I think it’s safe to say that we are experiencing something that we never expected to go through in our lifetimes. With the world on hold as we race to find solutions to the pandemic that is currently taking place, for many people, their personal lives and their plans for their love lives have also been put on hold. But that doesn’t mean that the emotions they feel ceased to exist! I know that many of you are struggling because you’re worried that now it’s going to be harder than ever to get back together with the one you love.
Let me reassure you, social distancing does not mean that developing emotional intimacy with your ex is now off the table. In fact, let’s not forget that distance is one of the keys to success in getting back together with an ex!
In today’s article, I am going to go over the biggest do’s and don’ts of re-building emotional intimacy with the one you love during this peculiar time so that you can be en route towards getting back together. I’ll explain how to make someone miss you during quarantine, the best ways to communicate, and how to rebuild an emotional connection from afar. Don’t panic my friends, there are solutions to this problem!
How to build emotional intimacy: Making someone miss you during quarantine
If you’re familiar with our philosophy, then you’ve surely heard us talk about the power of distance when you want to make an ex miss you. If you’re constantly pining for their attention and doing backflips to make your ex notice you, or worse still, if you’re being needy or clingy, you’ll see that he or she will start to pull away even more. That is why we recommend putting space between you (and in many cases, using the No Contact Rule). The goal here is simple: The less available you are to your ex, the easier it will be to make them begin to miss you.
And I think you know where I’m going with this… Now that we are in a period of social distancing, it’s going to be much easier to fight the urge to want to be close to your ex. But what about those of you that were already starting to work on the complicity phase? Those of you that have already gone through the period of distance that sparked your ex’s interest! What do you do now that you can’t see each other? Well, it’s all going to be all about finding balance. You want to become that exciting challenge that he or she wants to pursue again without being too detached. We’ve created many products specifically designed to help you get your ex back under any circumstances and I highly recommend checking them out. You can access these special products by clicking here!
You don’t physically have to be in the same place to rebuild emotional intimacy with a man or a woman. You just need to make sure that you’re being compassionate without being a doormat. That you’re being available without being needy. That you’re being confident without being arrogant. So what does that mean?
It’s about surprising your ex without putting them on a pedestal by actively working on building a life for yourself that you are proud of. This way, you show them that your world does not revolve around them and that you’re creating a life that they’d want to be a part of. You start to inspire them to want to know more and to share more with you. By attracting them back into your life this way, you’ll see that rebuilding the emotional intimacy between you will start to happen naturally. When you speak, you’ll have lots to share and he or she will start to realize that you really have changed for the better. They’ll want to know more, and you’ll be able to reconnect.
So if you want to know how to achieve emotional intimacy with your ex during this time, I highly recommend working on using this time to your advantage. Focus on projects that you never had time for before, challenge yourself to do some form of exercise at least three times a week, pick up old hobbies, reconnect with people you haven’t spoken to in a while, and focus on making personal improvements. Don’t forget to use the power of social media to post about what you’ve been up to. That way, even if you aren’t telling your ex about every detail of your day, he or she will notice that you’ve been making positive changes thanks to the positive and inspiring pictures or captions you’ve been posting.
How to rebuild emotional closeness with your ex: Healthy communication
When you are talking with your ex, be careful not to make it about the past. Remember, you’re developing emotional intimacy again and you’re working on inspiring your ex. You want him or her to feel excited by the future when they speak to you, you want them to feel like there are positive things to look forward to. We don’t want to dwell on the past and conjure up the pain you two felt before!
Now, if your ex wants to talk about the past sometimes, practice empathy and don’t shut down. Just make sure that each conversation about the past is solution-oriented and positive. Another thing to keep in mind when it comes to rebuilding emotional intimacy is the importance of not placing your ex on a pedestal by belittling yourself. Self-confidience and self-respect are key.
In addition to that, don’t ever act like your life is incomplete without your ex. They are not your savior and acting like they are only paints you in an unattractive light. Always remember: you have to be the exciting, inspiring challenge!
Even if you’re feeling frustrated by the current state of affairs, or even by the situation you’re in with your ex, be careful to never take your frustrations out on them. Don’t let your feelings and emotions dictate how you communicate. Just make sure that you’re being positive in all your exchanges and understand that there will be time to resolve issues and frustrations. It doesn’t have to all happen at once.
So I encourage you to show you care, practice gratitude, and be there for them when they need to talk. Get them to talk about the things they love to do and the people they care about and show a genuine interest in the things that make them happy. Listen to understand the emotion that the one you love is trying to convey. Show them you care by speaking their love language, and validate what they feel. Human beings thrive off of a sense of validation and this is true in romantic relationships as well. It’s truly one of the best solutions for creating intimacy and repairing the bond between you!
Building intimacy when you can’t see each other
As I was saying in the introduction to this article, we are in a very particular time right now. The uncertainty of it all can be very unsettling, but it will pass. We will be able to hold each other in our arms once again and truth be told, it’s going to feel even better than before because we will have gone so long without being able to do so. So get excited my friends, you and the one you love will have some very special moments to look forward to.
Right now, think about quality over quantity. Focus on substance and added value instead of trying to be in contact 24/7. If you’re constantly messaging your ex, instead of developing emotional intimacy, you’ll make it easier for your ex to take you and your presence for granted. So try to limit your exchanges and when you do speak, make sure the conversation is rich with all the new things you’ve been doing, the challenges you’ve given yourself, the projects you’re planning, etc.
Now is the perfect time to leave them wanting more and don’t forget, quarantine and social distancing are temporary things. Don’t be afraid to plan what you’re going to do together (and on your own) when all of this is over! It’s very important to give yourself things to look forward to. Not only will it significantly improve your spirits, but it can be one of the best answers to “how to build emotional complicity” when you’re trying to get back together.
Make your ex smile and feel good each time they talk to you and they’ll associate you with positivity. It’s the best way to leave them wanting more.
Challenge yourself to see things from their frame of mind. See what they see, feel what they feel, and understand what they understand so that you can practice empathy. Being able to put yourself in your ex’s shoes will help you in literally every aspect of the ex-recovery process. It can help you to meet their unspoken needs and catapult you towards success!
How to build intimacy again with your ex from afar
The absolute best thing you can do for yourself and your relationship with your ex is to actively work on becoming the best version of yourself. This will trickle into all the important aspects of your life and your projects, and it will have an incredibly positive effect on your attempt at getting your ex back and rebuilding emotionally intimacy together.
So always be positive, even when you’re frustrated by the situation (whether it’s quarantine in general and the uncertainty of everything going on, the challenges of getting an ex back, or the fact you can’t see him or her), and never let negative emotions influence the way you behave with your ex. Always make sure you have empathy without seeking their validation. Make your ex smile through your personality and the things you share with them, inspire them, and always leave them wanting more.
The trick is to help the one you love to visualize a future in which you can be happy together.
Life is indeed quite different at the moment, but that doesn’t mean that you won’t be able to get back together with your ex and be happier than ever before. Now is a time to do our part to flatten the curve and join together as a society to help this storm pass as quickly as possible, and it is the ideal time to focus on our personal sense of wellbeing as well. The more you invest in your physical and mental health during this time, the better you will feel of course, but it will also make the process of getting your ex back considerably easier.
We are here for you if you need a shoulder or someone on one to help you during this challenging time. I know that you probably have many questions about your specific situation, so please don’t hesitate to reach out to me or a member of my team for one one one guidance by clicking here.
We’re all in this together and our goal is to give you all the tools you need to help you work through any challenge that your love life throws at you.
I sincerely wish you all the best,
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