So many people are now on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or some other form of social media platform. Human relationships have taken a virtual element to them and many people interact with their friends or socially more on the web than they do in person. When a breakup happens you are forced to deal with it via those online platforms as they serve as an extension of who you are.
It can be very difficult to cope with a breakup in general but also challenging to face this new reality when looking back on your social media page or when going online. Are you supposed to take down all of your ex’s pictures? Do you block them or unfriend them? Is it possible to use social media to get back with your ex?
In this article we will provide you with tips and insights in order for you to use your social media platforms and habits to your advantage in order to quickly rebound from a breakup and even get back with your ex.
A different type of communication platform
If you have spoken with one of our coaches during one on one sessions you most probably have heard us use the term “platform of communication” when it comes to getting back with an ex.
It is very important to maintain certain channels of communication open with your ex in order to showcase your change of behavior or evolution; however you must be really careful not to let your emotions overwhelm you and do, say or react in a way that will make you lose credibility in your ex’s eyes.
In that sense social media is really a double edged sword as it can be the ultimate platform to show to your ex that you have changed and make them miss you; or you can let the information flow overwhelm you and be too passive to make the shifts that are necessary to re-seduce the one you love.
Which path will you choose to take?
Don’t be too needy
The biggest mistake that most people make in the days following a breakup is being too needy and not giving their ex the time and space they need to gain perspective on the relationship and its recent events.
You want to be back with your ex right away and you look to convince them that this separation is a big mistake. So you chase them and put yourself in demand which ultimately will leave you with less credibility as well as be less appealing in your ex’s eyes.
Do not let social media play you a disservice in that regard; don’t be fooled by the ease of access or this constant channel of communication to your ex always available. You need to be really strong and resist the urge to contact them. Your ex needs time to reflect and live through their decision to breakup. In most cases not contacting them through social media in the first few days after a breakup is a good start when hoping to use social media to get back with your ex.
If you are unable to resist the urge we suggest that you either block your ex entirely on the different platforms where you run the risk of engaging with them or that you stay off of social media all together for at least the first 10 days following a breakup. Moving away from social media all together can be a last resort effort if your emotions are simply too overwhelming to bare. You can always unblock your ex latter!
Don’t spy on your ex
No matter what you will need to stray away from the temptation of monitoring their every move on their page. After a breakup the less you go looking into your ex’s life for updates the better it will be for you.
Simply put you are not ready to see your ex as a single individual. You run the risk of misinterpreting every post, photo or comment in a negative way. Your fear of losing them forever or of being alone will cause your brain and imagination to play tricks on you; you will always imagine the worst possible scenario. One way to protect yourself from this self-inflicting torture is to have the discipline to not check what they may or may not be doing.
Everyone always seems so happy and perfect on social media; seeing your ex appear to be happy will only cause stress and prevent you from doing the right things in order to quickly bounce back and be in a position to get back with the one you love.
Change your habits and show your evolution
You can use social media to get back with your ex if you take a smart approach and focus on being physically active and bringing about changes to your life in the real world. To put it in another way social media won’t help you heal or put the right foundation in place to get back with your ex; it will help you in ultimately being able to re-seduce them when the times come!
First you must focus on regaining confidence and a sense of self and not live in the past whether through your ex or past relationship. Not looking at old posts and pictures is recommended and will help you look forward.
Develop new hobbies and activities and look to stay as active as possible in your day to day. Stay busy and really try to change your outlook on life and to be more positive in general. You can post pictures or updates about the progress that you have made or when reaching goals that you have set for yourself.
If you are still friends with your ex on social media be sure not to overdo it when it comes to posting news, updates and pictures. Again you should really try to reduce your social media activity all together in order to focus your energy on the real world and live in the present moment.
Your ex needs to miss you and want to hear from you; the last thing you want to do is be the annoying person who detail the play by play of their entire life online!
Use social media to get back with your ex
Ultimately once you have regained self-esteem, when you will have become more positive, busy and active you should look to progressively re-engage with your ex. This can initially be done via social media. This will enable you not to have to confront your ex right away and to build a bit of suspense or engage in a game of seduction.
Talk to them about the changes that you have made in your life and the new activities that you have taken on. Never tell them that you miss them or put them on a pedestal; rather talk to them as equals, like you initially did before you started to date. You need to once again become a challenge for them while also showcase that you have now become the person that they always dreamed of being with.
