If you’re familiar with my website, then you’re familiar with the section with messages from my readers. For the last few weeks I’ve been less active in this portion of the site because on one hand, there are less testimonials, and on the other hand I have to admit that I’ve had less time to dedicate to it.
In the meantime, a few days ago I received a very simple question and I wanted to reply to it here, because I know many of my readers are wondering the same thing.
The question was this: “Adrian, I’m sleeping with my ex, and I wanted to know if sex with an ex is a good way to get them back or not?”
Breaking up doesn’t mean burning all bridges and pretending like you don’t know each other. In fact, since you’ve broken up, you still spend time together, go out together, and maybe even still act like a couple.
The most blatant example is the fact that you’re still sleeping together. Logic would state that if you’re not together, you’re not being physical either, but sexual impulses are strong, and you’re maybe thinking that this is a great way to rekindle the flame!
Two cases in which sex with an ex can be good!
Sleeping with an ex can signify multiple things. In fact, there’s no norm. You can be in a variety of situations that bring you to have a physical relationship with the person you used to share your life with. In a person’s love life, not everything is black and white.
The first case is when you’ve already broken up, but sex was so good between you that you’re happy to keep making love with your ex because it’s just fun, and you’re both on the same page.
But then there’s the opposite; when you want your ex back so badly, and you feel you have no other options, that you sleep together to make him or her want you back.
This means that you’re misinformed about all the techniques that exist, so I invite you to look at this guide right away.
“Having sex with an ex, will ensure that I don’t lose him/her.” I get how sleeping with an ex could be a goal of yours or a source of motivation while hoping your ex comes back.
Is it a good idea to continue being intimate with your ex? Can you convince them to come back with sex? Should you avoid being physical with your ex-partner? There are many questions that arise in this type of situation, but thanks to what you’re about to read, you’ll find clear responses.
Why am I sleeping with my ex?
Do you know why you can’t resist having sex with an ex?
You’ve broken up, but the problem wasn’t ever sexual.
In fact, your physical relationship was always incredibly satisfying, and even if you don’t feel the same emotions as you did before, you don’t see why you should deny yourself 7th heaven. I can’t tell you you’re wrong, after all it’s your life, your body, and you do what you will with it.
If everything is clear between you two, and you really are on the same page, then there’s nothing wrong with being your ex’s sex-friend. You don’t want to sleep with just anybody; you’ve already found someone that corresponds to your carnal needs, so you want to keep seeing him/her, and there are no emotional strings attached.
In any case, there’s always a certain confusion that arises. You spend your nights in one another’s arms, you kiss, you tell each other loving words. While you’re being physical, you still have the same reflexes and this isn’t allowing you to forget about your relationship, to really move on, and to find yourself. This is precisely when problems start to arise.
If one of you has decided to break up, even if the sex is good and you enjoy giving into your desires, be careful not to end up in this sticky situation, because it prevents you from healing. If you two don’t get back together, but you continue sleeping together, one of you will end up getting hurt because your expectations often become different.
Following this, one question arises: Can we convince an ex to get back together just by making him or her orgasm!?
Is having sex with your ex a viable way to get them back?
If you find yourself in the same situation as the people I described above; people that simply enjoy carnal pleasures, you’re not someone that’s trying to learn a way to move forward, and to make things change. Many of you sleep with your ex out of the pure hope of reawakening certain emotions in them, which will in turn make them want to start a new relationship with you.
Since you broke up, you think that this is the only way you will be able to spend time together. You don’t want to offend your ex, and you don’t want to miss an opportunity to spend time together, and so you think that sex is the only way reach your goal.
This being said, by being this compliant, all you’re going to do is put them in a very comfortable situation, and you won’t get much in return. If you’re sleeping with your ex solely because you want to keep them close, you’re not doing the best thing.
Many people that come to me saying, “I’m having sex with my ex” find themselves in an ambivalent situation. They use sex as a way to remain present, but what’s going on behind the scenes? You think you’re avoiding conflicts and that there are only positive things going on, but once you leave the bed all that’s left is nothingness!
So ask yourself, is this really what you want? Does this situation suite you? Wouldn’t you like a little more? If this is the case, you’ll find the next part of this article very interesting!
How to go beyond sex when trying to get back together with an ex?
If your goal is to rebuild a solid relationship with your ex, don’t revolve your actions around sex. Think about psychology and emotion and everything that that entails.
In fact, you’ll have to use some strong actions (and not just physical ones) because otherwise you’ll stay a sex-friend, which is not what we are going for. You’ll have to go further. Of course, if you and your ex want nothing serious; nothing more than sex with no strings attached, go for it.
But if you’re on the internet searching for advice it’s because you’re not happy in this situation, and you want more than just sex with your ex.
In order to start back at zero and set a real plan of action into motion, It’s important to avoid just sleeping with your ex. With a personalized coaching session, we’ll be able to analyze your situation and change your actions and attitude in order to use techniques that will yield results.
Either by changing everything from A to Z, or by using a physical relationship with your ex that we will tweak with very efficient techniques, we’ll turn the situation around.
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