Have you recently been broken up with? Are you experiencing a feeling of loss? Does your gut tell you that this can’t be the end because you are convinced that you are made for each other? Looking to get back with your boyfriend or girlfriend can be admirable if done for the right reasons. If you feel like they could be the one or if you can envision a future in which you can both be happy together than you are right to fight to try make things work!
Getting back together after a break up is possible if you approach it in the right way. For many reading this article, you have made some mistakes as well in your attempt at getting back together by wanting to see your ex again too soon and you’re looking for solutions that can help you backtrack and get back on track! You’ll need specific techniques and methods for rekindling the flame and for putting an end to the pain of a breakup. Oftentimes, it’s in these difficult moments that you realize how you really feel, and how much you really love this person. Unfortunately for you, it took a breakup for things to become clear, but that doesn’t mean that all hope is lost because you can change things.
You must have a clear plan of action and not let your emotions dictate your every move. You will need to be smart patient and resilient in order to prove to your ex that he or she made a mistake and that you can make him or her happy. In this article we will share some pretty unique tips and advice that can enable you to get back together for good.
First Things First – Don’t Rush After Your Breakup
One of the first reflexes a person has when they’re going through a breakup is simple; to want to go too fast and to go overboard. They spend a fortune on gifts, they spend the entire day sending texts saying, “I love you,” they don’t take the time to rebuild themselves, they put all their focus on the person they want and become completely emotionally dependent. Of course this solution seems logical. You want to share your feelings, you want to show your ex how much you care, and you think that everything will be fixed like this. Unfortunately, this isn’t the case at all.
The first step towards getting back together after a breakup doesn’t consist of declaring your undying love to your ex but rather focusing on a psychological aspect. In other words, focus on yourself, figure out the reasons behind your breakup, figure out what changes need to be made, how to show your ex that you’ve grown and improved, and that you can provide solutions that will make things right (and better than before!)
To make sure you do this right, you have to take the time to think and to not move forward blindly. I know that your world feels like it’s been turned upside down, that your morale isn’t at its best but you have to make this effort if you want things to change. Don’t let the breakup control your life.
Understand what went wrong to get back together
In order to progress and not repeat the same mistakes it is always necessary to look back at what went wrong and why. This reflection is very important for a multitude of reasons; you will need to grasp your ex’s frustrations and disillusions in order to establish a healthy communication platform with him or her moving forward. If you don’t really take the time to understand his or her perspective and empathize with them to some degree, it will be very difficult to get him or her to lower their guards and to openly talk to you.
A breakup never happens without reason and subsequently bitterness, incomprehension or different desires can still exist between you and your ex. These things need to be fixed so that you don’t have to deal with bad memories that will resurface and threaten your new relationship together. Even if it feels like you’re twisting the knife in the wound, you have to ask yourself why the magic you had felt in the beginning of your relationship has been replaced by sadness. Understanding the breakup and accepting it are obligatory in any situation. Whether you had been married for 20 years or if you had experienced passionate love at first site (relationships that lasted under a year) you have to do this.
If you are hoping to get back together for good after a break up, it is also critical to gain some real insights and perspectives into what went wrong to be sure not to make the same mistakes again. Remember that getting back with your ex is only half of the battle; staying together and overcoming past frustrations will be the true test of your relationship. People fail to realize and incorporate this simple but powerful reality and that’s why it’s common to see couples break up and get back together three, four or even five times before finally breaking up for good.
To gain the necessary perspective needed to understand what went wrong, it is very often recommended that you do a radio silence. Most people are simply to invested emotionally after a break up to be able to have the awareness to reflect on their relationship while still being in contact with their ex. You are really effected by the separation, the fear of being alone or of losing him or her forever; so you need some space, time and distance to assess where you are and move forward in an efficient way.
This amazing technique developed by Alex Cormont in France and known as the no contact rule in the US will be beneficial to you in other ways as well; it will give your ex the space that they also crave. They will be able to reflect on their own and even start to miss you and think of you. More importantly it will give your next approach or communication more weight. On the contrary if you call or reach out to your ex multiple times per day your words start to become meaningless and he or she will close up. But after a few weeks of not hearing from you, he or she will be genuinely excited to speak with you and want to understand how you were able to evolve so quickly.
Getting back together after a break up is possible if you surprise and seduce your ex
Your ex probably thinks that you are unable to change or at least that you won’t be able to make them happy in the future. Getting back together after a break up can be achieved by simply convincing your ex that you can bring them happiness in the long run. Your ex probably believes that he or she knows you better than anyone and he or she has already passed a judgement on your limitations or how you will act and react in certain situations.
