I know breakups can be tough. They happen in so many different ways. Sometimes we see them coming, and sometimes we don’t. I mean let’s be honest: you’re reading this article because you may have just been broken up with or you might see it coming. Today, I am going to explain why do men breakup. Because in order to move on or even to get back with your ex you need to know why he has taken his decision.
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Why do guys break up with girls: understanding the psychology of a man is essential
I know breakups can be incredibly painful because you might have pictured spending the rest of your life with this person, you may also be wondering how someone could break up with you if they loved you.
It’s important to understand that even though this person loved you, they are entitled to separate if they feel they cannot be with you at this moment. When you are broken up with it not only hurts your ego, but you start to question your future without them. For many, a breakup can feel similar to mourning a loss of someone you love.
As you may know, men are entirely different when it comes to women. Men can be pretty easy if you master the art of knowing how they think and also want to be treated. So often I see men dumping women because they didn’t feel as though they were seen in the relationship, heard, and more often than not they didn’t feel their partner had boundaries so it may have started to get boring.
I can go on with a list of common things but the most important thing to share with you is how a man psychologically ingests love and relationships. My goal here is to help you identify what may catch your attention and also sound familiar.
A man’s mind operates pretty logistically. A lot of times we think that men are so confusing and we just can’t understand them when that is not even close to being the case. Men, are not separate from us and at the end of the day they do fear being alone and being broken up with. Men look at relationships for comfort, security, trust, and a happy place to lay their head at night. When a man notices his relationship feels more like a game or a constant fight he begins to emotionally and then physically check out. Men typically keep the main point in mind when a woman remembers all the details.
Just because a man keeps to the main point and does not show emotions as much as you would like him to does not mean that he is not interested in a relationship. Men receive love differently than women do. They look at the relationship with if they can trust their partners motives and words. A Lot of men tend to feel neglected immediately if there partner has lied to them or mistreated there trust. Because men are typically genetically opinionated their partners opinion matters a lot to them but if they don’t trust their partner then its harder for a man to want to stay in this relationship.
5 reasons to know Why Men Break Up with Women
Not having the answers to your questions can be difficult. Every day you are asking yourself “
Why did my boyfriend break up with me?”. I’ve coach so many women like you that now I’m able to tell you exactly why a men wants to break up.
There are plenty of reasons men break up with women, but in this article, we are going to mention the most common ones faced that you can quickly refer to your relationship. A lot of times men feel as though there is nothing left in the relationship because the woman has been too available or has become codependent. He can’t help but take her for granted.
Typically, when this happens in a man’s mind, he can still love you, but he may feel as though he needs space for you to find yourself and become better aligned with yourself and the future goals for the relationship.
Lastly, another common thing I see in relationships is the man becomes unstable in the relationship because he does not feel respected. He thinks that the woman may not always listen to him and there is a constant battle of competition and possibly even getting the last word. Often, I see broken promises gone empty in a relationship like this
He wants a woman with independence and confidence
He wants a woman that (if he leaves) would still be ok. This woman wouldn’t come begging back because she is confident enough to know her values and what she values in the relationship. Meaning, if you are with him to feel better about yourself, then this isn’t the confident, independent woman. What generally happens when you do this is your always grasping to get love from him where it ends up feeling needy, clingy, and typically a man will lose respect and take you for granted.
Not because he is a bad man but because he sees how much you devalue yourself, so it shuts down his possibilities to love you. Remember, it’s just harder to love someone who doesn’t love themselves.
Also, it’s important to note that sometimes men are attracted to what they can’t fully have. If you play the little game of hard to get this can get his attention. That’s why is critical to be as independent as possible.
He wants you to be playful, witty and seductive
This may have been something else that was lost along the way. Especially if you have been together for years, there can be times where you feel like you’re always arguing to the point of just running around in circles, and the playfulness and seduction can get lost.
I see couples struggling to let go of insecurities, and if they choose to forgive their partner for something they did in the past and continue to be in the relationship, they never let go to where it ends up splitting them apart. Men love a woman to be playful with them, as this is something that keeps men on their feet.
He wants you to see him for who he is and not just what he can offer you
Often, I see men feeling as though a woman only wants him for what he is worth, and his winning achievements he has accomplished in his past. Because in our society today we are taught that men have to act tough, take charge, and be secure enough to never let his partner down. But yet, we are all human. A man wants to know that you support him through it all because you see him for who he is.
Men typically have trouble talking about their emotions that’s why it’s so important for their partner to show them support, love, attention, and affection when it’s most needed. This doesn’t mean shower them with love, but what it does mean is taking the time to understand him enough that when he feels down you can general already know by his change of demeanor and actions.
He wants his space
Men enjoy having their time to be alone or do something they may find interest in. He doesn’t have to go everywhere you go, and if you are checking his phone late at night to see what they may be up to then, this means there is absolutely no space in your relationship and there are other things either internally or externally that are having trouble in the relationship.
Not doing everything together makes your time more unique and also can make things more exciting. There is nothing less attractive than being codependent and clingy.
When this happens, the man has full control, and is then less likely to take value in your worth and may look at you as someone he can walk over, knowing that you’re likely to stick around.
Short Lived Relationships: What Does This Mean?
This is when a man is all in! Where he is hot and heavy from the very beginning. He is into you 100%, planning vacations, taking you to dinner, telling you how beautiful you are, always making you feel secure as he wants to nurture you and plan the future.
You might be a little timid at first which he expects, but he is persistent until he gets exactly what he wants. That’s you to be all in! You have to be careful with these type of men since this is too good to be true and does not have a healthy start. These men dump you when they aren’t intrigued anymore. They are addicted to the thrill of the chase.
How do guys handle breakups
Typically, a man handles a breakup by doing activities with friends and trying to stay as busy as possible. If a man was the one to break up with you, then he may be using this to his advantage to do the things he didn’t get to do in a relationship. The goal here is to have a relationship that the man and the women both feel reciprocated in what they get to do and the life they choose to live. Having a clear open dialog of expectations is geared to a healthy relationship.
On the other hand depending on the reasoning he broke up with you he could be feeling along too. You might hear from him time to time because he misses you but this leaves you confused because you don’t know why he still reaches out if he broke up with you.
Even though he broke up with you and still misses you does not mean he will want to get together with you. A lot of times if your ex is experiencing this is because he was not fulfilled with the relationship and maybe lost his trust for you in the relationship. So, a lot of time clients ask us why he won’t come back if he is sad, and says he misses you it’s because he does not want to go back to the same routine of a unhealthy relationship.
The key here is to take a step back change your approach and instead of beginning him to come back to you if you are wishing to get your ex back after a breakup. Then I you have to change your actions so he can see results. In our Ebook “How To Get Your Ex Back” we talk about the process you can do this.
if your boyfriend suddenly broke up with you then I hope this article was able to give you some clearance on how this may have happened. If you are looking for guidance on how to get back with your ex, I am always here to support you!
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