My ex boyfriend hates me but I love him!

my ex boyfriend hates meIs your ex boyfriend mean to you? Do you try to reach out to him but he simply ignores you? Or even worse has your ex told you to never contact him again? If you recently went through a breakup and are looking to stay friends with your ex boyfriend or even better to get back together this article is for you!

Tons of women that I coach to successfully get back with the man they love were in difficult situations following a breakup.

It is very common for me to hear “my ex boyfriend hates me but I really want to get back together”. Being broken up becomes a secondary problem to the fact that you cannot even communicate with your ex without getting into an argument; if you can talk to him at all!

I am going to give you tips based on my experience coaching other women who are in a similar situation; when communication has completely broken down with your ex boyfriend!

If applied this advice can begin to shift the dynamic between you and your ex boyfriend and enable you to eventually get back together if you are willing to be patient and consistent.

Give your ex boyfriend space if he is mean to you

Following a breakup it is very common for tensions to rise and for people to hold a grudge or resentment. That is one of the reasons why separation happens in the first place.

A communication breakdown occurs in your relationship, trust is broken or one of the two individuals no longer feels like their counterpart can make them happy in the long run!

Your boyfriend may have lost faith in the relationship and he may now be trying to justify or validate the separation by being mean to you or by ignoring you.

Trying to force him to communicate with you or being too persistent would only be counterproductive and often times makes him resent you even more! I understand that you want to make things right and that you are looking to salvage your relationship while you still can.

But the truth is that if your ex boyfriend is acting a certain way following a breakup the best course of action is to give him the space and time he needs to put things into perspective.

Especially if you were in a relationship that lasted more than 1 year; you most certainly should take a bit of distance or even do a radio silence in order to eventually change the way and manner in which you communicate with each other.

No, your boyfriend will not forget about you or look to quickly get back with someone else. Those are the two fears that most people have when they are in your position.

By continuously reaching out to your ex, or telling him how much you love him and care, or simply by trying to do too much you will suffocate him and put him on a pedestal. Giving your ex too much power and control over you is never good, even if it comes from a place of love!

When it comes to your ex finding someone else if you give him too much space; do you really believe that he won’t be looking or that he won’t be able to meet anyone if you harass him every day?

Of course not! Giving him space won’t change anything in that regard.

On the contrary it will make him miss you more and make him start to reconsider his decision! Either way when a man gets with someone too quickly after coming out of a relationship it’s almost always a rebound that does not last very long!

You will be able to seduce him and get back with your ex boyfriend no matter what, if you have the right game plan and approach!

My ex boyfriend hates me, can I make him love me?

It is possible to change the way that your ex feels about you. When I hear women tell me “my ex boyfriend hates me and I don’t know what to do” my initial response is always to ask why? ‘

You need to be able to really understand why your ex feels the way that he does and be able to clearly identify the negative behaviors that have caused him to react in such a way.

If you are confused or don’t know where to start, I advise that you start by listing all of the issues that you faced during your relationship. Don’t leave anything out because something that may have seemed trivial to you may be a central issue for your ex boyfriend.

I invite you to go below the surface and to dig deeper in order to try to understand the dynamics at work behind the issues that you faced as a couple. Consider his personality, his upbringing, his dreams and aspirations, his fears and his insecurities.

Do the same for yours as it relates to each and every single problem that you identified. This should enable you to have a really good understanding of where your relationship went wrong and why your ex boyfriend has resentment towards you.

Realize that the way that your ex boyfriend feels about you is not permanent. At some point in your relationship he must have seen you in a different light. You were able to seduce him and make him love you. Something changed in your behavior along the way that impacted the dynamic.

If you are able to understand what happened and are willing to work on yourself to once again become that woman that inspired him at the beginning of your relationship, it is possible to make him fall in love with you again!

Get started right away to change the way your ex boyfriend feels about you

I invite you to look to find solutions to all of the issues that you faced; concrete solutions which include a when and how to implement them!

By taking actions in your daily life to change certain flaws and to become a better person you will be able to prove to your ex boyfriend that you are indeed able to change and make him love you again.

You will also need to focus a lot of your attention on you and your own well-being. If you are only interested in doing things to please him or acting in a certain way with the hope of grabbing his attention you will never make real progress!

It is only by becoming more emotionally independent, active and passionate about something that you will be able to attract him and inspire him to change the way that he feels about you. Until you are able to approach him from an equal footing, you will probably never be in a position to make him want to be with you again.

But you can if you start to implement my advice right away and if you give him the time and space to come to you; instead of trying to force the issue before having truly taken the time to analyze your mistakes and started to change!

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If you want to take it a step further and are looking to get coached every step of the way to ensure that you reach your goals don’t hesitate to reach out to me to schedule a one on one session over the phone, by email or in person. It will be my pleasure to help you meet your goals and help you get back with the man you love.

The coach to call when realizing my ex boyfriend hates me,

Sincerely,

Adrian

Life Coach, Motivational Speaker & Relationship Expert from WithMyExAgain.com

  • Robin

    Can you set up a discussion with me I need to talk to someone

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Robin, it would be my pleasure to speak to you and help you reach your goals.; you can book a coaching session with me via the following link: https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      Looking forward to it,
      Adrian

  • alex

    My boyfriend and I dated for 3 and a half years but broke up a little over 2 weeks ago. We had started fighting constantly and it just wouldn’t stop (over the most stupid things too). When we broke up, we were both pretty upset (crying) and then ended up hanging out a week later. When we hung out we had a nice 2 hour talk about everything and ended up hooking up by the end of the night (still not back together). Our contact after that mostly consisted of me texting or calling to see if I could get a response. However, just this past week he found out that I had sent some inappropriate pictures to his friends. When he found out, we talked on the phone and he had said some horrible things to me (I regret ever dating you, you’re a whore, etc.). He was obviously hurt and still is, because every time I try to contact him, he is rude and tells me to leave him alone. Just today, he told me he doesn’t care about my feelings anymore and that he doesn’t like me anymore. I have no idea what to do, I’ve apologized many time and still love him. But at this point it seems like he hates me and never wants to talk again.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Alex,
      Thank you for sharing your story with me. You will not get him back by chasing him around, by constantly trying to reach out and apologizing. You need to distance yourself a bit and do a no contact of at least a month! You date him for 3 years, so a month of no contact will not push him into someone else’s hands… On the contrary, it will be the best way for you to get some perspective in regards to your previous relationship, figure out where things went wrong and to start to evolve to make things right!
      It would be my pleasure to help win him back, so if you are committed to doing everything possible to make it work I urge you to book a coaching session with me.
      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • anonymous

    My ex’s friend told me that my ex’s biggest mistake was dating me and my biggest regret was breaking up with him. I have yet to ask him if this is true and im afraid of the answer. (btw my ex’s friend doesn’t like me.)

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey,
      Don’t read too much into what your ex’s friends may or may not say. Often times they are simply trying to protect their friend and the ex more often than not as a different vision of the relationship. The friend wasn’t there when you shared intimate moments or bonded…
      So don’t stress and focus on you and on reestablishing a positive dialogue with your ex!
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • mikka

    hello , my boyfriend and i were in a relationship for 2 years hes the love of my life, im his first love… but this relationship is a long distance one and hes planning to leave and going to live in the US, so he always has thos ideas in mind trynna say that he has his work first,his studies first, his ambitions and stuff so we’ve broke up first 4months ago becasue he was too busy and had no time for love stories.. then i tried the no contact rule for a month i could talk to him as a friend then I Sworn to god for something (I LIED) but since this lie isnt about cheating then its ok.. but he’s a type of men that really doesnt like lying. the lie that i tried to tell was :”” i havenot sent any anonymous question to that guy (someone who liked me at the time)” and then i was compelled to give him my passord and so he found out that i indeed asked that quy several questions like ‘ what did you like about that girl ..” so he was annoyed but the important thing that ive done was : I TOLD HIM (MY EX) ABOUT THE GUY WHO LIKED ME AND USED TO TALK ABOUT ME ON ASK.FM BEFORE ASKING THE GUY, because my point was i wanted to know if my ex is still love me and woud be jealous … but seeing me lying to his face hurt him so i lost his confidence but we could get back together and i promised him not to lie anymore,thins went well for 3 months when suddenly he remembered stuff in the past and told me that i might have lied to him before that 1st breakup so he started to have doubts and left me again HE KNOWS THAT I’VE NOT CHEATED ON HIM AND THAT IM DYING FOR HIM. so once again, i tried the no contact rule but ive done something that he doesnt like (childish stuff) so he started to like another girl and now they are together i dont know weither this is a rebound relationship? the last time i talked to him he knew that i said bad things on him and his girl he knew that i was ready to fake conversations in order to ruin their relationship so he told me that im a fake person and a liar and that he hates me now!! he cant even stand looking at me anymore, he said that if i would stay the only girl in this world, he would even want me anymore, he bloked me and doesnt want to talk to me no more.. i tried to explain immediatly, i tol him that im sorry and im willing to change. i want to regain his trust just as a friend, i tried several times i promised him and sworn to god that im trying to change my self but he still doesnt want to believe me …

    so please help me i really want him, im dying for him and im really willing to change and stop lying because this isnt fair, i lied once and he forgot all the goodness about me, i want to show him that im a trustworthy nowadays and that im more mature

    however how can i proove this to him when hes taken and doesnt wanna talk to me neither to any girl except his girl???