Finally use social media to setup a face to face meeting. You will need to seal the deal in person as you need to be able to be physically with someone in order to take the next step. Use social media as the foundation to get back with your ex and as a communication tool to stay in touch and to flirt with your ex after that period of reconstruction.
For any specific questions that you may have when it comes to how to use social media to get back with your ex, or in a specific set of circumstances that you are faced with; simply leave a comment and a bit about what you are going through in the comments section below. I will be sure to get back to you personally.
Your coach to use social media to get back with your ex,
Adrian
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Hi, my girlfriend and I have been dating steady for 7 years… Unfortunately for the first time she wanted a break.. I’m doing the no contact method ignoring her for 30 days atleast. As hard as it is its been a week and a half so far..
I want her to feel it was the biggest mistake haha
I was thinking of posting a throwback Thursday on Instagram a Video of myself that she took while we were on a great vacation together
The plan is for her to see it and miss the good times and hopefully miss me even more
Opinions??
Hey Matt,
I think that your best bet is to stay away from throw back pics of you as couple and to go with pics of you going out, smiling, being social and being in a positive happy place. Your alternative seems needy, and I don’t think that it will have the desired effect. Don’t hesitate to reach out to me and to book a private coaching session if you want to speed up the recovery process and to get expert advice and a tailored game plan!
All the best,
Adrian
I have a weird case, was with my gf for almost 2 years, she lives in the town over from me and it clicked right away, first real gf I had, we did everything together, parents loved me, went to Cancun, I really never trusted her due to what she did when I first met her. But I began to love her, so time went on she began to get sketchy towards the end of are break up, got her a new job that she wanted cause I had connects, started to work different hours, wouldn’t let me see her phone” it’s charging” and onto of that she got a new one while we where dating, the touching kissing stopped it was very wrong of her, and so fourth. So I caught her one night working out with her ex at the gym, I caused a big scene at the gym and then it escalated outside where I spit in her car punched her window I flipped out and that’s not like me at all. Days later she texts me we meet up for dinner, go to mall. And she’s trying to get me jealous. I did in fact snoop around and followed her a few times and caught her with a new guy. I then keyed her car I was so mad but I was very suprised I did such a thing cuz that’s not me at all. We broke up October of 2015 and I texted her about a week ago, saying I apologized for what I’ve done and the whole speel, no response. I did improve myself by getting Into the police academy even posted it on social
Media to get a congrats from her but got nothing. I love my ex but I really don’t know what to do. Need help
Hey Tj,
I think that you went a little too far in damaging her property and you may have anger management issues…You will need to address those emotional mood swings if you hope to ever win her back. I’d like to talk in order to really get to the bottom of things, convey why she cheated, and highlight a plan to win her back. Book a coaching session if you want to work together!
Best,
Adrian
Me and my ex have been together for nearly two years. We have recently (3 months) gone into a long distance relationship due to work with a plan of him coming to live in the same location asap. We had an argument a few weekends ago where I said some bad comment towards him but didn’t start the argument. He then decided to leave and go back home (5 hours drive). We talked normally for a week then I got a text a week later saying he had spoken to his friend and he thinks we should split up because he isn’t happy. I spoke to him face to face the same day but didn’t get a chance to say what I needed to because I couldn’t think straight. I tried and tried to make him see it is not a very big argument and that I wanted to try and make him happy again if this was not the case. Anyway this started driving him away even more. I wanted to meet up again to talk about it it but he wouldn’t allow that (after another week had passed). Eventually my mother texted him saying we should meet up as it is ridiculous that we won’t speak about things. We met up and spoke for two hours to no avail. He has now blocked my numbers and changed his phone number and took down his Facebook. However he has been posting photos of himself on Facebook before deleting it, having a good time with his friends on nights out. He has also grown facial hair which is something he has never done. He has also been putting photos on Instagram and liking my friends’ photos on Instagram (but has blocked me). I want nothing more than for this to carry on as we have so much history and also happiness. The more I try the more he pushes back (ie changing his number). What’s going on? What should I do? And what sort of time scales should I use? We were supposed to be going on holiday in 12 days! (It’s not booked yet though.)
