She’s too good for me

I have a lot of clients that come to me saying their exes are basically too good for them and they don’t know how to get them back. There is a common theme at play here, so I wanted to sit down and write an article about it for you today. See, a person’s ego gets pretty badly bruised after a breakup and even if they want to try to get their ex back, they might get stuck thinking, “Well, she’s too good for me so I’ll never get her back.”

As an expert in getting people back together I can tell you that you CAN get her back, but some things are going to have to change. I want to go over why you’re thinking this, what you can do about it, and how you can inspire your ex to want you back!

Negative emotions can really get you down, but anything is possible in love when you are motivated and focused. So without further ado, let’s take a look at what needs to happen now.

I think she’s too good for me and I get why she doesn’t want me

The majority of guys that come to me saying that they think their exes are too good for them were the ones who got broken up with. Whatever her reasons were, she pulled the plug on the relationship and my clients are feeling like they were broken up with because they weren’t good enough.

A person’s pride can take a nasty hit when a breakup takes place. It can throw all kinds of things into question and you end up thinking that you weren’t enough and that your partner wants someone better than you – someone who’s on their level.

Insecurities are conjured up, and not only do you feel like you weren’t good enough for your ex, you start to wonder if you’ll ever be good enough for anyone else.

Enough with all of that! You’re in control of your emotions and though things might feel rough right now, you aren’t going to allow yourself to drift into an abyss of depression and self-doubt!

No, what we’re going to do now is take a look at this breakup and how you can use it to become the best man you can be.

When you’re thinking someone is too good for you, it means that you’re not thinking about everything that you bring to the table and all the things that you can add to that list with a little bit of effort!

The problem lies here – we need to change your mindset.

I think she’s too good for me and I get why she doesn’t want me

Instead of saying, “She’s too good for me,” you should be saying, “How can I become the best version of myself?” If you feel like there’s room for improvement, (and there always is – nobody is perfect) that should be your focus right now.

It’s dangerous to put your ex on a pedestal when you’re trying to make her want you back because it makes it easy for her to take you for granted. Saying that she’s too good for you is going to shift the dynamic and make the situation unbalanced.

So first things first, neither of you are “too good” for one another – you both can make improvements to who you are as people, and these things are what can repair your relationship.

If you’re seeing that you’re experiencing an inferiority complex when it comes to your ex, you’ve got to begin working on self confidence. This is crucial if you want her back!

My ex is too good for me: The role confidence plays

Fellas, I’m going to have to be frank with you. If you’re sitting here going, “She’s too good for me, she’ll never want to be with me,” you’re not going to get anywhere.

Putting yourself down and convincing yourself that you are unworthy of the woman you love is just going to make you feel awful and teeter on the brink of depression.

And who wants that…? No one.

If you want your ex to see you in a new light, you’re going to have to see YOURSELF in a new light.

Self deprecating comments aren’t going to help anything. Instead, here’s what we are going to do.

I want you to sit down and take some time to think about what you could have handled differently in the relationship. In other words, what were the reasons behind the breakup?

Take a sheet of paper and divide it into two columns. On the left, list these issues out one by one. On the right side, I want you to write longterm solutions that you’ve come up with for each issue.

I know that this might be a bit more challenging than it sounds, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to me for help in pinpointing the root issues and defining effective solutions.

Next, take those solutions and start implementing them in your daily life. For example, if one of the issues was that you got lazy in the relationship, start hitting the gym on a regular basis. Start getting back in control of your health and fitness.

This ties directly into your self confidence as it’s going to make you feel more in control of your life.

The goal right now is to remind yourself of what you bring to the table and everything you have to offer.

Remember, your ex fell in love with you for a reason and that man is still in you. If you want her back, instead of telling yourself that she’s too good for you, you have to remind BOTH of you why she fell in love with you in the first place.

And if you want her back, the key is going to be to become a new and improved version of the man she fell in love with in the first place.

Using “she’s too good for me” as an excuse

Using “she’s too good for me” as an excuse

I’ve also come across a lot of guys who want their exes back, but say “She’s too good for me” as an excuse to not have to change their ways.

They use it as an excuse to stay in the same state, and some of these guys actually play the victim. They allow themselves to make the same mistakes over and over, even though they know that it’s hurting their chances of getting their ex back.

Why? Well, a lot of people are afraid of change, even when they’re told that it’s going to benefit them in the long run.

If you notice this pattern in yourself, I want to tell you that the greatest things in life require risk, investment and perseverance.

It’s easy to give up or play the victim, but then you won’t reach your goal.

Trust me, if you’re motivated and you want to improve your life by restoring your self confidence and living your best life, you can get the girl you love back.

What’s more, you’ll be offering her a relationship that was better than it ever was before, thus making it irresistible.

I am always here to help so don’t hesitate to leave any questions you might have in the comments section below!

Wishing you all the best,

Your coach when you think she’s too good for you

Adrian