When jealousy is under control, it might be considered proof of how deeply you love your partner. In truth, it is an indicator of something deeper and it shouldn’t be taken lightly.
It could actually be a sign of a real problem and a lack of confidence in yourself and in your partner. Sometimes jealousy isn’t much different from paranoia! In a healthy and balanced relationship, you don’t breathe down your partner’s neck, you don’t keep them from seeing their friends, and you don’t freak out about what they’re wearing or about receiving a text from someone you don’t know.
The worst thing is that it’s making you suffer and your happiness is turning into doubt, fear and anxiety. So in order to stop experiencing such painful things, in order to stop being jealous and to bring back the satisfying and fulfilling relationship that you had always dreamed of, I invite you to closely read what is about to follow.
Fighting jealousy: How to win the battle?
I know that if you’ve typed, “I don’t want to be jealous anymore” into your search engine before you found my site, it probably means that you’ve already read some books on the subject, you’ve already tried to work on your emotions, and maybe you’ve even gone to therapy.
But hasn’t anything worked?
Don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re going to surmount this. That said, don’t try to hide from it or try to forget about it like society teaches us to do because it will only come back stronger.
So how do you stop being jealous? How can you overcome it once and for all?
The first thing that I’m going to tell you simple and it’s a determining factor: You’re going to create the life of your dreams and make sure that you love yourself before you start wanting others to love you (especially your significant other.)
As I have said in other pieces on the subject, fighting jealousy entails a positive state of mind and not putting all your focus on this painful feeling and the problems that it creates in your relationship.
This is the main piece of information to take from this article that I’ve written on jealousy. You must change the way you perceive things and the way you live your life as well. The more power you give jealousy, the harder it will be to surmount it. I suggest doing this exercise to attain concrete solutions, as it will clarify your idea of a perfect life.
An exercise to stop being jealous!
Go ahead and take a piece of paper right now, and write down perfect moments that you’d like to experience with your partner (and that your partner would want to experience with you, too.) Take your daily life into your own hands and decide which days will contain these moments (alone or with your partner) that will make you build your self-confidence and take your mind off of your jealousy.
You have to take action in order to understand that there is no reason to be possessive because you’re the only person that has your partner’s heart and vice versa.
You’re going to have to make an effort to concentrate if you want these moments that you’ve written down to become perfect. By showing your partner that you’re doing everything in your power to make both of you happy, you’ll begin to feel more and more confident.
Being happy in your life is the best remedy for no longer being jealous!
Unlink jealousy from your past!
The past plays a considerable role in your present. So stop focusing on negative things that may have happened and set your sights on the future. I know it’s easier to remember bad times than happy times in relationships, but that doesn’t mean that just because one person betrayed you, everyone else will as well!
Love is about mutual trust.
It’s a simple idea but it’s not always easy to accept. In most cases, jealousy stems from something that happened in your past or a fear of being hurt. This can hold you back from moving forward in your life and from making important decisions. It is however the time to fight this because jealousy can waste a big portion of your life and it can make your relationship unstable. You have everything you need in order to be happy!
In order to stop being jealous, you have to take the time to properly analyze it. By understanding the source of it, you’ll be able to fight it efficiently.
You have to be able to be at peace with your past, even if it was painful. It made you who you are today and you know that you’re never going to go through the same exact situation ever again, especially if you’ve already known heartache. Jealousy is easily surmountable if you decide to take action ASAP by seeking guidance from an expert in human relationships.
Help for no longer being jealous
Asking for help and calling on a coach is nothing to be ashamed of. Sometimes you need an external analysis by someone who deals with these types of situations on a daily basis and a professional can determine which actions would be best for fighting against this phenomenon.
Based on your specific story, you’ll receive personalized advice that will help you to move forward. In terms of your behavior in your relationship, just figuring out what the source is isn’t going to be enough to design the perfect plan of action. With my help, you’ll efficiently fight against “your demons” using Neuro-linguistic programing tools. Working on yourself is an essential first step and it’s crucial that you fully understand that your partner isn’t your property!
You can make an appointment already so that you can have access to one on one coaching, and you can also leave a comment below about what’s behind your jealousy.
I invite you to share this article with your friends and loved ones. They’ll thank you for having helped them overcome jealousy in love!
Coach in Personal Development to help you stop being jealous!