If you came looking for tips and advice on ex boyfriend recovery or different ways to get him back into your life this article is for you! I have helped countless women to get back with their ex following a breakup or separation. I understand exactly what makes a man tick and what you should do to get him to respond more positively to you.
In this article I will divulge some of the secrets that I have learned while coaching women to overcome a breakup and get back together with the man they love. It is still possible to recover from the recent events that may have driven you guys apart and to prove to him that he is making the biggest mistake of his life by leaving you!
How to get him back right away if you’ve made mistakes
The first secret that I have learned while coaching people over the phone and in person is that you are tempted to make too many mistakes in the days following a breakup. Your goal is obviously to get back together as quickly as possible but rushing to try to convince him to stay with you will only have the opposite effect! When you rush, you often don’t do things well and even worse, you often don’t even have a plan! You should really think things through before engaging with your ex boyfriend or when trying to convince him to reconsider his decision.
The worse thing that you can do is to let your emotions get the best of you and to beg or plea; if you are asking him to take you back in that way you are giving him way too much power and control. It will make it a lot more difficult for you to win him back a few weeks or even a few days down the road! You will simply become less of a challenge or be less appealing in his eyes. Quite frankly every relationship is a power struggle and you shouldn’t let him see you like this if your hope is to seduce him again and make him reconsider.
So if you’ve made mistakes and put him on a pedestal the best thing to do is to take a step back and seek a bit of distance from him to change the dynamic. If you’ve been in a relationship for more than a year you can even do a radio silence or no contact period. During this time away from your ex, you will need to concentrate on you and your overall well-being. Don’t go spying on him on social media platforms for example because you will not gain anything positive from it! You shouldn’t reach out to him period; no calls, no texts, no emails or messages of any kind. This will force him to face the consequences of his decision without having the reassurance that you will be there waiting for him to change his mind. You can play on the notion of regret to make him realize that he still has feelings for you.
Ex boyfriend recovery when he’s left you for someone else
If your man has left you for someone else you will need to prove to him that he would be happier with you rather than with another. When facing this situation the same rules discussed previously still apply; don’t give him all the power by telling him that you still love him and want nothing more than to get back together!
A successful ex boyfriend recovery process starts with you, with your actions and state of mind in order to once again become the woman that seduced him at the beginning of your relationship. So the last thing that you want to do is to appear weak or to keep asking him questions about the other woman that he is now seeing. As a matter of fact you will only drive him closer to this new person in his life by being too emotional, confrontational, or negative with him. You will become that annoying ex girlfriend that won’t go away and acts desperate; he will find comfort in his new relationship that is “problem free”.
The reality is that the odds are overwhelmingly in your favor if you are able to bring about a few changes in your life. The other woman is probably just a rebound, or a way for him to fill an emotional or physical void that he experienced either during your relationship or after you broke up. It’s up to you to figure out your shortcomings or where you went wrong. You have your part of responsibility in this breakup too and you need to solve these issues in order to once again become the woman that he has always dreamed of being with. Once you do he will come running back to you!
How to get an ex boyfriend back permanently
Being able to see him again or even sleeping together does not guarantee you anything! Too often I see women that I coach think that they are closer to getting back with their ex because they had sex with them again. Just because you slept together doesn’t mean that you were able to seduce your man again and make him want to get back with you; it simply means that there is still a deep physical attraction to each other. This can be expected if you dated for a while and built up a strong connection! But often times sleeping together also entails you becoming less of a challenge or being too available. If he is in control and it becomes too easy for him in a way than sleeping together will be like taking a step back.
If you truly want to get back together permanently you will need to look to continuously seduce and inspire your ex. You need to be strong enough to make him come back to you and not the other way around; then you will need to maintain a sense of emotional independence. The key is finding the right balance between your personal goals and endeavors but while also showing just enough interest in your relationship and confidence in yourself.
We have developed quite a few tools in order to help you stay on track; concrete actions to implement and how to go about making an ex genuinely want to get back into a relationship. If you haven’t already done so, check our book 70 pro tips to get back with your ex; it is the most comprehensive and practical tool on the market to win back the heart of someone you love. For any questions that you may have for me, feel free to leave your thoughts in the comments section below. I will be sure to get back to you personally.
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Sincerely,
Adrian
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My boyfriend and I lived together and one day a 360 was done and broke up with me because he said I lied but after a month found out he had been flirting texting other women. He told me I was his everything. He truly believes I lied and messed around which is not true. I’ve been faithful and loyal to him. Now he talks to his ex gf but also I have seen him but didn’t see him like 29 days and he was calling me and now he’s not so confused. In taking your advice and not texting calling email him. I’m not going to o chase a man that doesn’t want me. Please help
Hi Lisa,
Thank you for sharing your story. I know how hard it is to try to recover a broken relationship. It seems like he’s checking in to see if you’re still available to have him. Once he sees you are, he feels empowered and his ego makes him feel great. If you want him back, you’ll have to be strong and initiate a firm no contact. If you need help with this, please feel free to book a session with me and we can work on it together.
Wishing you the very best either way.
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
I dated a guy for about a year and a few months. He broke up with me a while back, but we ended up getting back together. After that everything was going alright until my now ex friends got me very drunk, took advantage of me and I ended up kissing another guy. I told my then boyfriend about it right after and he said he forgave me… until a few weeks later when he told me he needed space. Prom season came around and he asked another girl to prom (I found out through a friend who saw on social media) and then told me he meant to break up with me the next day after I asked him about it. He said he wanted to be friends though so I took him up on it to be nice because I still wanted him back, but decided I wouldn’t push it and I wouldn’t text him unless he really wanted to talk. While we were broken up, a long time friend told me he didn’t have a date to his prom and since I already had spent money on a dress and missed my own prom, I told him I would go with him if he didn’t find a date. A few days after prom, my ex and I began texting again and having long phone calls. We talked about getting back together maybe, but weren’t sure as both our parents wouldn’t approve. My ex and I had a sort of “first date” the other day and enjoyed each others company. Then the friend asked me if I would go to prom with him and I said maybe because I had spent a lot on a dress and missed my own senior prom while my ex got to go to his prom with another girl. My ex was furious when I asked if going to prom with the friend would be ok. My ex will probably never talk to me again, who knows, but in your opinion… am I in the wrong here? And what should I do now?
