Sometimes a breakup isn’t the easiest decision to accept. When the person you love tells you that they have no feelings for you anymore it’s an awful sensation that floods your heart. You feel like you’ve failed, like you’ve wasted your time, but the worst part is that you question the sincerity of your ex’s feelings for you while you were together.
Questions naturally rise up like, did she ever really love me? Did my ex just play me? How could their feelings for me just disappear? You question everything when you realize that your ex no longer feels anything for you.
You’re reading these lines right now because you want to find solutions. You can’t stay in this situation…your love for her still burns strong and you want her to feel the same way again.
You want help in putting things in perspective regarding the relationship and rest assured, nothing is impossible in love but you have to use the right techniques. You’ve shared something special which means that you can still rekindle the flame.
That said, if you want to do this you shouldn’t just revel in sadness thinking, “she doesn’t love me anymore,” or, “I don’t have a chance with her anymore.” There’s a certain state of mind that you’re going to have to adopt.
If you want to spark the same feelings that you had at the beginning of your relationship you’re going to have to understand the reasons behind your current situations and this will in turn help you to design the ideal plan of action.
Why doesn’t she love me anymore?
As a general rule, “Why?” is usually the first thing you start wondering.
You don’t understand how the person that you were sharing your life with; the person that was saying, “I love you,” just a few weeks ago can now tell you that they no longer feel the same way. She’s telling you that she’s not feeling love for you but rather just affection. Doubt and questions aren’t helping you move on from this situation. Everyone needs answers especially when you’re confronted with a breakup.
If you’re familiar with my Love coaching philosophy, you know that my method always begins with an analysis phase and that’s exactly what you have to start working on. When you want to fix a negative situation, you have to know the cause. In love nothing happens by accident so if your partner tells you that the love they felt for you has dwindled, it means that your relationship had already been having issues.
Oftentimes when people come to see me with this problem, they realize that their life together had just become routine. You had your habits, you weren’t continuing to seduce your partner, and you were thinking you had her in your pocket. You’re now paying the price. It’s imperative that you don’t think that a person’s love for you is eternal if you don’t do anything to maintain it. When you stop making them feel special, their emotions diminish.
Sometimes you’re not solely responsible for this situation but you still suffer the consequences. If your partner has met someone new at work or somewhere else, their emotions could be shaken up. If she’s interested in someone new she could be in the seduction phase and therefore could be questioning everything right now.
In this situation, saying, “She doesn’t love me” anymore isn’t the best option simply because even though she might be feeling something for someone else, it doesn’t necessarily mean that she no longer feels anything for you.
She doesn’t love me anymore so how can I revive my ex’s feelings?
Your main focus right now is making her fall back in love with you but you shouldn’t just let time do the work for you, thinking that she’ll figure out that she loves you on her own. Of course you have to take the initiative to make sure that this awful situation end as quickly as possible. I am definitely not telling you to rush things, but you shouldn’t waste time and you especially shouldn’t make mistakes that will make things worse.
As I explained, when a woman’s feelings start to disappear little by little, it’s usually because the relationship was becoming stagnant or because there was a recurring problem. You have to make the relationship evolve if you want to prove to her that it can be better. Routine should never control your lives. Some couples haven’t gone to the movies together in years, others rarely ever go out to eat, and some have no projects planned for their future. There is nothing worse that this.
It’s important that you show your ex that you can build more than just memories together; that your future together could be incredible. Children, marriage, trips, activities together… incidentally you should never wait for the breakup before you start thinking about these things.
You can do the simplest things that turn into special moments – you can go take a romantic walk together instead of staying locked up at home, you could go to the zoo with the family, the idea to look for a new apartment together, designing new decor for your current place… All of these things can help you avoid a situation like this.
Keeping the romance alive doesn’t mean that you have to plan extravagant dates every day. Regular, sincere and simple gestures would be sufficient. The golden is show your improvements and these kinds of actions are perfect for this!
What does my ex want: The biggest question!
In come cases, you think that it’s about a lack of love, but it reality it could be something totally different. You shouldn’t immediately imagine the worst. Thinking that she doesn’t love you anymore isn’t the explanation as to why there might be tension that’s damaging the relationship. Sometimes outside factors could upset a relationship and you unfortunately have to suffer the consequences.
Some examples of this is when the in-laws are a little too present, when there’s a problem at work, when you lose a child or have an abortion… All of these reasons can spark a change in someone’s state of mind and there are inevitable consequences in the relationship.
In any case, you shouldn’t panic and question your entire relationship or the sincerity of your significant other. You do however have to take these elements into consideration when you design the proper strategy and figure out what needs to change in your behavior.
Many men that have been frightened by the breakup tend to be pessimistic. This is why I am once again insisting on the importance of understanding the situation. So you have to ask yourself the right questions that will enable you to design the perfect plan of action when you want to rekindle her feelings for you.
