Did you go through a divorce but still don’t accept the fact that you are no longer together? Do you still love you ex wife and would do anything to be with her again? Are you depressed and don’t know where to turn? We are here to help you overcome this difficult period and give you some of the answers that you have been looking for.
During one on one coaching sessions with the numerous people that I interact with on a day to day basis, I often hear the words “I still can’t get over my ex wife”. You are overwhelmed by your emotions and your friends and family are of no help because they cannot truly relate to what you are going through. But I have the experience to guide you; and through this article you will begin to turn over a new leaf!
It is possible for you to get over a divorce and to eventually get back with the woman you love. In order to achieve your goals you will need to be honest with yourself, to be patient and most importantly to be persistent in your pursuit to win back the heart of the women you love.
Denial won’t help you get back with your ex wife
If you are divorced or even if you are in the process of legal separation you must face your current situation head on and not try to run from it or to make excuses. The best way for you to quickly move on and to eventually be in a position to inspire her to get back with you is to face the truth and acknowledge that you are living the end of a chapter. Not accepting the fact that you are no longer together will only make you suffer even more and lead you to make more mistakes.
Your ex wife probably needs space and time to get over your previous relationship. No matter what you do or say she will see your actions through the lens of her recent experiences with you and your words or endeavors will probably not be successful. You are also probably not in the right mindset to approach your wife and to try to salvage your marriage. Being led by your emotions and not having a game plan will hurt your chances of eventually getting a second chance because you will create more harm than good.
That’s why the best course of action is probably to seek some distance and to not rush to reach out to your ex wife in the weeks following a separation. Instead of trying to resolve everything all at once, focus your energy on you and try to make yourself feel better first. It will be a lot easier to fix your marriage and start over on a more stable foundation once you have found a regained sense of inner peace and happiness; independently of your ex wife. Most people approach this issue the wrong way; you may also feel that in order for you to be happy you must first get back with the one you love and everything will fall into place. But in reality it is quite the opposite; as stated previously you must first be in a good place in order to start a new stable relationship with your ex wife following a divorce or separation.
A divorce does not mean that you can’t eventually win her back!
You shouldn’t see the act of divorce as an end in itself. Just because you have signed some legal documents that confirms that you are no longer together does not mean that you won’t be able to win back the heart of the women you love; if you are willing to work on yourself in order to once again become the man that inspired her at the beginning of your relationship or the man that she always dreamed of being with she will be thrilled to be with you in the future!
If your marriage reached this point it probably means that you were facing serious issues that you failed to resolve or to identify. Starting anew and getting some perspective may help you to understand what went wrong and to finally correct some of the destructive behaviors that you may have had and understand your ex wife’s frustrations.
During my time as a relationship counselor and love coach I have seen both men and women manage to get back with their significant other after they had separated or even divorced. The fact that their union was supposedly officially over lifted a weight off of their shoulders and they managed to focus on themselves in order to become the man or woman that their significant other wanted to be with all along.
I still can’t get over my ex wife but I am prepared to do anything to get her back!
As discussed previously, if your goal is to get back with your significant other I can help you get there. But you will need to be patient and persistent because this process could take months or even years depending on how bad things got between you two. You will need to stay busy and to not reach out to her for a long period of time. It is even possible for you to do a radio silence or simply to take a bit of distance if you have kids together for instance. You will then start a dual process of working on your personal development and engaging in a process to get back together. Both are linked; and getting back with your wife will only be the end of a process that will begin with your transformation or resurrection.
Focus on your hobbies, your passions and start to live with purpose again. You need to have a reason to wake up every morning and to be excited to take on the challenges that you will face to reach your goals. In order to reach this mental state you will need to look to find your element and to take a goal minded approach to all of the objectives that you will set for yourself. Over time you will start to analyze all the issues that you faced as a couple and look to find concrete solutions to fix what was wrong with your marriage. One of your goals will be to prove to your wife that you have changed through concrete actions that you will undertake over time. By identifying potential solutions that are measurable and quantifiable, you will be able to keep yourself accountable and track your progress. If you are able to live with purpose, to be fulfilled and to prove to your ex that you have fixed certain issues she will want nothing more than to get back with you!
If you have questions about this process or if you wish to touch base with me in order to go into more detail about what to do to get back with the woman you love, don’t hesitate to reach out to me. It would be my pleasure to help you come up with a game plan that is tailored to your needs and to assist you every step of the way to ensure that you reach your goals!
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