What if he doesn't contact me during no contact: The solution !

I was talking to a client, Stephanie, earlier today who was asking me, “What if he doesn’t contact me during no contact?” She was familiar with the concept behind this technique, but she was worried that it might not give her the results she was hoping for. This is a very common question and in some cases, it is true that an ex will not reach out during the no contact period. So does that mean that it failed? Is there anything you can do about it? Today’s article is going to explore this type of situation and it is my goal to offer you solutions that you can begin to implement !

Understanding no contact with an ex

Before we go into the actual solutions to this problem, I want to make sure that we have a proper understanding of how the no contact rule works.

NC consists of cutting all forms of communication with an ex partner for a predetermined period of time ranging from three weeks to three months, and the length of time depends on the intricacies of your relationship.

During this time, it is really important to make sure that you stick with it. Many people give into the temptation to try and reach out to their ex or respond to a message they receive, but the moment you do this, you are right back at square one!

It is crucial that you are very strict with yourself when using a technique like this, or it is not going to yield the results we are hoping for.

Now, in some cases an ex is going to reach out to you while you are in your NC period, and in other cases, they won’t.

It might be a question of ego and pride, maybe they’re still angry or upset with you, perhaps they’re trying to protect themselves from getting hurt again because they don’t feel confident in your ability to provide them with what they want and need…

What if my ex doesn’t contact me during no contact: Keeping the emotions in check

Understanding no contact with an ex

I know that it is frighteningly easy to panic if your ex doesn’t contact you during the contact. You can begin to wonder if this whole thing is even working or if all hope is lost.

First things first, don’t panic! It is not unusual to have no contact from an ex during this period!

Our are emotions are very complex and sometimes an ex partner will try to keep their distance in an effort to protect themselves. Unfortunately, the breakup did happen so it is normal that it has left a bad taste in their mouth.

The more you allow yourself to panic, the easier it becomes to make mistakes (like breaking no contact prematurely). If you start to feel a sense of panic, one of the best things you can do is to get out and do some physical exercise. If you are able to release the tension in your mind and body, you will start to feel more in control.

Keep in mind that an ex will be trying to protect their heart as well. Many times, they’ll actually be nervous about what a conversation with you would entail, and how vulnerable it might make them – especially if the breakup was a tough one.

Trust me when I say that if you’ve handled NC properly and have really been silent while you’ve been bettering your own life, your ex is curious about what you’ve been up to. He or she will wonder whether or not you’ve moved on and forgotten about them.

Always remember that you’re doing no contact for yourself; not for your ex, and if you don’t hear from them it’s OK!

You just need to craft an appropriate way to reach out to them when the time is right.

Reaching out to an ex after no contact

When you’ve been using this tool and it’s time to bring it to a close, it’s time to think about an organized, non threatening way to reach out to your ex that is appropriate to the way things happened between you.

The way you contact your ex after the NC period is extremely important and should not be disproportionate to the way the breakup took place between you.

You want to do it in a way that makes your ex feel grateful to hear from you. It’s not about you needing to hear back from them or seeking validation form them; it’s about you doing them a favor.

It’s crucial that you adopt this mindset if you want to get a positive reaction from your ex. If you approach the situation thinking that you NEED to get a response or you’re going to lose it, you’re setting yourself up for failure.

Tell yourself that your ex has been curious about you, and you’ll be doing them a favor if you can reach out with something that can be perceived as a positive addition to their lives.

There are many ways to reach out to an ex after no contact, like the handwritten letter, and because each situation is unique I highly recommend reaching out to us for one on one, tailored advice.

I want to cover the bases here, but I also want you to know that we can help you define the perfect approach that will yield the results you want.

What if you reached out after no contact and got no reply?

What if you reached out after no contact and got no reply?

Like I said, the way that you reach out to an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend after a no contact period is extremely important. You can’t just send, “Hey what’s up,” if the last time you spoke, you were screaming and shattering plates.

Many people don’t realize this and end up sending a message to their ex that actually makes him or her think, “Wow, seriously?” And that’s why they don’t get a response.

The way you reach back out to your ex post NC period needs to be curated based on what triggered the breakup.

So the first thing to do is to analyze how things went down and craft an appropriate approach.

Now, if you reached out to your ex after no contact and you haven’t heard back, you need to stop reaching out.

You’ve got to be very careful with this because reaching out to an ex after NC and not getting a reply can actually trigger an emotional response within you that makes you relive the breakup and how it all felt, which puts you in a very vulnerable position.

It puts you at risk for feeling desperate and doing things that paint you in a negative light (like reaching out again). You’ve got to to back into no contact.

What if he doesn’t contact me during no contact: Finding solutions

If he or she doesn’t reach out to you during no contact, do not panic.

It’s normal and not unusual at all. You’ve just got to focus on making sure that you are confident in the changes you’ve made, and that you find a way to present the work you’ve done in a non-threatening and
productive manner.

As a team of dedicated love and relationship coaches, we have dedicated our lives to helping people get back together with the person they love.

I know your head has been swimming in questions throughout all of this, but these situations can actually lead to unprecedented happiness in the future.

They force us to navigate through challenges and issues to find the solutions that will make the relationship stronger than ever before, and they can ensure that it will withstand the test of time.

Reach out to us and we will create a custom action plan that will reunite you with the person you love for good.

You can also leave any comments or questions you might have in the comments section below!

Wishing you all the best in life and love,

Your coach when you are wondering, “What if my ex doesn’t contact me during no contact?”

Adrian