My ex is dating someone else, are we officially over?

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My ex is dating someone elseAre you wondering if you still have a chance of getting your ex back if he or she is dating someone new? What can you do in order to reignite the flame between you when your ex has a new boyfriend or girlfriend? What’s the best solution for getting him of her back under these circumstances, while staying in control of your emotions?

Before we dive in, I have some good news for you. If you’re wondering what chance you have of getting back together, know that it’s totally possible, even if you say my ex is dating someone else; even if they say they’re happy and in love.

Since 2007, we’ve accompanied over ten thousand men and women, and I’ve come across this situation many times. About one third of the coaching sessions I do are based on this very subject; what I call, “the next.” In this article, I am going to explain what you can do to change the course of action, and how to get back in control of the situation and to have a date with your ex! It’s time to change your approach! Learn to look at things in a different light, and augment your chances of success. Your main problem could be that the way you perceive the situation is incorrect, especially if you’re putting all your focus on the next, and not enough on improving yourself.

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When you say, “My ex is dating someone else, so we are officially over,” you’re sending a negative message. Stop these thoughts immediately, and read this article carefully. Of course, don’t ever hesitate to leave me a comment below. Even if you think your case is hopeless, there are always options.

Why does my ex need to show off how happy they are?

This paragraph is extremely important because you’ll learn how to understand your ex’s behavior, and you’ll see that it’s totally possibly to get him or her back, even if there’s someone new. In order to do this, you have to get back in control of the situation and rekindle the flame!

During a breakup, when you made the decision to separate from someone, society expects you to always be fine. You’re not allowed to show your fears, your panic when faced with the future that isn’t what you were expecting, or even that sometimes you think about your ex. This is why your ex HAS TO look like they’re happy.

I’m not saying that your ex is just playing a role, but rather that they have no choice but to look happy. This is why you’re thinking all hope is lost, because you take it as them rubbing it in your face that they’re over you and are moving on.

In my experience, I’ve never heard someone say, “I’m leaving you, but I love you, and I know we’ll be happy together very soon.” I’m betting this NEVER happens. So when you ask, ”My ex has started dating someone else, does this mean that there’s no hope left for us getting back together?”” you have to keep in mind the pressures that society in placing on your ex.

They don’t have the right to show any signs of weakness or to complain, so don’t ever act based on their behavior. Take the time to develop the perfect attitude (which will be determined by your plan of action.) At the same time, don’t expect your ex to feed you hints and clues, as this would be a bit too easy.

It’s in your hands to get back in control to never again be dependent on, or overly compliant to your ex. Don’t ever show that you’re hurting, or make yourself look needy, because this defaces your image. If you want to get back together with an ex that’s already with someone new you’re going to have to find a strong sense of personal worth!

My ex is dating someone else: How do I make them come back?

Now that you know your ex has to play up the situation in order to adhere to what society (and their loved ones) expect of them, you will have to work on making them want to come back, but proving that you are the ideal person for them. How do you show how much you’ve improved?

As a general rule, people have a tendency to beg their ex to stay in contact, or worse still, to make promises of change as you plead with them to take you back.

By acting like this, all you’re doing is decreasing your self-worth, and you’re being dependent. The only thing this will do is making your ex want to get farther and farther away from you. The issue at hand here isn’t sentimental, it’s, ” “How can I prove to my ex that he or she will be happy with me?”

When I’m talking about proof, I’m not asking you to tell me all about how you can adopt the right behavior; I’m asking you to do everything in your power to get on it, and start taking action! Your ex doesn’t need to hear things like, “I love you;” they can get that from their new relationship.

In turn, what you can do is work on establishing a good bond with your ex. Focus on affinity, laughter, exchanges… Everything that will make your ex realize, “Wait a minute, I always have the best time with… (you!)”

So you now have an idea of the best way to make your ex come back, even if they’re already with someone new. Unfortunately each case is different, which means you’ll have to adapt your strategy to your ex in order to slowly but surely get closer to him or her.

My ex is making me suffer, they’re taking it too far…

Oftentimes when I’m in a coaching session, I meet men and women that describe a sticky situation to me: “My ex is dating someone new, and is broadcasting it everywhere. They’re posting pictures all over Facebook, but with me, it wasn’t the case. They’re going out all the time, my ex is showering him or her with love, but with me, it wasn’t ever the case.”

You don’t know this yet, but keep in mind that eight out of ten relationships are nothing but Band-Aid relationships and your ex is desperately trying to move on.

Can you imagine that “80% of relationships after a breakup are Band-Aid relationships?”

In these situations, the person in question will find someone just so that they don’t have to be alone, and so that they can quickly turn the page. What I’m going to say next is very important: Don’t ever focus on your ex’s behavior. You need to focus on the method of getting them back that you will have planned out.

In this delicate situation, you’re scared of losing him/her forever because their happiness is publicized for all to see. And yet, there is an important principal in human relationships to take into consideration: “A human being will never accept losing someone that belongs to them.”

If you’re able to rebuild yourself, to have a genuine smile on your face, you will grab your ex’s attention. For him/her, it’s inconceivable that you would have moved on so seamlessly, so you must prove that you’re on a new path that has nothing to do with your ex.

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This is an excellent way to regain control of the situation, little by little, and before you know it, your ex will be the one depending on you.

I come across this situation very often. It is because I hear, “What do I do if my ex has a next” that I make this specific eBook: “70 Pro Tips To Get Back With Your Ex

You’ll learn that radio silence isn’t the best option if contact is already being established. I’ll also deliver to you my coaching secrets on how to get closer to your ex without them picking up on it, and how to plant a seed of doubt in their mind concerning their decision to leave you.

What do you say to turning this situation back around? To reigniting the spark?

I invite you to take action to stop worrying, and to get back in control. Now is the time to show that YOU ARE THE IDEAL PERSON!

I wish you the best.

Kind regards,


88 Responses

  1. Hi Adrian,

    I am Ian. My ex broke up with me for 4 months and she has been dating with someone for 2 months. I know it is important to be cool with her new relationship. However, I checked her IG yesterday, and then I found she is so happy in her new relationship. Also, she deleted all my contact in social media because I was very needy and desperate after broke up. Also, I was begging to her when I know she is dating someone. I have already done a lot of things that push her away. Now, I am following the “no contact rule” but I think she is moving on and forget me already. I don’t know, maybe her new relationship was a rebound at the beginning and now it becomes a rewarding relationship. Maybe it’s time to give up and move on? Can you give me some advice?

    Best regard,


    1. Hello Ian,
      I believe that I can help you win her back but first we will need to lay the foundation through a process of personal development in order for you to once again become the one that she fell for in the first place. We must undo all of the mistakes that you made…
      If you are serious about doing everything possible to win her back, please reach out to me and book a coaching session.
      It’ll be my pleasure to help!

