As if the breakup didn’t hurt enough already, you’re feeling even worse because you feel like your ex took you for granted. Do you want to make him feel like hes made a mistake in letting you go and you aren’t quite sure how to do it?
Learning how to make him regret taking you for granted is easier than you might think…
Well, you’re in luck. In today’s article I’m going to show you how make someone realize what they lost. Whether you want to get your ex back or not, you’re going to learn what you can begin doing today!
Why did your ex take you for granted?
When you’re in a relationship with someone, it’s normal that you would want to always be there for them, give to them, and show them you love them. You have no problem going out of your way to communicate to the person you love that you love them.
Sometimes, you do so much for your significant other that it becomes easy for them to expect you to act like this. They know that they’re not going to have to go out of their way to seduce you or to make you want to be with them, because you prove day after day that you’re willing to do anything for them and be by their side.
An interesting thing begins to happen here. Your partner doesn’t feel like they have to make you feel special anymore because you’re showing them that they don’t need to. This is especially painful when it leads to a breakup or damages a relationship.
It’s hard to understand why showing love and affection to someone would make them value you less… but it all boils down to one simple thing:
As human beings, we naturally value something more when we feel like we needed (or in this case, need) to work for it. Our most valuable “possessions” are those that feel like a reward or a prize.
So when you were in a relationship with this person, you may have begun to think, “She or he is taking me for granted” because you’ve subconsciously handed everything to them on a silver platter.
You let them have their way too often, they didn’t have to work too hard to seduce or pursue you, you didn’t stand your ground or hold on to your opinions, or maybe you just did too much for your ex without ever giving them the opportunity to do something for you first. Simply put, you didn’t make your ex perceive you as a reward or a prize.
Human relationships are so very complex, and the notion of power play is sometimes hard to grasp – namely when it comes to romantic relationships. You don’t want to feel like you’re engaged in a serious power play with your significant other, but the truth is that a balance needs to be found between you.
One person can’t be doing all the giving while the other person is doing all the taking. The result will simply be that the second person will become lazy and take their partner for granted.
Other times, a person might be thinking, “My partner takes me for granted” simply because their partner is used to getting whatever they want and never having to work for anything. Unfortunately, it’s just their mentality.
Whatever the case may be for you, I want to you to know that there is one very simple thing that you can begin doing now that will make your ex (or even your current partner!) regret taking you for granted.
How to make him regret taking you for granted: The most important thing!
If you want to know how to stop being taken for granted by your current partner, the first thing I want you to do is stop going out of your way to do nice things for him. Don’t always be the first to call, don’t always be the first to suggest plans, and don’t always be the first to go out of your way to do thoughtful gestures.
If we are talking about your ex right now, and especially if you recognize that you need some time to heal, the better solution would be to implement the no contact rule. As each relationship and each breakup are entirely unique, I encourage you to get in touch with me or leave your question in the comments section below this article so that we could come up with the best course of action for you possible.
Now, the no contact rule serves an interesting purpose.
First of all, it allows you to take all of your focus off of your ex. You might be doing everything in your power right now to get him to want to talk to you or want to be with you again, but your focus should be solely on yourself right now. Constantly trying to be close to him is only going to make it easier for your ex to take you for granted.
Regardless of whether you are with this person or not, let’s take a look at what concrete changes you can make starting today in order to make him realize that he’s losing you…
He takes me for granted: Here’s what to do!
Let’s dive into the good stuff, shall we?
What exactly should you be doing right now when you want to know how to make him regret taking you for granted?
The key is going to be self-confidence. I know that sounds vague, but think about it this way: How were you behaving at the beginning of your relationship that caught his attention? You weren’t in a relationship yet, so you weren’t in a routine, and you weren’t going out of your way to do all this stuff for him. He felt like he needed to make you fall for him. So what was that special ingredient that has slowly diminished over time?
Yep, good ole self confidence. Confidence in your personal projects, confidence in your appearance, confidence in your professional goals… the list can go on and on. There is an element that became neglected as the relationship developed. It is up to you to sit down and reflect on what that was. Now it’s time to bring it back – and not just to make him regret taking you for granted!
This will benefit your personal life regardless of who you’re in a relationship with!
So, what hobbies have you neglected? What passions have been put on the back burner? What friends have you not seen in a while? When is the last time you did something fun with your family? How much energy are you putting into your personal and professional goals?
In addition to those, I want you to start hitting the gym or switching up your workout routine. Get your endorphins flowing so that you have more energy and you’ll begin feeling better and better about your body as well.
You know, someone with solid self confidence attracts others like moths to a flame!
How does all of this work when he takes you for granted?
You might be thinking, “Ok ok I know! Self confidence is great and making my life more fun is never a bad thing, but what does all of this have to do with making him regret taking me for granted…?”
The answer is very simple. By becoming the best version of yourself, you’re going to remind this person of the woman he fell in love with, and you’re going to make yourself irresistible by becoming a new and improved version of her.
He’s going to realize that he would be a fool to let you drift away because he made you feel unimportant. You are extremely important and you’re going to remind him once and for all!
I sincerely wish you all the best,
Your coach for knowing what to do when your man takes you for granted