Moving forward after a breakup whether or not you want your ex back is completely within your grasp. For 8 years now, I’ve been helping multiple people each month find happiness after a breakup, and with the help of my techniques, you too can see that it’s all possible.
It’s a process that will require following steps that will help you to stay away from making certain mistakes when you want to get your ex back.
Of course based on your situation there are variations but there are some that remain true under any circumstances and it’s imperative that you don’t veer off course.
The errors to avoid making are unfortunately very common and I see them all the time as the people I accompany share details with me about their story.
No one is perfect and no one can be expected to do the perfect things every second of every day, but when you want your ex back it’s imperative that you do your best to avoid making things worse.
Some people, even though they have good intentions, don’t realize that they’re doing something wrong and by the time they do, it’s often too late.
To not accept the breakup is one of the biggest and most common mistakes that people make!
If you are familiar with my philosophy you know that admitting to yourself that you’ve separated is one of the most important steps for moving forward whether you want to be with your ex or just simply move on.
To not accept the breakup is denying the obvious
A lot of people choose to ignore the painful truth and prefer to deny the reasons behind the separation. They’re blinded by emotion and they’re afraid of being single because for them, it would be unimaginable to let go of this relationship.
Nevertheless, one should never live in denial, and moreover, this will greatly decrease your chances of success in getting back together with your ex.
In order to lift your head back up and to surmount the pain you may be feeling, you have to admit the problems that your relationship had faced and be aware of the fact that these are what lead to the breakup.
To not accept the breakup is one of the “don’ts” of getting back together because it blocks you from setting into motion the right actions that will change the course of events.
I’ll expand on this in the last section of this article. The errors and the traps to you could fall into are all things to be perfectly aware of if you want to know how to avoid them.
I know that accepting the breakup really isn’t easy, it would be silly to pretend that the opposite is true. You’re not going through something particularly easy in your love life right now.
You’re dwelling on your mistakes, you’re realizing what you had done wrong and now you’re feeling guilty. However, turning a blind eye to the situation isn’t going to change anything. You have to face the problems if you want to rebuild a reinforced relationship.
Admitting the breakup doesn’t mean giving up
So many men and women that don’t accept the breakup do it because they think it’s synonymous with giving up!
A lot of people think that it means that you’re deciding to not try to get back together and that you have to just settle for the way things are. I will never tell you to give up and to not try anything.
If you know me and my philosophy you know that I truly believe that we should fight for love!
Taking a step back and accepting the fact that you two have separated doesn’t mean that you can’t be back together again. You just have to do it in the best way possible so that your ex doesn’t drift further away.
This is a key step in beginning your attempt at getting back together. Accepting the breakup simply means that you’re letting go of the way things used to be, the bad memories, and the separation.
Thanks to my years of coaching, I’m in a position to be able to tell you that the people that continue to refuse to admit the truth are running full speed into a concrete wall.
Getting your ex back requires a well thought out plan of action and in order to succeed you have to avoid lying to yourself, and concentrate on your ex’s needs and expectations.
The steps to follow after a breakup
As I explained above, getting your ex back requires a specific strategy and it will have to be based on something extremely important: personal reconstruction.
Do this so that you can reestablish proper communication with the person you love; the person that left you a few weeks or months ago.
Accepting the breakup isn’t the only step involved in the process; you’re going to have to go even further and understand why it happened.
It’s not about twisting the knife in the wound or conjuring up painful memories, it’s simply just imperative to understand why your ex made the decision to leave you.
By doing so you’ll be able to pinpoint things that you need to work on and also the qualities that your ex appreciated in you that you should now focus on.
One might think that accepting and understanding the breakup are almost the same thing but it doesn’t stop here. You have to work on your self-confidence if you’ve been feeling depressed.
Once you’ve done this, you can start working on direct actions to get a positive reaction from your ex.
Based on the situation, (if your ex is in a new relationship, if you had experienced passionate love at first sight, if you have children…etc) the techniques will have to be adapted so that they can be as efficient as possible and so that they can give you a chance to succeed.
You shouldn’t just base your actions on what has worked for other people. Each love story is unique so the things needed to make yours even stronger will be unique as well.
The coach for not making the mistake of not accepting the breakup,