Feeling guilty and being single sucks! Did you commit mistakes that have led to a breakup? Did you break your ex’s trust and now wish you had been less stupid or that you would have had more insights or better judgment at the time?
I was speaking to a man named William today during a one on one coaching session on how to get his ex-girlfriend back. He realized that he had neglected her during their relationship and felt horrible about it now. During our conversation William asked me the following questions: “How to make things right with my ex? Is it even possible? And do you think that she will ever forgive me?
As I provided him with the answers and guidance that he needed, it got me thinking that it would be a good idea to write an article to help other men and women who find themselves in a similar situation then William is facing today!
Acknowledge your mistakes and understand why you made them
The first thing you need to do is to own up to the mistakes that you’ve made. You won’t ever be able to be credible with your ex if you don’t come to terms with the fact that you messed up and want to make things right. Don’t let your pride or ego blind you into thinking that denial could lead your significant other to doubt the way they currently feel about you.
You could have been too distant or even mean to your ex. You took them for granted and felt like they were a burden more than anything else. This is what happened to William and although he didn’t notice it at the time he was really neglecting his girlfriend. She was just less important than other things he had going on in his life; his work, his friends and a bunch of social activities took precedent over her.
Others fall on the other end of the spectrum or in the opposite extreme. You too may have been too needy and ceased to do anything on your own. You may have completely cut ties with your friends, no longer have a social life and tried to do everything in your power to make your significant other happy! But often times this backfires and you simply become unappealing to your boyfriend or girlfriend. No one wants to be idealized by the person that they’re with. Yes you want your significant other to love and respect you; but any extreme behavior can become problematic. A partner who is unable or unwilling to do anything on their own just becomes unappealing!
No matter what your mistake may have been you need to face it but also to gain perspective to make sure that you won’t act in the same way again. Acknowledgement is only the first step; you will then need to understand what pushed you to act in the way you did and to hurt your ex. If the breakup opened your eyes to some things and you are now ready to become a better person and to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again; you will be well on your way towards making things right with the one you love!
I am prepared to do anything to make things right with my ex!
Once you are in the right mindset and have said the words “I am prepared to do anything to make things right with my ex” you’ll need to start to really change. No matter what the problems may have been the key for you is to come up with a game plan and a list of solutions that you can start to implement right away to start to evolve.
The best way to stay on track but also to stay accountable to yourself is to take a goal minded approach. Set goals for yourself on a daily, weekly and even monthly basis. These goals cannot be abstract concepts such as I need to be more caring or I need to be more independent. You need to tie a when and a how to each solution or goal that you will come up with. That way you will immediately know if you start to slack or deviate of course.
Changing in a positive way is not an easy thing to do. Thankfully you probably are very motivated if you love your ex and are prepared to do anything to get them back. You will need to be resilient and patient. Finally the key to making things right with an ex is not to change for them but for you. If you are only acting a certain way to tell your ex about the changes that you have implemented in your life you will not be credible. Your ex will know that you are only doing certain things to get back together; not because you want to be a better person first and foremost and a better significant other second. For your ex there’s a huge difference!
Prove to your ex that you can be trusted and make them happy in the long run
Always remember that your ex just wants to be happy. They want to be with someone that inspires them, someone they can trust you and envision a bright future with. If you are able to convince your ex that you can make them happy and that they can trust you, not only will you have made things right but you will most likely also end up being together. Most of you cannot seem to see that far ahead. You simply want your ex to stop ignoring your calls or to stop shouting at you every time you speak to them. Again that’s were patience and resilience will need to come in play.
Making things right in order to get back with an ex isn’t easy. If it was, you wouldn’t be reading this article or seeking the help of experts in the field. But it is possible when there’s a will or genuine desire to overcome certain negative behaviors of the past. You too can become the man or woman that your ex always dreamed of being with at the beginning of your relationship. I have seen many people from all walks of life succeed in making their ex forgive them for hurtful behaviors that they had done. It all starts with you and your willingness to stretch your comfort zone and act in a way that sometimes will go against your nature or what you’ve done for years.
If you want to make things right and get back with someone you love but still don’t know where to start than don’t hesitate to reach out to me. It will be my pleasure to advise you and help you come up with a game plan that is tailored to what you are currently going through. It is my passion to help people that are in love to meet their objectives and get back with someone they deeply care for.
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