The process of getting an ex back is challenging and it requires you to keep your eyes open and be honest with yourself. For that reason, it is crucial that you remain aware of the situation and approach it accordingly. Being able to recognize when it’s time to let go and turn the page is very important because you don’t want to force yourself to remain stuck in a situation that doesn’t serve you.
This is often the elephant in the room that other coaches don’t want to talk about, because they want you to keep trying to get your ex back and pay attention to the content that they post. Our goal is to give you tips and tools that make it possible for you to access true happiness in your life, and part of that is knowing when to give up on an ex. There are various situations in which a person would be much happier if they stopped trying to get their ex back, and that is what we are going to explore in today’s article!
The importance of knowing when to give up on an ex
It’s very easy to fiercely hold on to the idea you had of a relationship with this person. It’s very hard to turn the page when you truly loved someone and had imagined your future together. Prioritizing your own well being is one of the best things you can do for yourself, and recognizing when it’s time to turn the page can bring you a lot of joy in the future.
I was recently working with Christine, who had been working on getting back together with her ex for quite a long time before she reached out to me to ask, “Should I give up on my ex? Is it time to let go?” We explored her situation and analyzed the breakup, the relationship, and how she had been doing since she had become single. After we explored the ins and outs of her situation, we came to the conclusion that it was time for her to move on from this relationship. It was not providing her with the elements that make up a happy and healthy present and future.
Because I have been a love and relationship coach for so long, I’ve been able to pinpoint the signs it’s time to give up on your ex, and I want to provide you with content that will help you pave the way to the happiest life you can have.
Sometimes the key to happiness is letting go. It’s never easy, but investing in your personal happiness will serve you for the rest of your life. So let’s take a look at how to know when it’s time to give up on getting your ex back.
Giving up on love is not the same as giving up on an ex
A lot of people panic at the idea of saying goodbye to their ex because they don’t feel confident that another love will come into their life. This is very common, and if you’re feeling this way too, it’s nothing to be ashamed of. We all need love and it’s hard to say goodbye to someone we loved and cherished.
The thing I want to bring to your attention before we get any further is that giving up on your ex is not synonymous with giving up on love. At this stage, you might be worried that there’s no one else out there for you, but think about it this way.
What if I asked you to describe a brand new color to me? Something that you’ve never seen before, and something that isn’t a mix of blue and green or yellowish orange, or any other color you’re aware of.
Something completely new!
Perhaps you wouldn’t be able to picture it… But does that mean it doesn’t exist?
Giving up on a relationship with your ex does not mean that you aren’t ever going to find something else. Sure, you might not find the same exact thing, but if you lay the right foundation, you can find something even better. Each and every relationship is unique, that’s for sure, but the thing that many people forget is that sometimes we fixate on one thing so much that we close the door to other things that could actually make us much happier.
So if you’re feeling like it might be time to let this one go, let’s take a look at the signs that will help you determine the best move.
When to give up on someone you love: The 2 things to keep an eye out for
At this point, we’re going to need to zero on on the dynamic between you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. Like I said above, being honest with yourself is going to be the key to success.
So if you answer yes to both of the questions I am about to ask, then it is probably time to start thinking about giving up on love with your ex boyfriend or girlfriend.
Should I give up on him/her: have you tried everything?
When you’re working on getting an ex back, it’s important that you explore all of the ways that you can reestablish a happy relationship with him or her.
But if you can confidently say that you have tried every single tool and method available to you (correctly!) and the situation has not improved at all, this is a pretty big indicator that it’s time to give up. Just to make sure we cover all of our bases, have you tried:
• The no contact rule
• Time and putting distance between you
• The handwritten letter
• Working on becoming the new and improved version of yourself
• Pinpointing the problems that your relationship encountered and implementing longterm solutions in your life
• Becoming an exciting challenge to your ex
• Restoring and reinforcing your self confidence
• Working with a love and relationship coach
If you’ve tried everything (the right way!) and you are seeing zero improvements to your situation, it’s time to give up on her or him.
Now, bear in mind that it’s ideal to work with a coach when you’re trying these methods to ensure that you’re really using each tool properly and are approaching each situation in the right way. If you’re interested in one on one coaching with me or a member of my team, all you have to do is click here.
How to know when to give up: When your ex never did anything to meet you halfway
Another thing to keep an eye out for is what your ex was willing to do for you. Did he or she ever say that they did something wrong and that there were things that they could change too, or was everything your fault and your responsibility to fix?
Healthy relationships are a two way road, and it’s not just one person’s job to change – even if they made a mistake! You two need to be operating as a team if this relationship is going to work, so if your ex sees that you’ve been making an effort but he or she just gave up on love and has no interest in lifting a finger to make things better between you, it’s time to give up.
Giving up on love when the relationship is toxic
We’ve worked with so many people and unfortunately, we’ve often seen that people are in love with an ex that is narcissistic. When the relationship has turned into something toxic, pursuing it is not going to serve you in the future.
If you’re not sure if you are seeing signs of a toxic relationship, I highly encourage you to click the link. These situations often lead to emotional dependency, which is another thing that we need to steer clear of!
An easy way to look at the situation is this:
If this person is not helping you to become the best version of yourself, if you’re doing things that don’t reflect who you are and are making you veer away from your set of morals, your self respect, and the things that make you genuinely happy, this might not be the right relationship for you and it is probably time to let him or her go.
Be careful with people that want to control you or possess you. Be careful with allowing any type of emotional abuse.
In some cases you start to make progress and you begin to realize that this person was not good for you, and the the fear of being alone or insecurity made you cling to a destructive relationship. Once you start to go through a process of personal transformation and realize that you don’t need your ex in order to feel happy, do not feel guilty.
The goal is to be happy in love, and I am here to help you every step of the way.
As each relationship is entirely unique, I’m sure you have questions so please don’t hesitate to leave them in the comments section below.
At the end of the day, you have to follow your intuition and make sure that you are prioritizing your own well being.
I wish you all the very best in life and love,
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