You’ve noticed that something doesn’t feel right between you and your husband… He seems different, less present, and maybe doesn’t even seem like the person you married at all these days. Your intuition tells you something is up and you’re realizing that your partner is unhappy. It’s unsettling feeling of course, but once you pinpoint what exactly is bothering him, you’ll be on your way to fixing the problem.
As I’m sure you’ve heard before, relationships experience ups and downs and this is completely normal once you’ve been with a person for a long time. Realizing my husband is unhappy is never a good feeling but it can serve as a doorway to a happier and stronger marriage. Think about it, the moment you realize what’s making him unhappy, you learn about an element that you can bring into your marriage, or repair, that will make your bond stronger and in turn make both of you feel more fulfilled.
As a relationship expert I’ve dedicated my life to helping people rekindle and find happiness in love. I am passionate about what I do and I’ve actually even written an eBook entitled 70 Pro Tips To Get Back With An Ex on the topic! So don’t hesitate to check it out to learn more tips and tools.
It truly is possible to regain control of the situation and show your partner that you’re in tune to their emotions and that you’re there for them. As I said above, becoming aware of the issue(s) is the first step to making your relationship better.
Signs your husband is unhappy and that your marriage is in jeopardy
Right now you’re going to have to zero in on what exactly is going on. There are a lot of signs your husband is unhappy that you can use to help you get a clearer idea of what the problem is.
Is my husband unhappy because of me?
Maybe you’re wondering if it’s in your head or if he really is unhappy. Keep an eye out for some of these indicators.
Is he showing a negative attitude towards you, either by being snappy or aggressive, or by showing disinterest? Is he filling his time with unimportant activities like constantly being on his phone or playing video games?
Is he short with you, and does he give you one-answered answers to your questions? A lot of men dislike talking about what’s bothering them and can tend to find ways to close themselves off from having to go there.
Perhaps you’ve picked up on some depressive behavior, like him wanting to be alone all the time, or you’ve noticed that he’s shut down and doesn’t seem present. It’s not uncommon for people to turn inward when something is upsetting them.
Why is my husband unhappy?
Sometimes it’s not quite as straightforward and it’s just your gut that’s telling you that your partner is unhappy. Take a moment to think about some of these important aspects of relationships and see if they’re present in yours.
When two people have been together for a long time and have developed a routine and have accumulated a large plate of responsibilities, it’s not uncommon for one or both of the partners to start feeling overwhelmed. Sometimes there’s just a lot of pressure and a person involuntarily takes it out on their spouse. This can lead to a person feeling unappreciated and/or resentful…
When your husband comes home from a day at work, do you give him a warm welcome, or do you greet him with a list of things that he didn’t do or that he didn’t do right? You both have every right to feel overwhelmed and tired from life’s stressors, but remember: You’re in a partnership and you should both be lifting each other up. By doing the opposite, you suck the energy out of the relationship and out of the bond between you.
Another thing that creeps into long-term relationships is when two partners stop having fun together. The routine settles in and the relationship just becomes a list of responsibilities (especially when you’ve got kids!)
Partners begin to neglect the friendship that exists between them, and they don’t do anything special anymore. You can see how this can make someone feel like their relationship is becoming kind of unfulfilling, right?
Do you still have date nights? Is there excitement in your relationship? There is always a way to make time for these things, and it’s extremely healthy for both of you.
Speaking of friendship, a person told me once how they regret the lack of lighthearted conversation between him and his wife. They’ve been together for a while and he felt like all they ever talked about was the kids’ schools and various appointments and the “To Do List.” He said that they needed to make time for nurturing their romantic relationship because it felt like it was becoming nonexistent.
One of the most common things that can lead to frustration in a husband is the lack of intimacy. As time goes on, the passion of course will subside in a relationship, but it’s important that you both are on the same page in terms of what you need in order to feel physically satisfied with each other. If one partner wants to feel romance and passion and the other wants a platonic agreement… Well, you see how that could create some tension.
How to win his heart back the right way
Now that you’ve spent some time figuring out what needs fixing in your relationship, you can start the reparation process right away.
How can I make my husband happy again in our marriage
You can start working on making your husband happy by starting with small gestures. Compliment him on things that normally might go unnoticed. Show him you’re paying attention to him and let him know that you’re proud of him.
Let him know that he’s desired and that you’re proud of being his wife. Take time out of your schedule to spend time together doing something fun or unusual. What were your favorite things to do together at the beginning of your relationship?
What will make my husband happy moving forward
Bring those things back or better yet, revamp them! If you liked doing something like having picnics, set aside a weekend for yourselves where you could go camping or rent out a little cabin. It can be just the two of you, in nature, and you can have fun rediscovering each other. You could also just set aside one evening every week as Date Night and do your best to think of something fun and a little different for each time!
Moments like these can help you to win your husband’s heart back as well as to reinforce the bond between you.
How can I make my husband love me again
People tend to get so caught up in how their partner is feeling (which isn’t a terrible thing!)… That they sometimes neglect themselves. One of the best things you can do to make your husband love you again is to work on your own self-esteem and self-confidence!
If you feel that maybe you’ve started focusing less on yourself, take this time to become the best version of yourself again. Carve time out for the things you’re passionate about and be a positive thinker with a genuine smile. It’s naturally attractive and people will want to be around you (and your husband will be no exception!)
What can I start doing to make my husband happy again?
Pay attention to your language and your phrasing. Avoid negative tones, using words like “I can’t, you can’t…” A lot of people underestimate the importance of their choice of words when communicating to a partner. Use phrases like, “Up until now it’s been tough to xyz… but now…” and follow it up with a positive suggestion.
Instead of presenting things in an aggressive or dramatic way, tell your partner that you’ve noticed that they haven’t been feeling great, and that you’re there for them when they’re ready to talk about it.
How can I make my husband attracted to me again?
Men are attracted to awe and wonder, and excitement both emotionally and physically. You know what it takes to stimulate them because you’ve already seduced them once. Think about how you were able to seduce your husband in the past and reintroduce that into your relationship and think about how you can make it even better!
How to talk to your husband about being unhappy
One of the most important things to do here is to communicate with him. Invite him to share his feelings with you and be open to criticism. Remember, this is exactly what will help you to pinpoint what is needed right now. When communicating with your husband help him to feel at ease and know that he shouldn’t be afraid of communicating with you about these things. Show him you’re in tune with his emotions, and you’re there to do what’s in your power.
How to communicate with my spouse the right way
He has to realize the importance of communication because you can’t be expected to read his mind. Once he tells you what’s making him unhappy, make sure he can see the effort you put forth to make things better so that he sees the fruit of communication. It’s pointless to talk about everything if nothing ends up happening.
How do I tell my husband I’m unhappy?
Of course if something is bothering you, make sure you tell him about it as well. These conversations should be calm and collected. You want to make sure that you both realize that you’re in a safe atmosphere where you can easily share and work on improving things together. Don’t panic if you’re having marriage trouble. Communication is key, and together you can reinforce the love and joy between you.
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