This is also essential so that you don’t just become your ex’s friend. You have to do whatever you can to stay out of the friend-zone and to keep up some form of seduction that will make her return to your arms.
Sincerely,
Adrian
Coach when your ex girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore
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So men have to continue to make the women feel special but the women don’t have to make the men feel special..money runs out so the love stops after five yrs..it’s always about the money
Gold diggers my friend. I think If you are giving more than receiving then there is something wrong. It takes two to tango.
If someone tells you they don’t love you anymore, why not just believe them and respect their wishes and leave them alone? Sometimes, getting back with one’s ex is like trying to go home again, or trying to re-create a former glory that wasn’t meant to last. Lots of info on this website about getting back together, but ideally, both should want to, instead of one former partner planning strategic methods to get the other person to change their mind.
Hi Keira,
You’ve made some very valid points, here. However, our methods aren’t about tricking an ex to get back together. Our methods are to help a person evolve into the person they need to be for their ex’s (and for themselves) to desire to be with them longterm. We’re in the business of rebuilding relationships by discarding the previous foundation for a newer, stronger one. If we build a relationship atop a house of cards, it’s only a matter of time before it collapses again.
I hope this helps and I appreciate your insight.
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
Mine was a 4 year long LDR I am in Arkansas and she was in Texas. but we fit so well together and we visited each other often which was usually once a month. She was my best friend and I was her first everything. I never had the kind of love and connection with someone that I had with her. We were both 28 and shared a birthday within the same week. We did go on a “break” in 2014 but it was resolved in 6 months and we got back together and everything seemed fine. Long story short, three weeks ago me and my father were on a road trip to San Antonio to visit my Grandmother for her 96th birthday and we get into a car accident and the car got totaled in Dallas. My now ex was in Fort Worth. We were stuck at a gas station with our luggage after the car got hauled off and my dad nearly gets mugged. I then call and tell my girlfriend what happened to us and she offers to help to come over and take us to a rental car facility as she was all we knew who were available to help us in the area. We did offer to pay for gas but she turned it down. Anyways, we get to a rental car facility and while my father was signing the paperwork my girlfriend dumps me right there in her car. Various quotes from her was that she felt nothing one way or the other and was saying I no longer come to mind when she wants to spend time with someone and she didn’t want to hurt me any longer. (she canceled a visit the month prior and claimed she was too busy which left me pretty sad since we had not seen each other since July) She also brought up random stuff about our past issues and said I give her anxiety and also made a random comment accusing me of expecting her to support me which did not make any sense to me. Yes I had been going thru a hardship for a couple months prior to this but never asked for money or anything. She also said she could no longer envision a future together. Didn’t even say goodbye or check in on me or my father afterward as we concluded our trip to San Antonio and then back home in a rental car. I was shocked and devastated and it really was salt in the wounds considering what just happened to us with my parents car getting totaled that same night. About a week later she even blocked me and my entire family on Facebook after I messaged her demanding answers but I was also trying to be loving and supportive to her situation which I will get to in a minute. The actual comment that made her block me was: “Good Morning! Have a great day! I love you! Just please do not throw away what we shared together over these 4 years.” Then later that night when I saw she blocked everyone I called her demanding to know what was going on and I was pretty intense with her about it. She simply said in a very neutral tone: “I simply don’t want to be with you anymore. Leave me alone because I really do not want to change my phone number.” I said a few regrettable comments and hung up. We have not spoken at all in two weeks. Whats worse is we had just made plans for spending Christmas together and taking a vacation with my parents just two days before the breakup. I was gonna propose to her this month as well. She was very fond of my parents and she was like a daughter to them. We had made plans for getting an apartment together back in August and having me move down there next year. We were talking about being together forever and marriage. I have never felt so angry and betrayed in my life. She is Asian and had to move back in with her family earlier this year and she had mentioned there was a lot of family drama going on including her telling me that I was not welcome over there anymore after I visited her for our 4 year anniversary back in July for whatever reason she does claimed to not know. I know enough about asian culture from dating her long enough to know how they put family and career first before anything else. Now one thing I do need to point out is she is extremely career focused and driven and she was about to get her Masters Degree while working two jobs in the IT field. She is very bad about over exerting herself. I kinda got the vibe that me having a hard time getting a job for two months played a strong role in her building some kind of hidden resentment towards me. I honestly had no clue she was gonna cut me loose and completely go cold and disappear out of my life. I had just started two jobs the week following the breakup. I never got to tell her that, sadly. Could it simply be the extreme stress she is enduring on all fronts and my crisis that night triggered something to make her go cold turkey on me? We had a very harmonious relationship overall. Its been three weeks tonight and I am still so shocked and confused. I dunno what to do as I truly felt she was my soulmate and she got replaced by someone I don’t know. This has left me feeling so sick and hopeless. Will I have to give up on this situation after all we been through? Overall we had a really good relationship and we both looked at each other as our best friend. Now its like I am dead to her. I am at a loss.
