Would you like to convince your ex that leaving you was the worst mistake they’ve ever made? Wondering how you can make them want to rebuild your bond or relationship? And how you can persuade your ex to come back and start a new relationship filled with even more love and passion?
After a breakup, you’ve decided to put all your cards on the table and prove to your ex that you’re ready and capable of changing to make up for your errors. They unfortunately don’t believe that you’ve evolved so quickly so you are looking for techniques to convince your ex to come back. Your objective is to start a new and improved relationship. I can’t tell you how many times I hear “how can I convince my ex to get back together” during my one on one coaching sessions.
Though there is no magic formula there are certain skills and techniques that can be adapted to your situation that can make your ex want to come back to you, while also breathing new life back into your relationship. In this article I will show you how to succeed in doing just that, while also avoiding becoming too needy or pleading with your ex.
How can I prove to my ex that I’ve changed if they don’t even want to see me?
This question is one of the biggest problems when looking to get back with your ex and I see it on a daily basis when I coach people just like you every day. Of course each relationship is different, so I must adapt to the psychology of each ex, the length of the relationship, and also how the breakup occured. These elements are fundamental in carrying out a truly effective strategy and consequently a one on one coaching session is very often necessary.
In any case, there is advice that you can start to implement right away in order to display today a substantial change even if you aren’t seeing your ex face to face.
The first piece of advice suggests that you go against your initial instinct, because I will ask you to pay a bit less attention to your ex so that you may focus more on you. They need to know what you’re doing these days in order to realize that you’re progressing and that you’re no longer the same person you once were when your relationship ended. So don’t hesitate to make your ex aware of all the great things that you are doing on a daily basis.
Moreover, don’t think twice about using social media. You could even create a Facebook account if you don’t have one already, because even if you aren’t directly in contact with your ex, whatever you post will reach their ears sooner or later. This is therefore an excellent tool to show that you aren’t defeated and that your goal is to quickly bounce back after the breakup.
To take it a step further a true change means that you’re not just playing a role, and that you really are focusing on improving yourself; your image, your confidence, and your social life. Now is the time to fill up your schedule and aim to step out of your comfort zone in order to find a new happiness.
A sincere smile is always very powerful, and you only need one moment with your ex to reveal a feeling of genuine well-being. Until that moment, stay focused on your mission of personal development and not on ex quotes!
Your ex will come back when they start to fear losing you for good!
As you already know, one of the main principals of getting back with an ex is realizing that the one you love will come back when faced with the fear of losing you. While reading this sentence, you probably immediately think of your common past and the breakup. You also fear losing them forever but you must realize that have already broken up! Not being strong enough or not being able to manage your emotions will prove to your ex that you are still their’s if they decide to have a change of heart; that sort of attitude can’t enable them to come back to you!
When your ex made the decision to break up, it was to forget the past, because in their eyes it wasn’t fulfilling enough. So how can you really expect your ex to want to come back to you when that relationship represented something negative for them? That’s simply impossible!
In order to get your ex back, they will have to feel a certain fear of losing the person that you’ve now become! Your ex has to realize that you’re confident, cheerful, dynamic, and that you have projects…That you once again have all the qualities that they found attractive in the first place; and that you are now able to organize your life in a way that will ensure that you will never again be letdown.
This is how your ex will truly feel alarmed, thinking “Shoot, if I don’t go back now, someone else will be the one enjoying these changes. My ex has become everything I was hoping for, and I can’t let this opportunity pass me by because this is the person with whom I am meant to spend my life with.” This is the perfect attitude mindset to be in to convince your ex to come back to you; and to begin a new relationship that is more stable than the previous one.
I can convince my ex to get back together by using this unique tip revealed by my coach!
This piece of advice is very important because it will prove to your ex that you are undergoing a real transformation even if they don’t wish to see it. While trying to get back together it is common to make yourself readily available and to put your ex’s needs and desire before your own.
Therefore, I am going to ask you to broaden the changes in your life even more in order to show to your ex that you’re not simply doing things to make them come back; in essence that you are changing your entire approach to the way you live your life! Each change that you’re making is meant to improve your quality of life, and your main objective is to simply embrace life to the fullest.
By adopting this philosophy you will be able to regain so much confidence in yourself that your ex will forget that you’re trying to win them back.
If you’re unable to do this, your ex will simply think, “All of these changes are just to make me come back. The result being: no element of surprise and more importantly, no real desire to know more about your new lifestyle. People tend to hit a roadblock when their ex is on the defensive and their progression is gutted by their inability to want to improve their life as a whole; not just to get an ex back.
This is the perfect time to transform your world; your career, to reconnect with your loved ones, and to work on yourself physically and mentally in order to have a seductive edge. These tools will inevitably make a great impression on your ex, and facilitate your endeavor to convince them to come back and start a new relationship that goes above and beyond used to be.
Convincing your ex to come back is never easy, but you have to remain in control of your emotions in order to protect yourself against your fears, insecurities, sadness, and bitterness…
I sincerely wish you the best of success in your quest to get back with your ex!
Your coach when learning how to convince your ex to come back to you for good,
Best wishes,
Alexandre CORMONT