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello Mikka,
      Thank you for sharing your story; from what I gather you are in a situation that has multiple layers to it (long distance, ex moving, big mistakes, new girlfriend, etc…). I thus think that it would be best for us to speak over the phone or via skype in order for me to fully grasp all that has happened and to provide you with an adequate game plan. During this call I would answer all of your questions, and tell you what you need to do moving forward every step of the way.
      If you are interested feel free to book a coaching session directly through our website so that we could get started right away.
      Best of luck either way,
      Adrian

  • Justyne Medina

    Adrian, will you just marry me so I don’t have to worry about my ex ._.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Justyne, thanks for the message… I’m already off the market, but I can provide you with the tools and support you need to stop worrying about your ex!
      Just reach out to me so we can work together ; )
      Best,
      Adrian

      • Justyne Medina

        Will do (;

  • Anonymous

    Hello Adrian , my ex says he wants nothing to do with me anymore , says he doesn’t want to see , talk to me or be near me .
    We broke up 4 months ago and have gone No contact for the last 2 . I miss him terribly we were each others 1st love , we talked marriage and kids and were planning a whole life together .
    There was no lying , cheating or any kind of deceit in the relationship he broke up with me because he said he “was falling out of love ”
    I just don’t know what I did that was so wrong for him to completely shut me out like this 🙁

  • CoachAdrian

    Hey!
    Thanks for reaching out. I would need to speak with you in order to pinpoint what went wrong and to tell you how to get him back…
    Time is ticking because 2 months of no contact is a lot, depending on how long you guys were together.
    Please book a coaching session so that we can work together.
    From my heart to yours,
    Adrian

  • Meronca Sarosata

    So on the 28th of March my boyfriend broke up with me, at 1 am over text. I saw him the day before he broke it off and he picked me up from school because I was feeling ill, in return I bought him lunch and when he dropped me off he ended our time out like he always does with multiple kisses around my face (something he likes to call around the world) and then I love you and then was off. He then headed to work and throughout the evening he responded to our little conversations while he was at work. I left him alone for a few hours while I was out spending time with my family. When I texted him as soon as he got off work something was a bit off, his responses were dry and that he just seemed distant. I questioned and called and he just gave me an excuse “driving.” “Get some rest, goodnight” I didn’t know how to feel so I went to bed. Woke up the next day for class and saw that as soon as I went to bed he texted “I know I said I wouldn’t do this over text but I can’t do this anymore I’m sorry.” My reacting like most shocked girlfriends would I tried to get ahold of him and hysterically paced my house waiting for his response. I asked are we atleast gonna be friends within the flood of texts asking for a reason for his decision and all he responded was with ” of course we’ll still be friends” then he went on with his day and I tried my best to stay calm, honestly broke down every chance I got. Was so confused. I called him that night and asked ” what were your reasons” and he responded with “I can’t tell you right now I’m sorry” asked if there were any possible chances and he said that he wasn’t sure. He then proceeded to leave the call and the last thing I got out was “I love you, and I refuse to give up on us” and he said I know and then hung up. The very next day I went on with my day at school and texted him like I normally do, felt like hey I may be his ex now but I capable of talking like a friend. But I felt the need to ask “is it ok if I message you as much as I normally would? I’m sorry I’m just new to this and don’t entirely know the limitations of being an ex” he said it was fine but we hardly got a conversation out. I called up my friend to get ahold of him and see if he can find out his reasons for the break up. I know it was horrible of me to bring in another person into this to put on the pressure but I needed closure. When my boyfriend answered he was like “I just need some time to think, school and my life at home just is a bit of a mess” and I totally understood his situation but yet I was always supportive wether it was helping him study for exams or telling him to cancel our dates to study or be with family. I know that school is a bigger priority and I want him to be with his family as much as possible and I know my limits of being selfish in that situation. He then ended that conversation with my friend saying “I don’t know about Cam, it’s not like I’m interested in anybody else, but she needs to know I’m not just gonna completely abandon her. I’ll still be part of her life.” Though hearing that gave me a sense of hope it still wasn’t the answer I hoped for. For 2 days I used uber drivers to stop at his house, the skate park and even his work to see if I can find him. He use to do this to me when I broke up with him so I didn’t see the harm in pulling the same move, I swear I’m not a stalker. The first day no hope but the 2nd my friend found him at his job. The minute I heard the news I turned the other way and proceeded to walk toward the doors. I didn’t really think out a plan what I was gonna do when I finally confronted him, I knew not to cause a scene for him at work nor was I gonna start balling my eyes out in front of him. So instead I stayed outside and sent my friend in, he talked to my boyfriend and came out saying “after work he said he’ll come over” I knew the odds of that but still expected him. When his shift ended I saw no texts no calls nor his car parked out front so I gave up and went to bed crying. I may sound like a bit of a mess, I understand that relying on someone can only be up to a certain extent. You can’t rely completely because I know that if something were to act against us then it brings down a lot more than just hopes and dreams. I honestly look to this man as my bestfriend. Before the day he broke up with me we had a fight a month before. It was childish and we seriously lack communication, I pull the whole silent treatment and he tends to pull the pouty look that makes me feel guilty and that lasts until one of us makes some joke or we start talking and get side tracked. I admit that he found out of a situation that happened that I never got around to telling him, that a few months back another man kissed me, I never had any intentions of cheating on my boyfriend nor did I ever mean to keep it from him. I thought maybe since it wasn’t my fault that I can look past it. Wrong. Not only did that man kiss me, I was shocked and didn’t know what to do and I froze for what felt like forever till I pulled away. I felt like a wreck and had to get out of that situation. Sent the guy away and never saw him again yet I proceeded to receive sexual messages and messages such as “ah I love the way you kiss” from him, me being the cruel soul I am I thought getting this man hooked and dropping him would throw him off my back for good so I played along, my boyfriend knows of that act I do but never knew the extent to it all. I never had any intentions of going anywhere further with this man yet I think my boyfriend thought we had sex. I fessed up and told him everything, he let me explain myself yet let me proceed to make it up to him by giving me a chance the day before he broke up with me and took me back the same day. Me and my boyfriend lack communication from time to time and we fight over stubborn little things. The day of that fight was our very first break up after a year and 4 months of dating, I over reacted stressing about my senior year and I was about to take the SAT I had asked him to pick me up lunch and he picked me up something random because he was unsure what I wanted, I realize how ungrateful I can be but I assured him that I would pay him back, I just felt bad that he went out of his way to do this for me yet I couldn’t even eat it, I would’ve but I’m very picky with food and usually get sick by eating something I’m not to fond of. Out of all the rambling between each other I told him I wasn’t happy, I told him that I was breaking up with him. I didn’t think for the few minutes that conversation went on. I felt flooded in work and stress from home I don’t know where that came from. I swear my boyfriend is my support system and he does nothing but love and motivate me. He left me alone for the day until I came to my senses a few hours later and apologized and asked for him back his response was “this is the 6th time you’ve broken my heart cam, I can’t do this anymore” all of our previous fights were just because of lack of communication and a misunderstanding with emotions. After begging all day for him to talk to me after a few hours when he got off work he let me explain myself. I broke down crying, he told me “I don’t want to break up because what if you hurt yourself, or cut yourself” I asked “is that the only thing that’s stopping you from breakup with me, because you’re scared of how I’ll react” & he said no and then I asked them what reason left do you have to want to still be with me and he said “because I love you” that was 3 hours before I saw him in person. I cried and honestly felt like I pressured him into taking me back, that wasn’t right of me, but I knew that our differences could be fixed like all those other times we’ve dealt with but I couldn’t help but express myself the way I did with the tears because the thought of losing him truly does break my heart. He provides happiness and much more for me in our relationship, we’re compatible and I want nothing more than to always keep him happy as well as myself. He took me back that night & I thought all ended well, a few weeks later we had a normal little bickering at the mall but honestly it wasn’t that serious but it may have ticked him off enough to tally that as to what drives him away from me. Back to present day. It’s been a week since I’ve seen him and I’m trying my best to cope without his company or any closure. After many failed attempts to get him to come to me or atleast reach out to me for what I thought was his unsure mental and physical stability that cause him want his break. But turns out when I called him last night seemed like every response was more directly because of me. “We fight to much over stupid, I can’t seem to make you happy and you’re always depressed (I deal with home/ family problems) and you keep saying you’re gonna change but this isn’t getting anywhere. For crying out loud it’s only been a month, i see it like this, it takes time like a lot of time. Those who can strive can overcome their issues and I know I’m capable of changing just need to finish up with school right now since this is the last quarter and my emotions are on a roller coaster right now. He then told me “he faked caring for me the last few days of our relationship.
    There’s no chance of us getting back together.
    He was sick of the little fights, when I gave him silent treatments, being judged by the family and pretty much everything in our relationship.
    He lost feelings a while ago but completely lost everything the day he broke up with me.
    & he said that he’ll think about breaking up with me in person if I atleast leave him alone for now
    & no there’s no other person atm
    He ended it with “give up and move on” yet because of how I view things, this could be me being in denial but I believe deep down he cares, the fact that he doesn’t want to see me in person nor even break up with me in person it’s because I feel he may feel triggered to come back. I’m not stopping him yet I’d appreciate if he comes back for the rift intentions to better ourselves in this relationship. But then again he may be avoiding me to keep me from putting pressure on him because I tend to cry. I don’t know what to do, I’ve consider giving him his 30day break, and I’m making it my goal to go through with it despite the urge not to cause of some girl that has emerged from wherever since we broke up and made it known over social media by deleting our pictures and all. Just please give me a bit of insight would this all be worth it, I know I’ll be able to manage not having him as my boyfriend ever again, yet the thought troubles me that he said that he faked his care the last day I saw him when we were together and with that his “I love you” was meaning less. I’m thinking this break may be good for us since we’ve practically suffocated each other for so long but then again I don’t know. I’m determined to work on this for as long for now with this 30day break I’ll focus on myself, just need a bit of assurance or something that this could be good for us and there may be a chance despite what he says. I truly do respect his decision yet I can see that he’s completely blocked by the view of all the negative chaos we’ve dealt with lately but despite all the bad time we have the best memories together and are capable of making new ones if he could take this time for himself to clear his mind and can see that I’m fine without him yet, with him we can continue being happy, and All that good jazz. I really do hope this is the best for us, this break I truly want to make this work only because we really do bring out the best in each other. And have for a long time, he just needs to remember that and atleast let me continue to fulfill my one last given chance to better myself (straighten out my emotions) for him as well as fixing the quirks in our relationship

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Meronca,
      Thank you for sharing your story.
      I agree that his reaction is off and something doesn’t add up. The best would be for us to work together via phone in order for me to ask you targeted questions that will enable me to understand exactly what went wrong, and be in position to provide you with a tailored game plan.
      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      Adrian

      • Meronca Sarosata

        I’d appreciate nothing more than to receive your help! So how exactly do we do this?

