When two people break up, tensions can run pretty high. There might be yelling and screaming, name calling, or blaming, but there can also be threatening and disrespectful behavior. The problem with disrespect is that once you walk through that door, it becomes very hard to walk back out of it. It can be felt in many different elements of your relationship. If your ex disrespects you, you can sense it in the way he talks about you to other people, the way he interacts with you, what he’s willing to do for you, how he speaks to you, etc.
Usually when partners start fighting, it’s because respect is in question, or perhaps it’s already been thrown out the window. When you’ve gone through a breakup with someone and respect is in question, it can become very difficult to change the dynamic. That’s why it’s so important to make sure that you command respect from your ex boyfriend. That said, even if you feel like you’re being disrespected, I want you to know that there is a way to make him respect you after a breakup and I am going to explain how to do that in this article.
You can fix this, but it’s all about how you go about addressing it. You can’t look your ex straight in the eye and say, “You are disrespecting me” and expect an immediate change.
By doing so, you’re just addressing a symptom; not the problem. So let’s take a look at how to address the root of the issue so that we can get you out of this complex situation and one step closer to being back in the arms of the person you love!
How to make him respect you after the breakup: Addressing the problem
When you want someone to give you more respect, you need to take a look at why exactly they’re disrespecting you.
Does your ex feel like you’ve done something? Do you feel like he’s done something? Where is the disconnect in communication come from that generates this feeling of disrespect?
It can take so many different forms. Disrespect isn’t just verbal. It can be emotional, it can be present at the dinner table, in the kitchen, in social situations, in the bedroom…
There are so many ways to experience the power of disrespect and if you want to address it, you’re going to have to delve deep into yourself and into the intricacies of your relationship and breakup with this man.
The goal is to determine what exactly what wrong!
Do you think it’s something in your character that you can fix? Now is a period during which it’s crucial that you take your time to analyze the situation and really think about elements of your personality, elements of your ex’s personality, communication and the sequence of events.
I know that right now your mind is full of questions like, “How do you make your boyfriend want you back after a breakup?” “Why doesn’t he respect me anymore?” And, “Is there anything I can even do now to change things?
Well, the key to all of this is going to be remind and prove to yourself that you’re in control of the situation. So, how can you make him respect you after a breakup?
How to act when he breaks up with you and doesn’t seem to respect you…
What I’m about to say here is of upmost importance.
The way you make someone respect you is by making sure you respect yourself. It is up to you to put high value on yourself, and that way the other person will have no choice but to place high value on you as well.
Sometimes we struggle with emotional dependency in relationships that continues to present problems even after the breakup.
Another thing that I see on a regular basis is the idea that the more you give, the more you’ll receive. Unfortunately, it doesn’t quite work like this.
We are brought up in a society where we are made to think that in order to receive more love, you have to give more love.
This often results in people bending over backwards for somebody that ends up taking them for granted or worse still, someone who ends up disrespecting them.
It all happens because there’s a sizable shift in the power play, and the ex in question is suddenly able to get away with disrespectful behavior.
What’s more, because you want the relationship to work out, and you want your ex back so badly, you often end up letting them get away with disrespectful behavior.
So something needs to change and it needs to change now!
Respect is a pillar of healthy relationships, so you’re not going to be able to build something with this person that withstands the test of time if respect is not present.
When it comes to getting him back, you’ve probably had people telling you, “Let him come to you after a breakup, and they’re right.
When you want to reestablish respect and attraction between you and your ex, you’re going to have to switch your focus to taking care of yourself, boosting your self confidence, and bouncing back from this break by becoming a new and improved version of yourself.
There is an excellent tool for this: The No Contact Rule.
When you use this technique you cut communication with your ex for a predetermined period of time. The goal of doing so is to give him an electroshock.
You are no longer at his beck and call, he had been taking you for granted, and what’s more, he’s going to start seeing something in you…
He’s going to start noticing something because you’re going to use this time to become the best version of yourself.
You’re going to start picking up old hobbies and passions that got put on the backburner while you were in the relationship, you’re going to start trying out new activities, you’re going to dedicate ample time to having fun with your friends and family, you’re going to make an effort to check out new places, make more friends, and challenge yourself with new goal.
You’ll be hitting the gym and you might even give yourself a makeover.
This 2.0 version of you will remind your ex of the person he fell in love with in the first place, and it’s going to make him realize that you’re better than ever before.
He’s going to realize that he was a fool to let you go, and an even bigger fool to treat you with disrespect.
Using this tool is also a fantastic way to take a step back and regroup. You can think about what went wrong in the relationship, what kind of solutions you can offer in the future, how you can better yourself, and you will give your emotions the time to calm down.
When you want him to respect you and you want to make him want you back after a breakup, you’ve got to shift the power play. It’s normal that emotions are all over the place. That is often precisely why things have deteriorated so much between you and your ex and now you’e struggling with reestablishing respect.
Don’t forget that you are a prize and you should never be taken for granted. It’s up to you to not allow yourself to be taken for granted and disrespected, and that is why I want you to keep in mind that you are in control of the situation. You get to call the shots.
Using the no contact rule can be like hitting the reset button. Going through a breakup can give you the chance to redefine yourself and redefine your relationship with your ex. Though it’s a very tough period, these experiences can truly be blessings in disguise.
If you are able to reestablish respect between you and your ex, while working on becoming a new and improved version of yourself that has come up with ways to tackle problems in the future, you could build a relationship that is better than ever before with your ex.
It’s just up to you to take back the power.
I know that all every single situation and person is unique, so if you feel like you would like one on one guidance. Please don’t hesitate to get in touch with me directly here! You can also leave any questions you might have in the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you want to make him respect you after a breakup
Adrian