Joshua,
Thank you for sharing your story. I know how painful of a situation you must be in right now. I understand that there may be nothing worse than feeling like she doesn’t love you anymore and you feel stuck wondering what to do. There is not simple solution here, but I will say there’s hope. You need to identify the root causes on what made the relationship go south and determine solutions for them. I am working with several people facing very similar issues to your at this time, and I would be more than willing to help you. I invite you to please book a session: https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
Wishing you the very best.
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
I’m in a pretty rough position right now and I need some advice I have been with my girlfriend for about 4 1/2 years we have been engaged since last June and we just had a beautiful baby girl 7 months ago. We have had our ups and downs but I love her so much and I want to be with her the rest of my life. Well a week or so ago she told me she doesn’t know what wrong with her but she’s feeling different she said she doesn’t know if she’s in love with me anymore and she doesn’t know if she wants to be with me anymore. I was shocked when she told me this I mean I was struggling as wel because I could tell a difference in her. However the last few months things at her job have gotten very stressful Christmas hisbyear has been tough finicially and we haven’t really spent much alone time together. Well she wants to see a counselor and try and figure out what’s wrong but in the same breath she doesn’t know what she want and I’m so hurt and confused by this because Idk what I should do and I just need some advice. Anyone that can help it would be much appreciated thank you
Hi Matt,
Thank you for your share. I’m so sorry to hear about your current situation, and I know it’s the hardest thing when you’re stuck questioning whether or not your ex loves you and what to do about it. I encourage you to really focus on the underlying issues in your relationship. Identifying and implementing solutions to these are going to be what salvages your relationship. If you need any help, please feel free to reach out to Adrian or myself to set up a session. We’re here to support you.
Sincerely,
Coach N.
I have been rejected for 5 years i guess this ex recovery plan doesn’t work for me. Im finally accepting my reality and trying to keep a minimum amount of Dignity.
I always treated her right and everything the only bad thing is that its a distant relationship she told me that she love me too but after everything she started to fade away. I on ther other hand was still in love with her i notice things was changing but im still trying to get her back. No where cleared things up and everything she said that she stills loves me but just not as before. When i told her that i still lover the same way and most likely even more. I know i messed en some occasions but i still need her and want to keep talking as before. So may question is will she ever love me the same way before ? Knowing that i still love her and want to fix things? What do i do know?
Hi Gustabo,
Thank you for your share. When we’re wondering whether our ex loves us anymore, it can be a really painful time. Without knowing more about your relationship, I can’t assess too much, but I think that you need to delve into the intricacies of the relationship. Did she feel neglected? Were you too needy? When you can develop an understanding as to what happened in the relationship, you can start to fix it.
I really hope this helps,
Coach N.
Hi I’ve been with my girlfriend (she is Polish) for just under 10 years we have 2 boys 8 and 4 toget her. She recently kicked me out and told me she doesn’t love me anymore. I admit I havent been very nice for a while because I’ve been smoking weed and its made me say some nasty things and she has just has enough which I totally understand! I really want to stop and choose my family over the weed but I can’t make her see this right now she hates me so much. I feel terrible and I really want her back so I can have my family back again I’ve made a huge mistake with my stupid mouth and behaviour (no violence) I really need advice or help in order to get her back again she was still cuddling me a day before she kicked me out so surely the feelings can’t just disappear overnight! I’m in a spare bedroom at my mums on the floor I wake up and think I’m still in a nightmare! I really don’t know what to do. jayseb2121@gmail.com is my email and any advice would be deeply appreciated I’m in such a mess. Thanks. Jason. Oh by the way I’m 31 and she is 29.