  • Jeanine

    I met my date a year ago in january 2015. He had a girlfriend then. 2 weeks after we started talking his girlfriend left him for his ex. To cut short, the whole of 2015, he pushed and pulled me, never dated me. In july 2015, 3 days after saying he wants to date me, he tried back for his ex. Then in december 2015 he came back to me, apologised and said he has changed and wanted to work things out between us and he really liked me. We dated for 3 months+ till 1st week of april. We did fight a couple of times because i didnt trust him, i did criticise him here and there cause we are very different people. He had commitment problems. Could not even meet me once a week cause he was working 2 jobs. But he even brought me out for v day which was a very unlikely thing of him to do, he also mentioned he is serious with me. I dont know if i was too hard on him or he took me for a ride. Our last fight, he said he has no time for this and he doesnt like me anymore and he cannot meet up to my standards. The following day, i sent him a nasty text about how much i hate him but the following week,i ended up begging him back which he didnt reply. And 2 weeks ago, he tried subtweeting to his ex. I have been there for him for a year plus now but all he ever did was hurt me. Will he ever come back to me? It seems like he is done with me. Its been 3 weeks now since we havent talked.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Jeanine,
      Thanks for sharing your story.
      You really have to consider long and hard if this is the right man for you…I’m not convinced of it, or that he deserves you.
      3 weeks of no contact is a good start no matter what you may be trying to accomplish; and if you are serious about doing everything possible to win him back reach out to me so that we can work together.
      All the best,
      Adrian

  • Seth

    Adrian,
    I need a one on one coaching session
    I’ve tried everything to get my ex gf back
    It’s been 4 months now
    She has a new bf and has blocked me from everything
    Seth

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Seth,
      Let’s work together and get started right away to make things right.
      You can book a coaching session here:
      https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      I look forward to it!
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Lexi

    My boyfriend and I were together for 6 months, I know this isn’t very long compared to some, but over the course of those 6 months we had been through so much together, we were each other’s first for a lot of things, all of which we both agreed were so amazing. He broke up with me 3 days ago because he felt I was being too clingy by not giving him space, and he said I was acting crazy and stalking him (I guess it may have seemed like I was stalking him but I wasn’t and I told him that but he didn’t believe me). I kept messaging him even after he told me to leave him alone twice and then he blocked me on Facebook, Steam and Discord. He hasn’t blocked my Skype or phone number yet. I am no longer going to message him, instead I am going to give him the space he wants.

    Thing is, I ended up getting jealous of a friend of his, and he got angry about that saying they were just friends and nothing more, and I believed him but he still thought I was being jealous simply because I was seeking more of his attention. We have had so many amazing moments in our relationship and once upon a time we were deeply and truly in love. He said “enough is enough”, though, and said he couldn’t be a in a relationship with me right now because it is too stressful, and I am not the same girl he fell in love with. Said he fell in love with a sweet girl, that didn’t lie and didn’t do things for his attention.

    I just miss him so much, and I want to try getting him back in time… is there even a chance if I can give him the space? He told my friend he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore, but he told me that he still cares… I am just so lost and confused and in pain, I miss him so much that it hurts. I can’t avoid him completely because we work together.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Lexi,
      It is definitely still possible to get him back…you simply have to regain a sense of emotional independence and to find some inner peace. He actually gave you the blueprint to win him back!
      You have to turn back into the girl that you once were, the one that inspired him to commit at the beginning of your relationship.
      If you are able to go through a process of personal growth and transformation, I believe that you can and will win him back.
      The fact that you actually work together does make things a bit tricker, but nothing that can’t be overcome with a good plan and through execution…
      I invite you to book a coaching session in order for us to work together to maximize your chances of winning him back!
      I sincerely look forward to helping you win back the man you love.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Nicole

    Hey, I was with my boyfriend on and off again for three years. We recently broke up because he thought I cheated on him but I always said that that we were on a break and we weren’t together. A week after we broke up we talked and he wasn’t mad and he said that he would always love me, we talked about maybe a possibility of being with one another. A week later I tried calling him and he told me that he’d already taken girls out on dates and that he wanted nothing to do with me and he cursed and yelled at me and then hung up. That was the last thing he’s said to me and I don’t understand how it could have flipped so quickly. What do I do?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Nicole,
      You are dealing with a man who has a bruised ego and who is trying to dish you a taste of your own medicine (in an immature way).
      The best may be for you to go no contact for 3 weeks, to put yourself back on the market as well and to use social media to show him that you’re moving on and that you won’t chase him.
      Reverse psychology will kick in and that same ego that pushed him away will make him want to make you his again.
      Don’t hesitate to book a coaching session with me if you would like me to help you implement this game plan, and for us to work together during this transition period.
      Wishing you the best,
      Adrian

  • Micky

    Hey Adrian,
    I feel as though my situation is hopeless now. My ex and I were on and off for 5 months. We broke up for good 2 months ago, but he wanted to remain friends because he just isn’t ready to get into a relationship again but didn’t want to lose me. We had a bit of an argument a few weeks after the break up, which led him to tell me he didn’t want to be friends anymore and blocked my number and Facebook.
    2 weeks after the fight with no contact whatsoever, we got speaking again and he told me he wanted to be friends again. Shortly after we opened communication again, he told me he had a one night stand 2 weeks after our breakup. This hurt me and we ended up fighting again, where he said ‘That’s it. I’m always walking on eggshells with you. I’m done. We’ll stay civil for work but that’s the height of it really.’ (We work together)

    Well that happened a month ago now, and I’ve given him a month of complete NC before sending him an email on Tuesday to test the waters. I asked him if he fancied meeting up for a brief catchup. He replied ‘No I’m good, cheers’. Up until this week, he had been staring over at me and showing signs of curiosity, but this week he has been rather grumpy. Don’t know whether it’s just because he’s stressed with work or he’s angry at me. I can’t tell whether he’s indifferent or angry at me, but either way it’s been a month since the fight, 2 months since the breakup, and he hates me more now than he did after the breakup.

    What do you think I should do? And do you think it’s best to just give up?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Micky,
      Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story.
      I don’t think that you should give up, especially if this is the man that you think you belong with. The fact that you work together can actually be a blessing because it provides you with platform to showcase your evolution and to make him desire you again…even if you aren’t talking to one another directly.
      You can do many things to peak his attention and eventually become a challenge again, but it all starts with you; your mindset and self confidence.
      If you are serious about making it work the best would be for us to do a coaching session over the phone or skype in order for me to provide you with a step by step game plan to win him back.
      Either way, don’t sweat his response…be mentally strong, keep your head up and keep telling yourself that you are the prize!
      Wishing you all the best.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Hannah

    I was with my boyfriend for a year and a few months. A month ago he broke up with me and I tried but he didn’t want to be with me. I kissed another man a week later he heard and came down to the bar and bet him up. We got back talking after this realising he still had feelings. About two weeks after I overheard him at a party telling someone I cheated on him we got in a huge argument both drunk and I slapped him which made things even worse. While we were together he cheated on me twice, I’d never been so upset, I’d never do that to anyone and I wouldn’t want anyone to think I’d do that. After this we stopped talking. I went out the next weekend and kissed 2 men after this I realised I didn’t want that I wanted a relationship, it was both our first relationship love and ill always love him, he’ll reply to my texts but all he’ll say is how he doesn’t want to talk to me, hates me and calls me a slut or whatever. We had a crazy relationship but at the moment that’s all I want. He also tell me he’s moved on and is texting someone else

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Hannah,
      You need to pull back and make him chase you….he clearly still loves you otherwise he wouldn’t be so jealous.
      I truly think that I could help you turn this thing around quickly and help you get him back.
      So don’t hesitate to reach out to me and book a coaching session.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Jennifer Blinn

