When someone breaks your heart, it’s normal that they’d be on your mind all the time. They’re the first thing you think about upon waking up, they pop into your thoughts throughout the day, and they’re the last thing you think about before you go to sleep. Your heart aches for them and you miss them terribly. You probably catch yourself reminiscing about all the good times you had together and how good it felt to be in their arms. The pain of losing them can feel unbearable at times, and you can’t get them off your mind.
You’ve been wondering, “Does my ex think about me, too? Do they miss me like I miss them?” If you’re on this site, chances are that you’re hoping to get back together with this person and you want to know if you’re on their mind as much as they’re on yours.
Every person handles a breakup differently, but there are emotions that we all feel. In this article, I’m going to explain what your ex is most likely feeling and what you can do if you want to make sure you’re at the forefront of your ex boyfriend or girlfriend’s mind!
Why do I still think about my ex all the time?
I was talking to one of my clients earlier, Laura, who was telling me that she just can’t seem to stop thinking about her ex. They’ve been broken up for two months and she didn’t understand why his was still on her mind all the time. Laura and I are working together to help her bounce back from her breakup and become a new and improved of herself, and she was feeling frustrated that her ex was still so present in her thoughts.
We are all human beings and once you’ve invested so much time and energy into something like a relationship, it’s very hard to just get it out of your mind. It’s perfectly normal that you would still be thinking about your ex, whether or not you want to get back together with them. Sometimes we get impatient and we just want to fast forward to the moment that this person doesn’t occupy our every thought, but we have to remember that this is a process and we need to be gentle with ourselves.
Working through these emotions will help you to truly heal from this breakup, which is a crucial step regardless of wether or not you want your ex back. A lot of people think that they don’t need to accept the breakup and learn from it if they want their ex back, but thats not how this works…. I’ll expand on that in a moment.
Right now, if you’re feeling frustrated that you can’t stop thinking about your ex, don’t be too hard on yourself. It’s a very normal human reaction, and one of the best solutions for it is to get yourself busy. It’s OK if you’re thinking, “I think I still love my ex,” but that shouldn’t keep you from living your life and doing things that benefit you.
Even if you’re heart broken right now, don’t allow yourself to wallow in self pity on the couch. Trust me, this isn’t going to increase your odds of success if you want your ex to think about you all the time…
The answer to “Why do I think about my ex all the time” is simple. It just means that you still feel something for him or her. For some people it’s a deep sense of love and nostalgia, for others it’s because they feel that there is still something unresolved, and for others, it’s because they’re deeply hurt.
So, how to know if your ex if thinking about you?
Does my ex think about me: The telltale signs
As I said above, everyone will handle a breakup differently. Some people will isolate themselves from others while they’re suffering, others will bury it all away and pretend they’re fine, and others will go out and party in order to try and distract themselves from the pain they’re experiencing.
Some ways of dealing with heartache are of course much healthier than others… The longer a person tries to suppress how they’re feeling, the worse it’s going to be when it all surges up later on down the line.
And trust me, the emotions don’t stay buried forever.
In all these years as a coach, I’ve also noticed that the majority of men and women have different ways of dealing with heartache. Generally speaking, women are able to pay attention to their feelings right after the breakup and communicate with those around them. I’ve seen the majority of men actually try to distract themselves from these emotions by burying themselves in work or by going out, partying, and/or meeting new people.
Regardless of how a person handles the emotions following a breakup, it’s important to note that there is always a moment in which nostalgia begins to surge up. What’s more, your memories and feelings don’t just disappear after a breakup. Your ex might be proud and might make you think that you’re not on their mind, but chances are that you actually are.
I know that right about now you wish that you could read minds because your ex isn’t making it easy to decipher what’s going on in his or her head, but if your breakup is fresh, you are on your ex’s mind.
If you’re thinking, “Does my ex think about me after all this time that has passed,” it’s true that they might be thinking about you less. When the pain of a breakup is no longer fresh and some time has passed, people have an easier time becoming distracted or even controlling their thoughts.
Just keep in mind that none of this means that you can’t still jump to the forefront of your ex’s thoughts…
So is your ex thinking about you?
The easiest way to tell is whether or not your ex reaches out to you. Does your ex call you, text, message, or email you, even from time to time? You are on their mind if they actively contact you. The same is true if you know that they’ve been asking people about you!
Have you noticed that he or she has been liking the pictures you’ve been posting? Have they been watching your stories on Instagram? If so, you can be sure that you’ve been on their mind. Don’t forget the power of social media in these situations…
If you’ve been speaking, have they made any comments that allude to the future, or a sense of nostalgia?
Unfortunately, we can’t read your ex’s thoughts, but we can do things to increase the odds of making him or her think about you!
Does my ex miss me? Is there anything I can do?
There are all kinds of things that you can do to make an ex miss you, and you are in the right place to learn all about them. We are specialized in getting people back together, so you can find everything you need right here on this site.
Now, in terms of making your ex miss you, they’re going to have to experience an electroshock. They’re going to have to understand that their life would be better with you in it and that they’re actually running the risk of losing you for good.
So how can you do this? Well, one of the most powerful tools for getting an ex back by making him or her miss you is the no contact rule.
It consists of cutting communication with him or her for a predetermined period of time, and the goal is to use this time to learn from the breakup, become the best version of yourself, and make your ex miss you. If you’re wondering, “Does he or she miss me,” make sure you give them reason to miss you!
For more detailed information on how to use this tool and how to spot the signs he or she misses you during no contact, just click here.
The most important thing to be doing right now is to be actively working on boosting your self confidence. A person’s ego can take a huge hit after a breakup, and it can make you fixate on your ex’s thoughts, how much you miss them, and how much you want to be with them. Fill up your schedule with people and activities that bring you joy, try new things, meet new people, go on weekend getaways with your best friends, give yourself new challenges, pick up old hobbies, find new ones, and hit the gym or switch up your workout routine!
All of these things will catch your ex’s eye and begin to remind them of the person they fell in love with in the beginning of your relationship. Actively work on becoming the new and improved version of that person and you’ll become irresistible to them. While you do this, take time to analyze what went wrong and what kind of longterm solutions you can implement.
I know that it might seem overwhelming at times, but we are always here to help. If you’d like one on one guidance and a customized action plan, don’t hesitate to reach out to us directly here!
Wishing you all the best in life and love,
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