I broke up but want him back!

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I broke up but want him back!Did you break up with your ex boyfriend but now want to get back together? You thought you had no more feelings but now you are overwhelmed with regret? I see it happen time and time again. Your ex is clingy and uninspiring, he shows you way too much attention and you just stop loving him the way you used too. But then after weeks or even months, you start to regret your choice when you realize that he is back to being the man you fell for at the beginning of your relationship!

Adrian please help, I broke up but want him back and I prepared to do anything! This is what Sylvia told me during one of my private consultations today. I went on to provide her with a tailored game plan to once again seduce the man she loves in order for them to get back together permanently.

But during our call she told me that more women deserve to hear my advice in order for others to benefit from this insight and be in position to get back with the man they love. Sylvia your wish is my command, and I dedicate this article to you and to your upcoming successful breakup recovery!

I broke up but want him back; is it still possible?

The first thing that most of you want to know is can I still get him back? Is it still possible to get back with your ex boyfriend and does he still have feelings for you? I understand your fears; you want to be sure before you jump out on a limb; your ego wouldn’t handle it well if you tried to come back and if he was now the one to tell you that he didn’t want to be with you!

Although nothing is ever certain I think that your chances of getting back together are pretty good. Since you broke up with him, you dictated the way the relationship ended and you had the upper hand in the power struggle within your relationship in the end; you had the last word if you will. It is easier to get back with an ex when you are the one that broke up rather than the other way around. That said it’s going to take work and you will need to prove to him that you can be trusted this time around and that you are not toying with his heart.

Reestablish a healthy communication platform

The first thing that you are going to want to do is to reestablish contact with your ex boyfriend. If you are still on good terms with your ex and you talk from time to time or even hang out, great! You are miles ahead of the game. For most others you are going to have to take the first step and reach out to your ex boyfriend the right way in order to get back on talking terms. It’s simple, if you don’t have a means of communicating with your ex boyfriend someway somehow you won’t be able to get back with him!

Now you don’t have to pick up the phone and call him out of the blue and put yourself out there in any way; your approach can be more subtle and natural! You can send him a text of a place that meant something during your relationship, a restaurant, a store, a park or even a bench. Wherever you guys connected will do! You can send the picture with a small text along the lines of “…made me think of you!” Whether he answers your text or not, you will have opened the door for him to start thinking about you again and also about the possibility of getting back together! This is only one example but the possibilities are endless. And if you no longer have his phone number, an email or Facebook message will do.

Seduce your ex and make him tell you he wants to get back together

Once you are able to start to chat casually from time to time, you’ll have him exactly where you want him. Don’t hesitate to use your humor or to connect around the same things that brought you together during your relationship! The trick is to always be positive with him but to not give him too much attention as well; to reach out to him but also to be the first one to end the conversation. Basically you have to be hot and cold in order to keep him wanting more.

What tends to happen to many women is that they try to overcompensate for the fact that they are the ones that broke up and so they fall into the other extreme. Be careful not to become so nice that you stop being a challenge for him in the process! Your goal should be to spend quality time together, to reestablish some sort of intimacy and sexual tension but without sleeping together! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that if you have sex, you’ll be one step closer to getting back together; it’s just not true, and you will only give him more power over you and the chase.

Your goal should be to wait as long as possible before revealing that you want to get back together. It’s Ok to show him at times that you have an interest through your actions, but you should never cross that bridge with your words or by making a move on him. We want to force him to take that first step. Because once he does, you’ll be in a prime position to tell him what you had wanted to tell him all along: “maybe we could work if we gave it another try”. Except this time you’ll be pretty sure his response will be positive because he will have tried to cross that bridge a few minutes earlier!

Helping people get back together is my passion. I’d love to help you reach your goals of getting back with the man you love. If you are serious about trying to get back together I highly recommend for you to book a private consultation with me. It’ll be my pleasure to help you achieve your goals and the best phone call you’ve ever made!

