As an expert in love and relationships, I am always asked how to turn the page from a breakup when you never wanted to lose this person in the first place. It’s one of the hardest things to do, and when you’re in the thick of it I know that it can seem like an unsurmountable challenge. How are you supposed to just move on after everything you’ve shared with this person? After all your hopes and dreams for your future together? How do people do this?
I know that right now, you’re experiencing wave after wave of emotions that are making it very hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Getting your heart broken is horribly painful, but you are not in this alone. You’ve got a team of experts right at your fingertips, and this website will provide you with all the tools you need in order to learn how to move forward after a breakup and become happy again!
The process of moving forward from a breakup is not easy, but it is far from impossible. I know that right now it probably feels like the sadness is never going to leave your heart, but trust me, one day you’ll look back on this and smile, because you know that you’re finally in a place where you’ve happily moved on. So let’s get you on track to this day!
How to move forward after a breakup when you know it’s for the best
I specialize in getting people back together, but there are some situations in which moving on from a relationship is for the best. Sometimes you recognize that it’s time to move on because you know that this person is incapable of being a good partner to you and is incapable of making you happy.
Learning how to let go is incredibly hard. Just today I was speaking with one of my clients who was talking about her story. She and her ex were together for three years and the first year and a half seemed like something out of a fairy tale. She said she had never known love like that, and the joy she felt with this man almost felt surreal. As time went on however, she started to discover that they weren’t as aligned as she thought they were, and when challenges began to present themselves, their bond started to get broken down.
He started to yearn for his independence, but couldn’t let her go, and the result was multiple, messy breakups. She tried everything she could do to save the relationship, but in the end he became manipulative and wouldn’t commit to her. When she realized that is was becoming a cyclical thing and that he was never going to choose her, she came to me and said that she was ready to stop trying to get him back and wanted to start working on how to move forward.
This is a huge step, and it’s a very hard decision to make. Oftentimes fear holds us back, and other times our hope for getting back together is so strong that we will continue trying no matter what. But once you get to a point where you can honestly say, “I’ve tried everything” and it still seems hopeless, it becomes easier to make the decision to move on.
Then comes the actual process of moving on. Everyone has a different way of handling it, and some ways are more productive than others. Of course, if you’re going to go out every single night and get inebriated, it’s probably not the best way to move forward in a healthy way.
When it is clear that a person would be much better off without their ex, I aim to help them find the right match; their soul mate.
But whatever your goal might be, the first step is always the same: personal development. At this point, it might feel like you’re never going to get over the breakup. It feels like no one understands. Your friends and family just keep telling you clichés like, “He wasn’t good enough” or, “It’s her loss…” These don’t help you feel better though.
Fortunately you’ve found this website. You’re going to find how to get through to the other side of this as fast as possible. I do want to tell you though, it’s not going to happen overnight. So many of us get frustrated and impatient, but healing takes time – especially if you want it to be in depth. Many people put a bandaid on this wound in the shape of a rebound relationship, but the fact of the matter remains that it’s always better to focus on yourself and work on making yourself happy when you want to move on after a breakup.
Moving on from a breakup is sometimes the absolute best thing you can do for yourself. It’s crucial that you prioritize your own well being before all else. This is what will enable you to find something that is right for you later on down the line.
Always remember that the feeling you are currently experiencing, whether it’s hopelessness, depression, despair, or heartache, is not going to last forever. I can promise you that. The key for making it go away as fast as possible is to start working on yourself.
You might be thinking that it’s not possible to move on when you’re still in love, but it is possible. Again, it’s all about learning how to love yourself more. So let’s take a look at how to do that
Moving forward from a breakup when you’re still in love
The feelings you have for this person aren’t going to disappear into thin air overnight. I know that you probably wish that we could just flick a magic wand and have all of these emotions just disappear in a cloud of smoke right about now, but the moment you start taking matters into your own hands, you’ll see that the feeling of yearning for your ex is going to subside.
Starting now, I’d like you to take a piece of paper and a pen. Start jotting down all the things that you used to do that got put on the back burner when you got into this relationship. Think hobbies, passions, friends you hung out with… all the things that you stopped devoting your time and energy to because the relationship slowly became the center of your universe. Now is the time to start reintroducing these elements into your life.
Call up your friends that you haven’t seen in ages and propose going out for drinks or for a picnic at the beach. Get back in touch with family members you haven’t spoken to in a while. In fact, start thinking about what kind of things you can do in order to introduce a bit of joy in the lives of others. One of the best ways to move on after a breakup is to think about how you can make others happy.
I know that might sound a bit random, but taking your focus off of your own sadness and working on making another person happy can actually boost your mood exponentially.
For example, let’s say that one of the hobbies you’ve lost track of is baking. You’ve always loved making cakes and pastries, so why not get back into it and make a batch of your favorite cookies.
Why not take them over to your grandma’s house to surprise her? When you brighten someone’s day, you are reminded that you are a source of joy for people. It boosts your self confidence and your self love, both of which are crucial right now.
Moving forward from a breakup is tough, but you can find ways to make it easier.
Another thing to do is to think about what kind of new elements you can introduce into your life right now. First of all, start with reorganizing your living space. The things around you are tied to memories of your ex and they can be constant reminders. My advice to you is to box these items up (it’s up to you whether or not you want to throw them away), and get them out of sight. It’s true that there is something to the idea of out of sight, out of mind. Next, think about how you can reorganize the furniture in your home so that you can get s breathe of fresh air.
Then begin filling up your schedule with new activities. What kind of new things have you been wanting to try out? Rock climbing? Cooking? Salsa dancing? Invite your friends to join you and start becoming busy with things that bring you joy! Go check out new restaurants, organize a weekend trip somewhere, be open to making new friends as well…
Don’t forget the importance of physical fitness. A fantastic way to feel better after a breakup is to get more physically active or switch up your workout routine. Not only will the physical changes boost your self confidence, the release of endorphins and serotonin will boost your mood and energy levels.
Spend your time right now on getting busy with things that benefit you. Prioritize your personal and professional goals, and put yourself first.
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Wishing you all the best,
Your coach when you want to know how to move forward after a breakup