        1. It is possible through personal growth and by re-engaging with her the right way! Book a session with me and I will tell you all about it

          1. Hi Adrian,
            I don’t know. I think it’s time to let go and move on. I know your Ebook and coach lesson are so good but I think I shouldn’t have any expectation toword my ex.
            Thank you anyway!



      1. Hi Adrian…
        My ex broke up with me and i have this feeling she left me for someone else.
        We were together for two years, the relationship started fast between both of us meaning that we clicked right away and she suggested that i move in with her a month into the relationship.
        About 6-8 month into the relationship she was asking me about marriage and a child, to which i said that i wasn’t thinking about marriage at the time.
        See she’s 35 and worried about not being able to get pregnant the longer she waits.
        We ultimately broke up about a year and a half later and i moved out December first.
        She kept reaching out to me the first couple of month and even took me out for my birthday (she still wanted for us to be back together at that point).
        By february she told me that she went on a few dates but nothing interesting until she met a guy that she dated for a month before i came back into the picture telling her that i taught about her request for marriage and was willing to take that leap of faith with her cause i truly do love her.
        She did leave the guy and we got back together March 7.
        She move out from her apartment and came to live with me 2 month after we had gotten back together.
        Everything was going as planned but this time around we couldn’t agree on a timeline for the marriage, we both just started new jobs and i TRY to explain to her that we need to get with the flow of work and getting the new apartment that i just got together, meaning furnishing it.
        With the stress of our conversations about all of this it made me distant from her.
        I wasn’t being affectionate enough or intimate with her as i should have.
        This women was all over me and showed me so much love that i regret the way i acted out.
        Ultimately she unblocked that guy and they went out one night, she lied to me about it at first but then i went through her phone and saw the text messages between them.
        She said she was sorry and cried and said that she was out of character but the next few days she would hid her phone and it was still going on.
        Two weeks later June 20 she moved out while i was at work but insists that she didn’t leave me for him.

        Any thoughts on this matter?

  2. Hi…i hv been in a long dstnce relationship from past two years… N recently my guy got attracted towards someone else.the grl from his town…and he says that he have no feelings left for me now. At the same time he mentions that i hv been the best girl till the date in his lifr. .but he is helpless to deal vod the emotions he has got for the new girl. And as a result we broke up… I beggd tried evrythng posdible to make him understand but all the efforts were futile… please suggest how to get him back coz i love him so much… N i feel it is just the overlapping of feelings in my absence he developed

    1. Hey Sona,
      Long distance relationship can be tricky to navigate but the good thing is that you can also make this distance work to your advantage in order to make him miss you and want you back. I would love to help you in this process, and show you how we can leverage social media to make you a challenge again.
      Please book a coaching session in order for us to work together quickly and turn it all around.

  3. Hi Adrian,

    This happened with me. I had a girlfriend whom I’ve known for 2 years and our relationship was on for 8months. We had a great relationship and alot of people envied us. But then, she broke my heart on my birthday and became closer with this guy who was already taking her out in my relationship with her since they’ve known each other. Most of my friends say it was cheating… I do to.

    I spent the last 3 months trying to get back to her. We also had a lot of arguments and some social media drama….I found out all of her reasons why she broke up with me were lies. Now, she’s with the same guy who destroyed our relationship. I confronted the guy but he just blocked me in facebook.

    My ex and I never had a problems or so it seems. But what really happened was she was talking with this guy regarding our problems instead of me. Each time I ask if there’s a problem, she keeps on saying “No, it’s ok…”

    I was also diagnosed with severe depression… And it’s affecting me so much it transcends physically. I no longer know what to do. I tried building myself up and it worked for a month. Then a friend of mine just made a bad comment about her, I lost control and went back on my state of depression but this time, I can no longer advance. It’s so hard because I wanted to go back to her badly…

    Adrian, I don’t have the funds right now for a session but can you at least give me some pointers on how to do this? Thanks… 🙂

    1. Hey,
      Thanks for sharing your story. If you want tailored and relevant feedback it’s always best for us to speak on the phone. There’s so much information that I would want to know about you and your relationship in order to provide you with a sound plan. But based on what you are telling me here, I can already tell you that you need to regain a sense of inner peace. Focus on regaining some self confidence and going through a true process of personal development in order to snap out of your depression. You will need to inspire her to come back, and not come from a place of weakness. It’s still possible to turn this around, I would love to help…you know where to find me if you change your mind about booking a phone coaching session with me!

      1. Is it still possible when the damage after the break up was too much? Me doing most of it because of my anger and jealousy towards the guy she made as a “back up” and labeled as a “bestfriend”? Or her family hates me because they see it only through her experience and not what I had to go through? I mean I love this girl a lot and I’m in pain not to mention all that I did for her, no one has done… But now she seems happy with the other guy… 🙁

        Anyway,big thanks coach Adrian. 🙂 I’ll try to get funds for a coaching session.

        1. Hey JM,
          Truth is that it’s tough for me to say unless I know exactly what went wrong, and what mistakes were made.
          Let’s work together in order for me to assess the damage and provide you with a plan accordingly.

      2. Hey me and my ex broke up for about two weeks now but I’m still here in her house. I’ve been looking for apartments and stuff. She seems to be fine with it and has even suggested apartments for me. For the time that I’m here I’m trying to figure out a way to deal with being in the same house with her I don’t want to smother her she really doesn’t say anything. She had some type of relationship with my brother and didn’t tell me about it when I moved in all 3 of us live together. She spent most of her time with him going places and out to eat and movies and for me it was awkward and she couldn’t respect that so I distance myself she didn’t want to talk about it we never resolved the issue. I’m not totally innocent either. Then a couple days after we broke up she told me about a abortion she had and didn’t tell me and now I’m crushed about it all she could say was sorry. I know I’m a difficult person to talk too. I just don’t know if I should just save up and go or to try and win her back. I’ve had feelings that things wasn’t working out I can admit it. She said the abortion changed her and she just stop trying. In my heart I know it’s over but I still want her am I crazy ?

        1. You’re not crazy, and circumstances can change quite quickly. If you evolve and become the person she always wanted to be with, she will obviously regret her decision to breakup and questions everything. I would love to help you, if you are willing to work together.

