.
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Knowing when to give up on a relationship isn’t easy. You spent so much time investing your time and energy, you made so many precious memories, and you had developed an idea of what your future together was going to look like. I’m going to be very honest with you because I feel that all of you deserve real happiness. There are some cases in which it is time to give up on a relationship with your ex.
We don’t see a lot of these cases, but they do exist. People come to me for help and guidance because they recognize that they have a fighting chance, and if you’re here, it means that deep down you know that you’re still trying to find the way.
So let’s take a look at some of the most extreme cases on when to to give up on a relationship with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. For example, if this is someone you haven’t spoken to in ten years and they’re happily married with children now, it might not make sense to keep fighting to get them back.
This is especially true if you’ve been out of contact for a long time. You do need to get back in touch and establish proper communication with an ex if you’re hoping to get back together. If you’re unable to reestablish contact, the situation will become hopeless. That said, don’t think that if you haven’t tried yet that it’s hopeless!
The main reason why a situation might be hopeless will actually depend on the other person. When you’ve been able to create new patterns, revamp your own life, work on your self confidence, overcome your shortcomings, and you’re still unable to get through to your ex despite having tried multiple different ways, it might be time to give up.
Sometimes it is as simple as “It’s me, not you.” There are times when the ex in question just doesn’t bite for whatever reason, no matter how many different things you try. When something like this happens, the most important thing to do is to not fixate on the “why,” but rather acknowledge the current reality of the situation and use it as fuel to propel you forward. These types of situations serve as valuable life lessons that will shape your next relationship and teach you how to cultivate your own happiness.
There is no point in driving yourself crazy about why you’re still coming up short and why you can’t make this thing work if your ex just isn’t receptive.
If you see that your ex is not evolving, if you’ve outgrown them, if you see that they self-sabotage, and if you see that they’re not stepping out of their negative patterns, you have to understand that you can’t save people from themselves. I’ve worked with people who have done so much personal development, they’ve worked so hard to right their wrongs, but at the end of the day their exes just weren’t able to grant themselves access to happiness. At the end of the day, the situation is hopeless and it’s time to give up on a relationship with your ex if your ex is hopeless.
I really want to stress the importance of not internalizing the situation and taking the blame when you shouldn’t be.
It is a defense mechanism that a lot of people have. We feel that if we can take responsibility for the situation and the issues at hand, then that means that we are in control of fixing them as well. Unfortunately, sometimes it’s not in your hands and it’s important to be able to recognize that.
When is it time to give up on a relationship…
When you are feeling hopeless or defeated, it’s always helpful to look at the situation from another persons point of view. You can even put yourself in your ex’s shoes. If you really want your ex back, you always have to find and hold on to the glimmer of hope – which is hard! I know that there are moments when you feel disheartened and ready to give up.
But if you truly know this is this is the love of your life and you don’t see the elements that I went over above, you have to have faith and know that success is within reach. Knowing when to give up on a relationship is tough, but it is our mission to give you hope when you don’t see any.
It’s only hopeless when you’ve put in all the work that you can put in and your partner is still unable to make you better and bring positivity to your life. If they’re self-sabotaging, you would be better off focusing solely on yourself. It’s hopeless not because you aren’t good enough – it’s hopeless because the other person simply cannot make you happy.
Sometimes you do have to move on, but you must celebrate it! You’ll be moving on with no regrets, but your ex won’t be able to say the same.
This can be a new chapter for you, and all the lessons you’ve learned will make your next relationship that much better!
Wishing you all the best tin life and love,
Your coach when you’re wondering about giving up on your relationship with your ex
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