I am in a particularly difficult and unusual situation: I am English and married an Egyptian woman two months ago. We have been together for about 2 years. She had two kids. Because of the law in Egypt, where we live, if her ex finds out she has remarried, he has the right to come and take the kids from her. So we are still living apart and the kids don’t know we got married. Long term plan was obviously to rectify this sad situation.
But such a marriage, across cultures and religions too, already brings in many problems. We have had a lot of stupid petty fights. Never ending it seems. Last week, exactly two months into our marriage, we had an argument and I blew my top at her like never before. I felt ashamed and embarrassed afterwards and told her so. It was all the pent up emotion that I had bottled up over all the previous arguments.
The consequence has been that she has said she doesn’t want a man in her life, she doesn’t want me and if I want to go back to the UK, I should just go. She has dumped me.
This weekend, her ex has come to take the kids, meaning that it is one of the rare occasions when we get to be a proper man and wife and be together for a short period of time but because she left me, she has blown that out of the water. I haven’t seen her all weekend. She is posting pics of herself enjoying herself with friends on Facebook. I don’t believe she is actually enjoying herself and she has posted this stuff to annoy me. I have not responded. In fact, I have gone social media silent.
Should I be allowing her to see me just getting on with my life as normal on social media? Or should I stay silent so that she has no idea what I am up to or where I am, thus increasing her sense of missing me? Am I thinking about this wrong?
I would add that her ex was abusive to her on a daily basis and she is definitely an abuse victim with all that entails. This is the root of many of our arguments, when she is putting me down (because I am not him and therefore am not going to retaliate like he used too), simply because she can, and is treating me as if I were him.
Many thanks
Steve
Hey so me and my ex have been broken up for 3 months now and he has been dating another girl for 2 months and he blocked me everywhere a month ago. But he keeps blocking and unblocking me on instagram so here is my question….i know hes with her and as much as that hurts i have to accept it but i still want to win him back what can i do? We were together for 16months we lived together for a year and since i moved out the new girl has moved in right away.i understand its most likly a rebound relationship but how can i be patient and give him the time he asked for and not be hurt by her throwing him in my face all the time? Should i just delete my instagram and move on even though i love him and i know we can work on it?
Hi Kitty,
Thank you for your share. I know how painful of a spot you’re in. When it comes to finding out how to use or leverage social media to get back with an ex, the situations are really relative. The good news is that if he’s blocking and unblocking you often, it’s because he’s still thinking about you a lot. I encourage you to go no contact with your ex, including limiting your social media use. Let him wonder where you are and what your doing. Let him miss you. If you need any help with this, I encourage you to book a session with me. We’re here to support.
Sincerely,
Coach N.
Hey so me and my ex have been together almost 11 months. She broke up with me a week before making it to the 11th month mark, at first I didn’t know why, because we were fine one minute then the other she broke up with me (not literally a minute), it’s been a month and 16 days since she broke up with me, I spoke to her on the 12 of January a day before our one year anniversary, so on that day she had told me “leave me alone, just move on” but honestly I’m not leaving, I soon found out why she broke up with me because I had re opened a wound from her past that was horrible that no one should go through, but I had no idea I did that so it was an accident, I never intended to hurt her at all. During the time of being separate, I spoke to her about 3 times, pleading and beginning to her, being needy desperate and pressuring her sadly. I messed up there I know that now, and I have been trying to focus on myself so I can mature more and bring myself together by being more confident yet humble, making new habits good ones of course, so that I can show her that I have changed for the better and that I have learned what not to do, Right now I’m giving her the time and space she needs but my question is, what does she mean by “leave me alone, move on”? Please help me.
This is veryyyyy difficult for me……
I’ll make this story short as possible, my ex an I dated for 2.5 years and we were madly in love…we fought more than we should… but our love kept us together. After 2.5 years, he talked about moving in together and introducing me to his family (we were in cali & they are in Tennessee). That’s around the time that he left me. in the dust. He was apperently talking to this girl over texts (she was in a different city, headed to visit “us”). The veryy next morning they were both GONE. He explained OVER THE PHONE that he got a job opportunity with her and it was an “emergency they had to go immidiately”. He said hed be back, after that he started ignoring my texts. Two weeks later I saw his Facebook say they were officially together….
its now a year later and i still miss him… they’re still together and in Tennessee… in that house he talked about…. she’s living My life…
What do I do? could she be considered a rebound? What happened to us?