  4. My ex and I had a messy break after 8 years together. We’ve been broke up 10 weeks now. We have a six year old together. Yes the end was rough. I worked a lot the whole relationship and his work ethic sucked to say the least. He got a job about a year and a half ago and was finally making good money. That meant I could work less and spend more time with our child. It didn’t last long because he quit. I was so mad and as time went on I was working 60-80 hrs a week and complained a lot. We fought a lot and he knew I was tired and overworked. I worked on not being so angry after I realized my family was important and I didn’t want to loose it. He also got a new job and was making a little money. So we would go on and off arguing then not for a while. Then one day we got into a fight and he left. A week later he was with another girl. Driving her car around, and spending all his time with her. After all this idk if this is repairable or not, but I want to try. I want my family back. Is there hope? I’m keeping busy and going on, but I’m so mad at him because I’ve always stuck by him through a lot that he’s put me through and he left when I was having a rough time. That being said I’m having a hard time being nice.

  5. My ex broke up with me 2 months ago . We were together for 5 years . He already has someone else they’ve been together for a month I believe . He tells me he still loves me and thinks of getting back together . He still thinks of me while he’s with her . They go out together so much and he’s posting pictures of them on social media . Something he never really liked doing while he was with me . His new girl has a lot of things he never liked me doing . How can he move on so quick ? Do I still have a chance with him ? We both still love eachother and have feeling for eachother we still talk everyday .

    1. Hi Cristal,
      Thank you for reaching out and being willing to share your story. I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to respond; my new site is launching and I’ve been tied up. Just because your ex is dating someone else doesn’t mean they aren’t also feeling a lot of emotional pain and stress. I think you’d benefit from adopting a 360 approach to the breakup, so you can understand what your ex is feeling. The Crash Course on my website will be a great tool for you. If you have any questions, let me know and we can schedule a session.

  6. Are you still responding to questions? I have situation that is kind of crazy. I would love your opinion because its all very confusing and all my family and friends feel like its just so weird.

    1. really quick my story in short is i left, she begged for three months and i finally said ok lets work on it. She became guarded and scared and told me i needed to change, see a doctor, therapist all of which i did. She said she thinkgs there is hope but does not know because she cant trust me. Well in the past 3 weeks she has developed a crush on someone else. She says its nothing and not between he and i and between me and can she trust me. we were together 10 years and have a 4 year old. I think he is a crush or rebound and wont last because i dont see how she could want this for three months tell me she still loves me and then just be done like that. I have since just backed off the past two weeks only having contact about our daughter. I feel like focusing on myself and having gotten better is great but while still wanting to save my marriage i feel like she is still not ready or any closer. Do i have a chance of getting her to come back and fight for this with me or is the fact she has a crush so quickly after agreeing to come back to her a bad sign. There is a ton of information if you need more. I just dont see how reconciling is what she wanted the whole time and as soon as i say yes she backs off. I know i begged a lot that first month same as she did and she told me it was overwhelming which is why i stopped but it seem like since i stopped she has stayed distant and i know because she has that butterfly feeling with him it is slowing progress. IS this just a rebound and i will have a chance, is backing off and only communicating about our daughter the best thing to do?

      1. Hi,
        I’m Coach Natalie and I’m the newest member of the team. I identified with your story, and so wanted to a take a moment to reply. Thank you for sharing and for being willing to be vulnerable; the situation sounds tough. If your ex is dating someone else, what you should do is try to develop a sense of the relationship through her eyes. It is important to recognize that she is likely feeling a lot of hurt, too, and is likely using this new crush as a distraction. Adopting a 360 perspective will help you find the needed solutions to get her back. No matter how much it hurts, don’t let her having a new crush derail your individual progress, as that is the most critical ingredient in being the man you want to be and the one she needs.

  7. Adrian,

    My ex and I dated for 4 1/2 years. We met my freshman year of college and hit it off instantly. We began “officially” dating about 2 months after we met and fell head over heels in love with each other. We were the best of friends, we knew all of each other’s deepest secrets, needs, wants and dreams. We had the best time planning for our future together and bought a house together. (We lived together in an apartment for a year and a half before we bought a house) The only issue we had during our relationship was his brother’s girlfriend who tried relentlessly to cause us to break up.. She didn’t succeed, but she did bring stress into our relationship. I would get aggravated at him for not talking to his brother about the issue after I had done everything I could to make peace. From there, (year 4) things went downhill. I loved him with my entire heart and still do, but I became bored and scared of the future with him. I was scared that if he couldn’t take a stand with such a small thing, other obstacles that we may encounter in the future would come unbearable. We began to fight and it broke my heart to fight with him. So one day I decided it would be best if we took some time apart. I told him I loved him with every part of me and that it was killing me to go, but that I felt that it was best at the time because I didn’t want us to hurt each other any more given the fact that we loved each other so much. I wanted to see what fate would do, ultimately, I just wanted to see fate bring us back together stronger than ever because I was so sure that was what would happen. 2 months went by and he started accusing me of cheating on him with a coworker prior to the separation (the co worker was nothing more than a friend who was helping me see through a tough time), but I never cheated on him nor could I even bring myself to imagine doing something like that to him. I still believe this man is the love of my life and it’s been 2 years since we broke up.. So after accusations were made, we ended up trying to work it out, and got back together. He cheated on me with his friend’s wife and they have been “happily” dating since the day I left one year ago.. I am still so in love with him and have forgiven him for I understand my first move away from our relationship may have traumatized him.. I believe true love holds no record of wrongs.. And I promised him I would love him forever. How do I get through to him? she has blocked my number from his phone, and also blocked me from all of his social media accounts. Please help.. I feel like I am going out of my mind trying to figure out what to do about this.

  8. Hi, my names Chris. In august my gf left me. Personally it had been a really tough few months, I lost my licence, my job, and nearly my home. She stood by me but as time wore on and I struggled to find work, inevitably my confidence suffered, as did our relationship. She finally had enough and left. We didn’t live together, she has two lovely children. I love this girl wholeheartedly and was/still am devestated. I know during this time I wasn’t the best and how hard it was for both of us. When she told me, of course I begged, but actually totally understood. I had no fight or confidence left and begrudgingly let her go. I knew that I wasn’t good for her at that point. We had minimal contact, of course I miss her but knew I had to become better. I suspected she was seeing someone, but respectfully didn’t ask. I wrote her a letter recently, not a begging letter, more an apology really, but a very nice and one!! She replied quickly saying I didn’t have to apologise and she blames herself too. But, she’s seeing someone else, it’s early days. It’s clearly not early days, but I had to tell her I’m happy for her, even though my heart is breaking. Again. I love her so much, I’m doing better in life now, and feel more confident. Any ideas or new insight would be much appreciated. Thanks

    1. Hi Chris,
      Thank you for your share. When our ex’s begin to date someone else, it can really send our confidence on a downward spiral. I encourage you to remember that this new person, whoever they are, has nothing to do with your relationship. I know it can really hurt, but try not to think about it. Instead, focus your efforts on becoming the man she needs (and you need!) to be. If you can get your finances in line, secure a job that makes you happy, then you’ll in turn be happier and more confident. This will be how you get your ex back. If you need any help, please feel free to reach out to me. I can support.
      Coach N.