The coach to call when thinking I broke up but want him back,



22 Responses

  1. Hi i had a fight with my bf a month back about abt time issues and that i lost our photographs by accident nd was requesting him to give dem back at first he was enjoying d attentuon but he stretched it too much like for a week and i got lill hyper as he was ignoring my text even d serious conversation as if nothing matters(we r in LDR)@so dats all in texts so i jus deleted his number and d moment i did dat he started using mean words and getting all personal so i prefer to choose silence and stop replying him nd thought he will realise once hell cool down and i was in no contact for 12 days and after 12 days i got msg frm him with whole lot of insults and mean things ..nd to dat i answerd in very calm way and explained him whole thing nd after dat he started behaving normal with no apology frm his side sending me our photographs nd voice note abt hw much he lovesme but to that i replied him straight dat i dont think we can go furder as he dont respect me and i dont deserve to be disrespected he can not insult me each time he is frustrated or any time out of anger ..i conveyd all dat through voice note with calm..to dat he nevr replied den after 4 days i text him reminding abt a place dat we enjoyed nd told him it made me think of u ..no reply again its been a week …is it over …i rilli love him pls help

    1. Hey!
      I can help you win him back, reach out to me and I will provide you with a game plan to turn it all around!

  2. Sad…I broke up with my boyfriend after 6 years because he wants showing me affection an our communication was dwelling an also time together he is now trying to blame me an make me feel bad for the break up but I was just tired..tired feeling lonely an unwanted…so I broke it off an told him I find someone who wants to be there..but, he will not leave me alone..texts an emails an tells me he loves me an wants be my “friend” I told him no, I dont need a friend…what advice do you have? I do love him but he isn’t showing me anything to hold on to

    1. Hi Misty,
      Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing your story with me. I know it is really painful to feel unloved by your partner. It seems to me like you need some space without contact. If you broke up but want him back, radio silence will give him the time to find ways of being more present and loving toward you, so you can be happy together long-term. If you’d like help on how to communicate this to him, please reach out and we’ll book a session.

  3. hi, i broke up with my boyfriend because i thought i liked another boy but it turns out that i really miss the boy i used to date but now i’m dating someone else that i really like but i don’t wanna mess things up but i really miss the boy i use to date and idk what to do can someone help?

    1. Hi Nina,
      Thank you for sharing your story. If you broke up with your ex, but want him back (without hurting the new boy) it will be important for you to identify what about your ex made you consider leaving him and also what you miss. If you can verbalize this, you’ll be able have an honest conversation with him and this will be the start of getting him back.
      Coach Natalie

  4. Me and my bf were together for a little over a year when we broke up. He said we fought to much but we instantly got back together. A month later we broke up again. He broke up with me again I should say. He said we fought too much and he just wasn’t happy anymore. I tried so hard to get him back and I would see him constantly on campus. He told me there was no chance. I went on a 2 week long drinking bender and ended up mistakingly hooking up with 2 boys. He reached out to me and told me he wanted to get back together. I came clean about the boys so he’d know and he was devastated. He cried a lot. And we got into fights about it a lot. He would tell me a lot that he didn’t think he could get over it. This just made me fight harder to love him and make him forgive me. He slowly started to become distant and I confronted him about it. He told me he just doesn’t feel the same way about me. He used to see me as the girl he wanted to marry but doesn’t anymore. He used to be excited to see me but isn’t anymore. He kept telling me he loved me but he just doesn’t think things will ever be the same. I kept asking how would he know if he never put in the effort. He finally told me he just didn’t want to. He kept crying and begging me not to hate him and kept telling me how much he loves me and how sorry he is. He kept asking me if we could still stay in contact. And not to forget about him. And he kept trying to hug me and he stayed and talked for a long time about it which wasn’t how he usually broke up with me. I put 100% of myself into making sure I was the best I could be this time around. And I know this sounds stupid. But even after all of this I want him back? I need advice? Do you think I should just move on? Is there any hope? I know a lot of people who do the on and off again thing multiple times but who are married and happy now… Could we have this after some time?