Help… it’s eating me alive.
I’ve gotten no advice so far…
Anyone out there? I’m desperate for advice
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Soooo me and my ex have been broken up for 1 year now and he has been dating another girl for 1 year now…he’s 23 and I’m 21. He blocked me everywhere, a month into the new relationship, because I was sending really mean messages to his new gf. **(she was my friend but Stabbed me in the back)** he unblocked me once but never messaged me… then blocked me again.
I still love him to this day… i still want to win him back what can i do? We were together for 2 and a half years!! After those years, He finally sat down with me to talk about getting a house together & meet his whole family. Then….He pretty much left me for the new girl. Is this normal??? Do guys do these things?? Is it a rebound relationship at this point? I truly love him and I KNOW we can work things out but he’s closed the book right now and it’s been a year. How long does it usually take to get him back in this situation? I know it’ll be a long time…but years? or never? I’m prepared for the answer. Also doesn’t help that he probably thinks I’m a bad person for the awful things I said… he said it made me ugly. But that was a year ago. Do you think he’s probably let it go by now and ready to forgive? This is an extended version of my other post.
Please, please help me
Hi Melissa, thank you for your share, and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. However, I do have hope in you being able to fix it. If you’d like some real insight on this situation and how to maximize your chances of making it better, than I encourage you to book a session with me or Coach Adrian. We’re here to help and are currently working with people in pickles similar to yours. You are not alone in this, and I’m glad you’ve made your way to this site as a resource for you.
Sincerely, Coach N.
Don’t know where to start, but here goes nothing…
So my ex & I met on Tinder and started dating May of 2016. I had been single for a while & he said he had been to but I don’t know how long and his ex had really been broken up. Anways we taked then started dating as soon as I went home from college for the summer. So we only seen each other on weekends bc I lived an hour away. The relationship started out really rocky & lots of arguing. After about a month he ended it because of the arguing & he said he didn’t feel the same. I cried and asked to fix things & he said no. A week after the breakup I moved back to my college town( the same city he lives in) and he knew I was back for school. That whole week we didnt comunicate. I started posting on snapchat & after that week we started talking as friends again. Then by September we dated again. Things were better but still rocky sometiems. Regular relationship arguments, nothing to bad. We did have problems bc both of us would text people that we had past relations with, but wed just text them as friends. We both didnt like that so we decided to quit talking to those people. Also during this time frame both of our ex’s contacted us to say sorry & “check up” on us & we both found out that our ex’s were both having kids. Ironic huh? Anyways things were getting better and then one day I said something like..”it would be nice to have a guy who didn’t forget about me”, which made him mad. I said this bc he didnt come over like he was supposed to. So then we didnt talk the rest of the night. The next day I texted him to see if we were over the petty argument & he said he cant be with someone who acts like a child. So he broke up with me & we met in person bc he felt it was more respectful. This was on a tuesday. He also said he wasnt ready to be in a serious relationship like he thought (after 9months), he wanted to focus on school, we had different goals, it wasnt just me, &neither of us was giving this 100%, he said he still cares, but also if we loved each other we shouldnt hurt each other how we did(talking to people we had relations with), he said we were in love at one time, but could still be friends. he was really nice about everything, until i showed up at his house. i asked if it had something to do with his ex or him wanting the single life again and he said no, but I noticed him & his ex were friends again on social media after we broke up. But he said he just unblocked her & she is pregnant by her new boyfriend. Which I believe him. We never cheated. Tuesday to Sunday i begged for him back, cried, and asked him to meet me in person. he said things are still tender and that isnt a good idea. I showed up at his house Sunday night asking to come outside & he wouldnt, he said I wasnt respecting what he wanted. so I left and got drunk that night, accidently texted him saying i was gnna message his frined that was a girl and asked if she knew anything & if he had talked about us. I meant to send that to my friend to see if it was a good idea, but i Sent it to him instead. He didnt respond. That was sunday night. It is now Friday, almost a week of no contact, he still watches my snapchats & ive been trying to appear to have fun. & he still has our pictures on Instagram. Will he ever come back? How long before I contact him, Im trying to give him space? I have his shirt & was gnna text him and say he can get it whenever, just to start a conversation, but how long should i wait to do that? Is social media getting to him?
