It’s true that a lot of people choose to break up with their significant others because they don’t feel like they are ready for a relationship. This is also true for people that get close to getting in a relationship but don’t, because their partner isn’t ready. This leaves you thinking, “Will he come back when he’s ready for a relationship or did I just lose him forever?”
Because this is a classic case of “It’s not you, it’s me,” I wanted to write an article on how to handle this type of situation. So many people use the concept of being ready for a relationship as an excuse, so it’s very important for you to understand how to navigate this type of thing.
If your ex broke up with you because he didn’t feel ready to let things develop into something more serious, then you need to make some changes. Today’s article is going to go over why a person might say this and more importantly, what you can do about it! I often tell my clients that they are in control of more than they might realize, so it’s important to take action right away! Fortunately for you, you are already on the right track because you have sought out this article and you found this website!
Will he come back to me: Getting to the root of the problem
The fact of the matter is that if this guy broke up with you, it means that he doubted the probability of being happy with you long-term. For some guys, this is because they are dealing with something in their personal lives and for others, it’s because they lost faith and your ability to make them happy in the long run.
Whatever the case may be for your ex, the thing we need to focus on is the fact that he lost that faith.
I know that you are probably feeling confused and frustrated right now, wondering if you are seeing the signs he wants the relationship but is scared, if he’s using this as an excuse to leave and not hurt you more than he has to, or if he really just isn’t ready for a relationship. If only we could read minds!
Like I said, a lot of people will break up with someone by telling them that the problem is coming from themselves. The reason they do this is simple – it’s to lessen the blow. In other words, they use it as an excuse to bow out of the relationship without really having to explain.
This might be the case with your ex and it might not, but one thing remains true: you need to start working on inspiring this person.
You have got to get to the root of the problem, figure out what exactly could make him lose faith in your ability to make him happy, Think about how you can revamp your life, and attract this man to the new and improved version of yourself. Instead of fixating on “Does he still love me” or “Is he going to come back,” your energy would be better spent on focusing on your life and making it better than ever before!
In order to do so, there are various techniques that you can begin to use…
Will my ex come back? Here’s how to increase the odds!
It’s perfectly normal that you would be fixating on the situation, trying to figure out how he really feels about you. It’s really hard to understand when someone tells you that they have feelings for you but they aren’t ready for relationship. It can make you doubt yourself and feel extremely frustrated with the situation. But like I said above, ruminating in these thoughts isn’t going to help anything!
What WILL help our concrete tools used for making someone want to be with you again. Whether you are thinking, “I love him, but he doesn’t love me,” “He’s afraid to fall for me,” or even, “Will he come back when he’s ready for a relationship,” you can start using these tools to spark his attention!
The NC Rule when he wasn’t ready
Men place a high value on independence, and when their independence feels threatened, they might pull the plug on the relationship. I see this happening the most often when there isn’t enough space in the relationship, or when things start to feel monotonous and predictable. Human beings are attracted to excitement and challenges – so it’s important to ask yourself if things started to feel a little lackluster in the relationship?
The other thing that human beings are notorious for is taking things for granted. When something is readily available to us, it becomes very easy to take it for granted and stop valuing it. It is possible that your ex took your presence in his life for granted and doesn’t realize how much happier he could be with you by his side.
This is why the no contact rule is so powerful. You might’ve even heard that it’s beneficial to let him come to you after a breakup, but I can’t stress the importance of not chasing him enough! When a break up occurs, it is crucial that you put space between you, and the perfect tool for this is the no contact rule.
For those of you who are unfamiliar with this technique, it consists of cutting all forms of communication with an ex partner for predetermined period of time. The objective is to create an electroshock that makes him realize that he misses you, while offering you the opportunity to become the new and improved version of yourself.
The moment he realizes that you have taken him off that pedestal and that your life does not revolve around him anymore, his attention will be sparked. If you can successfully become the 2.0 version of yourself, his attention will be zeroed in on you. For more in-depth information on how to use this powerful technique, I encourage you to read this article on the no contact rule.
When you want to make a man come back, you have to make him realize that he would be a lot happier with you by his side.
Does he miss me: the power of becoming the new you
Remember what I mentioned about making your ex envision a happy future with you? Well you’ve got to inspire him! And what’s the easiest way to inspire him?
It’s all about making your life into what you’ve always wanted it to be. Happy people that love living life attract others like moths to a flame. If your ex-boyfriend sees that your days are filled with genuine happiness and excitement, he’s going to start understand that he could experience that to… if he was with you.
Couple that with the fact that you have taken him off that pedestal, and you will have become the exciting challenge that he needs. Men love to work towards a prize, so you’ve got to see yourself as The Prize.
A man will be ready for A relationship when he recognizes that it’s a relationship that will make him feel fulfilled and inspired.
It’s easy to get discouraged, but I encourage you to use this situation as fuel to become the new and improved version of yourself. In doing so, you will show him that he could be so happy with you, and he would be a fool to let you go.
As always, we are here to help you every single step of the way, so please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me or a member of my team for one-on-one guidance. You can also leave any questions you might have in the comment section below!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
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