    1. Hi Nena,
      Thank you for sharing your story. I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation, I know how hard it is and how painful it can be when an ex breaks up with you and you want him back. At this stage, you’ll need to distance yourself from him a bit. Give him space to heal from what happened during and post breakup, as well as give yourself the time to reflect on what went wrong in the first place. I think that if you work with time and not against it, he’ll be receptive to discussing a future again. If you need help with this, I encourage you to book a session with me and we can talk it out and make a strong game plan.
      I hope this helps.
      Coach Natalie

  5. Hi. I need an advice as well. My bf and i were amazing togerher untill I
    showed him a photo of me and his answer were that my style on the photo
    reminds him of his ex. I got really furious and i said i dont want him
    anymore and that i want us to break up because i though he still thinks
    of his ex. As the days went through i m not furious anymore and i want
    to say to him that i really want to be together again. i m not sure what
    to do as i know he got hurt of my behavior and i m afraid to talk to to
    him. what should i do?

  6. Hi, me and my bf broke up I broke up with him because I didn’t think he really loved me and now I really want him back. I asked him and he said no because ur weird that I’m asking him since I was the one who broke up with him… can u help me please

  7. my relationship was a complete mess. My ex an I broke up in december and it was a 9 month long drama filled relationship. At the end we were obsessed and untrusting. It started with me cutting contact and him calling me every night for 2 weeks crying asking about my day. Then, before i left for the holidays he cussed me out in an airport, built all this anger. I texted him saying what if those were his last words to me and he said he wasn’t okay. Then he wanted to be friends and still meet up after break, but i told him i couldn’t because i still had feelings. we cut things off and i talked to a guy who was a good friend of mine. he really helped me during that time & my ex practically thought we were together. He was very hurt and started blaming all his pain on me. After the trip, he still wanted to be friends because he was over me and spammed me and requested me numerous times but i said no. After apologizing and saying how a part of me wants him back but the other part doesn’t want him in my life at all, theres no in-between. He was rude disrespected me and we didn’t talk again for a month or two. From our mutual best friend I heard that my ex was trying to get with a girl i was jealous about in order to get under my skin. However, i knew she was with someone else. My best friend and i got into a major fight. He kept claiming im jealous and i kept claiming i was upset because he didn’t do anything to defend me, he helped take part in the plan whether it was a joke or not. Then, my best friend and i ended on terms of just lets take a break, because he kept brining up my ex and does not take in account others feelings. 2 weeks later i found myself going through a really hard time and reached out to my ex to talk. He started taunting me saying maybe he will meet up but doesn’t want to take time out of his schedule, because he was going out with his new girlfriend. He not only was rude, but made fun of me, called me names, and said I didn’t deserve his time. He also kept trying to rub in my face he was dating someone else, although none of his other friends know about it. Especially confusing when his best friend was telling me he was trying to get with another girl just a few weeks ago. Anyways, when i stopped respond he started spamming me, asking if it was about mental health and then saying he’ll m. Even after spam he texted me late that night saying he is there to talk but he is confused why i changed my mind. Whenever he sees me in the hallway he dogdes me, looks away, and walks away. In fact the day I confronted him about the importance of meeting me, he was bumping his shoulder against a wall, fidgety, and would not make any eye contact. He kept looking everywhere else but he couldnt say the cruel things to my face almost. He made me feel belittle again and I do not want him back in my life, but I just wonder if he ever went through any pain to get over me because I was in pain for months. (it has been 4 months now)

  8. Speaking from the guy’s point of view. The dumped party have one question… “are you in, or are you out?” If you’re out we don’t want to hear from you again… we need to get over you and move on and you showing any interest is selfish under these circumstances. If you’re in, we want to know we can trust that is firmly the case so we can reconnect with you again, which is what we really want. We will never chase after you after you dumped us, as that would be weak… the dumper must do 100% of the chasing and reconnecting. It was their idea to end things.. and it must be 100% their idea to start things up again. Firm, frank and open communication from the get-go. No room for miscommunication and mistrust or interference from third parties. Playing hard to get is alright for people getting together for the first time… once there is emotional investment and a breakup only communication can repair things, and that is because there will be bad and good emotions flying around. Plenty of room for misunderstanding on both sides. If you’re the dumper you’ve got to bite the bullet, swallow the pride and just lay your cards flat on the table and hope for the best. What’s the worst that can happen? If you want to reconnect with your ex its the only way.

