You could have turned the page and moved on without another thought about your ex, but he or she is having a really hard time and you’re worried.
Even though you’re no longer together, you still have a heart, you remember the good times, maybe you even still have feelings, and seeing them in this state hurts you as well.
You want to do something not only out of respect for the relationship you two shared, but also for the man or woman you once loved.
In this article, the idea of getting back together is not the only thing I’m going to talk about because first, we need to focus on psychology after a breakup. When someone is depressed because of love, it’s important to not oversee this aspect and to know how to adapt your actions accordingly.
Your ex’s depression might have even been the reason behind your breakup. This is an even bigger reason for you to do something and prevent your love story from going to waste because of something that could potentially be fixed.
If you’re saying, “my ex is depressed”, you will have to be strong as well. You can get started by carefully reading this article, and learning what to do and what not to do!
What is love depression?
As you know, more and more of you are returning to my site for my free advice, as you search for a way to correct a sentimental problem. The first step is to understand the issue.
Today, the issue we are discussing is sentimental depression and the effect it’s having on your ex.
It seems and more and more people are becoming concerned when it comes these sorrows, but not many of them are able to explain it. Many people don’t even realize it when someone in their group of friends or loved ones is showing signs of this kind of depression, and they just confuse it with tiredness or stress from work.
Depression, including sentimental depression, is a pathological condition, in which the person exhibits a drop in their morale, a loss of faith in the future, and profound sadness that may even result in physical repercussions.
It can affect us all, and the causes behind it are numerous. Some men and women experience this as a result of the current state of our world, and others are buried beneath their work and they can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel.
Some people have problems at home with their family, others maybe had a difficult childhood. Maybe a loved one passed away, or maybe the person has just separated from their significant other.
When we say, “my ex is depressed”, It’s important to note that the sole reason may not just be your breakup, but multiple, external circumstances.
If your ex decided that you two should separate because he or she was deeply unhappy, and since then, the situation hasn’t improved, which might be why you’re reading this article today, it could mean that your relationship wasn’t the heart of the problem.
Maybe it was a factor, but not the root. You’d be surprised at how many people that are depressed, will point the finger at their partner, thinking that they are the cause of this unhappiness.
My ex is depressed, what do I do?
In this situation, as I’ve already mentioned, you shouldn’t immediately jump to trying to get your ex back. You might be wondering why that is, especially when a relationship expert specialized in helping you get back together with your ex is saying so!
I’m telling you this because on one hand, maybe you aren’t even interested in getting back together, and on the other hand, it’s painful to see your ex in this state.
You want to be happy, and if you’re spending your life with a man that’s depressed or a woman that doesn’t feel good in her own skin, sooner or later, you’ll get tired of it. It isn’t about being selfish; it’s about being logical. You shouldn’t act out of emotional dependence, thinking that everything will be fine just like this.
In any case, I’m not asking you to abandon ship! You know that I never suggest that a person sits with their arms crossed, waiting for things to change on their own. You are the master of your destiny and sometimes you have to make a stronger effort. You have to take action for your love life’s future.
Even if you’re not a psychologist, if your ex feels utterly worthless, you can still do something to help them lift their head back up.
Oftentimes, when you are depressed, you have a tendency to withdraw into yourself. But if you take the time to talk to your ex’s loved ones (who I’m sure you know,) and you take the time to spend time with him or her, you will be able to show your ex that you’re there for them.
I don’t have to say it directly; he or she will pick up on it. Be careful though; don’t fall into the trap of getting close again just because it will make them feel better, because you could do more damage than good.
You can suggest a physical activity, going for a run together, getting groceries, or visiting a museum… All of these are good ways to get your ex out of the house, so that they don’t stay locked up in there, feeling miserable.
Your ex may resist or flat out say no, but you shouldn’t give up, and this is where the role of the loved ones comes in. You can also talk to your ex about my coaching sessions on self-confidence and invite them to come read some articles, or to get in touch with me!
Following this, if this is something that interests you, you can set in motion your strategy to get back together and recreate a close bond!
The coach when my ex is depressed!