I still love him & want him back
Update: after a week and a day of not talking I met up with him to give him his shirt on a monday. We talked for 45mins, just catching up and it went WAY better than I expected. He’s lonely bc his best friend moved out of town & now he has nobody. I’m thinking he will eventually come back bc hes bored and has more time to think about us. Does this sound good, if after a couple days I text him a long message, telling him it was good seeing him and things feel fresh & i have had time to reevaluate things & that I still love him &if he wants to work towards a better us, then I am willing…but slowly bc I don’t want it to seem rushed. Or do you think he will still turn me down? Or should I keep it simple and just say I miss you. I feel like the longer message will be better bc it’s more detail and tellingredients him how I feel.
P.s. one of the small reasons we broke up is bc we had different career goals..I wanted to move away. Now that his friend moved outta state he all of a sudden wants to in about a year. WTF…
Hi Jazmin,
Without knowing a bit more about your situation, I can’t make too thorough of an assessment. I encourage you to book a session with me. I’d love to help.
Best,
Coach N.
Hello all,
I met my e. A year ago and when we met we both felt a strong connection but that being said,we didn’t connect until we found out that we felt something. So
Both of us meet again and from that night on we never left each others site. I mean I really didn’t get what happened except we fell in love. He moved in right away. 1st mistake. He about / weeks later we came to a mutual agreement that he needed to move out due to it being way crazy that we lived together RIGHT anyway well it never happened for many reasons I thought. Time came again I asked him to get a place again brlitruly this was for the better good. Not having a clue that he took this as me pushing him away. I regret to tell you that I said some terrible things. He also came with 2 kids as well. Which I then there for would have then every other weekend. No biggie I love kids. Anyway the day came & he got a place but he met some girl and broke it off with m,e saying that we where going to still date and that he just needed time. Omg how wrong was I. al. She since has hit him she’s a drug user also she is completely crazy crazy. He says he can’t get Way. That she’s so crazy that she will hunt him down and never let him go. She’s lost her kids has no friends and my ex is losing his friends to. They can’t stNd her. She threatened me bodily harm. I’m not a fighter I’m a career oriented person. I’m losing it I’m losing sight of my career all for an ounce of hope to get back together. He has come back and left a lot of things here. But won’t come back qbecause of her coming here to find him. I need help. I’m still in love with him. His friends have made passes at me which is flattering but it’s not him. I have been told I’m pretty and that he’s crazy not to be with me. He at one time called me his soulmate. How desperate do I sound. Help
Hi Cher,
Thank you for your share and I’m truly sorry to hear about your misfortune. When trying to get back with your ex, there are so many variables at play. I invite you to consider booking a session with me. Let’s hash this out and make a plan.
Sincerely,
Coach N.
@@coachnatalie:disqus…. how do I book a session with you?
Hi Matthew,
It’s nice to meet you! You can book a session by visiting http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching – during purchase, there will be a “notes” section where you can list my name. I’m excited to connect with you. If you book soon, I can have you scheduled for tomorrow.
All the best,
Coach N
So my ex and I have been on and off for 4 years. We broke up for almost 7 months last year in November, then reconnected during that summer in July. He broke up with me again in May, because I was ’emotionally unavailable’ and distant. Really, I was just stressed due to a very difficult last semester of college. Since the breakup, I did the 30 day no contact, which he texted me 5 times during about getting his things back, which I didn’t reply, and just mailed to him. I then texted him after 30 days about a movie he had always wanted me to watch, and I did and told him he was right about it. He answered once, then didn’t. He still follows all of my friends on their social media, and watches their Snapchat stories, which he knows I am always on. My birthday is coming up, which is when he contacted me last year. I know he still misses me, it was a really raw, sad breakup on both sides. I just want to make him miss me and think about me enough to realize he made a mistake. Any thoughts?
Hi Kay,
Thank you for your share. If you’re looking for help, we invite you to book a session with us. Here’s a link where you can do so: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
In a session, we’ll dive into the details of your relationship and we’ll develop a tailored game plan to turn your situation around. These unique game plans are where to majority of our clients’ success stems from. We have a lot of experience in this area and are excited to help you maximize your chances of getting your ex back.