  9. Hi.,I broke up with my ex last September while gong through a bout of depression. I had never gone through anything of that capacity and I just became numb and felt worthless and pushed her away. I wasn’t able to open up to her like I should have. A month went by in which I was still in limited contact with her andat the same time decided it was time for me to get help. I did and I became better. I realised everything I’d done was wrong. I began trying to get her back crying and begging but she told me she had detached herself from the situation and didn’t want to go back. I have been begging since October and in December she told me she’s talking to someone but him and her are nothing as of yet but she likes him and likes talking to him and would like to see where things go. But I kept begging every so often. Then I gave up and wrote her a long apologetic text. I tried not to contact her for a couple of days but I couldn’t. So I got her to meet me for dinner but she said it has to be 100% as friends nothing more and I agreed. The night was fun we laughed talked and sang a cute song together and she left. I’ve tried to “accidentally” bump into her a couple of times. Yesterday (January 11th 2016) I decided to meet her one last time and I wrote all my thoughts down and everything I’d experienced during that month I let her go. I told her all of my issues and how I was dumb to hVe let her go then I told her that I have seen the things inside me which need changing and I’ve taken action but while I’m stronger now I am still missing something from my life which is her. I had a ring she had given me and I told her I want her to have it back so everytime she looks at it she’ll know what it means our love. How much I love her and wNt to be with her. She cried but didn’t say anything and we went on our ways. Did I fuck up? Please help me. This woman is all I’ve ever wNted. By the way she’s palestinian and I’m of African descent.we dated for 2 years and had a good relationship until a couple months leading up to my unhealthy emotional demise.

    1. Hi Henry,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation, and I know how hard it can be when our ex is dating someone else, while we’re still here trying to fix the relationship. It seems to me like your plan will require extensive strategy in order to get her back, but I can help. If you’re interested, I invite you to book a session and we can discuss in detail over the phone.
      Coach N.

  10. Me an my ex of 4 years broke up about 3 months ago. We have a son together.. I had lost my job an developed a habbit of drinking. Witch disconnected me from the relationship probably way prior to the break up. After she left with my son. I went to treatment, seeing what I had lost an the way my life was going I knew I needed help. After successful completing the program. She started letting me come see my son. I had found a job. And still remain working there I have got a new car. And working on bettering myself even further. I reached back out to her saying these are my plans. I’m sorry for my behavior I hope that you can come to forgive me, because having my family back is really important to me. Having said that I was answered with something I never thought I’d here. She’s moving on. She found someone an she’s really happy with him. I’ve lost all hope and I am completely beside myself. Saying that I will not let it be an excuse to drink. I will continue bettering myself. but it just all seems pointless with out my son and her here with me

  11. well me and my girlfriend been dating for a month. we was happy and together every week. i kept assuming she was cheating but she wasn’t the whole time. we text here and there but the conversation is very little and rare. now im finding out she is dating somebody new is kind of hurting me inside. sometimes i think she isn’t coming back but in all i don’t know that but i really need help to what to do.!

  12. My ex broke up with on November 2016. We were together for 3 years. Few month back (before break up), We got into big fight because she told her parents about a guy (third party) wanted to meet her parents. I was shocked and got emotional because I trusted her very much. She said she will stay loyal with me until the end. After that incident, I tried to reflect on my actions. I felt really guilty because I got mad at her. I tried to change my behavior, lowered down my ego, control my emotions and so on.

    On early Nov 2016, my stepmother died due to cancer. I felt like all the burden and responsibility to take care of my family has been put on my shoulder. Btw, I’m 22. I’m too stressed out due to all the problems. I tried to consult my ex how to handle the problems and so on, and she helped me as much as she can. 1 week after the incident, she called me and she told me she wanted to break up. She said she already found someone else (the third party guy I mentioned just now). You see, I’m still frustrated with the family issues, and then suddenly she wanted to break up with me. I’m too stressed out to the point I want to commit suicide like got into car accident or something like that. I tried to call, text her to discuss about it, desperately.

    I wanted to fix everything with her. I also had told her many times that I wanted to meet her parents after I finished my studies (I’m currently in my final year). I tried my best to persuade her to get back until at the end of December 2016. Right before at the end of 2016, she finally agreed to fix our relationship. After new year’s eve, I went to her campus at the other region of the country ( about 500km from my place). We’re okay although the third party guy still contact her. Our relationship last for 1 1/2 month. After Valentine’s Day, she told me she can’t forget about that guy no matter how hard she tried.

    One day, that guy got injured, and you know what happened after that? My ex went to help him alone without asking for his friends for help. I tried to ask her nicely, why she acted like that? She said she worried and she loves him so much. She can’t let him go like that. I was so frustrated back then. And then, she said she wanted to get back with him.

    Do I still have a chance with her? Should I just move on? I really love her so much, and I’ve been loyal and trust her for 3 years. I know and I believe she still loves me as I helped her many times when she got sick back in the old days. What should I do to get back with her? I’m currently in NC for 8 days. Please, help me.

  13. Me and me ex were together for 8 years. The week before she broke my heart, her and i spent the week working on her rental home.
    The whole time we spoke about marriage, moving in together and the future.
    Then the next week i called her like always hi how’s everything? She cut me off with im going to start dating someone new and (HE IS BETTER THEN YOU ) then the phone went dead…..
    All i could do was text her (i wish you all the best in life for you and your new love ) that was all . It’s been 3 weeks now and not a word.

    1. Hi Itamar,
      I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. Just because your ex is dating someone else, doesn’t mean it’s over. However, I’d like to learn a bit more about what happened. I invite you to book a session with me. I’d love to help.
      Coach N.

  14. My ex and i broke up after an 8 year relationship. My family did not approve our entire relation and i could not confront them and somehow i did not show him how much he means to me. He asked me to merry him about a month ago, and i said yes but a did not have the courage to talk to my family. And he said he could not take this situation anymore and broke up with me and after a week he started dating someone else. She is older then him, she has a 2 year old baby from another marriage and her first name is the same as mine. I am afraid we will not get back together, maybe this woman will convince him to get over me. His family also supports his new relationship and they are insisting so much to be with her. He doesn’t want to talk to me, we’ve spoken on the phone few times because i insisted and he said he is happy with this new girlfriend and he doesn’t think i could ever change. Do i still have a chance?

