A woman living in Santa Monica, CA got in touch with me the other day with a question that I am often asked in my one on one coaching sessions. She’s begun a relationship with a man for whom she is developing strong feelings, but there are certain elements of their relationship that has been making her question what she represents for him.
Because so many people contact me to ask, “Am I a rebound,” I wanted to write an article exploring this topic for you today!
Am I a rebound or is my partner serious about me?
At this point, you’re dating someone new and you’ve started to develop serious feelings for them as well. There is just something that isn’t sitting right with you. You have a feeling that perhaps he or she is still in love with their ex, or maybe that they’re using you to help them move on but they don’t see themselves with you longterm.
It’s a pretty unsettling feeling, especially if you recognize that you’ve developed serious feelings for this person.
Are you this person’s rebound girl or guy?
One of the biggest indicators of whether or not you’re your partner’s rebound is the amount of time they spend talking about their ex partner. If you find that your partner seems to be very nostalgic and spend a great deal of time bringing up their ex, there is a chance that they are in a rebound relationship with you.
So pay attention to the frequency of conversations about your partner’s ex and how they seem when they’re talking about him or her. Keep in mind that the intensity of the emotions will play a part here. People often make the mistake of thinking that hatred is the opposite of love but that simply isn’t true.
The opposite of love is indifference, and if you can tell that your ex doesn’t feel anything when their ex comes up in conversation from time to time, chances are that YOUR relationship is not a rebound.
If, on the other hand, they seem to be talking about their ex all the time and they’re very animated about it, you might be their rebound.
Timing as an indicator of whether or not your partner is on the rebound
If you’re wondering about whether or not you’re a rebound for your ex, take a look at the timeline. If you know that they broke up relatively close to the time that you two got together, you might be in a rebound relationship.
I also want you to keep in mind that there are cases in which some people are so unhappy in their previous relationship that they are able to move on quite seamlessly. Just because your ex was in a relationship not too long before you two began dating, it doesn’t automatically mean that you are a rebound. It’s important to take a look at the dynamic there, and how your felt at the end of his or her previous relationship.
Were they completely destroyed and heartbroken or did they feel a sense of liberation? Perhaps the breakup was a long time coming and they felt perfectly capable of beginning a new relationship what was much more gratifying!
That said, each and every situation is entirely unique and it is hard for me to give you a clear answer about your situation without having all the details. That is why we encourage you to reach out to me or a member of my team simply by clicking here. That way, we can explore what’s really going on here, and what you can do if something needs to change!
How to turn rebound relationships into serious ones
I want you to rest assured – even if it’s looking like you’re currently in a rebound relationship, it doesn’t mean that it cannot evolve into something more solid.
The biggest thing to keep in mind is that fixating on this label is not going to serve you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you’re a rebound or not! You are spending time with someone that you genuinely like, so don’t focus all your energy on whether or not you’re this person’s rebound; focus your energy on showing them how good life can be with you by their side.
Show them that each moment spent with you is positive, special, and fun! The more you dwell on thoughts that don’t serve you, the more they’re going to affect your ability to build something strong with this person. It’s in your power so don’t hinder yourself!
Negative thoughts will influence your self confidence and your partner WILL pick up on this. This will in turn damage your connection, so focus on enjoying the present moment and making the time you spend together really special.
If you are seeing rebound relationship signs, here’s what to do
As I was saying, there is no sense in fixating on the “label” of rebound relationship or any negativity. Labels simply don’t matter. What does matter is how you’re going to handle this situation. Your actions from here on out are what are going to make the biggest difference. The key right now is going to be fine-tuning your plan of action so that you can solidify your bond with your partner.
Now is the time to focus on showing your partner that you are unlike the rest and that he or she will be happy with you. This means incorporating the classic rules of seduction and attraction!
I am someone who believes that everything is possible in love, and you can turn this rebound relationship into the real thing!
Now, your man needs to feel a constant desire to seduce you, to make you happy, and to make you fall in love with him. So be careful with the following:
– The tendency to become emotionally dependent
– The need to have a man by your side in order to feel fulfilled
– The desire to have a perfect relationship, or allowing each little problem to take on a monumental size that keeps you from being happy
Of course each person is different, but these are the three most common roadblocks that keep you from keeping your man interested and/or happy!
The most important thing, especially when you’re wondering, “Am I a rebound” or “How long before I am not a rebound anymore” is simply to prioritize happiness. Always ask yourself how you can make the present moment enjoyable for both of you, how you can be happy, and how you can ensure that this guy is happy by your side.
There is no mystery behind how to keep a man happy in a relationship. You need to remain confident and take matters into your own hands so that you can become the master of your own destiny. Dynamic and positive women are irresistible to men.
Keep these five tips in mind when you’re thinking about how to make your partner see you in a new light:
1. Become his confidant and show your interest in him
2. Be mysterious and seductive
3. Be open and honest in your communication at all times
4. Live each moment to the fullest
5. Give a voice to your desires and take the initiative
For more in depth content on how exactly to seduce a man, how to make him want to commit, or how to strengthen your relationship, all you have to do is click the links or get in touch with me directly by clicking here!
It can be tough when you’re wondering, “Am I in a rebound relationship” and how you can turn it into something more, but just be careful to avoid rushing things, avoid clingy behavior, and just prioritize making sure that both of you feel good together.
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Wishing you all the best in life and love,
Your coach when you’re wondering “Am I just a rebound to him or her,”