Are you wondering if you still have a chance of getting your ex back if he or she is dating someone new? What can you do in order to reignite the flame between you when your ex has a new boyfriend or girlfriend? What’s the best solution for getting him of her back under these circumstances, while staying in control of your emotions?
Before we dive in, I have some good news for you. If you’re wondering what chance you have of getting back together, know that it’s totally possible, even if you say my ex is dating someone else; even if they say they’re happy and in love.
Since 2007, we’ve accompanied over ten thousand men and women, and I’ve come across this situation many times. About one third of the coaching sessions I do are based on this very subject; what I call, “the next.” In this article, I am going to explain what you can do to change the course of action, and how to get back in control of the situation and to have a date with your ex! It’s time to change your approach! Learn to look at things in a different light, and augment your chances of success. Your main problem could be that the way you perceive the situation is incorrect, especially if you’re putting all your focus on the next, and not enough on improving yourself.
When you say, “My ex is dating someone else, so we are officially over,” you’re sending a negative message. Stop these thoughts immediately, and read this article carefully. Of course, don’t ever hesitate to leave me a comment below. Even if you think your case is hopeless, there are always options.
Why does my ex need to show off how happy they are?
This paragraph is extremely important because you’ll learn how to understand your ex’s behavior, and you’ll see that it’s totally possibly to get him or her back, even if there’s someone new. In order to do this, you have to get back in control of the situation and rekindle the flame!
During a breakup, when you made the decision to separate from someone, society expects you to always be fine. You’re not allowed to show your fears, your panic when faced with the future that isn’t what you were expecting, or even that sometimes you think about your ex. This is why your ex HAS TO look like they’re happy.
I’m not saying that your ex is just playing a role, but rather that they have no choice but to look happy. This is why you’re thinking all hope is lost, because you take it as them rubbing it in your face that they’re over you and are moving on.
In my experience, I’ve never heard someone say, “I’m leaving you, but I love you, and I know we’ll be happy together very soon.” I’m betting this NEVER happens. So when you ask, ”My ex has started dating someone else, does this mean that there’s no hope left for us getting back together?”” you have to keep in mind the pressures that society in placing on your ex.
They don’t have the right to show any signs of weakness or to complain, so don’t ever act based on their behavior. Take the time to develop the perfect attitude (which will be determined by your plan of action.) At the same time, don’t expect your ex to feed you hints and clues, as this would be a bit too easy.
It’s in your hands to get back in control to never again be dependent on, or overly compliant to your ex. Don’t ever show that you’re hurting, or make yourself look needy, because this defaces your image. If you want to get back together with an ex that’s already with someone new you’re going to have to find a strong sense of personal worth!
My ex is dating someone else: How do I make them come back?
Now that you know your ex has to play up the situation in order to adhere to what society (and their loved ones) expect of them, you will have to work on making them want to come back, but proving that you are the ideal person for them. How do you show how much you’ve improved?
As a general rule, people have a tendency to beg their ex to stay in contact, or worse still, to make promises of change as you plead with them to take you back.
By acting like this, all you’re doing is decreasing your self-worth, and you’re being dependent. The only thing this will do is making your ex want to get farther and farther away from you. The issue at hand here isn’t sentimental, it’s, ” “How can I prove to my ex that he or she will be happy with me?”
When I’m talking about proof, I’m not asking you to tell me all about how you can adopt the right behavior; I’m asking you to do everything in your power to get on it, and start taking action! Your ex doesn’t need to hear things like, “I love you;” they can get that from their new relationship.
In turn, what you can do is work on establishing a good bond with your ex. Focus on affinity, laughter, exchanges… Everything that will make your ex realize, “Wait a minute, I always have the best time with… (you!)”
So you now have an idea of the best way to make your ex come back, even if they’re already with someone new. Unfortunately each case is different, which means you’ll have to adapt your strategy to your ex in order to slowly but surely get closer to him or her.
My ex is making me suffer, they’re taking it too far…
Oftentimes when I’m in a coaching session, I meet men and women that describe a sticky situation to me: “My ex is dating someone new, and is broadcasting it everywhere. They’re posting pictures all over Facebook, but with me, it wasn’t the case. They’re going out all the time, my ex is showering him or her with love, but with me, it wasn’t ever the case.”
You don’t know this yet, but keep in mind that eight out of ten relationships are nothing but Band-Aid relationships and your ex is desperately trying to move on.
Can you imagine that “80% of relationships after a breakup are Band-Aid relationships?”
In these situations, the person in question will find someone just so that they don’t have to be alone, and so that they can quickly turn the page. What I’m going to say next is very important: Don’t ever focus on your ex’s behavior. You need to focus on the method of getting them back that you will have planned out.
In this delicate situation, you’re scared of losing him/her forever because their happiness is publicized for all to see. And yet, there is an important principal in human relationships to take into consideration: “A human being will never accept losing someone that belongs to them.”
If you’re able to rebuild yourself, to have a genuine smile on your face, you will grab your ex’s attention. For him/her, it’s inconceivable that you would have moved on so seamlessly, so you must prove that you’re on a new path that has nothing to do with your ex.
This is an excellent way to regain control of the situation, little by little, and before you know it, your ex will be the one depending on you.
I come across this situation very often. It is because I hear, “What do I do if my ex has a next” that I make this specific eBook: “70 Pro Tips To Get Back With Your Ex”
You’ll learn that radio silence isn’t the best option if contact is already being established. I’ll also deliver to you my coaching secrets on how to get closer to your ex without them picking up on it, and how to plant a seed of doubt in their mind concerning their decision to leave you.
What do you say to turning this situation back around? To reigniting the spark?
I invite you to take action to stop worrying, and to get back in control. Now is the time to show that YOU ARE THE IDEAL PERSON!
I wish you the best.