“Alex, do you think that I can get back with my ex? “.
This is a question that I get asked constantly while speaking to clients!
In order to get back with an ex-lover, you must understand your significant other’s reactions in order to in turn adjust your own. In some instances, breakups or separation can be irrevocable as pain and sadness within a relationship have been endured for too long.
But before we can determine if winning an ex-lover back is possible or not, you should ask yourself: “Have you tried everything possible to regain their love and fix your broken relationship?” If you think that you may still have things to say to your ex, or that actions could be carried out to enable your forgiveness, or simply if you need answers to your questions, then you must act fast.
YOUR EX WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU WHILE SAYING “I LOVE YOU”!
After a breakup, people tend to stick to or overly focus on the hurtful words of an ex-lover. And yet, often times those words do not reflect the true state of a broken relationship. You must simply realize that your ex will NEVER leave you and say “I love you” or “In a few months we can get back together.”
A breakup itself or the harsh words spoken by your loved one during a separation do not in essence determine if a relationship is salvageable or not. However, if your ex cuts off all communication, it is obvious that it will be more difficult to get them back. But all is not lost, however. People that I coach tell me on a regular basis: “you’re awesome! I managed to get my ex back after several months without contact.”
Ultimately, if the dialogue is still ongoing, you will have a better chance of getting back together quicker even if their words said to you can be really hurtful! If dialogue has stopped, it will most likely take a longer period of time to win them back.
CAN I GET BACK WITH MY EX? PROBABLY, BUT YOU MUST ACT DIFFERENTLY!”
Nobody is able to tell you without a shadow of a doubt whether or not you will be able to get back with your ex. Based on our experience however, I can assure you that you are probably on the wrong path. If you are going through our website, you will realize that you have not yet exhausted all of the tools at your disposal to get back with him or her back.
You must take control and anticipate the wants and needs of your ex, which will lead to better communication and enable you to showcase the changes that you have made to your life. You must stay positive no matter what and constantly say to yourself: “if I really want to get back with my ex, I can get back with my ex”
YOU CANNOT FORCE YOUR EX TO GET BACK WITH YOU!
Although a breakup will push you into a state of deep sadness, your ex will have no mercy or piety, and you will not be able to win them back through your love and by professing your emotions to them.
If your ex is adamant that it’s over, you will have to change their mind by becoming the man or woman of their dreams while shifting your attitude. You will need to forget for a moment the history or baggage of your relationship and offer a new chapter while remaining patient while your ex is able to rebuild themselves.
Remember that you are not the only one suffering and that it is necessary to allow them time to rebuild themselves so that they can once again let go.
I recommend that you take a step back and once again reflect on your own situation.
Feel free to leave a comment with your thoughts below or to share some of the actions that you have undertaken to try to get back with your ex.
The coach that will enable you to get back your ex,
Alex CORMONT
One Response
Me and my ex broke up for the second time two months ago and of course I did the one thing that everyone tells you not to do have begged and pleaded sent flowers every week and gifts and she asked about me three weeks ago to my friend asked me how I was doing and if I was ok and then she sent me an email 2 weeks ago saying I never meant to hurt you I’m sorry it didn’t work out I want you to be happy I truly do but after the first time we broke up we got back together after 4 weeks and then we stayed together for 3 months after that we were dating for 8 months but now this time she definitely said some hurtful things and she said she was seeing somebody but no one has ever seen him or any pictures of him or anything but after two months of me bothering her I finally clicked in my head to leave her alone so I’m trying your radio silence plan and I’m hoping it will work I have to give her space I love her with all my heart and 34 years old she is 43 and has two kids I am the only one that she has ever let meet her kids and I’m also the only man that has ever met her family besides her baby father… yes she’s Cuban so she has a little bit of an attitude but I know what I did wrong after these two months of learning it was too needy towards the end and begging and pleading didn’t help and I also lied about a text message a girl text me and I didn’t think it was a big deal and I didn’t tell her about it and then that girl ran into her and said I didn’t know you and Chad were still together I didn’t mean to text him and I just didn’t tell her because I didn’t want to start an argument but she feels I lied but I’m trying the radio silence thing now it’s only been two weeks and it’s killing me but there’s nothing else I can do because she’s not contacting me anyways and I’m hoping if I give her space she will contact me or will help shift the power and I definitely know what I did wrong and how to control it and fix it now