Sounds kinda like my situation
Hi Natalie,
I am 17 years old and feel like my recent break up is something so hard for me to handle lately and I don’t know how to even go about it. I have never felt so low in my life, and everyone says the same things to me, and no matter what it is or who they are it doesn’t not make a difference. Doing anything to keep me “busy” doesn’t even seem to help because I think about her non stop. I went and talked to a therapist for the first time in my life recently, and even that I feel walking out that it didn’t have the biggest helps, and I know it can’t just magically fix everything talking to a therapist, but it seriously seemed like just talking with anyone else. My ex and I started messaging in February of 2014, dating in May of 2014, and broke up at the end of November of 2016. We had never really talked much to any other opposite sex people outside of our relationship because we never wanted it being an issue with us. In November, I decided to follow girls on social medias that I knew, thinking it wouldn’t be the biggest of deals because we could trust each other and everything. She became very upset about it and we had arguments about it numerous times down the road. There was one specific girl that would like everything of mine, literally everything, and my ex became aware of this and started to question me. We argued on the night of thanksgiving after I got a message from her out of the random that said happy thanksgiving. After that night, my girlfriend was mad at me, and questioned the girl that night. Prior to that day on thanksgiving, his same girl was brought up in one of our arguments. My ex asked me I had ever talked to her numerous times and I said no. After that argument, I went and messaged the girl an apology sort of for my girlfriend because she is the jealous type, and we had almost broke up because of her and I pretty much gave her the whole rundown. So back to thanksgiving night when she became mad, she went and asked the girl if we had ever talked and she sends my ex the picture of my apology and she sees it and brings all my stuff to my house and breaks up with me. I never had cheated, lied, or done anything in our relationship to intentionally hurt her before this ever. I made a mistake, and never should have done what I did in the first place. So my ex now is talking to another guy with the first month of our break up after being together for so long. There’s no way I could pull myself around to liking or being with another girl no matter what people tell me. And I don’t doubt still that we can’t ever get back together, but I’m so stuck with everything and what to even do anymore. This is the hardest thing I have ever gone through, and I have classes at college starting with her tomorrow, and two of our three are the same. I don’t know how to handle that situation either in person, (leave her alone, or just say hi or whatever) I love her with everything and always have and will. As time has gone on it gets harder and harder for me and at first, I kept on trying to txt and talk or do anything to communicate with her, cried to her, everything. Not in hope it would help but because I don’t know what else to do. I have left her completely alone now for a couple of weeks, but it’s so hard for me everyday. I find myself checking on her to with social media and she seems like she is happy and I honestly don’t know how she makes it seem or look so easy.
Maybe part of the problem also is that she has been talking to somebody else..fb..whatever & they are feeding her with everything that she wants to hear & she starts to question things and thinks everything they said she hasnt heard in a while..well when it comes to that you have to show her that your still the man she fell in love with & you still love her just as much as when you first set eyes on her
Hello. I have been together with my girlfriend for 5,5 years, we have been living together for 4,5 years. 3 weeks ago out of nowhere (really out of nowhere: for christmas she gave me a card telling me how happy she is and how much she loves me) she told me, that she doesnt love me anymore.
The same night she moved out and went to her parents place. Some days later I asked her for a second chance. I did a lot of thinking, read the book ‘my wife doesn’t love me anymore’ and realized that there had been problems that she never really told me. I changed a lot and tried to do my best. She also saw my change. I apologized to her for not noticing and all the things that bothered her, but then 2 weeks later, i thought it was going better, we met for the first real time and talked, but she had already made up her mind and told me it was over. I am so confused and sad, because she really didnt communicate anything. She said so herself, that she did not realize she was unhappy until it came suddenly out and now it came all out. She also firmly believes that there is no way she will love me again, because she doesnt believe her heart can change. She told me that she feels she is going through a major transition in her life and that I am no longer part of it. She thanked me for our great relationship and told me she is grateful that I had been in her life. She said, “Maybe in the future we could be friends, whenever you feel ready” and that she is sure that i will have a bright future in front of me. … I don’t know what to do. It seems totally hopeless, she is so convinced right now. We broke up for real last thursday. But even the 2 weeks before that, I barely saw her at all, we did text a little bit, but she told me last thursday, that at the beginning she was confused, but in those 2 weeks she meditated and thought a lot and made it clear to her that she has no feelings left for me and she already made peace with her decision.
Can i even fight for her? I feel right now I can only give her space and work on myself, i have implemented NC since the break up. But I honestly am not hopeful, since she seems to have moved on instantly with all her talk about spreading her wings and transforming her life. During our breakup talk she started even questioning her love for me during our time, saying that maybe it was some weird kind of Mother Kid relation. This is totally wrong, but i guess since she only feels attachement now and no love left, she changed the picture in her head all around… We used to be extremly close and affectionate, out of all the couples i know we were the closest and we are best friends of each other as well.
Hello I am having some trouble my girlfriend and i have not been getting g along for a while now an she has been asking me to try an change myself because all that we did was argue an there was a lot I didn’t like what she did.. Tonight she told me that she didn’t have the same feelings anymore after we fought because her heart hurt what do I do to win her heart back an to make this things better
I had her in the grasp of my hands again but my jealousy got the best of me and I went off on her and called so many different names, but im deeply in love with her what can I do to win her back after that screw up
Hi Jonathan,
Thank you for your share. I know how hard your situation can be. However, instead of focussing on getting her back, focus on the root of what causes your jealously. That’s going to be what makes all the difference here, and it will also determine why you treat her the way you do.
Sincerely,
Coach N.