  15. My ex broke up with me 3yr ago . We were together for 2 1/2 years. She already had someone after the first 4 months after we broke up . She a lesbian or that’s what I was lead to believe. She got involved with her best friend that’s a guy put picture up in basically saying she happy , our relationship I guess you can say ended badly or she feel it did so she tells me she doesn’t want anything to do with me . I’m not quite sure of that because she blocked me from certain socal media site but then she unblocked me in she put certain stat up stating she doesn’t want to see me , so I’m confused as to if she still love me or does she really hate me because she make stat about me . Would I sti have a chance to rekindle or should I just leave it alone completely

    1. Hi Lady red,
      Thank you for your share. In order to assess this and your chances thoroughly, I’ll need to know more. But, dating something after years apart is possible. I invite you to book a session with either Adrian or myself. We can help.
      Coach N.

  16. My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago. She cheated on me in our apartment 3 days before our 2 year anniversary. She said I didn’t make her happy and that she was tired of hurting me. I love her so much and it hurts to know that she has someone else. I want her back because my heart can not give up on her. But she seems so happy with this new person. I’m starting to think that this person makes her happier then I ever did. Do I have a chance or should I walk away?

    1. Hi Sierra,
      Thank you for your share. I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I feel like you need to spend time thinking about what drove her to feel it OK to cheat. It’ll be in these issues that you’ll be able to decide whether or not sticking around is worth it for you. If you need help identifying this, I have a few excellent exercises to help you. I invite you to book a session with me.
      wishing you the best today and always,
      Coach N

  17. My ex and I broke up almost 4 months ago because I ended up moving away and the long distance relationship simply wasn’t working out. I ended up moving back and now my ex is dating another girl he used to like, he moved on so quickly. Now we only see eachother because of mutual friends but we don’t even say hi. I want to rekindle our love/friendship but I don’t know how to approach him

    1. Hi Alex,
      Thank you for reaching out and I’m sorry for your current situation. If you’re trying to get your ex back, I feel that approach will be everything. I invite you to approach him gradually, try saying hi the next time you see him. Remember, you dated him – that should be recognizable and not something to pretend never happened. Give yourself the credit you deserve! If you need tips on how, I would love to help. I invite you to book a session with me.
      Wishing you the best always,
      Coach N.

  18. Hey, My ex and I broke up nearly 3 years ago. We both got busy, there were some other issues too, that kept us away for about 3 months before she finally broke up with me. As I see it, it ended on good terms. I used the NC for 6 months before I got myself unblocked on messaging apps and then we kept in contact for 1 year and a half before she started acting weird and finally blocked me. She basically started dating someone and it was hard on her to keep in touch with me, I understood her last message a month later when I heard it from a mutual friend. A few months later, I uploaded a usual blog, but this time her guy messaged me to take it off because her friend told her, and my ex told him that it is about her. She then blocked me on Facebook for 2 months and then a month ago, when it would have been our projected 5th year anniversary, she unblocked me. Their relationship is quite active on social media unlike ours, but it looks plastic to me.
    In all this while, I tried to become the best version of myself, as everyone told me to be, so I published a romance novel, and have 14 inch biceps, besides running a blog.

    1. Sunain –
      I’m really glad to hear that you’ve been focussing on personal development. Continue to do this, and you’ll have your opportunity to speak with her.
      If you need any help at all, we’re here to support you. I invite you to book a session with me.
      Wishing you the best,
      Coach N.

  19. Hi Lost,
    I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation – I know it’s rough! I think it’s going to be important for you to flatline communication for a while – avoid contact. Let him realize what he’s done. We have an excellent product on implementing Radio Silence that may be great for you :
    I hope this helps,
    Coach N.

  20. My ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago we were together for 3 years..this week i saw a girl came to his place and its been 2 days shes sleeping at his place …last days in our relation was so bad but i know he loved me …when he broke up he told him that the feelings are gone …i dont believe him …the night before we broke up he said i love you !!! He hurt me so much i cant handle seeing him with this girl …how can he move on ? Can i have a chance? He will come back?

    1. Hi Yaraheb,
      I do believe that you can turn this around, but I know how painful it can be to see our ex’s with someone else. It’ll be important for you to take a step back right now. If you tell him how much you care, then he’s the one in control. Be careful with this. If you need support, I invite you to book a session with me. I believe I can help you fix this.
      Coach N.

  21. I was in a non-relationship (if that makes sense) with someone for five years. I wasn’t ready to date him while in college because I had a failing relationship I should’ve let go. I was confused honestly. Now, I’ve broken things off permanently with my ex but the guy I was talking too has met someone. He says he loves me but wants to move on to the new girl he met. I want to give our love a chance and be his girlfriend but I think he’s afraid. Not sure what to do here and want to know if I even have a chance. Any help? Advice?

    1. Hi Sally,
      Thank you for your share and I’m sorry to hear about this frustrating situation. I feel like first, you need to distance yourself. Let him miss you and realize all the value you add to his life. Then, when you start to re-appear, make sure to showcase how you’re right for him. I can help you achieve this. Let me know if you’d like a session.
      Wishing you the best,
      Coach N

  22. Hi,
    My ex and I were together for almost 6 years. We had a rough relationship at times, I think a lot of it had to do with the age gap. She was 19 I was 26. I was her first love, first person she ever slept with and first boyfriend. We fought a lot, I was very judgmental, talked to her very bad at times and from her words, never made her feel like she was good enough. We have two children together now. Both under the age of 3. We split up almost a year ago and she got her own place, idea was to work things out from a distance. Shortly after she said she wanted to date, I got scared and rushed us back together. Things were better but still tough at times, the issue of her cheating on me two years ago was still an arguement as well as others. Back in April we had a fight and she said she was done. Week or so after she was already exchanging her number with different guys. She hung out with them but I guess stopped talking to them. Two weeks ago she started coming around more. We ended up kissing, and stupid me kept trying to do more. She did end up spending more time with me. Spending the night, cuddling, I also spent the night over her house. I kept talking about us, telling her not to be afraid, to let some of her walls down and that I couldn’t understand why she wouldn’t give us another chance. I eventually ended up telling her on Memorial Day that I felt like I was being lead on. Even though she continuously told me she wasn’t ready yet, or if she would ever be. She continued coming around. Finally she couldn’t take it anymore and said that it’s always all or nothing with me and that this is why it has to be nothing. She is dead set on dating. She came over today to get the kids, I noticed what looked like a hickey on her neck and commented. Finally I said look I need to know is there somebody else. She turned around and said yes. She said she wasn’t dating him, but it’s the first one that she could potentially date. Also said that I knew this day was coming. I ended up talking to her one the phone after she left and explained what I wanted, how I truly understand the way our relationship was and that I want to share this new found happiness I’ve found. I’m finally able to be the person I’ve always wanted to be. I asked her if she would give us a second chance. She said not at this moment. Then she said she had to go and that was the last we talked. Do I talk to her and tell her I’m worried about her and what she’s doing now? We have two children, I’m not saying she’s a bad mom, but it seems like she’s so worried about guys right now. What do I do?