Best,
Coach N
Hey so my ex who’s 18 but pretty mature for her age broke up with me about a week ago over text. She said we’ve both changed an dont like to do the same things. I tried calling 3 times but she texted and said she couldn’t hear my voice cause she’s not strong enough and I’d change her mind. I told her I respect her decision an stopped texting. Her sister who I known for a while an am friends with dm me on instagram the next day after telling me she found something of mine earlier then after sent another message and asked what happened an I told her I wasn’t taking a much needed medication an I became a paranoid person an that’s why we broke up (I truly believe the personality change from not taking it was a big part but I’m back on now an I’m back to normal) Now her sister an her are close so there’s no way she didn’t already know what happened. Then my ex (who unblocked but then unblocked on instagram LIKED a pic of me with mowhawk hair that I posted that she had previously said she hated so she had to find my account to be shot to see it. Two days after my ex contacted me asking if I wanted my jacket an a necklace I gave her back. I told her the necklace was a gift so keep it but I did want my jacket an several other little things back that she was in possession of. At the same time her sister again dm me on instagram asking the same thing album also asked if I wanted her or my ex to bring my stuff. I told her I’d call my ex, but I waited about an hour then TEXTED my ex telling me to bring me my stuff Saturday. She said she wasn’t sure if she could but she’d let me know. Eventually she agreed to meet up an give me my stuff. I also told her I wanted to talk since she had broken up with me on text. Initially she said she didn’t think she could, but eventually agreed. We met, I told her the only reason I had changed was because I was refusing to take my meds. She told me she didn’t really mean we both changed, but she felt like we didn’t do much fun stuff together anymore. BUT we have gone camping twice in the past two months, and gone to a nature reserve twice as well. I asked her if we could get back together now that I’m on my way (with the help of my meds) to becoming the same person. I told her to let me show her. She started crying and said that she was going to college in a month two hours away an that if this could hurt us what would THAT do. (we already had talked about it an had a plan an agreed to stay together despite the distance, she’d visit or I’d visit her). She said she still loves me but the feelings have changed. I found that to sound really contradictory. I asked her to think about that if we both still do love each other that those feelings could come back. She promised to think about it. I then left. The next day I put all of her stuff she left at my house in a bag attached to her car while she was at work (even though when I asked the day before she said she didn’t want everything back.) I texted her later that day to mak sure she got it an she said yes but that I didn’t have to give her back this vape juice she gave me since she had no vape as well as saying “haha” at the end. I replied with “nah”. She then replied “oh well okay thank you again”. Later the same day I saw a friend of ours an texted her that I saw him. She read the message an didn’t reply. Her sister has been actively liking an viewing my stories on instagram (shes never done that before) I also asked the sister for her boyfriends # since I liked him an wanted to hang out with him. She gave me the number and he replied the first few days an wanted to hang out in the future but since yesterday he has not replied. I have not texted or interacted with my ex in 4 days… I have been posting many positive changes in my life on instagram as well as a post about me getting into community college and how I’m moving on with life. Today I posted a pic about holding on to people who still love you despite your problems and how you shouldn’t let them go. I also just posted a pic of me after getting ready to go to a party tonight and how I’m doing great. Everyone says to give her time to miss me and don’t contact her for a while or wait till she makes the move. What is going on and what do I do to get her back?????????
Dom,
Thanks for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I think that I can help you turn things around but you will need to book a coaching session in order for us to work together.
You can book a coaching session with me here:
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
If you book a session, I will reach out to you right away to schedule a time and day for us to speak.
Hope to chat with you soon!
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
Hi Adrian,
Me and him had an online relationship on snapchat. He cut it off because I became too anxious and needy. This was partly because it happened at the same time as my break up of a 9 year marriage. But I genuinely like him. I feel he liked the original me but not the neediness. How can I get him back please?
I do feel I lost myself in the short relationship and still anxious about what to do. We’ve never met and I’m not sure whether to text him as he shot me down saying there was nothing between us last time.
Thank you in advance!! 🙂
Hi Ash,
I can totally help you here! But, I’m going to need to learn a few more things. I invite you to schedule a 30 minute call with me so we can discuss! Please visit this link 🙂 http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
I’m looking forward to connecting with you! Ive had a lot of success in turning things like this around.