Married 27 years. We had our good and bad times, rarely got into arguments mainly disagreements like a normal married couple. The last 5 years my work and health declined. I was able to do office work IT as long
as no chemicals were around (asthma), but the heavy lifting type work was over for me. Not to mention the economy like throughout the united states had crashed. I had lost my last real job because the company
closed it’s doors. I applied religiously but had no success gaining employment like I had. This put a great stress on us.. but she had a good job that covered everything leaving us with limited funds after bills were paid. When we first got married, we had nothing but our baby boy and lived with my parents. We struggled and went through hard times together but love* always kept us together. We loved each other but agreed our children was the most important thing for the future and agreed they would always have their parents and looked forward to grandchildren. We eventually started working good enough where we could afford a new home. This was a magic time for us. My wife was really into the the word of God! she studied like nobody I had ever seen. We went
to church and believed in all the principles of marriage! this was my security blanket. We had friends that would come to the house and study with us. The last 4 years I had not went to church with her like I should have and I sure do regret it now because I believe there would have been a different outcome..maybe. I was very stressed and embarrassed because I could not find work. It led to me having very low self esteem. Then family members, my children, including her mom that moved in during the last 5 years, started looking down on me. I take
full responsibility for the stress she had from all of this, but I loved her rich or poor. In 2011 she had a hysterectomy and they had her on some pills for pain because she had muscle issues. They prescribed her Tramadol and at the time I had no idea it was a synthetic opioid. All I cared about was that it made her stop hurting. She was diagnosed with fibromyalgia so treatment was going to be long term. After a couple
weeks she was fine acted normal and I thought nothing else about it. I did ask her from time to time if the meds were working and she said “yes but felt she needed a higher dose”. Shes been on these pills for 6
years and I just read it takes just a week or so to become dependent. I did notice a change in her personality but never said anything to her, I was just glad she was ok. A couple years go by and she steps away from
her church and bible activity slowly and replaced it with arts and crafts making necklaces and things like that. I noticed she stopped picking up the bible, when she would read it everyday and night at some
point for years. I knew something was wrong but always blamed myself because of the my job status and just tried to get through it. I started working from my office and she would be on the couch with her mother
doing her crafts after work. Our evening couch time ended when her mother moved in. She was also very religious, but it seemed that she took my place when it came to many things like spending time together.
This really tore me apart and I expressed my feelings about this to her. Like i said, some of the family was looking down on me and I was feeling really depressed because of it. I would try and talk to her about it and she
would always say “You are going to make everyone think you are the victim” she knew I was being treated wrong..she even asked me one day “don’t you want to get your respect back” This stuff really worked on
me! I was in hyper mode trying to find something to make things better. I was worried she would be the next one to look down on me and leave me when she was everything to me! (A declaration of love). She assured me
we were good.. but wanted to see me do better with working and I wanted too as well. Over last year or so, she became really paranoid about people knowing she was taking this medication, especially her mother.
She had two brothers that were full blown addicts and the family had went through some tough times because of that. I would not allow them to stay in our home because of all the obvious reasons and dangers that
come with it. She would always send me to get her prescription from the the pharmacy because she was embarrassed. She had worked in pharmacy for years and knew what they would say and think about her. The Dr would call and say “ok your prescription was sent to the pharmacy” ..I would go to the pharmacy and they would not give it to me because it was too early. I didn’t realize what was going on until the last year or so. She
had been taking too many and trying to get it filled early. Most of the time 3 and 4 days early and that would amount to around 32 pills overdosed at 50mg. I finally told her that she needed to back off and
not do this and was trying to help her taper down after reading about the drug. I knew after one day back in January when she was 5 days early, she curled up like a snake on the couch and was in withdraw and
pain. I felt really bad for her and worried, I took a picture of her that day. She started wanting to smoke pot to ease this until she could get her drugs and then..wanting to smoke pot on top of the drug every
night with sex. This was something we did when we were young..the pot thing. It was harmless, but adding it to your overdosed addiction could cause you to go into a coma like drinking. I started worrying about her.