    1. Hi Gertu,

      Thanks for sharing your story with me and I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I know that this can hurt like hell. Believe it or not, due to the intensity of your history, I feel you can turn this around. I’d love to help. I invite you to consider coaching : http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching

      I hope to hear from you and I hope this finds you in better spirits,

      Coach N

  9. Hello,
    Me an my gf broke up few months back after dating for 2 1/2 years, she dumped me. But we lived together for a month after the breakup and now live separately. During that month their were some def ups and downs, ending on a note of the most passionate sex to date, as a last night goodbye. During the month of the whole breakup live togeather nightmare, we only had sex 1 other time after really connecting emotionally and intellectually, which was amazing sex to. We have been doing the no contact for a lil while now. But not very long. There was def strong love there while we dated in the beginning, but I took on a new job later an worked constantly as did she, while going to school. So for abt the last year there wasn’t much passion, and she ended it. No one cheated, no abuse, nothing crazy, just lack of time, passion and communication. She lied on her part abt marriage and things I think so not to hurt me, even 2 days b4 ending it. And so now my question in a nutshell is this, how can I trust her in eventually coming back around after the given indefinate Need of space? The last week we were broken up was strained with ups an downs, but ended in great ground getting to the heart of our issues. I have since left that job, and am busy self improving. So even after say 6 months to a year from now should I still be expecting her to reach out one day, to rekindle the spark? She never gave a yes or no to the question how serious are you after the breakup, which I totally get, but I’m curious none the less.I’m going to really give her the benifit either way for a long time before another serious relationship, unless someone new and completely unexpected is brought to the table, and develops. So strictly just needing input outside my own mind here, thanks.

    1. Hi Jody,

      Thank you for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I’m not like most coaches, and don’t want to offer advice when I don’t know the complete story. I know from experience that you need a tailored approach. I can help you develop one. To this end, I invite you to schedule a coaching session with Adrian or myself – we’re here to help.

      Please visit this link: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching

      I’m looking forward to connecting,

      Coach N

  10. Hello,
    It’s a year that my boyfriend and I had been together. In the past month we were fighting every week and it was kinda annoying for both of us. I loved him too much but sometimes I felt that he has no feelings for me and there wouldn’t be any future for both of us due to our different personalities we have. Eventually, we broke up yesterday, he cried. Today I feel I love him and I want him back. I feel that all the fights we had were because of my jealousy and I do really love him and even if he never told me he loved me too. I don’t know what to do? Is it ok to get back to him? how to ask him? What if he says no?! 🙁

  11. Hi my name is Nicole and I’m a lesbian is there anything I could do to get my ex gf back it’s been 1 year 2 months since but I have tried to get her back but nothing a lot of deep painful things happened to me I told her and 9 days latee ummm she had a new gf she’s been not ok my twin contact her and my twin sister said that she asked for me in 2 different occasions and my ex girlfriend new girlfriend she has lied about me saying that I have stalked her witch is a lie. I want to know if I could get my ex back

    1. Hi Nicole,
      Thanks for reaching out – I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I think that your best bet is to give the relationship space. Reach out to her later, after she’s missed you. However, how you reach out is critical – if you need help crafting how to do this, I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me.

      Coach N

  12. Shannon,
    Thanks for reaching out – without knowing more context, I won’t be able to answer that question. I invite you to really spend time reflecting on the issues to best identify whether or not he’s likely to return. If you need assistance, I invite you to schedule a coaching session with me. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
    WMEA Team

  13. Hello Lia,
    You can still do no contact if you wish by avoiding what he says. Although I don’t think this will be a good idea you want to do something that will capture his attention. I would focus on something that you are passionate about and invest your time into that. Workout, or even change your look a little. Don’t forget to be confident and positive when you are around him.
    WMEA Team

  14. Hi my name is Chloe and I lost someone I regret letting him go I was the one who broke up with him yesterday it’s a huge mistake I rlly love him but he seems to be mad I promised i wouldn’t leave him I lied 3 times when we were together and he doesn’t trust me anymore I think I rlly need someone’s help with this

    1. Hello Chloei,
      RIght now the best thing to do is give him his space and then do some self-reflection to understand why this happened. Please reach out to us for some step by step guidance to get your ex back and heal these problems that occurred in the relationship. https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      WMEA Team

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