You’ve reestablished contact with your ex and you are finally about to meet up? Have you been trying to get back together and are now finally looking to seal the deal during your next date? Do you want to impress your ex and show him that you have changed?
Today I had the chance to coach a woman who is finally about to go out on a date with her ex boyfriend a few months after they had broken up. She had certain questions that made me realize that some insight could be shared with more women that are in a similar situation; you too may soon be going out on a date with your ex and you probably have tons of questions that you wish could be answered to ensure that you don’t miss out on this opportunity to seduce him!
Above and beyond the question of how to prepare for a date with an ex boyfriend you are probably wondering how you should act, how you should respond if he shows interest and what to say if he invites you over to his house at the end of the night? No matter what your situation may be, you will be better prepared to face your ex boyfriend after having read this article!
The importance of having a game plan before a date with an ex boyfriend
The first thing that you need is a game plan! You need to ensure that you know exactly what you wish to accomplish during the course of this date and most importantly set yourself up for another one. The worse thing to do is to just go with the flow and see where the night will take you! Your natural reactions have failed you in the past and that’s why you are broken up. In most cases in order to seduce an ex and prove that you have changed since the breakup you actually have to go against your natural instincts in order not to commit the same mistakes you made during your relationship. I am not advocating for you to be uncomfortable or fake; on the contrary I want you to have a plan of action in order not to let your emotions take over and push you too commit mistakes during a date with an ex.
You should not try to force the issue or to try to get a commitment after just one date. Not only is it not realistic but you will also put too much pressure on yourself and potentially be disappointed if things don’t go your way. Furthermore the most important thing is for you to leave your ex wanting more. If you are waiting for him to profess his love to you and tell you that he wants to get back together you will simply be in demand of his love the entire time. This is exactly the opposite of what you need to do. As stated earlier the main focus of your date should be to leave him wanting more. That means that you shouldn’t under any circumstances sleep with your ex on your first date following a breakup. You want to once again become a challenge and make him want to go out with you again before sharing a night of pleasure!
How to prepare for a date with an ex boyfriend who broke your heart!
If your ex boyfriend broke your heart and the breakup was nasty as a result, you will need to ensure that you stay positive throughout the date and that you both have a good time. This is true for any date but especially for couples who left each other on bad terms. Under no circumstances should you argue or bring up your previous relationship. You will need to be positive, energetic and to smile a lot. By conveying positive energy your ex will feel that you are in a new dynamic and you will be able to quickly break away from any negative emotions linked to the breakup.
One of the keys to getting back together is to prove to your ex that you have changed. If your ex broke up with you it was because he was no longer happy in the relationship. If you want to make your ex reconsider his stance you will need to inspire him and showcase your change. During the date don’t hesitate to talk about new activities that you have started since the breakup. Don’t only speak about things that you think he wants to talk about. On the contrary talk about topics that you are passionate about and that truly move you. Of course you will need to ensure that you are not boring him in the process; you will need to find some sort of balance in that regard. But the more you will speak about things that are dear to you and the more confident you will be!
Be natural and have a good time when on a date with an ex boyfriend!
In the end a successful date with an ex is one where you have fun, where you are comfortable and when you leave him wanting more. If you are able to achieve these three things you will drastically increase your chances of getting back together. As a matter of fact the perfect date with an ex boyfriend is one where you are just as comfortable as you would be going out with some of your girlfriends yet at the same time are able to connect with him on an intimate level.
A last few recommendations for those still wondering how to prepare for a date with an ex boyfriend; if possible make sure that you have your own means of transportation and that you don’t agree to have him come pick you up. If you do, you are giving him total control over when the date will end and it could be a problem if you feel like things are not going your way. Also don’t hesitate to suggest going to multiple places during the course of the evening or day. For example, going for a pregame drink at a bar across the street, then going to dinner at a restaurant, then going for a walk to change the dynamic and finally getting ice cream somewhere along the way; that would be a perfect date! By being active and going to multiple places you will increase the likelihood of having a free flowing date and avoid awkward moments. It will ease pressure because you will be in movement and thus won’t force conversation.
In the end remember that your ex is just as fortunate to be with you as you are to be with him. Don’t put him on a pedestal and have faith in your ability to seduce him and to make him happy in the long run. As I tell the numerous people that I coach on a one to one basis, if you were able to seduce him and go out together it means that he was attracted to you and felt like you were special. You just have to once again become that woman that inspired him at the beginning of your relationship; only this time learn from your mistakes and continuously seduce him to ensure that you will stay together!
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PS: In order to stay in control remember to do the following:
– If you get emotional look at his mouth instead of his eyes when he is talking
– Stand up straight to convey confidence
– Smile, smile, smile!
– Don’t speak about the breakup or your previous relationship
– Last but not least just have a good time!