But she assured me she was alright. We had went on a cruise, the beach a couple of times and were really connecting like we had when we were young. I felt really good, especially when her mom moved out. It was
just us. We did have a couple of fights that were bad during this time. I started noticing the sex getting wild for the last 6 months. Doing things sexually we had never done before. several nights I asked her to
look me in the eye and tell me I’m the only one and will always be the only one. She did and it felt and looked real to me..27 years and we are still together after everything. She started wanting tattoos..new
hairdo’s, new clothes and pants that went up her ass. I noticed that she had new underwear that i had not bought her and curling here eye lashes applying make up for an hour early in the morning to go to work. She
had never done any of that before and turning 43. As I told her during the last fight, everything that is sign of another man, she was doing. I noticed right away but did not say anything. I did not want to be wrong
and and mess up the good times we had been having falsely accusing her. I noticed finger tip looking bruises on her thighs and quickly asked her about that and she said “I bump into things at work all the time”. I
suspected another man right then. We went shopping one day and when we returned she pulled me in the bathroom and wanted me to throw her up on the sink area like a table and was having loud sex with me for about 30 mins. It was just weird and not the woman I knew. Being a man, I was into it.. but thought it was strange the way she was acting. I noticed her time getting her father was off, she blamed it on work people talking to her on the way to the car and and caught her going to work early. I pressed her on it and said whats going on? don’t lie to me! She tried to lie and then the next sentence would be the truth. and then..she said she was seeing someone else. I lost my mind, my heart broke and I went into extreme hurt and painful depression. She told me it was a co-worker and lied about how long it was going on and told me in the next sentence that she pursued
him in May..he backed off because he’s married too with children and then she said it got heated during Christmas. I asked her if she loved him and she said she did ((batting her eyes)) and that he made her heart
go pitter patter. Told me they had casual sex at her office but no intercourse, I didn’t believe her on that and shes trying to hide how long. I told her she did not love this man because she was having sex with me
for the last 6 months like a porn queen and if she was truly in love, she would not do that. I asked her what she called that and she said.. I call that “f-ing”. Again not the woman I knew. I tried to get her to tell me his name and all she wanted to do is protect him holding her arms out saying “take it out on me” I told her she was not worth it! I grabbed my keys crying and walked out the door and went to my cousins house. I found out that she had
planned on leaving me and told both my son’s 2 weeks prior and a couple other people. She had this new girlfriend from work she had been hanging out with and I found out she knew her for a while and been going to her house hanging out without telling me. This was most likely her meeting place for this guy. My wife had been living a double life right in front of me. We had a grandson born in 2013. We were Nana and Pop-pop we did
everything with him together since the day he was born. This made everything seem normal. This was all a lie and breaks my heart so badly, I cant even look at him now without crying. I can’t believe she gave up
the union we had for our grandson. I can’t believe she gave up everything* for what ever this is. This has most likely been going on for a couple of years. The first night after she left was the worst
alone in the house. I posted scriptures about marriage to her through text begging her to open her heart and realize what she is doing..blamed the drug on her flip flop new personality and begged her to change the
drug. I contacted people around her in faith hoping they could sway her and bring her back to reality or at least the person she was. Nothing worked! She told me that she loved me but not like she should have for a
long time. The problem I have with this is the lie and the person she use to be. It really makes no sense. She moved out, most likely already an apartment. My son’s blame me and I have lost my family, home and
peace of mind. It seems like I have lost everything. Please pray for me! I’m 52 and alone after having what I though was a normal family with a caring loving christian wife. I don’t understand why she was willing to
give up her credibility, because among many people she was well respected in church and friends. That is who she was. This is not the woman i knew. She claims God is helping her through this. I have not
spoken to her for over a week. She heard I was leaving the state and text me a picture of my grandson saying..”he asked about you..he truly loves you” I did not respond. Now I’m roaming across the south, not sure
where or what I’m going to do. I’m really worried about her and my kids and grandson. This has also effect our entire family. The worst thing that has ever happened to me in my 52 years of life. In my small world..
I believe either you love someone or you don’t, there is no in between. Hurting someone in this way is the most cruel thing you can do. Everyone that knows her was completely shocked. Totally out of character.
Im 17 and my ex is 16.My ex girlfriend was obessed with me before we dated and she would always be the one to blow my phone up and say she likes me alot and she would talk about her feelings and what was bothering her and all that jazz. after about two months we dated on Valentine’s day she was so happy because she got with me and she loved me alot I could just tell. In our relationship she was always wanting my attention and love and she never gold digged me or use me for anything and everyone was like she’s a keeper you should keep her. But also before we dated I was afraid I would shut her out and she would tell me not to and she begged me not to do that and that she likes me way to much for me to throw it away and I promised her I wouldn’t. While we were dating she would always think I was mad at her or when I’d say I’m leaving or giving up she would take it the wrong way and be like don’t do this or please don’t. She would ask me herself if I’d lose feelings for her. Well while we dated we did sexual things and she’s a virgin and on March third we kinda did it for a few min till we both agreed this isn’t right ( having sex ). Well after that she was treating me weird like wouldn’t talk to me much she wouldnt look at me she kinda acted like I wasn’t there she wouldnt do things she used to say or do. She still kinda wanted me to give her attention and stuff and even if she smiled I knew she was hiding her feelings. I bugged her I would confront her about how she’s treating me and she said it’s nothing to worry about she’s fine she’s just not herself or its her hormones or something but deep down I knew it was something bigger than that. While all that was happening she barley talked to me or anything over spring break but she said she loved me and still wanted me and nothing would change that. March 14 I had a feeling that I should ask her for the final time what’s wrong she said she doesn’t know how to say it because she was scared of how I would react about it. I could tell she was scared to death cause she knew how much I liked her. She said I’m no happy I feel suffocated and tied down. And that I made her happy she just needed to feel like she could breath again wothout feeling like that.she said the reason she felt that way was because she thought our promises wouldn’t ever happen and she said I can’t do anything without thinking does it make us both happy or just her. What should I do I’ve did research on how to get her but they all said to actively attract her back.