    1. Hi Joe,
      I’m happy to see that you’ve done the work and that you truly seem to want to make this relationship work for the right reasons.
      There are no guarantees here, as your situation is a complex one…but I do believe that I can help you maximize your chances of making it work – and I do think that it is possible to turn everything around.
      I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.
      Coach N

  23. I and my gf were in a 5 year relationship. We broke up 5 months back but we’re talking once a month. Last month she told me she is dating someone else. I have also come to know they had gone for holidays together last month. At the end of the relationship I was acting very insecure and needy and was trying to control her. This is what she told me for the reason of she breaking up wid me. I still love her and want her back. What to do in such a scenario. Please advice. She messaged me 2 weeks ago saying I had been a great friend and bf to her and she will cherish the time we spent together. But I dint reply. I was in no contact for 30 days. After which I r established contact and messaged her in a positive, fun and friendly way. Please advice how to get her back. I have made a lot of positive changes to my life in the meantime

    1. Hi Rajashik,
      I’m happy to see that you’ve done the work and that you truly seem to want to make this relationship work for the right reasons.
      There are no guarantees here, as your situation is a complex one…but I do believe that I can help you maximize your chances of making it work – and I do think that it is possible to turn everything around.
      I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.
      Coach N

  24. Hi Misty,
    Thank you for reaching out and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I know how painful this can be. I don’t feel like reaching out casually is the way to go anymore. I think a new approach will help kickstart a new relationship with your ex. If you need help here, I invite you to book a session with Coach Adrian or myself.
    We can help you turn this around.
    Coach N

  25. I recently decided to call it off with my ex because of how the past few months have unfolded. In a nutshell I made a bad mistake which ended up with me losing my license. My girlfriend kicked me out of our apartment and after about a week we were hanging out and going on dates, but we decided it was for the best to live apart (money, for our future). She told me she thought I was the one and that we would make it work. Slowly but surely she decided to “keep her options open”, but to be exclusively physical with me and dating me. I accepted as I figured it was the only option and I had created the situation. So about a week ago, we go out to lunch and ice cream. We get back to her apartment and she gets a text from another man. I totally lost my cool and she told me she was gonna tell me if it became something. I told her I wasn’t about to be strung about in a love triangle situation. Needless to say we have talked, and now she says she needs space to work on herself and work on her career and school. She says she wants to be with me and give it another shot if we are single when she has it all figured out. How can I believe that if she is communicating with another man? Is it worth trying for her? We have been in a relationship for two and a half years, and we both say we love each other and care about each other.

    1. Hello Brandon,

      Thank you for reaching out to me and for sharing your story.

      There are no guarantees here, as your situation is a complex one…but I do believe that I can help you maximize your chances of making it work – and I do think that it is possible to turn everything around.

      I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.


      Coach Natalie

  26. My girlfriend dumped me exactly 1 month ago from a 2.5 years of relationship.
    I realized it’s mostly my fault:
    1. Being controlling
    2. Psychologically made her felt that she’s not a good girlfriend (she told me this)
    3. Not spending much time with her
    4. Neglected her towards the end of relationship
    5. She didn’t see me putting in effort to make the relationship work
    6. She thinks I don’t feel she’s important to me
    7. Failed to meet her numerous demands
    8. Being passive aggressive to her at times
    9. She’s sad and unhappy but found happiness and freedom from her new internship

    My ex is a very attached and clingy girlfriend. We both like each other very much but lately I haven’t really pay much attention to her. She already built her resentment for years and only seldom tells me about her frustration which I didn’t change. She’s also the one who usually initiate to do something romantic together and always want my attention.
    Everything spirals down when she started her 4 months internship (May – August) In another city far away from my city.
    Everything is fresh, new and exciting to her there. She tried to spend more time with me but I was thinking more along the lines where she should spend more time there enjoying herself instead of keep trying to keep calling me or play online games with me. I also declined her invitation to spend the long weekend with her during Independence Day (not the first decline from me). She’s really sad and disappointed, mostly because she thinks I don’t put her as priority and that we didn’t really “talk talk” for some time already.
    Across this 1 month, I’m really heartbroken and I really want her back. But there’s nothing I can do till she’s back in September. She also just told me she’s dating someone new but she’s confused if she should commit. I told her nicely that she shouldn’t make rash decision when she’s still emotional from our breakup.
    I don’t know what should I do to get her back. I’ve tried to work on myself by going out a lot , paying for guitar lessons and stuff. But I can’t help thinking about her all the time.
    What should I do to save our relationship ? We’ve been texting occasionally , should I still text her ?

    Thank you.

  27. Hi Coach Adrian, I watched your video on this. I wanted to ask why you said never ever ever talk about/bring up the new person? What’s the reason behind that?

    1. Hi Shelly!
      The reason behind this is to avoid any triggers that make them relive the end of the previous relationship. You want them to focus on the future! Not the past 🙂
      I hope this helps!
      Coach N.

      1. Coach N,
        Actually I made this mistake of asking about the new person they went on a date with a month or so ago. I found these videos too late 🙁 Can i still recover from that? I haven’t asked anything about it since

  28. My ex and I were together 9 years and lived together for 8.5 of them, if not more. We have two children together. About a month ago she broke up with me after I called her out on being gone for 20 hours with minimal contact. The next day she went into a relationship with a man who is 20 years older than her. I made all the expected mistakes on the beginning and occasionally still do because she sucks me into it. I fully believe it’s a rebound relationship but she told me she has feelings for him and is starting a new life with him. Is it possible to win her back. Evayde sge truly is the love of my life.

    1. Hi John,

      Thanks for sharing your story with me and I’m sorry to hear about what you’re going through. I know that this can hurt like hell. Believe it or not, due to the intensity of your history, I feel you can turn this around. I’d love to help. I invite you to consider coaching :

      I hope to hear from you and I hope this finds you in better spirits,

      Coach N

  29. Coach Adrian, i’ll try to summarize this best I can. I was in a long distance relationship for 1.5year. I bought a ticket last March to visit him this August 2017. The thing is, we broke up May 1 (long distance took a toll, too many arguments stemmed from it). What’s awkward is we had to stay in touch since I’ll still be staying at his place when I’m there for 3 weeks (we’ve planned this for so long, and he offered), we wanted to be mature/practical since booking a new place to stay in NYC this close to the trip would cost me about $4k which is just impractical.

