I’ve been a love and relationship coach specialized in getting people back together for quite a few years now, and I’ve noticed that there is one thing that tends to give our clients wonderful results: Letting go of an ex that doesn’t want you. It can be incredibly scary because you see it as a huge risk and you don’t want to make it easy for your ex to move on, but it can actually be the perfect tool for helping you to become happy again.
Now, this is crucial whether you want your ex back or not! Letting go of an ex that doesn’t want you will allow you to take back control of your own well being, and if you want to be with your ex in the future, this is the perfect way to capture their attention in the best way possible. I know that perhaps right now your heart is broken and all you want is to be back in this person’s arms, but allowing yourself to let them go is what will allow you to make a better comeback in the future.
This article will be oriented towards those of you that are hoping to get back together with your ex partners, but the tools and pointers you will find here will help anyone who needs to let go of their ex. It’s not an easy thing to do, but you are in control of your own emotions and actions, and therefore hold the key to your happiness. So let’s take a look at how to let go of your ex right now and make your future into what you want it to be!
Letting go of an ex who doesn’t want you is the key to your happiness right now
So you and your ex broke up and you’re realizing that you need to let go. Maybe it’s because you’ve been clinging to them since you broke up in the hopes of convincing them that you could still be happy together and now you’re realizing that this type of behavior is only going to push your ex further away… Perhaps you’ve come to the realization that this person isn’t actually good for you and you need to turn the page, or maybe you’ve just gotten to a place where you no longer want to pursue trying to get back together with them.
So how do you go about letting go of someone who doesn’t love you, when you still have strong feelings for them?
Before anything, it’s important to understand that it will be challenging and it will be painful. I won’t sugarcoat it and tell you that it won’t be, but it doesn’t mean that you aren’t going to be able to get through this.
I often tell my clients that a painful breakup can often be a blessing in disguise. I can’t wave a magic wand and get you to the other side of this immediately, but this process can make you stronger and it is only temporary.
As I often say, you are more in control of the situation than you might realize so you’ve just got to take matters into your own hands.
Walking away from someone you love is very difficult and requires commitment. Commitment to your own happiness and your own wellbeing, and commitment to making your future better than your present. Going through this will provide you with important lessons and personal development that will enable you to become your best self.
The new and improved version of yourself is what will ensure your happiness and attract the right partner, whether that is your ex or not.
Figuring out how to get over someone not loving you is the best way to become the version of yourself that you need to be to be happy in life.
Letting go of someone who doesn’t want you: The best way to be happy again
The pain you’re experiencing at this point is serving a greater purpose, and the moment you recognize and accept this, everything will change.
Understanding that this is a transitional period is going to help ease the pain. Focus on the bigger picture and remember that this is taking you to a happier part of your life.
I also want you to think about this: pain is a very important element in our lives. It is often the catalyst for important change, it is often the thing that shakes things up so that the pieces can fall into place in a better way, and it fine tunes our personality and character so that we can evolve. Without pain we can become complacent, we would not grow, we would not learn important lessons that will serve us in the future, and we wouldn’t have the capacity to reinvent ourselves.
The best way to let go when someone doesn’t love you is to look at this as an opportunity for you. Though it may not feel like that when you get your heart broken, try to remember that this is serving a greater purpose.
Always keep the bigger picture in mind. The lessons you learn and the changes you make now are going to be what ensure that you can have a happy future!
When you love someone who doesn’t love you: Here’s what to do
When I work with clients who come to me saying, “The person I love doesn’t love me,” I typically have them set short term and long terms goals. I want to give them structure and something to really work towards.
Right now, it’s more important than ever to wake up and feel like you have purpose. You have to be working towards something if you want to get to the other side of this challenging period as fast as possible. In doing so, you can distract yourself from the hurt, but you will also be working on restoring your self confidence and you will be improving your personal life.
By taking control of your life, you’ll start to feel better and better and you’ll begin to feel much more in control of your emotions. You’ll be reminding yourself of what you bring to the table, how deserving you are of love, and how you should not have to convince anyone of your worth.
When you are letting go of someone who doesn’t want you, you’ve got to focus on the future instead of fixating on the past. You can’t fill your mind with thoughts about all the what ifs.
Think about your personal and professional goals. Where do you want to be one year from now? So where do you need to be six months from now? And what should you be doing one month from now in order to make that happen? This could be a promotion at your job, saving up for a new car, learning a new language, etc.
Giving yourself goals is going to help you get in control of your thoughts and remind yourself that you are in control of your life and of your happiness. Once you realize that your current situation is just an essential catalyst for positive change in your life, you will be well on your way to turning the page from this painful chapter.
You’ll find that when you get to the other side of this situation, you’ll be fully equipped to live your life to the fullest and either attract your ex back or be happy on your own. Being happy with yourself is the best way to attract the right partner.
So even if your ego is bruised right now, keep in mind that this is all temporary and can serve as a huge tool for ensuring your happiness in the future. Make sure that you focus on the positive elements, even if it’s painful right now.
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Wishing you all the best in life and love,
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