My Girl and I became like roommates. 3 kids opposite work schedules, i never wanted to do anything as a family like we used too. She was always exhausted from work and having to take kids everywhere while i was at work. We started to fight alot. Saying awful thongs to eachother. Breaking eachothers stuff. The children are hers but i have raised them with her and they know me as their dad. We wome up a week ago on friday and fought about going to this easter hunt at the nursing home where she works. Her sister was on her way to our house aswell to stay the weekend. She ends up kicking me out and now her sis lives there with her. Theyre looking for another place she barely talks to me. Said she doesn’t love me anymore and that she let go months ago. In the meantime im bawling my eyes out missing her so much and the children wishing her sis would leave i try to make contact and text or call but i feel it pushes her further and further away. She said im making her hate me. And i dont know what to do. I am suffocating here. Im desperate. I want my family back. Im ready to do the things i never did and change the things i did. Please someone. Anyone with advice here plz.. Im desperate
Im not really sure how to go about saying whats going on with me and my girlfriend well ex at the moment, i know in my head i haven’t really accepted what happened even though its already been a little over a month, i tried talking to her and telling her how much i love her and everything I’ll do for her i just need time so she doesnt believe me anymore well im not sure if she believed me in the beginning either cause iv told her i want to marry her and that was something i meant from the bottom of my heart its just certian things she doesn’t believe from me anymore..the main one being me getting a job which iv never actually had a real job before just side things and the reason i haven’t is just honestly cause im scared and i just dont feel ready for that quite yet cause i am still young but she’s actually younger then me so she doesn’t understand why im scared, im a very quiet and shy person and iv opened up to her so much telling her how i feel about the matter and everything from that to everything else but she just doesnt get my fear, she has fears too but i never forced her to get over it so why does she think it should just be so easy for me maybe if we were actually living together I’d understand alot more cause I’d be forced to get a job to support her but we weren’t living together yet but that doesn’t mean i dont try to give her the things she wants she just wants the one thing i don’t have.. a job, besides that its just been also about me not wanting to interact with her family which iv met some of them but i haven’t really talked at all to them cause maybe in the back of my head i get scared that they wont like me cause one of the first times i met someone in her family i didn’t really talk and i clinched to her the whole time so later on in the day she told me she was mad at me for being so quiet…she tells me that me being quiet was never a issue and its not when im around her but its different around new people, with all this being said that doesn’t mean i wouldn’t do all this for her because i would i want to make her happy i want her to be my wife i want to be her husband she just doesn’t have faith in me anymore i just need more time, i said some mean things to her when we broke up but it was just out of anger cause i couldn’t understand how she could do that and i asked her why and she told.. i love her but if i do why wouldn’t i have done these things already? I truly love her i just want the same love in return even with my flaws
Well I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about a year and 5 months, everything was great, it was love at first sight, we met in college and it was all good. When we met, I was having car trouble so I didn’t really have one atm while she did so when her dad would invite me over to their home for partys and what not she would pick me up, which her parents were okay with until I got up on my feet, it was all great until her dad would want me to go over regularly and on days that I couldn’t go and when I wouldn’t be able to go, he would tell that I rather be out doing other things than be with her, her dad was always the one commenting on everything we did, she was okay with my situation and understood that I could only see her sometimes so it was good but her dad always had to say something. Eventually a little before our year, her dad didn’t want her picking me up anymore and decided it was better for us to be friends which was hurtful but I accepted it at least until I had more time to see her. Knowing we still loved each other very much, we decided to keep dating and seeing each other behind our parent’s backs, we saw each other in school, we’d go places together, the movies, she’d come over when no one was home, it was still good, everything was great. So 2017 started and this was when I got everything together, I got my license and everything, just needed a car which Im getting soon still, well since we were in college, summer was approaching which meant I wouldn’t be be able to see her for a while since our relationship is hidden so I told her I’m try to see you, I’m working on my car plus I told her once the fall semester begins, I’ma see you more because I’ma have my car, she was excited as I was too, we loved each other and kept communication regularly so we didn’t mind waiting a few months. It was until about 2 weeks ago that I noticed her mood in the way she would reply to my texts had changed, as if she was forcing her emotions so I felt a little odd like something was going on but I didn’t want to say anything, well 2 days ago she tells me that she wishes she could give me 100% and since she can’t atm it’s frustrating her and wish she could do more for me so she said it’s better to be friends for now, that she isn’t being fair with me, and that she will always love me that she just needs time to love herself more and find out other things because atm she doesn’t know what she wants, she said it has nothing to do with me and that she’s not seeing anyone else or talking to any one else, she just needs time, she told me not to worry, she needs a break. I started thinking could it just be a summer thing and that once she sees me regularly her emotions will come back? Or could it be that since she’s a year away from graduating college, she feels stress and wants to think if I’m the right fit for her future? We have already made plans on getting married soon, I’m 2 years away from graduating, I told her I’ll give her the time that she needs all but to let me know when she’s ready to try again and that in the mean time I’ll be here for her to support her, should I be worried or no? Sorry I made this too long btw
Hello John,
Thank you for reaching out to me and for sharing your story.