The quickest way to get back together is to surprise your ex and make him or her feel that they were wrong about you! The best way to do this is by being willing to change and evolve personally for you but also to become a more appealing significant other in their eyes. That being said it is very important that you not change only for your ex or that you become the person that you think that they want you to be, while going against your own set of values. On the contrary you will need to go back to being you; that person that you were prior to meeting your ex and the one that seduced them in the first place. It is less about reinventing yourself here and more about once again becoming something that you already were.
Your relationship changed you, and in the process you lost your sense of self, your happiness and ultimately your significant other because you were no longer you! Surprise your ex by evolving or changing back into that person that is free from all of the emotional baggage from the relationship. That is how you will once again become a challenge in his or her eyes; the element of surprise will work in your favor and enable you to get a second chance.
Start a new relationship free from past wrongdoings
I often tell the people that I help to successfully get back with their ex; remember you need to start a new relationship free from past wrongdoings and not just simply get back together. If you are merely just back together it implies that you are in the same mindset as you previously were; you will thus face the same issues over and over again which will inevitably lead to yet another break up as discussed previously.
It will be necessary for you to really prove your change over time through your habits and the way that you communicate. Once you understand where you went wrong and work to become better on your own, you will start to feel empowered and develop a feeling of inner peace and be secure. That’s how it will be possible for you to shift to a more positive mindset, one in which you will be able to once again seduce your ex but also develop a sense of compassion in their regard.
It is very important not to bring up the past in your new relationship together, especially during arguments or confrontations. The goal is really to start anew, bringing up past transgressions, issues or situation will only lead your ex to connect the present to the past. If he or she tries to engage in such behaviors, you will really need to stay positive and not respond to the provocation. I will go even further and tell you to change some of the habits that you developed as a couple. Don’t go to the same restaurants that you once used to go to or engage in the same activities! Really start anew in every sense possible and continue to seduce your ex throughout your relationship. You will forever need to attend and nurture your relationship!
Where we come in – Psychology for getting back together with an ex: Indispensable tools!
In addition to launching my eBook, I’ve launched a website so that I can provide you with even more advice on a daily basis, and so that I can respond to your needs with the professionalism that you deserve. The success of my site was a pleasant surprise. Today, in France alone more than 500,000 people visit it on a monthly basis, and I receive dozens of messages every day. It’s proof that love is on the forefront of the minds of men and women.
In order to thank you, I thought it was time to work on my book. It took a little more time than expected because I don’t have a minute to myself with back to back coaching sessions everyday, but I can tell you that since its publication, it’s been my most well received work as of yet!!! I’ve never had so much positive feedback, and dozens of people have already been able to benefit from it.
Today, I’d like for the biggest amount of people to be able to benefit from indispensable tools so that they may learn psychological laws regarding getting back together with an ex, particularly the adaptations that you will find in my new book, “70 Pro Tips To Get Back With an Ex”
Rekindle lost love with new techniques!
I continuously look to work on my eBook little by little and I’ve just added an important chapter containing special pieces like, “How to get back together with an ex after passionate love at first sight.” I talk about short relationships in particular, and discuss the best ways to restart a relationship that ended after brief amount of time.
An entire section is dedicated to getting back in a relationship that lasted under a year. In these types of situations, the techniques are different. The reason is simple; you can’t approach a person that you’ve known for just a few weeks in the same way that you’d approach someone you’ve known for 20 years. The tools are therefore different.
If you’re finding yourself in this situation, don’t wait any longer and start learning from the section of this book that deals directly with these specific relationships.
A guide for getting back together with an ex with amazing bonuses!
I’ve given you a brief presentation of the book and the impressive results it had for people that tried its methods but I haven’t talked to you yet about the bonus… Careful, you might be shocked!
As you know, choosing the Alexandre CORMONT method means you’re choosing excellence in love coaching. It also means that you’re going to receive bonuses along with the book:
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Is it possible to make your ex come back?
You’re perfectly right to ask this question because just wanting your ex back isn’t going to be enough to make it happen. You have to know what steps to take. I’ve got hundreds of examples to give you but it would be way too long to discuss here. So I’ve decided to present you with two testimonials from Martin* and Katherine.*
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“Alexandre, I was one of the first people to reserve a copy of your book and I was happy to receive it as soon as I ordered it. I was able to start using your techniques the same day and I wanted to thank you for booking an appointment with me the next day even though you were incredibly busy with back-to-back coaching sessions.
I have to thank you even more because your book and your advice helped me to get through to Mark* and we’ve gotten back together. I’ll need your help again to solidify my relationship and probably also in the future for advice moving forward. You’re a great coach and a wonderful person, so don’t change a thing. Katherine.”
“This book is awesome and it allows you to create a very efficient game plan and get a positive reaction from your ex, while helping you avoid messing up! The three letters are amazing, even if I personally prefer the first one Martin.”
*Names have been changed for confidentiality.
Your coaches to remind you that getting back together after a break up is still possible,
Adrian, Natalie and Alex