    Hi Adrian, I coukd really use your help. I am 42 single mom. I had not dated in over a year and decided to get back out there. I met a man. We went out 4 times before I even kissed him! We dated for just over 3 month. It was amazing. He was sweet and good to me. Really good to me.. Not in the gift buying possessive way but just so considerate and kind. He was in my town on a consulting job. He had been here for a year. We knew his job would end eventually. His home base is just under 4 hrs away. We talked about if he had to leave maybe trying long distance if we were still going strong. He went to his home town every weekend. I asked him a couple of times if he had a family or something there and of course he said no. I was a little suspicious but I am not a digger. So I made the choice to trust what he said and continue on. He was really big on integrity and being a good person which was important to me too because that is exactly who I am! Told he me wouldn’t lie to me. After 2 months I finally told him where I lived and he met my son. He was totally on board with the pace we were taking. Well… His job here ended and he left after a very mutually tearful goodbye. We continued to speak every day but it faded some. I found out a week after he left that he does in fact have a family!! Remembering all of the integrity conversations and how invoklved he was here, needless to say I was livid. So in a knee jerk reaction, I called her. I know… But if it was me I would want to know! She was very friendly and said she was sorry for me. That night I get a message from him telling me the truth (which I already knew). Telling me he is moving forward with his commitments and promises there.. Well that was ok with me because I don’t trust him now anyway. However, a week after this… I’m pregnant. He blocked me after I told him so I found other ways to get messages to him(only 2) regarding this. He unblocked me and send he will send me money for a “procedure”… I don’t think I can carry the child due to some health issues. My questions are .. Why do I still miss the way he was? Was that guy ever real? He treats me like I did this to him! Please help.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Jennifer,
      Thank you for your trust and for sharing your story with me. It’s normal for you to miss him even if his ethics weren’t aligned with yours and your reason is telling you not, the heart just speaks a different language! I do believe that he showed you part of who he truly was, but at the same time your relationship was doomed from the start in the sense that it was built on a lie. I’m not saying that it can’t or couldn’t have worked out, but the truth needed to come out in order to build something new, where you were both on the same page.
      He probably feels that you are trying to get back at him, that you are bitter and even perhaps making this entire thing up.
      I would love to help you through this if you feel like you need the extra support; reach out to me and book a coaching session so that we can work together!
      Wishing you all the very best,
      Adrian

  • maria

    Hi Adrian , recently my boyfriend and I of 9 months broke up 3 weeks ago . We were doing so well that we even discussed getting married this winter until he got out of the military and moved back home . we both knew that i can’t handle a long distance relationship but he kept reassuring me that we will make it and have faith in us . him leaving in general and not having him with me left me hurt and alone which caused me to get angry over little things . that’s when things started going downhill . he said , “it’s not even been a week and we’ve done nothing but argue . i don’t think we’ll even make it . we can’t communicate , do you even want to be in this relationship?” the minute i suggested we should break up , he was all for it , which hurt me a lot . we had a tearful goodbye . i even messaged him the next day begging not to leave and we can do it but he said do you honestly even think that . then he said that he’ll always love me , i can reach out to him if i ever need anything but he will never contact me first , goodbye . it’s been 3 weeks of no contact .

    so i guess my question is , did i lose him for good ? will he really never reach out to me ?
    i even wrote a small letter stating how sorry i was about how i acted and not acknowledging the stress he was going through . because he is going through stress right now with just getting out of the military and having to figure out what to do next . and when he needed me the most , i let him down by not supporting him . then i finished it off saying i know he’ll do great in life and i wished him well . goodbye .

    now i’m debating if i should even send that letter as well .

    please , i don’t know what to do and i miss and love him very much . would love any kind of advice . Thank you .

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Maria,
      I would love to have the chance to coach you to turn this thing around. I do believe that it shouldn’t be as difficult as you may think at the moment because big mistakes weren’t made. You just failed to adapt to this transition period, and if we work together I can help you prove to him that you can make him happy without being needy in the process.
      Best of luck,
      Adrian

  • Dawn

    Hi, I have quite the situation. I was with my ex boyfriend for about 5 years. The first 3 years we were happy but I had issues with how much he worked. I would have liked to spend more time together and I admit my attitude changed over time because I didn’t feel I was getting what I needed. My boyfriend had money but that wasnt what I wanted from him. After a while I poorly rationalized to enjoy the money if that’s what he wanted to do. Bad idea! I thought he would see how money doesn’t fill out a relationship, instead I started to become accustomed to it and a certain lifestyle. Because that’s not what I really wanted, I also took it for granted and wasn’t always the most grateful. Honestly, I didn’t want to let him go and was trying to adapt to what he was offering. Our time together was great, although over time we fought more and more, and after a while the money was nice. Too nice, I became too dependent on him and I think I became lazy. I like to work but there were so many opportunities to travel and partake in events I’d never in my life had the money to do before. This quickly led to him feeling like I was only with him for his money and he would throw out the word gold digger, which at the time I didn’t see at all because my first choice would be to do nothing with him. He was the one with expensive taste, my splurge would typically be a shopping problem at Forever 21. Didn’t matter, to him he was feeling used. It turns out, after 3 ½ years, I learned that he had 2 relationships and technically I was the other woman. I knew nothing about her but it seems she knew about me and was told the typical lies to keep her hanging in there. They had been together for about 5 years before I met him. I believe she must have spent even less time with him than I did. I was completely devastated. I’ve never been cheated on before and I questioned everything. I never even suspected he was so good at lying. She is the name on his businesses and his accountant and basically runs the show. I have to say that cheating seemed like the last thing he was capable of, never even crossed my mind. That put me into a downward spiral. While she blamed me and diligently stood by his side ready to wipe his butt at his request, I broke down and became extremely angry. He continued to lie because he was confused. I can see things were easy with her, she did everything he asked and they never fought. We had a lot of passion and love but we argued a lot. I know he was afraid to commit fully because we were always up and down. I’m not excusing his behavior, I never even got the chance to a legitimate relationship with him because of his safety net. Things might have been a lot different and I know I don’t deserve that. He begged me to stay but I kept finding out that in his confusion he would spend time with her again. She wanted to get married. So the last 6 months of year 4 we weren’t technically together but he would try very hard and I was having a hard time completely letting go. All of this just caused me to lose my mind really. Every time I found out something else he did with her I would just snap. My anger was out of control, he was still lying convincingly and it was confusing. It seemed like everything changed over night. Although we had ups and downs, I was really happy before I found out he was cheating. All of a sudden it was like a never ending nightmare. I was still trying to process it when he got sued for something with business and it would have been a large fine or hefty court costs. Either way he left the country but I think he really left because of the mess he made as well and he pulled a chicken move and decided to start over out of the country. So first I felt betrayed and emotionally abandoned, now physically abandoned, but I still couldn’t let go and was being told he was only with me. He asked me to move with him but I said no. We definitely weren’t in a place for that. I felt stuck in the past, I just wanted my life back to the way it was before. I felt like a monster had taken me over, I was acting in a way I’ve never been before. So much anger and I wasn’t above crossing lines I would normally never entertain. I was losing it. At the same time, things became really bad at work, I won’t go into it but it was a passion and I helped build the company for 6 years. About 4 months after my ex moved, still trying to keep it going, I visited him and well it wasn’t the best trip. I was even more angry that after the mess he created, now he abandoned my physically. I just wasn’t accepting everything that had happened and not dealing. When I got back, things were so bad at work, if I didn’t love my job so much I would have left long long ago, however my boss (not a good person) finally convinced the other partner to let me go. Basically my work was making the company a success but she had major issues with her ego and it got to a pretty insane point. So now no job… right before I had surgery. So I couldn’t even look for a job for at least a month. It was at that time that my ex said he didn’t want to give me money anymore and I should move home. Things were pretty bad at that time. This would be the very end of the year. While that was going on I discovered my roommate had a newly developed drug problem and I received the call that my grandmother wasn’t doing well (she had parkinson’s and it took a bad turn). I thought that’s it, all signs say to go home. So I put everything in storage and went home. I got two months with my grandma and she passed. She was my best friend so that was quite hard. I ended up going on a trip with my ex bc he was willing to help me out financially. I was in a small town and couldn’t find a job & the pay was…..non-existent. Unexpectedly, we had a pretty nice time. I guess this made us both feel we weren’t done yet. So we were going to try again. But my grandma had just passed and I was not adjusting well to life in my small hometown with no money. I fell into a depression and got some help on trying to accept and cope with my life now. We did well for a while but with so much loss I became needy and looked to him to fix my situation and blamed him for my situation. It really took all of last year and into this year for me to become independent again and start trying to make it on my own. However, at the end of last year I hurt him again and did something that is so not me out of desperation. It made him hate me. We continued to talk off and on until the end of March but when we did speak he had a lot of anger. If the conversation was going well he would suddenly remember what I did (it wasn’t cheating) and he would become irate. The way he would speak to me was awful. AWFUL! Finally on March 22 we spoke for the last time. He told me what an terrible toxic person I am and he was happier when we weren’t speaking. He said he didn’t love me anymore, he hated me, wished he never met me and to never contact him again. It’s been almost 9 weeks. I haven’t tried to reach out. He’s right in the aspect that our relationship had become extremely toxic since I found he was cheating and only got worse. I’ve forgiven him but I haven’t forgotten what happened. My regret is mostly the happier part of the relationship. I felt like I never kept to my principles and wish I hadn’t accepted money and got caught up. The times that we bond and have real discussions and moments are wonderful. But I wasn’t in a good place to have a real relationship. I wasn’t ready to fall in love again and definitely had a carefree and my own selfish behavior right from the beginning. I was divorced and was having fun dating just for fun. I wanted things done for me for a while after my marriage. I always insinuated that I wasn’t full on committed by saying things like I didn’t know if I ever wanted to get married again. I think I was fooling myself into thinking I had control. I’m at a point where I can understand why he wasn’t as happy and didn’t feel he could depend on me. I do think he really loved me but didn’t trust I was a sure thing or to be counted on, as well as some other concerns. This year, I feel like being home, as hard as its been, has in fact been good for me. It’s been humbling and family helps to remind you who you are and what matters. Part of me would like to move on but I feel the loss in a way I didn’t before. Without all of the drama mucking it up, I feel like a piece of me is missing. Before we stopped talking I was hoping we could find a way to start over and have an honest healthy relationship. Starting as friends. Especially because I feel like I’ve lost my best friend and I guess I wasn’t expecting that either. I think I told myself for a long time that I was staying for the money so that I could hang onto my pride after finding out he cheated. But now there’s no money and I don’t have an agenda to ask for money. In fact, what I miss most is just being able to see him every day and spend time together. Running errands together. Simple silly things. Logically I tell myself to move on, he doesn’t even live in the states anymore. I’ve tried to make myself date but I always cancel at the last minute. It just makes my hole feel bigger. I miss the sound of his voice, his laugh, the times I made him happy and his face would light up just to see me. One of my best friends I believe was right by saying that it’s difficult to blame him completely because we both hurt each other a lot, it was toxic from both sides. I think I might have even created that dynamic in the beginning. Right now I’m focusing on myself. I’m working hard to get my new career off the ground and become both financially, emotionally, and mentally independent. But these past couple of months have been hard. I have times when I’m so busy I don’t think about him but for the most part I do. We’ve never gone this long not speaking. I should have cracked by now and called him or tried to contact him some way. He’s removed me from text so I can’t text him. I could call or email but I’m not confident I’d get a response and I’m not sure I have a valid excuse. Of course I was hoping he would reach out by now but I’m not surprised. He definitely seemed over it. I suppose I thought he never would be….I’m not sure that makes sense. Many times I wanted the same thing, just felt over it. Life would be easier if I could let it go. I’m not sure why I can’t. I still love him and miss the good times like most people. I’m also over-analytical and can beat a dead horse, which I’m working on as well. I’m like this with everything that I do. I’m an information seeker. Alone, it helps me to grow but for others it’s exhausting. I’m aware of my flaws and my role that has led us here and I’m aware of his. I think I would be more confident to persuade him if I knew he could be a family man because I’m now ready for that. However, I’m not sure he is after everything that’s happened and where he’s at in life right now. It almost seems like he is more where I was when we were first dating. I suppose it’s freeing for him to not be tied to anyone after the situation he put himself in. He’s been there for 2 years now and he seems happy. I don’t want to take away his happiness, I just want back our happiness. I’m working on finding my own happiness because I think that’s important to bring to the table or else I would just be dependent on him for my happiness again, which is the point it got to. I don’t want that. I don’t want to set myself up for rejection. I just miss him terribly and feel the weight of this giant hole. I often wonder if he misses me at all. After 2 months I would think his anger has subsided enough that he’s able to find some things to miss about me creeping up in his mind. Even if he’s trying to shut it down. I honestly don’t know what to do from here. I truly want a healthy relationship with him. A “do over” if you will. It seems unrealistic to everyone but me. I’m just at a loss as far as what to do so I’ve been standing still and allowing the No Contact to run it’s course. This isn’t like me either, normally I fight for what I want and find a way. This time, I’m clueless. He doesn’t live near me, he doesn’t have any social media, he doesn’t want to speak with me and the last words he said were really bad. I don’t want to be a door mat and beg him to come back after that behavior, it would only cause to him to lose more respect for me and at this point, it’s my respect I need to get back and have him get back for me. I don’t have a good excuse to reach out and he hasn’t reached out. I would love a consultation but realistically it’s out of my scope right now while I try to get back on my feet. I suppose I’m just hoping that you would consider providing some advice. Any advice. I feel stuck and alone and empty and…out of options. I’m truly out of ideas and that makes my emptiness feel even more consuming and heavy. I miss my best friend but I don’t want to be a door mat. Any words of wisdom or guidance would appreciated more than you could imagine.
    Here’s hoping for a miracle….