Sarah,
Thank you for your share. At the end of the day, I don’t think what you did was all that bad. It seems to me like he may have been the one usually in control of the climate of the relationship. In order to sustain a relationship, the balance of power must be generally evenly distributed. This is likely what’s happening, here. If you need help, I can support you. I invite you to book a session with me.
Best,
Coach N.
I met a guy in Feb on afro we got so much close ,he wanted marriage, I wanted too ,we were always together on phone 24/7,planning his trip to Nigeria to know my family
He sent money to me ,350thousand naira to get a bungalow of 2 bedroom flat to move in till he comes
I got one, with his knowledge and I moved in on Easter Sunday ,till then if I call he won’t pick ,if I sent messages he never replied
Though painful but I allowed him be for like more than a month now
Today, he told someone that collected his number from me that my offences were ,1,I don’t call him regularly= which was a lie bec we are always on phone till midnight everyday
2, he wanted me to go and bring my son that I had before from his dad ,of which his dad never ready to release him for anybody, not even me the mother
3rdly, he sent money to me to rent house
My pain was that when you knew you don’t want me why did he give me stress of looking for house after all I was comfortable where I was
2ndly, my pace of work was close to my house before he made me to go rent house in a too far away
3rdly I wasted my money to buy curtain, paint, net, cabinet, flooring of the new house
These are my pains till today
My ex and I broke up in Feb 2017. We were together for 2.5 years. It was very intense and loving relationship. Everything was going well; we’d been away with each other and it felt like we were unstoppable. Then, out of nowhere, he decided to rekindle his relationship with his wife. There were lots of fall outs, which probably cemented his decision. We work together so can’t do the no contact. I went on holiday in May and had no contact. When I came back we had sex twice. He told his wife and they’re still together. He told me he’s happy and doesn’t think about me at all anymore. I can see in his eyes that he still has feelings for me. I try very hard to get on with my life, but this can be difficult. I’m not sure how to win him back under these circumstances. Please help…
My ex and I broke up in Feb 2017. We were together for 2.5 years. It was very intense and loving relationship. Everything was going well; we’d been away with each other and it felt like we were unstoppable. Then, out of nowhere, he decided to rekindle his relationship with his wife. There were lots of fall outs, which probably cemented his decision. We work together so can’t do the no contact. I went on holiday in May and had no contact. When I came back we had sex twice. He told his wife and they’re still together. He told me he’s happy and doesn’t think about me at all anymore. I can see in his eyes that he still has feelings for me. I try very hard to get on with my life, but this can be difficult. I’m not sure how to win him back under these circumstances. Please help…
Hi Julie,
Thanks for reaching out – in reality, though, I’m going to need a lot more info in order to help. I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me. Let’s turn your situation around.
Best,
Coach N.
My ex and I broke up several months ago after dating two years. We were very serious and had planned on getting married and having kids ..the whole nine yards. The last few months of our relationship we were in such a boring routine the romance was gone; he hardly ever even kissed me other than a peck good bye. He had pulled away and became distant, of course, as a girl I began to try harder. Although I was unhappy I loved him and I still do, always will. Long story short we agreed that we had grown apart and he said that he didn’t want to try anymore so we ended things. We both were hurting and admitted we’d always love each other but that it just wasn’t working and that maybe we would reconnect one day. We never stopped being friends though. Initially we did not talk much or see each other. I tried the no context rule but I failed a few days in and he said that it just hurt more if we didn’t talk. After a couple of months he would sometimes ask to hangout but not very often and sometimes with a group of people. Since then he’s got hired by a department that works very closely with mine so I have to see him often and hear about him all the time. We are still close, but here the past 2 months he asks to hangout every week. Now he will text and sometimes ask to come over then say for me to text him the next day if I wanna hang out. He has never said that he wants to get back together and only gives me a hug bye. Its very confusing because he talks to me quite frequently and asks to hangout often. A few weeks ago he brought up going back to a restaurant we used to eat at all the time but I couldn’t go. He is very reserved though and I think he may be afraid to bring it up. Then again we were such great friends so long that we just can’t let that friendship go which is why i think he may not have feeling anymore. So I have began to iniate as well because some old feelings are coming back. Why does he want to be such good friends and see me a few times a week but will not make a move? Everyone says we will get back together,but I just don’t think he wants too. He is always asking my plans too which makes me wonder if he wants to know if I’m seeing someone. I’m not even sure if I want him back if he’s the same person he was when we split. I just don’t have the nerve to bring it up because i don’t want our friendship to be ruined.
Thanks for reading!
Hello Aston,
Thanks for your comment. When you have these type of “friendship” and long-term relationships sometimes you can grow apart. I invite you to do some self-reflection on why you and your ex may have lost the romance. Also, sit down with yourself and see if this is a relationship that you would want again. I encourage you to do the 3-6 week no contact rule as you figure things out on your own. I invite you to set up a coaching session with Adrian or Natalie so we can support you during this process.
Sincerly,
WMEA Team
Hello Jordan,
I would take the time to do some reflection as to why you may feel this way? Also, focusing on you and moving forward with concentrating on the amazing qualities that you offer and focusing on this.
Best,
WMEA Team