Best,
Coach N
So my boyfriend broke up with me on Thursday and it has been killing me a lot. His reason is that I am co trolling and I am and that every time we are apart we only fight and that’s true we hadn’t just start our first 3 weeks of being in two different colleges. It made my controlling even worse cuz we couldn’t talk all the time. I had all his passwords to everything and his email. I always worried I wasn’t good enough n I got mad when I wasn’t given attention. He broke it off but was nice about it we were together over a year and even gave eachother promise rings. His mom even reached out to me to apologize for it not working out. Our family’s were very close. It has been hard for me to not talk to him but it took him a day to reply when I said I wanted to speak to him he called me n I told him that I realized where I went wrong. He apologized too. His friend the other day was rude to me n I told him about that on the phone. My ex got very protective and was super mad at his friend he told me he will talk to his friend and he told me to tell him if anything else happens he will handle it for me. After that he was nice and let me go. On the phone. He has not been posting anything on his social media besides twitter. Today I retweeted somthing about how I wish god could tell me what I need to do not that long after he tweeted somthing about how God is here to help us through hard times. Idk what to do anymore I want him back but I’m not sure how to go about that
What if she replies on my post or messaged me personally on my on going achievements. how to handle this situation?
And also what if when she generally messages me just to have casual conversation. how should I react?
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I have had bad experiences with social media, so I thought I would not be able to control my self and that i will really hurt to see they moved on. I unfriend my ex on fb and unfollowed him on instagram, because i thought it was the best for me. I havent spoke with my ex since he breakup with me and I recently found out he stopped following me too. I regret that been so afraid of talking to him ruined my chances of getting back with him. What should i do?
Hi Adriana,
Thanks for reaching out! I think that ultimately, if seeing your ex’s social media was impairing the ability to heal and restore yourself – then you made the right move. Focus on your own growth first, and the rest will fall into place.
Best,
Natalie
Hi Nandini, it’s a good thing that you are active and doing positive things to continue to show him you have been moving forward. We typically suggest you keep this up for 3 – 6 weeks as part of the “no contact rule” we recommend. It’s a great thing that he is viewing the stories and being interested in what is going on in your life. I encourage you to set up an hour coaching session with Adrian or Natalie so we can go into more detail about the breakup, how long this has been going on for, and what we recommend for you to do next. Hope to hear from you soon!
Sincerly,
WMEA Team
Hi Sara,
Thank you for your comment. I believe you can but I think this can help you determine the process of how you would go about it. I am not sure of the context of the relationship so you can explore our ebook or sign up for a private coaching session so we can assist you with a plan. https://www.withmyexagain.com/ebooks/
Best,
WMEA Team
My girlfriend left me 10 days ago she told me that her feelings are not enough for a relationship anymore. Also she told me that she needs time to develop herself. At the weekend befor the breakup she wason a christmasparty from her company. I dont know what happened there. She only told me that she is not ending our relationship for a other guy. Then she also told me that her live is only defined by me and thats a problem.Also she told me that ther are to many smal problems, like that i weak up to late or that I learn to less from my own motivation and she always needs to motivate me. I tried to block the conversation 2 times but couldnt go throug it so we had some contact until thursday before this weekend. I know that she is now texting wirh a good friend. She named him a good friend. But i never knew about him before and she has writen with him at least 2weeks before our breakup. I habe made all the mistskes that you should avoid. For excemple i begged and so on. Last thirsday she told me that it would be better for both of us to block the conversation and try to get over the breakup. Now i dont know if all this has a sense any more. I really love hear and our relationship was very intense. It lasted for 2 years and we had some discussions but not often and no real fights. She gets 19 at the 5th january and i am 18. is there a chance? And what should i do? Is a no voversation time making everything even worse? How can i make myself more attracting to her when she is living 30km away from me and I am not able to see her in person?
Also at her vompany there are only 90% men and moste of them are matchos. I am very scared and would give everythin for her. Also i can think pretty clear about everything now and i am not that emotional any more. So what can I do to be better than the other guys and the one she is texting with and re atract her to recraete her love for me?
Hello Sebastian,
I would invite you to work on yourself. Meaning your charisma, appearance, and activities that you do. Change your look a little, socialize with people and pst positive things on social media. This may help you as well. https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/how-to-get-her-back/
Best,
WMEA Team
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