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Dawn,
      Thank you for your trust and for sharing your story with me. I believe that I can help you in many ways; I can help you regain a sense of inner peace, self worth, forgiveness, but mostly I believe that I can help you put certain things in place to make him miss you and start to chase you again.
      You are in quite a unique situation, with a considerable emotional baggage and distance. But I think that I can help you turn everything around and lay the foundation for a new stable relationship if that is truly what you want; if you are willing to be patient and to do the work to implement the game plan that I would outline for you.
      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon in order for us to start to work together ASAP.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

      • Dawn

        Thank you Adrian, I would certainly love a game plan that I could put into effect. It’s been over 2 months now. Is there anything you could recommend just to get started at this point? I don’t even know if No Contact forever would get him to call me. Or if he even misses me. I want the ball back in my court but have no idea how to start so I’m constantly on the verge of calling. Help! If you could just offer some direction to get started I would be so grateful!!

        • CoachAdrian

          Hey Dawn, book a coaching session with me and it would be my pleasure to provide you with an in-depth game plan.
          You don’t have to feel like a forever no contact is the way to go, we can in fact touch base with him when you are ready and then prove to him that you can make him happy without being too needy!
          I look forward to working together to help you meet your goals.
          Sincerely,
          Adrian

    • Shae May

      How do you know if your ex still cares after being remotely treated so bad..

      • CoachAdrian

        You have to reach out in the appropriate ways and then be able to read the signs…I can help you figure it out without being exposed!

        • Shae May

          Well thank you, because I need help to read the signs. He says he loves me and cares about me but says I annoy him even when I leave him be for awhile so he does get his space. But how do I read the signs if he’s not in love with me but still loves me. Our situation goes along way and I know he still has alot of anger towards me. How do I get out of this if this isn’t really ment to be. It’s kinda hard when he’s my babies daddy just feels like I can’t get that part of affection from him he hardly likes to show it. Seems like I am making his life misrable but he stays or leaves and comes back eventually. I just don’t know what do do. I have tired long and hard with this and it’s been going on for 5 years it’s very stressful.

          • CoachAdrian

            Reach out and book a session, let’s work on this the right way!
            https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/

          • Shae May

            Hello again, I don’t have that kind of money to book a session so I don’t know what else to do. Other then to just keep trying every day like I have been or just simply try to move on which it has been very hard for me to do. Having a daughter is a wonderful thing but still in love with her father that may not even be getting anywhere is remortly hard and I feel like it’s a waste of my time. Other times I think its not and want to keep trying.

          • CoachAdrian

            I suggest that you check out this free guide then: https://www.withmyexagain.com/guides/how-to-get-back-with-your-ex/

  • Tayla

    Hi Adrian,
    my ex broke up with me 3 months ago. he said he couldn’t handle how much we fought and it was distracting his schoolwork. I understood, obviously very upset, but I accepted it. a week later, I went overseas for vacation and found out he had hooked up with someone. angry and upset, I did the same thing. he found out and was really angry, started punching walls to get his hurt and pain out. I saw him when I came home and it was like we were together again. he kissed me and held me and it was all normal. then we fought and it was back to being exes. I then went on vacation again and when I got back I saw him again. again it was like we were together and like normal, he even told me he loved me. then that weekend I had a really bad fight with my family and was really depressed and negative. he started to distance himself because he couldn’t handle my negative energy. then he moved on to a new girl. he has been with her ever since. they are not together, but are having a thing. he really likes her. last night I went to a party and he was there, he was really angry to see me there and was screaming at me in front of everyone. he was so upset that I was there that he was crying and again, punching walls. he told me he hates me and that he had moved onto someone else, though she was not there last night.
    I really miss him and I miss our relationship together. it was perfect, and although we fought sometimes, it was never bad, it just for excessive towards the end of our relationship. he was my best friend prior to the relationship and I’ve never been so happy in my entire life. he has blocked me on all forms of social media so he can focus on his new girl. I want him back so badly but I feel as though I have left it for too long (3 months) and he is happier without me. I feel like there is no hope anymore and I should just give up and try my best to move on. my friends think he still cares about me but is just using her to get over me and he is hiding his emotions. I just think he genuinely doesn’t care. because if he did, he wouldn’t block me on everything and he would actually want to speak to me.
    please help me, I feel hopeless and like I’m drowning. he was and still is my happiness, I don’t want to lose him.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Tayla,
      Thanks for reaching out and sharing you story.
      I sincerely believe that it is still possible to get him back with the proper guidance and support; I’ve helped so many people that were in a similar situation.
      The fact that he blocked you on everything doesn’t mean that he doesn’t care about you; quite the contrary if he didn’t care he wouldn’t cry and react the way that he does when you are around.
      If you are patient and willing to do the work, I think that I can help you get back together.
      Don’t hesitate to reach out and book a coaching session with me so that we can start working together right away.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Anonymous1990

    Hello Adrian. I recently dated a guy for two years (though we weren’t official until the second year) and we had a great time until we moved together around half a year after we moved in together. At first, we had a long-distance relationship cause he was working another place the first 6 months, and coming home during the weekends. It was perfect and we called each other every day and talked for hours, and had a great relationship whenever he came home. But when he moved in full-time, it began to sour. I was really stressed at work (it was my first real job after graduation), so I would get depressed at times and lash out on him. He would take it and be understanding, but after 5 fights on different occasions, he grew tired and broke up with me cause I wasn’t willing to accept that he needed a break. I regretted giving him an ultimatum, and cried and desperately begged for him to come back, but now he doesn’t want to speak with me or see me, cause he says he’s done with me. He is the love of my life, and I didn’t realize how I treated him until he was gone. He says I need to deal with my issues myself and not rely on him and affect him negatively. And he says he needs to focus on himself, to become himself again after all the energy I drained him for. I really would like to change my ways but I am also convinced that I made a mistake and am willing to try to work things out, but he’s just so distanced from me. We just broke up this weekend so it’s still fresh. What can I do? I am considering going into the no contact month, but I don’t know if he’s gonna miss me or enjoy his new freedom. I know that he loves me, but he is so traumatized after our huge fight this weekend. He said that my desperation proved exactly his point. I am so heartbroken and I love him so much.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey,
      Thanks for sharing your story and I understand how terrible you must feel.
      It doesn’t have to be the end of the road, but in order to win him back you are going to have to work on yourself first. A no contact may be the way to go but I don’t think that it has to be for a full month. I strongly recommend that you book a coaching session in order for us to work together so that you can make him miss you and to get back together quickly.
      I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Lost