    My question is: how do i get rid of this fear i’ve been having that once i go back home, he’ll start dating someone else? yes, i still love him, but the breakup was also a mutual decision since the relationship was starting to be unhealthy in its current form. I feel so scared. It’s the first time I stayed in contact with an ex so i don’t know how to go about it, do you have any advice so I’ll stop worrying about it or being affected by it? 🙁

    1. Hi Shelly,
      Thanks for reaching out and sharing your issue with us. We’re here to support you. I’m confident Adrian can get you to where you psychologically feel very comfortable with the realities of your situation and even further, Adrian should be able to help you restore your relationship. I invite you to schedule a session with him using this link:
      Coach N.

  30. Hi Matt,
    Thank you for sharing your story and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. I can help you here, because your situation may be a bit more unique than the ones the books discusses. I invite you to schedule a session with me :
    I’m looking forward to connecting,
    Coach N

  31. It’s been a month since my bf broke up with. we havent talked at all and when i was about to reach out after 29 days no contact i found out that when we broke up he immediatelly got in a relationship with soemone else and they are now on the vacation that we had booked together. He changed the settings on facebook to hide everything from me and my sister but not from my best friend. I found out through him. Why is he hidding since i dont even bother him? Should i reach out to him even though he went on our vacation with someone else and has hidden everything from me?Or should i wait for him to unhide everything(if that ever happens)

    1. Hi Anastasia,

      Thanks for reaching out and sharing your story. I’m really sorry to hear about your current situation – I know it’s tough!

      I think that I can help you turn things around but you will need to book a coaching session in order for us to work together.

      You can book a coaching session with me here:

      Once you book, I will reach out to you right away to schedule a time and day for us to speak.

      I wish you the very best today and always.


      Coach Natalie

  32. My ex fiancé left me a few months ago to find herself. We had been together for almost 7 years before this. We text and talked a little at first, then a month and a half in she tells me she’s talking to someone and she’s goes out of town to see him on weekends she doesn’t have her daughter. I was furious and said some things I shouldn’t have and I’ve now gave her the silence treatment for a month. In this time she unblocked me from Facebook( where I had been blocked for about 2 months before) were not friends but I can see her page. Should I keep giving her the silent treatment and see where it goes or what should I do? Also she does have me blocked still from text or call but I can message her on Facebook

    1. Hi Russell,
      Thank you for reaching out, and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation – I know that it is really challenging to be in your shoes. I feel though that more space may be a good thing. However, I can’t really advice without knowing more about this situation. To that end, I really encourage you to schedule a session with me; I’m invested in your story and am confident I can help. If you’d like to connect, please visit this link:
      Wishing you the best,
      Coach N

  33. Hi, my ex of 4 1/2 years broke up with me said he didn’t love me anymore. I wrote him a letter, he wrote back with things like “I don’t want to loose you out of my life altogether” “I still care about you” “we both need time” then I see him out and nothing and I’ve heard over the weekend he’s been seen with another girl. I’ve messaged him and had no reply I’m hurt he’s moved on so soon and upset he wont even talk
    To me! Why am I being made to feel like the bad person?

  34. I met my ex when she was on a business trip in Miami she comes to Florida twice a yr for work. We kept in contact and got into a long distance relationship soon after, she’s from Canada and I live in Miami. We were together for 1.5 yrs. We had our issues but the main reason because if our break up is because of my financial situation. She’s a well established woman. Great career very nice house and in her past relationships her ex’s were well off. Ì was doing well in my career in real estate but industry went through a drought and things derailed and I lost everything. My car and apt. She told me she couldnt trust me and broke up with me. She told me me that to get back on my feet and possibly get back. So we kept in contact for about 6 months I didn’t date anyone as I was concentrated on getting my life back and reuniting with her. This past April she invited me to see her so I flew to Canada. We has coversations of giving it another try even though i wasnt where i wanted to be. Weeks before the trip we texting sexually she sent me naked pics so inwas very excited to see her. However when i eas there She was cold with me didn’t seem she was into it i was so confused and upset and we got into an arguement. She said you need to find someone to give you a chance and i need to find someone i can trust. That we are two different people. She came to Florida the following month in May she and never contacted me that she was in town . We didn’t speak for 2 months then i decided to contact her in Aug to say hi, turns out she was coming to Miami for vacation with her son. We spoke and she invited me to dinner, then we went to the beach the following day then we went to a football game. Ì told her how I missed her and she said THANKS. she was treating me like a friend then I asked her about getting back into contact and she didn’t want to talk bout it. After she left I texted her once a week for about a month but she would never initiate contact I will text her and she will always respond but she would never start conversation. Ì want to be woth her so bad but i as still working on myself and I knew she wouldn’t take me back and my current situation. So early Oct i wanted to see if she wanted to see me so I asked if we can hangout in for my birthday in November she told me it would be nice and she will let me know…two weeks past and I get an email which was rare we never emailed…she said that it wouldn’t be a good idea for me to go because she has been in a few dates with someone and wanted to see where it goes.. I was devastated my heart fell to the floor. Why didn’t she tell me when I texted I felt ì was bothering her but she always said I never bother. But she has a bf now I think back to her being cold in April, not contacting me in May and acting cold when she was vacationing here in Aug…so here is where I’m confused..1. why didn’t she tell me about her new BF and 2. I told her farewell and good luck, she blocked me from IG and deleted her wassup but couple days later she unblocked me from IG and reinstalled her wassup. Note her acct is private so is mine and wassup was our main source of contact as it was free. What is she thinking? Is she gone forever? Did she reinstalled and unblock me to leave the door open for later in the future? Does she still like me? Or once I get back on my feet should I contact her. I really love her she taught me a lot and she is a great woman. Everything I want in a woman he has a great career she has the means to travel we share a lot of likes. The difference is that I’m a city guy and I like to party she does not she doesn’t smoke she doesn’t drink she does not like to be around a lot of people . I’m the opposite but I was willing to tone down my craziness to be with a woman like her . When she told me she couldn’t trust me I guess it was that and my financial situation but during my relationship with her I did change my habits so that’s why I say it’s more of my financial than anything else Is she in a rebound? I dont think so as i think shes been seeing this guy since prob May or June so I’m thinking is pretty serious maybe this guy’s been waiting in the wings. Maybe when i was up there in April she was already in contact with the guy and wanted to see me to see how she felt. Please help I know I should move on but women like her are very hard to find despite her flaws. By the way she’s going to be down here in November for work and it’s going to be pretty painful knowing that she’s down here and I won’t contact her . Will full grown adults I’m 40 and she’s 46. I look forward to your responses thank you so much

    1. Hi William,
      Thanks for reaching out – and I’m sorry to hear about your current situation. Her unblocking you after blocking is a good sign, it means she’s trying to reason with herself. She’s emotional – and that at least is positive. However, I do feel the way you go about approaching her now will be critical for you. I invite you to consider scheduling a coaching session with me. I’d love to help.

