The disappointment you feel after a breakup can be all encompassing. This is even more true if you’ve gone through more than one breakup. It breaks your heart, and it makes you lose hope in the person you once loved. Contrary to what many people might think, the person who got broken up with isn’t the only one who hurts when a breakup takes place. Feelings don’t just disappear into thin air, and the pain that we feel when we lose a breakup can manifest into a wide array of different emotions spanning from anger to sadness to profound disappointment.
If you want your ex back, you know that you’re going to have to impress him. The problem is that right now, he is experiencing the emotions that follow a breakup, and they don’t think that you can change. If they truly felt that you could change then chances are that they wouldn’t have ended the relationship. So If you want to know how to impress your ex boyfriend, you’re in the right place…
I am going to explain how you can get your ex to take down their walls by impressing them after a breakup. It’s going to take time, patience, and perseverance, but if you’re familiar with our philosophy then you know we always say that nothing is impossible in love!
Why it’s hard to impress your ex boyfriend
As I was explaining in the intro, your ex boyfriend has a bad taste in his mouth as a result of your breakup. That’s his most recent memory in regards to your relationship, so he’s going to have his walls up.
There is a wide variety of emotions that he could be experiencing right now, and if the breakup is fresh, he’s going to keep his guard up. In the years I’ve spent coaching men and women through breakups, I’ve noticed that men and women actually have a different way of digesting the situation. When a breakup occurs, women tend to experience the wave of emotions immediately. It’s like being hit with a freight train of sadness, anger, frustration, betrayal, rejection, and heartache. Simply put, most women will usually feel all of it right after the breakup.
When it comes to men however, it’s a bit different. I’ve noticed that they have an uncanny ability to distract themselves when the breakup occurs. They might go out drinking and partying with their buddies, or get extremely busy at work… Until the emotions surge up later on down the line. Interestingly enough, because a guy will suppress these emotions for a while, they’ll actually be even stronger when they finally surface.
This is a very important thing to keep in mind when you want to know how to impress your man! You see, the thing is that at some point he will become vulnerable. The memories he’s fond of will start to creep back in, and he will experience a sense of nostalgia.
This is precisely when he’s most vulnerable to missing you and being impressed by what you’re becoming. Generally speaking, this is usually also when he’ll probably start browsing through your social media profiles.
So, let’s take a look at how to impress your ex boyfriend!
How to impress your ex boyfriend when you want to be with him again
First things first, you’ve got to put some space between you. If you’re constantly at his beck and call or if you’re always clinging to him, he isn’t going to miss you. You obviously want him to miss you because you want him to feel nostalgic about having you by his side, but missing you also makes him more prone to becoming interested in what you’re up to and therefore being impressed when he finds out.
One of the most powerful tools for getting an ex back is the no contact rule, and if you aren’t familiar with it I encourage you to click the link! The goal of this rule is to allow you to take a step back and gain some perspective on what happened and what needs to change, make improvements to your life, and give your ex the chance to begin missing you. It is crucial that you work on yourself if you want this to work, and this is also an enormous part of impressing your ex.
Before we go any further though, I just want to take a moment to remind you that making improvements in your life should be for you first and foremost. Your ex shouldn’t be the only reason you want to live the the life of your dreams! Being emotionally independent is key if you want to be happy in your personal life and in your relationships.
A lot of people ask me how to impress someone you like, and the answer is simply to impress yourself. When you are confident in what you bring to the table, you attract people like moths to a flame!
So, now let’s get to the good stuff. How exactly do you impress your ex boyfriend?
• Becoming more positive
It’s easy to feel pessimistic and sad when you’ve gone through a breakup, but that’s exactly what your ex is expecting you to do. He knows you’re hurting so he probably expects you to be moping around feeling sorry for yourself. If you’re able to change the way you’re handling the breakup, you will catch him totally off guard. Make an effort to be positive when you talk about the breakup, and tell people that you’ve learned a lot and are excited to move forward with these important lessons that will get you that much closer to true happiness.
Trust me, this is not what he’s expecting at all and he’ll begin to miss you. You can communicate this to your mutual friends (without being obvious about it of course) but you can also post pictures of social media that show you enjoying life and being excited about it.
• Hit the gym
Getting physically active is huge. If you want to know how to impress a boy you really like, whether it’s your ex or not, getting fit is a pretty surefire way. Men are visual creatures, yes, but more importantly, physical exercise will get your endorphins flowing and boost your self confidence. Confidence is one of the key players in how to impress someone!
• Make your life more exciting than ever before
Use this time to fill up your schedule with people and activities that bring you joy. Try out new activities like salsa dancing or rock climbing, pick up old hobbies that got put on the back burner, go on trips, try out new bars and restaurants, learn a new language, and get busy! Post pictures online and even if you and your ex are no longer connected on social media, word will travel that you look so happy. You don’t want your ex to feel sorry for you or gravitate back to you out of pity. You want to attract them back because your life looks so enticing!
• Showcase your confidence
When you get back in touch, don’t forget to showcase your new, positive outlook on life and show that you are confident. You’ve made an effort to improve your life and you are living it up to the fullest. There is nothing more impressive than this, trust me!
You don’t suddenly have to be on the Forbes list of young millionaires or look like a Victoria’s Secret model to be impressive. You just need to show that you know your worth, and you know how to make yourself happier than ever before. These are some of the most magnetic qualities a person can have.
And last but most certainly not least, one of the best ways to impress a man you want to be with again is to get in touch with our team of experts in getting people back together right here!
Together we can design a custom action plan for your specific situation so that you can attract him back and make him want to build a solid, long term relationship with you for good!
As I said above, please don’t hesitate to leave any questions in the comments section below.
Wishing you all the best,
Your coach for knowing how to impress your ex boyfriend