    hi Adrian, I’ve read a lot of your posts but I am still confuse about my situation. My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for 1year and broke up nov 2015, since then I did not talk to her for 3 months plus. The reason that we broke up is due to 1. Communication issues (she scolded me for almost anything and I lost patience trying to calm her down, we then talked lesser) 2. I repeated one semester in college and did not tell her about it. She found out about it near our 1 year of relationship, and she reacted very badly. She said that she can’t stand being lied to. She asked me several times about what I want to do after I finish with my national service and I could not provide her with an answer. 3. She kept mentioning that I screwed up our 1st year anniversary date, and her birthday date. 4 weeks before I flew to her city for her 21st birthday, she mentioned about breaking up afew times but I didnt say anything to her as because everytime we would reconcile. Throughout the stay she kept scolding me on every little thing and I didn’t get to hold her hand much. Didn’t feel like she’s my girlfriend at all at that point of time. We agreed to end in good terms face to face. She slowly deleted me off social media (Unfollowed me on instagram on the first month, when I like her photo she blocked me. Unfriend me on facebook on the 2nd month). So 3 months has passed and I tried to talk to her, she sounded pissed off and said she was dating another guy. I did not know what to do at that point of time so I pleaded her to come back. She did not respond to my whatsapp. I’ve wrote a letter 1 month later and created a video collage of our photos when we were together. She did not reply as well. I then tried to use reverse physchology and told her on whatsapp in a positive tone that the letter didn’t matter anymore because someone helped me to move on and I’m going to date that girl. She blocked me on whatsapp. I’ve now been trying to post photos of myself looking positive but Im in a mess and did not know what to do. how do I connect with her when she cut me off contact. Will she miss me? Will she ever go to my account to see my post? Please help me I dont know what to do anymore.
    P.s her friends have a negative impression of me cause she complaint to them on her side of the story before. I plan to say thanks to her friends for keeping my ex company when we quarrel, hoping they will change their impression about me and perhaps say some good things about me. Do you think it would work?
    I’ve tried to go out with someone new but I can’t commit. I just want her back.
    Thanks for the time.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey!
      I would love to help you…you’ve made tons and tons of mistake and we will need to dig deep to turn this around. But I love a challenge and truly think that I can help.
      Don’t hesitate to reach out and to book a coaching session if you’re interested in getting expert guidance.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Peter Wong

    Hi Adrian,
    My ex broke with me for six monthes. She is dating with someone for 4 monthes. When I knew she is dating with someone, I was very mad and we had arguments. Now, she block all the social media and cell phone. Even though I wrote a letter for her, she didn’t relay. Also, I do focus on myself, but how can she see the new me if she cutted all the connection with me? Can you give me some advices? Thank you!

    Peter

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Peter,
      If you focus on you and go through a REAL change proving that change will be the easy part! Trust me…Let’s work together, I will open your eyes to different ways to prove that change, even if you are blocked everywhere!
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Alen LC

    Hi Adrian,
    My ex broke with me for six monthes. She is dating with someone for 4 monthes. When I knew she is dating with someone, I was very mad and we had arguments. Now, she block all the social media and cell phone. Even though I wrote a letter for her, she didn’t relay. Also, I do focus on myself, but how can she see the new me if she cutted all the connection with me? Can you give me some advices? Thank you!

    Alen

  • Anon485

    Hello Adrian. My ex of almost 2 years and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. We’ve been still talking and flirting together. I went to go see his this past week and we had sex. The next morning I found out he was talking to this other girl. I confronted him about fooling around with two girls at once and told him to tell her. He wouldn’t tell her about us having sex so I did. Now my ex hates me and wants nothing to do with me but I still love him. What do I do

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey,
      Thanks for sharing your story!
      Don’t chase him…that’s the one thing that I can tell you based on the limited amount of information that you’ve provided. Don’t let your insecurities take over otherwise you will make more and more mistakes.
      I sincerely believe that you can win him back; clearly you still have a very strong connection and attraction to one another. We can leverage that!
      Reach out to me and book a private coaching session if you want my expert insights and to turn this all around.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Kate

    Hey adrain me nd my ex wer in luv for around an year he already hav an ex bt nw suddenly she came bak nd created sympathy he got distracted by that emotionally she triggered his guilt so we had lots of fights regarding and he started finding faults in me and started thinking that she is better than me she have some health probs so she created sympathy with that and she was so nice to him during our fights and now he blamed me for everything and went with her me his friends and parents all are saying him that he is in wrong path but he is not listening to anyone now he is just thinking abt her life once we had sex too in our tradition virginity is very important if I ask him claiming that he is speaking rudely that there is no proof for what we done I can’t sacrifice him even though I have mistakes he too have done certain mistakes bt he is blaming me for everything that is not my prob he can do anything he wants but I want him to be wit me I don’t wanna sacrifice him I need him back I hav pleaded and begged him a lot but he just blocked me am helpless I dono what to do please give me some solution I need him back

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Kate,
      Thanks for sharing your story; it may be best for us to speak on Skype in order for me to understand the social and traditional implications linked with this breakup.
      It’s probably possible to win him back, but time is of the essence because he is now with someone else. Please book a coaching in order for us to work together soon.
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Tammy

    Hi Adrian,
    My ex and I split after 6years, we been off and on for over twenty. I everytime I tried to talk to him he would ignore me. I finally told him in a text that, he made promises he didn’t keep, if I make him mad he always will give me silent treatment or breakup. He makes time for the things he want to do but never time for me. Then all communication stopped and the I get a text oneday that says he is moving on. I was cool with that but told him we have a 19yr old daughter and feel we should still be able to communicate. No response so I asked him why he never cared about our child together but loves everyone else’s children. He was even to busy to come to her graduation. Yet I never said anything about how it made my child and me feel until recently. What is even crazier I still love him but know I’m better off without him.

  • Suceth lopez

    What if he hurt you then you blocked him but now he hates you, will he still miss you and want you back after giving him some space?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Suceth, it depends…I would need to know what happened. In some cases you have to apologize to clear the air!

  • Eliza

    So my ex and I broke up a few months ago. We tried to reconcile twice to no avail. We had been talking in a friendly way for a few weeks and suddenly he said he needed a break. It was not a super hostile conversation but just that he believed we needed some time because we aren’t going to forgive and forget that quickly. I said that was fine we could use a cooling off period, and we said have a good day and hung up the phone (everything seemingly amicable). Then I get online and he has blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. To me, this means he’s really, really trying to move on and get over me. Are my chances shot?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Eliza,
      Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. It’s not that he’s trying to move on, he is trying to control his urge to check up on you. It means he clearly still thinks about you a lot.
      Don’t give up!!!
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Kelsey Reed

    My ex has for the last two months asked me to leave him alone and give him space. What did I do? I panicked and text him and called him and sent him photos of how happy we used to be only to drive him further away from me.. Everyday I wake up missing him more and more and he hates me more and more everytime I try and contact him.. It’s at the point where he will no longer talk to me at all.. All I have been trying to tell him is in different and I know what went wrong and those things would not be issues if i could just get another chance.. But I guess actions speak louder then words because I’m trying to say I’m different while still not giving him the space he asked for.. He said he is completely done with me.. Do I need to give up hope? I cry everyday missing him

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Kelsey,
      All hope is not lost, you can win him back if you manage to control your emotions (not reach out to him) and focus on you and your process of personal growth.
      You’ve been waaaaaay too needy, and made tons of mistakes.
      However I believe that we can still turn it all around.
      I strongly suggest that you book a private phone coaching session with me so that I can provide you with a clear plan to win back the heart of the man you love.
      From my heart to yours,
      Adrian

  • Santana

    I would like one-one coaching Adrian. Can you please point me to the right direction? Thank you so much.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Santana,
      Sorry for the delay in getting back to you. Currently working on a big conference in France. Here is a link to book a private coaching with me: https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
      Looking forward to speaking with you.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • priya

    You really wrote well I hope this could help me to come out of pain , I am very unhappy by my boss GM , he ignores me only because I text him once, but still he regularly maintain a distance from me not even talk and I am do passionate to safe him in office for every his mistake he avoids me and I safe him , due to which hehurts me continuously and ignore, previously I liked him but now not , but he don’t believe and continuously ignore, hate and avoid maintain distance

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Priya,
      I’m not sure I understand the dynamic of your relationship or your current issue. Are you dating your boss? did you just sleep together? please clarify in order for me to help.
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Caroline Lyon

    Hi my ex really hates me he blames everything on me

  • Caroline Lyon

    My ex hates me he’s blaming everything on me nothing was my fault other than caring about him and doing what he wanted me to do for him and now she really really despises me what do I do to have him change his mind

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello Caroline, book a coaching session in order for us to work together !

  • Rafeala

    He went thru my phone and found messages where I had messaged 2 other guys. I did go out with them, no sex was involved. (he dont believe me)He called the relationship off 7/16 i paniced called, texted, email no response for 3 days. I did NC for 5, days, i called on 7/26 i went to his place we talked I cried. I apologized and told him everything I spent the night (his idea) we didnt have sex it was alot of holding hands, and hugging and long deep looks. He said he HATE me but care about at the same time. He want to be with me but, not sure. We texted and talked for about two. Then 7/28 to current nothing.! I tried calling but no response. Im willing to fight but, im not sure if I have a chance or not to rekindle what we have! Should I send him a hand written letter? Who am I suppose to do?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hello Rafeala, trust was broken and it may take some time to rebuild it the right way…but it is definitely possible. Book a coaching session in order for us to work together and turn things around!
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Candy

    My boyfriend hates me because I can’t commuate and tell lies what can I do to change that

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Candy, reach out to me in order for me to help you regain some self confidence and to teach you basic communication tools.