  35. So my ex has been in prison for 13yrs we recently reconnected 2yrs ago he bomb me with he couldn’t do the relationship anymore I had gut feeling something more was going on and sure enuff he was seeing someone else I seen to think the person he seeing is doing him favours in the since of trafficking drugs.He asked if everything can still be the same as in what he done for me my daughter and my kids so meaning be there mentally emotionally and asked if we can still stay best friends I’m lost to why he would be doing saying this.Do you think he will come crawling back?

  36. Hi John,
    I know it sounds painful, but continue to give the relationship space – reach out only after you’ve made the improvements needed for the relationship to work.

  37. Hi, i was in a relationship with this girl for a year and a few months, i loved her and still love her a lot. A bit of the story that happened… i was teaching in Japan but due to some problems at work i had to resign (stupidly, as the person i was having conflicts with was fired a month after i quit) and she kept blaming me for not choosing her, but i was still trying to stay in Japan. She was divorced (after a year) and i’m now recently divorced (i was separated when i met her)/ She always though i was leaving Japan so i could go back to my now ex-wife and never game me a chance to explain or even fix all the mistakes i’ve made. So a few weeks after i left Japan, she broke up with me.
    A week after we broke up, i find out she is actually seeing someone else. A few weeks later i decide to go back to Japan (i was going to propose to her before the whole break up happened) and we met a few times to talk about us but it always ended up with her being super rude and aggressive towards me. Until my last day there, when she asks me to meet her before i leave and she tells me that she isn’t sure if the new guy is serious on her and we ended up kissing… a few days later i contact her asking her to give us one more chance, but she says she is still confused and that we have seen a lot of each other already…
    Now, it has been almost 3 months and i’m still hurt, it has been extremely difficult for me to move on without her.

  38. Yeah but what if your ex has cut off contact with you and is with someone new after you begged for him to stay? Does this mean there’s no chance?

    1. Hi Cait,
      There’s definitely still a chance. However, depending on how much you begged, you should just take a step away from him for now. Let him know you’re able to exert emotional self control – it’s attractive.

  39. I was casually dating someone for a month. We got along very well at first, we agreed there was an intense connection between us. But because of several things and arguments, we were starting to think the timing was wrong, and even though we both admit that we have romantic interest towards each other, she ended up dating someone else. And that was the end of our “almost relationship”.

    At the first few weeks of her new relationship, we still keep in touch with each other. But the emotion was too intense for us to communicate effectively, so sometimes it ended in an argument (to the point that she said that she’s glad that she didn’t end up with me). And then the week after she posts some of her pics with her new BF, I went NC. Its been several weeks now.

    Even though we were never really in a relationship, it hurts because I actually really want to be with her, to the point that I want to improve myself so I can be with her in the future.

    Do you think I still have a chance with her?

    1. Hi Guest!
      Thanks for reaching out – I know this is hard. I invite you to really spend time assessing those arguments, though. Do they lend more to timing or incompatibility? The more you can learn about how this ended, the higher the likelihood of getting her back.
      I hope this helps!
      – Nat

  40. Hello, i see that you still answer this, hope you have chance to respond

    I had a 3 year relationship with this girl, she was awesome and some times really hard to be with. She broke up with me due she felt i was very demanding on several stuff.

    She now has moved on, dating guys and so. I remember that sometimes I wanted broke up with her, sometimes i really loved her. Now that we are appart i really miss her and want her back.

    What should I do? I think she really has move on… Sometimes she wants to date me and then get lost a week or two. That really mess with my mind, you know?

    Should i keep going on dates? Sometimes say no?
    Hahah i think that i have the answers but they doesnt make the results that i want on the time that i want. yikes

    Thank you Couch, for time and attention.

    1. Hi Anonymous,
      Thanks for reaching out! I feel like giving her some space is still good, even if she’s dating. I feel like you dating is also OK. Rather than focusing on the dating – focus on what broke you two up, and how you can fix them. Its in rectifying those issues that you’ll be able to turn the relationship around.

  41. Hi Danny, I am so sorry to hear about this. I know this is an extremely frustrating time for you. The question I would ask you is why do you want to know why she did it? I can guarantee even if you were to get this answer you wouldn’t like it. Now that she is pregnant is what you should concentrate on. Remember, no one can see still your dream unless you allow it to. You control this. We encourage you to set up a session with Adrian or Natalie so we can discuss further.

    WMEA Team

  42. Hello and thank you for your comment. I am sorry to hear this, and I know right now can be an extremely difficult time. The questions I would ask you is what changed in your relationship that she may have felt that you were just friends? Also, you are still involved with her I am assuming because of association with a friends circle. It’s important here that you show her you have changed and you are the person she fell in love with. I would suggest three things here. Self-exploration, no contact rule, and a coaching session to re-seduce her and to open her eyes to the person she fell in love with. Ask yourself if you have been taken for granted and if so why? I would like to encourage you to set up a coaching session with us soon so we can go into more depth about this relationship


    WMEA Team

  43. Hello Chris,
    Thank you for your comment. I would invite you to do some self-reflection and ask yourself if your ex is a good girl to have in your life and maybe list the reasons why. If you choose to try and seduce her back, I recommend you to take time and work on yourself, so she sees a new you.
    WMEA Team

  44. Hello Kayla,
    Thank you for your comment. In this situation I would do some self-reflection. It’s important that you take the time to reflect on this relationship and ask yourself why you may feel like this man should be in your life?
    WMEA Team

  45. Hi my name is Renee not miles. my ex and I where best friends for 3yrs and dated 3yrs so we where very close for 6yrs. Very intense passionate relationship. Anyway I was on his about a woman that lives with his mother we went there every 2nd weekend but he stayed there every Sunday night due to his work. I could see their was a bond forming between him he kept saying they just friends he only had eyes for me. He was very very affectionate towards me around her. I would not stop fighting with him about her! So he broke up with me. Now 3 months after our breakup he is dating her! I’m so lost and hurt! Was he in denial? Are we done for good

    1. Hello Renne,
      Right now its best to focus on you and show him that you are taking the opportunity to work on yourself. Also, in time you will know if you are done for good. Remember you both have history together and this is not easy to forget. Your ex will reach out again.
      WMEA Team

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