When someone breaks up with you, the pain you feel can be unbearable. In many cases, people want their exes so badly that all they can think about it how things used to be and what they can do to get back together. When we want something so badly, it can be hard to put things into perspective and see things clearly. This is especially true for anyone that’s been working hard on getting their ex back.
It’s perfectly normal that you would want your ex to want you back, but how can you be sure if that’s what he or she is feeling right now or not? What if your ex is someone who is really good at hiding their emotions and never talks about them openly? Are there any indicators that your ex is starting to consider taking you back or asking for you back?
There are some telltale signs to keep an eye out for when an ex still cares for you, and I will go over them with you in this article today. Even if you don’t see these types of behavior in your ex right now, I don’t want you to panic. As an expert in getting people back together, I can confidently tell you that you can turn things around. Don’t worry, I’ll tell you about how to make that happen as well!
What makes an ex still care?
A lot of people come to me and ask me how they can spark their ex’s interest in them again, and the truth is that it depends on one very important thing…
Every person who experiences a relationship with someone will have positive memories of the beginning, the reasons they fell in love in the first place, and the special moments they shared. Unfortunately, things took a turn for the worse and certain elements of the relationship, or certain external factors lead to a breakup. When the breakup is fresh, the positive memories are stamped out by the negative ones. This is when tensions are running high and two exes are more likely to fight, miscommunicate, and make matters worse.
With time however, and especially if you follow the tips I’m going to give you a little later on, your ex will start to experience a sense of nostalgia. Your goal is to be prepared for this moment. It happens to everyone, and it happens at a different point in time for everyone. We are all unique, of course.
So when the positive memories begin to resurface and your ex begins to feel the pang of missing the good times, he or she will be more susceptible to missing you, and you’ll begin to see the signs your ex cares… and if you play your cards right, you might start seeing signs your ex still loves you and wants you back!
In order to make this happen, it’s important to avoid making some of the biggest mistakes of getting a person back. Some of these include clingy or needy behavior, incessant phone calls and text messages, jealous behavior, or wallowing in self pity.
If you want your ex to want you back, there are a few things that you can start doing starting today. Your goal from now on will be to present yourself in a new light to your ex, remind him or her of the person they fell in love with, and show them a new and improved version of yourself. You want your ex to feel inspired when they look at you – not relieved to be single.
If you’re thinking, “I want to see signs my ex still cares and wants me,” I highly recommend using some of the most powerful tools for getting an ex back if you haven’t done so already.
One of the best ones is the No Contact Rule, and if you’re familiar with our philosophy you’ve undoubtedly heard of it. To summarize, it consists of cutting communication with your ex for a predetermined amount of time, ranging from three weeks to three months.
The goal of doing so is to give your ex an electroshock and make them realize that you’re no longer at their beck and call, but it also serves are the perfect opportunity for you to take a step back, put things into perspective, analyze the situation and what went wrong, come up with concrete long term solutions, and actively work on personal development and improving your life. Remember, you want your ex to look at you and think, “Wow, this is an even better version of the person I fell in love with in the first place! Did I make a mistake in letting them go?”
Once you plant this seed of doubt, you’ll start seeing more and more signs your ex still cares.
So that being said, what exactly are these signs?
The top signs your ex still cares!
Is there one specific thing to look out for when you’re wondering if your ex still cares? Is there something they’ll say to you if that is the case? How will you know if he or she still loves you?
Well, I can tell you right now that it’s an ensemble of things. You’ll have to keep an eye out for little details that might go unnoticed if you’re not paying attention. Your ex might not flat out tell you that he or she still cares, but you just have to use your powers of observation – especially if you two don’t talk very often.
The easiest way to tell is of course if your ex just simply tells you that they care about you and that they miss you. Unfortunately, whether it’s because of pride or shyness, chances are slim that an ex will explicitly tell you that they miss you.
It can be very frustrating, but if you continually work on making improvements in your life and inspiring your ex to want to get closer to you, you’ll see more and more signs that he or she is still interested. So what are these signs?
Well, the first one would be if they’re making excuses to be in touch with you. The water heater’s broken, could you come take a look? Oh, they’re thinking of getting this car, what do you think? Oh, they saw this meme and thought you’d like it…
When an ex keeps reaching out when there isn’t really a need for it, you can be sure that you’re on their mind. Similarly, if they keep telling you to let them know if there’s ever anything that you need, they care. This can be just genuine good nature, but if they’re very insistent about it, it might actually be because they’re hoping you reach out and they get to see you.
Another sign your ex still likes you is if they have been staying single despite all the opportunities that come their way. Keep an eye out for how much interest they take in your love life. Have they been asking you if you’re seeing anyone? Have they been asking your friends if you’re dating anyone?
If you’re wondering about how to tell if your ex still has feelings for you, just look at how flirtatious he or she is with you when you interact. Similarly, do you notice that they can’t keep their eyes off of you? How’s their body language? If it seems like you have an effect on your ex, chances are that he or she still cares.
Another thing to keep an eye out for is whether or not your ex has been talking about the past with you. Do they seem nostalgic? Do they bring up positive memories you shared? Do they talk about what they could have done differently in the relationship and what kind of regrets they have? If it feels like your ex regrets how things ended, it could be that they wish they didn’t end at all.
Pay attention to how your ex talks to you and how your ex talks about you. If they see you in a positive light, they still care.
How to know your ex still loves you and what to do if you’re not sure
As I was saying above, the absolute best thing you can do is to inspire your ex to want to be with you. This doesn’t happen by wallowing in self pity or by begging him or her to be with you! You can use techniques like the no contact rule, followed by the handwritten letter.
Make sure you spend this time on improving your life by focusing on your passions, reaching your goals, becoming more physically active or switching up your work out routine. Fill up your schedule with activities and people that make you happy, and make sure you go out and check out new places and try new things. The number one goal right now is to bring more joy and confidence into your life, and others will flock to you like moths to a flame!
As always, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us or leave your question in the comments section below, and we would be more than happy to reply to you.
Wishing you the best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re wondering about signs your ex still cares