  • Nurhanisah Hj Suhaili

    i fucked everything up. what do… we broke up two months ago and there are times i tried to convince him that he still loves me and cares for me and he did ended up coming back to me but he break it up again because he’s getting annoyed with me and i continued not giving up on him persistently and stubbornly tells him that i love him despite him telling me that he hates me on everything from my past to my friends. i told him that i’ll wait for him and he told me he wont ever come back to me. but i still said it and now he said he’ll find a new gf if that’s what it takes for me to stop texting him.

    • CoachAdrian

      You’ve put him on a pedestal and you are hurting your chances of winning him back.
      Re-invent yourself, prove that you don’t need him to be happy and he will come chasing you back!
      Good luck,
      Adrian

      • Nurhanisah Hj Suhaili

        I expected as much. I don’t know but like what if he wont come chasing me again and I still can’t get over him…

        • CoachAdrian

          He will is you have a clear game plan, I’ve seen it happen time and time again. Be strong!

  • joann

    Hey adrian my my ex left me ten weeks ago we were engaged and he just left his a bit off a mommys boy and she manipulated him into splitting up with me. Anyway ive begged oleaded tried talking and he wont speak now. I really love him and feel really depressed. Hos been putting facebook statises every week that his on love with diffrent girls but they only last one or two weeks. I kust dont know what to do anymore. Can u help me

    • CoachAdrian

      Book a coaching session in order for us to figure out the best way forward!

  • Unlucky Superwoman

    So lost

    I broke up with my ex boyfriend in May. We were very serious, living together and he had bought me a ring, but neither of us were ready for an actual engagement. I ended the relationship because there were some serious shortcomings. Both of us were broken from events that happened around the same time during our relationship from forces outside the relationship. I lost my dream job and his ex-wife stopped allowing him to have contact with his former step kids. I became withdrawn and he became angry. He took his anger out on me, and I became further depressed and withdrawn. We both made the other person feel inadequate. I needed the cycle to end so we could start over and find the relationship we had lost. I tried the no contact, but he would not accept it. He called and texted everyday, stopping by my station at work, calling me for “official” reasons. We would end up chatting for a while. I blocked him on Facebook (I have since in-blocked, then deactivated my Facebook) so I could work on me, yet he still pursued me. He fell apart, was constantly late for work (we work at the same place), reported to work occasionally still drunk. I recently saw that he had become less angry and seemed like he was doing better with many things. So I started interacting with him more and even started to contact him. Things were going well, he still had some things at my house and came by to get them. We talked, he told me he loved me, then I went to dinner with a girl friend. He texted me telling me I looked great and we chatted via text for a little while, he told me I was amazing and special. The conversation even turned very flirty. Two days later, I sat down and wrote him a letter explaining all the thing I had done wrong and apologizing for my role in the decline of the relationship. I told him that I wanted us to be able to move forward without holding on to any of the past pain. I took him the letter when I asked he not give up on us, he told me he thought I already had given up and he had moved on. He was now talking to his sister’s best friend (12 years younger than him), they have only been talking for a few weeks., from what I could tell He told me that I should have said something before then, because his answer would have been yes. He cried as I hugged him and told him I wanted a future with him, but he still rejected me and told me I was too late. Now, he has not returned a single text message, but makes sure I bump into him at work every other day. I always smile and act like my happy self. He will not even return a text about his mail/property that is at my house. When I ended the live in relationship, I never told him that we were completely over, I told him that we both needed to work on things as individuals and if our paths lead back to each other, then maybe we could try again. I have realized that I love him and miss him very much. I see every step of my journey through life with him by my side, he makes me want to be and do better. I am just at a complete loss. I have no idea what to do. We do still work together, so complete no contact will be nearly impossible. Please help me.

    Well, he came by and got the rest of his stuff. We talked for a while and he told me again that he had moved on, there was no chance. He got really angry at me, but calmed down and we talked some more. He told me that he just didn’t trust himself with me. He talked about the strong feelings he had for me and how he had waited for several months for me to give him hope. I told him all the things I did to show him that I had still wanted him to be there. He kept bring up the fact that I had left him hanging for the last three months. But he stayed and talked. He made a point to tell me that he couldn’t see me while he was on vacation from work because he already had other plans. Toward the end of the conversation, he was less sure that it was final, but he never seemed like he was totally sure to start with. He seems like he wants me to prove that I love him. He even went as far as to say that he found it funny that I wanted him back after people had told me he was sleeping around. I told him it had nothing to do with that and I had reached out to him long before I knew anything. He brought up why I didn’t do anything for his birthday (August 1st) and I reminded him that I had called him several days prior and he told me all about his birthday plans, leaving me unable to asked him if I could buy him dinner for his birthday. He said he has to go, but would call me later.

    He didn’t call, he drove over! He immediately told me he was mad at me. He told me he had set boundaries for himself, and was quickly telling me what they were. He told me that he had all these plans with “this other person” and how they were going to Vegas and concerts over the next couple of months. He yelled at me that what I was doing right now was all that he had wanted before, but now he had given himself to another person. He said they had been seeing each other for six weeks. He wouldn’t hug me at first, and kept telling me that he couldn’t stay long. He hugged me and held me before he finally did leave. He peeled out of my dirt driveway. Before he left, he said that if he picked me, he would ruin his relationship with his family, but if things ended badly with the other person, he would ruin his relationship with his sister, because they are best friends. I told him I would do everything I could to make things right with his family. He is so back and forth and so confusing.

    I took him coffee at work one day (because during one of our conversations he told me that he wished I would have done the little things like that), it made him smile. I dropped it off, without saying anything, he came running down the hall after me, all I said was there was coffee, I smiled and I left his area. I sent him a few (like 4) romantic memes, he told his new “girl” and she texted me calling me all sorts of crazy things. I ran into him after I got the texts and ended up showing them to him. All he could say (he started shaking about half way through reading them, like he used to do when he was angry) was that there was no need for the name calling. She informed me that he had blocked me on all his stuff because she asked him to. She also threatened me that I shouldn’t work in his area because it would not go well for me. He brought up a lot of hurtful things that happened during the break up, I apologized for hurting him. He told me that he would kill him when he found out I was with someone else. (During our five-minute conversation she called and called and called his phone). I told him I didn’t want to complicate his life or cause him any more pain so I would stop. He told me he hated to see me hurting so much. Then he told me he would miss me. I asked him if I needed to transfer out of working with him and he smiled and said “No, I think we can handle it.” Then he left. The next day he texted me about something he thought he had left at my house (I couldn’t reply because I’m blocked), then he called me later at work and asked me if I got the text. When I told him I had and I didn’t have the item he started yelling at me about it. Over the next three weeks we will both be on vacation, then we will work directly together three days a week. How bad did I already screwed this up? If he had told me that they were in a serious relationship (he just said he was talking to her, he told everyone I was his girlfriend when we were together) I wouldn’t have done the things he loved me doing before. Should I ignore him or should I be friendly but distant with him because she’s crazy (she threatened me to transfer away from her boyfriend or things would get bad for me) and I don’t want him to be hurt anymore?

    • CoachAdrian

      Please book a coaching session in order for me to help you turn things around !
      Best,
      Adrian

  • Melissa Olivo

    Hi Adrian,
    I was with my boyfriend for 9 years we lived together just broke up a month ago he was cheating have no idea for how long. He broke up with me and still talks to me but is I think seeing the other woman. He had issues with drugs in the past which prevented our sex life for years prior and I caught them in my shower so I assume they are having sex which was a surprise to me because he couldn’t recent years. Are there any chances of winning my ex back if he is having sex with his new friend he cheated on me with and didn’t with me for years? Thanks Melissa

  • Melissa Olivo

    Hi Adrian,
    I also had a question what is the truth about rebound relationships? My ex that I want back was a 9 year rebound relationship. I am afraid the girl he cheated on me with will be long term. Thanks Melissa

  • Marie Guerrero

    My ex broke up with me out of no where a few days ago and I was begging for him back and he was making lame excuses as to why he dumped me. He said if I kept begging he won’t even be my friend and that I’m making the break up hard on him. He was also being mean telling me that he didn’t love me so I grew a backbone and told him to give me back everything I ever bought for him and all of my personal belongings. He got mad that I asked for the gifts that I gave him. When he brought the stuff back I tried to give him a “goodbye” hug and he said “why the fuck would I hug you” and I said “why not? do you hate me? And he said “yeah I fucking hate you” and left quickly. When I looked through the stuff he returned I realized that he never returned my dildo. I honestly don’t think he’s cheating on me, I just think someone or something influenced/ convinced him to leave me.

  • CoachAdrian

    Hey Melissa, I don’t believe that a 9 year relationship can be considered a rebound relationship. You have to give yourself more credit than that!

  • CoachAdrian

    Melissa, I want to help turn things around!
    I truly think that your ex was dealing with deep rooted issues that tore you guys apart and I would like to guide you through the breakup recovery process in order for you to win him back quickly. If you are interested please book a phone or skype coaching session with me so that we can work together.
    Best of luck,
    Adrian

  • Jess

    Hi Adrian, my ex broke up with me a month ago, and said how he wants to stay friends all that stuff. We stayed pretty close, then I saw him to talk things over. He just wanted to cuddle and didn’t want me to leave. We met up later on in the week, again cuddled and watched movies and doing all the couple-like stuff. Holding hands, kiss goodbye, all that. Then, he just didn’t talk to me anymore. And now, 4 weeks after we broke up, he said he didn’t care about me anymore and didn’t want to talk to me at all. I figured that I should just leave him alone for a while. What else can I do?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Jess,
      I agree that giving him space is the right move at this point.
      Let’s chat together over the phone during a coaching session to put a game plan in place.
      Hope to hear from you soon.
      Best,
      Adrian

    • CoachAdrian

      Jess please book a coaching session and reach out to me, it’s the only way for me to truly help you!