I’m happy to see that you’ve done the work and that you truly seem to want to make this relationship work for the right reasons.
There are no guarantees here, as your situation is a complex one…but I do believe that I can help you maximize your chances of making it work – and I do think that it is possible to turn everything around.
I would recommend that you book a one hour private coaching session in order for me to respond to all of your questions, provide you with insights and a clear way forward.
I sincerely hope to hear from you soon.
Coach N
Hello Natalie or anyone that can help,
I’ve been dating my girlfriend for the last 8 months, she is the absolute love of my life. I’ve know her since high school and we’ve been great friends throughout the years. Last fall I took a leap of faith, and decided to take things to the next level; we’ve always liked each and both wanted a relationship. For the first five months or so, fireworks; we had a lot of fun and enjoyed each other. I was going to college 4 hrs away, and she would visit me on weekends and I would come down when I had time off; it was perfect. I graduated in May, and since then we’ve been rocky. Intially I thought the honey moon phase is over, and things would play itsself out. But two months later and it hasn’t, this spark that was once present is gone. She says I’m too submissive, that she hates how she walks all over me, she says she needs someone to put in her place and I just don’t do that. This is true, I would give her the world and to me she can’t do any wrong. She is a afraid, we aren’t as compatible as she thought; she has been in some bad relationships and says this is the best she’s ever been treaten but she may have overlooked qualities that I don’t possess because finally a guy has treated her so well. I do not want to lose her, and I’m going to fight for her till I can’t anymore. But she feels this is just the person I am, I cannot change and it’s not fair to me. Is there anything I can do ? Ive never really been in serious relationships, but I see my future with this girl and I don’t want to be with anyone but her.
Hi Patrick,
Thank you for your share. I know how challenging trying to fix things with your ex can be. I do feel, though, based on my professional experience, that what you truly need is going to be a bit of coaching. Your situation does seem salvageable, but it’s complex and will require a tailored strategy.
If you’d like to book a session with me or Coach Adrian, I invite you to visit this link: http://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching
I’m looking forward to connecting with you.
Best,
Coach N
So like, my girlfriend dumped me yesterday and she said it’s because her feelings for me faded and that she isn’t ready for commitment and all. The thing is I still love her and I want her back, she like the love of my life. I need to win her back, can someone please help me?
Hi Vincent!
Thanks for reaching out.
I think that I can help you turn things around but you will need to book a coaching session in order for us to work together.
You can book a coaching session with me here:
https://www.withmyexagain.com/coaching/
If you book a session, I will reach out to you right away to schedule a time and day for us to speak.
Hope to chat with you soon!
Sincerely,
Coach Natalie
Hello Roy,
Thank you for your comment. Without the context of the relationship I wouldnt be able to give advice. I encourage you to give her space and focus on something your passionate about.
Best,
WMEA Team
hi i’ve been in a relationship for 12 yrs with my girlfriend we had 3 children togeather who were take by child protection then we got hooked on drugs to numb the pain she goes to jail and meets some guy from talking through the toliet’s now shes saying they been writing for like a month now and that she is in love with this person that she has never met i feel that she never loved me at all but i love her with all my heart and don’t want to lose her what can i do move on fight for her or beg for her to come back and stress i am sorry for everything.
Tarini,
I think the best thing for you to do is go into No Contact. We have something about this in our free guides.
Best,
WMEA Team
If you can handle a friendship and not let your emotions get the best of you right now then yes. I think this would be an incredible way to start.
Hie we have been married for past five years l lied to my wife that l don’t bt one day she caught me cheating then l asked for forgiveness and she said she had forgiven me bt everytime we have a fight she always brings it back and which has lead to her leaving me for that bt l have changed my behavior l don’t cheat anymore bring bt she has left me
Hello Umair,
Yes, I would encourage no contact in this situation. Also, I would encourage you to be more focused on activities and socializing more. To show her a different approach. I do suggest for you to look into this product as this can help. 🙂 https://www.withmyexagain.com/product/how-to-get-her-back/
Best,
WMEA Team