  • elliciabrenner

    hi my ex bf broke up with me because he think I hide sercert and lie to him and I did cheat on him a couple of time but I realized I love him to death and I don’t know what to do about it and he saying that he has a thing he forgive but he don’t forget what I did to him but I know what I did was wrong and idk how I earn his trust again and be with him again

    • CoachAdrian

      Let’s work together to regain his trust.
      Book a coaching session.
      Regards,
      Adrian

  • CoachAdrian

    Hey Marie, let’s talk about this offline…
    Book a coaching session in order for us to discuss at length.
    Best,
    Adrian

  • Julie Delaney

    I decided to stay single because I feel people I dated didn’t feel I was worthy of them because they thought they had better career and looks. But I want a meaningful relationship or friendship. How can I get people to notice my inward qualities and not my income or appearance.

  • Panama

    I’ve been with my ex for months before we moved in with each other once we move in with each other it was good for a while until a old flame reached out to me on social media advising me that he’s been sleep with her also. After hearing his side I felt that he was telling me the truth. However I took things in my hands to make sure it was the truth by meeting up with this ex of his behind his back. “Right there was mistake number 1.” When I met with this ex who clearly had a obsession with him I tape recorded our conversation and he find out about when going through my phone, my crazy ass never deleted the conversation. He went crazy after hearing the women of his dreams i.e. Me To betray him in such a way. Shot n sweet we parts ways, had sex a few times after, talked for months trying to tell him how sorry I was and nothing worked I broke his trust. He moved on started a whole other relationship with someone else a high school love that was over with within 6 months. Ok so his social media pages where back up again n I reached out. He told me that he has always loved me nothing changed but things will never go back to where they were. I said nothing other than when can I see you….saw him had amazing sex, but he has gone cold again, yes I’ve made some threats but he knows how I am about being ignored. I feel he’s my soulmate, and his feels where the same. He loved me but I wasnt so into him like he was me. When we part ways my feeling grow stronger. I love him and I do want him back my question is after saying all this do you think the feeling are meutral?

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Panama,
      I think that I can help you win him back; book a coaching session in order for us to work together!
      Sincerely,
      Adrian

  • Jessica Moore

    My ex cheated on me and had a baby , we had been together for 3 years. The sad thing is, he cheated on me the same week I barried my mother. We tried to work things out, because I understand people make mistakes, but I couldn’t stop throwing it up. We are now separated, and I’m still crazy about him. He is a good guy, a gentleman, a great provider, a family man. He just can’t stop talking to other women. I want to get back with him , but he says that I have anger issues. Please give me advise!!!

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Jessica,
      This seems like a complex dynamic and I would love to be able to speak to you over the phone in order to advise you as best as possible.
      Please book a coaching session with me if you are interested.
      Regards,
      Adrian

  • Crystal

    My ex boyfriend I love him so much and I’m very much hurting inside and I miss him and I want him back but he won’t even talk to me he said to his mom that he wants to move on and that he loved me but don’t love me anymore I was with him for 8 and half years we were find and all of of sudden he don’t love me anymore and he won’t talk to me I love him and he was the only guy I ever trusted I gave him something I can never get back he has it and I have his virginty so I’m just confused why all of the sudden he turn on me like that

  • Georgia

    Adrian, I echo Justyne’s sentiments… 🙂

    I made a HUGE mistake. My boyfriend is Muslim, I am not. We have been dating for almost three years. It is not just my current broken heart talking when I say he is the love of my life. He told me long ago that he was divorced and had no children. He was skittish for the first year and a half of our relationship but has come to trust me. He has been telling me for the past year that he needs me, I have become indispensable, he can’t live without me etc… He has really bad mood swings, which have made our relationship very difficult (mostly for me) but I have always been there for him to see him through even though it cost me dearly and he has thanked me for staying.

    I recently found out that he is married and has a teen aged son. When I confronted him, I expected anger and excuses, but he was just relieved and not angry at all. However, he refused to discuss the situation, other than to say he couldn’t get divorced. Some things began to fall into place for me- he would sometimes take holidays without me, and be gone for a week or two at a time. He wouldn’t tell me where he was going and I never saw a single photo of his trips. If pressed he would say he was meeting a university friend. He would occasionally go to the city for conferences and it was radio silence the entire time he was away. I admit, I was very hurt by this and very suspicious, but when you love someone it is amazing what you can justify.

    Recently, we had been planning to relocate from our current location to a nearby city, a few hours away. This happens to be where his wife lives which caused me some trepidation. We are both currently seeking employment there. We are not planning to live together. I know that sounds odd but we both need our own space, but still want to be in a committed relationship. We planned to be in close proximity, though, and monogamous absolutely- as we have been for the past three years here.

    He went away for job interviews at the beginning of August, one month ago. Since we were both actively planning to move to the city together I expected to hear from him, especially regarding his interviews. What I got was radio silence for 7 days. I was so upset! I brought it up once, but he would not answer my questions and I was very hurt by his brush-off. I highly suspected he was with his wife, and began to wonder if she was even aware that he considered himself separated.

    Ever since he went for his job interviews, he has been acting oddly- cold and distant one moment, relatively normal the next. We have not been intimate since before he went to the city, he said he is too stressed. I started getting very worried and anxious that something had changed but he flatly refused to talk about it. Normally we spent 2-3 weeknights doing outdoor activities or watching TV together and always spent our weekends in one another’s company. Though he would text me several times a day, when I asked him over for dinner or a movie he would blow me off with a lame excuse.

    After a month of barely seeing him I was extremely stressed out, not sleeping and wondering if he even wanted to be with me anymore. Friday night I asked him to dinner and a movie and when I received another brush-off… I snapped.

    I was so hurt and angry, and I committed the ultimate sin: I called his wife. She was surprised- she did not know he was seeing someone, but she was not angry at all. In fact, she confirmed that they were not able to divorce, so he wasn’t lying to me after all. She was really quite nice (she also mentioned in our conversation about his mood swings, so it has been an ongoing problem for some time). She asked several questions, most of which I answered, even though I was already severely, severely regretting the whole scenario. I obviously could not hit the “undo” button, and I knew she would be in contact with him to repeat our conversation.
    I texted him immediately, and told him what I had done so that he would be forewarned. I knew that he would be beyond furious and would go into “radio silence” and I am correct.

    He had some furniture delivered to his suite this morning so I tried to talk to him but he was very, very angry and kicked me out.

    I don’t think that his wife has spoken to him yet, but I know she will and I can’t ask her not to. I wish I could undo all of this and I highly doubt that I can fix it. If he had just talked to me about things instead of going silent or brushing me off all the time I would never have opened this can of worms. I was left in the dark, wondering what was going on when we had huge changes pending and he had been acting soooo weird. There really wasn’t any infidelity, just a complex situation that we could have dealt with by discussing it together. We easily could have worked through things. His silence and my ultimate frustration led to this very terrible lack of judgement on my part and I am so sorry.

    I don’t expect this is the type of situation that I can easily repair, if at all, but if there is any advice that you can give me it would be appreciated.

  • Johanne Bouchard

    Hello, i have a question for you….

    Is it possible to get back my ex if he told me that he doesn’t want me in his life anymore?

  • Charlotte

    What is your email so I could contact you privately??

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Charlotte,
      Book a coaching session in order for us to address all of your questions and issues!
      Regards,
      Adrian

  • Jessa

    It’s been three months since my ex-bf said he would call the cops if I ever tried to contact him or go near his family ever again. (I showed up drunk at 1am to his house crying to his mom and telling her how much I loved her son) I don’t know what to do. I’m ashamed of my actions, I’ve thought so much about what went wrong in our relationship and I want him back but I don’t know how to contact him or even go near him again. Please help.

    Sincerely,
    Jessa

  • Courtney

    my ex broke up with me becuse i let another guy kiss me while we were together but the thing is that the guy got dared to kiss me so i didnt think anything about it and it has been two weeks since he beoke up with me over text and im still hung up on him i relize my mistake and my ex/ bestfriend hates me now

    • Coach natalie

      Hi Courtney,
      I’m very sorry to hear about your current situation. I know you feel your ex boyfriend hates you, but try taking this time to reflect on the relationship, as well as identify recurring issues. This will put you in the right position to get him back.
      Sincerely,
      Coach Natalie

  • Gabby

    I have a ex we have been broken up for about 5 months I cant get over him he still stayed in contact since September but I’m not going to lie I came off crazy cause I kept constantly calling and texting popping up unexpectedly and it turned him off and now he wants nothing to do with me at all I really did that cause I missed him and thought maybe if he saw me or heard from me he would miss me again but no I haven’t contacted him for about a month now but I miss him and atleast want to be back on speaking terms but I think he hates me I don’t know what to do?

    • Coach natalie

      Hi Gabby,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, as I know it’s really painful to love an ex boyfriend and feel stuck wondering what to do to get him back. To be honest, though, I’m missing a lot of pieces here in order to make a thorough assessment. I either encourage you to take a look at our e-book, as it’s a self-coaching tool to help you decipher the underlying issues of your relationship (here’s the link: https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/70-pro-tips-to-get-back-with-your-ex-for-women/) or consider booking a session with me, so we can break it down together.
      Wishing you the very best.
      Sincerely,
      Coach Natalie