My ex is too proud to come back, what do I do?

My ex is too proud to come backAs you know, you can be faced with numerous obstacles when you’re trying to get your ex back. You’ve already tried many good techniques, but the one you still love hasn’t gotten any closer.

He’s got a strong character, and on top of that, his pride is holding you back from being able to make any real progress and to recreate attraction between you. Your ex is therefore what we call “stubborn as a mule!”

Men often have a big ego, but the one you want to take you back has an especially inflated one. This is causing problems in your situation. Your goal is to reestablish a nice balance in your relationship, without being too needy or overly compliant, while rekindling the flame. In this article, we will explore all of this.

When we are faced with a man with a difficult temperament, it’s important to know how to use and adapt certain strategies so that they prove to be the most useful to you.

My ex is too proud to come back” is something people often say, and if this is the case for you too, maybe you’re getting ready to throw in the towel. This isn’t the best thing, so it’s time to become aware of various things concerning your man, so that you can have a clearer idea of how to overcome your doubts.

In this article I will teach you how to become more persuasive!

Why doesn’t my ex want to come back to me?

One of the biggest problems women often face after a breakup is a man that’s built himself a fortress of silence!

The person you want to get back together with might not have the same mindset as you regarding the subject. For him, it’s over, he says he doesn’t have feelings for you anymore, and that you have to move on too.

A man can be extremely prideful, and even if you didn’t see this side of him while you were still together, you’re suddenly faced with surprising behavior and attitude.

He’s just made a big decision in leaving you, and maybe he’s only back because you’re asking him, and he doesn’t feel like he’s allowed to have his way. But maybe there’s another explanation.

Perhaps you’re the one that left. You weren’t happy, you were having a personal issue, and your relationship wasn’t working out for you so you decided to separate. In this case, perhaps your man wants you to feel his pain.

Of course each situation is unique, but through my experience with coaching, I’ve come to see that they share common themes. If you’re saying, “my ex is too proud”, the cause might be that you pushed him too far and you ended up hurting him. I’m talking about infidelity.

If you cheated on him, don’t consider his pride to be inappropriate. However, it is possible to change the course of action, and to not have to turn the page like he wants you to.

My ex is too proud to come back, but I’ll try anything!

Sometimes a woman sees their ex, the proud man that she loved just the way he was, and thinks that making him want to take her back will be impossible, given his temperament. People often blow things a little bit out of proportion without realizing it.

You think he’s an inaccessible man, and you think he’s angry or that he resents you simply because he’s not making any efforts to come back to you. You have to understand that after a separation, feelings aren’t enough, and pride isn’t always the only reason as to why your relationship hasn’t already been mended. There are a wide variety of explanations.

Just because your ex needs space, and the distance between you is growing, it doesn’t mean that your ex will be closed off to discussions. In any case, you need to respect their wishes as well as certain rules.

By begging him to come back every day, asking him about his feelings each time you speak, trying to find out if he’s in a new relationship or not, all you’re going to do is push him away and make him have less desire to be close to you again. Don’t forget that this is the basic rule for getting back together, so that he will be happy by your side.

If you suffocate him, he’ll want to run away.

The problem isn’t always the ex’s ego. Sometimes the problem is stemming from actions that you’ve already set into motion; actions that aren’t properly adapted to your specific situation, or worse yet, actions that border the “don’ts” of getting back your ex.

We can design a proper, effective plan of action in a one on one coaching session. I know that when you’re in the middle of the storm, you’re hurting and your emotions seem uncontrollable; it’s hard to see the entire situation clearly, so this is why a meeting with an expert on matters of the heart is so important.

Not only will you be able to benefit from my professional experience, but you’ll also be able to set into motion a precise, evolving strategy. Don’t hesitate to explore the toolbar to the top right of this page to learn more about specific guidance.

How can I get a reaction out of a man with too much pride, after a breakup?

Don’t wait for him to grovel at your feet after a separation! It’s important to specify this before you do something regrettable and are disappointed in your ex’s reaction.

Not only does he have a lot of pride, which makes it highly unlikely that he’s going to come begging for forgiveness, but deep down, this isn’t how you want it to happen. You know that if he does this, it’s just a sign of emotional dependence and you know that it’ll result in an unstable relationship.

If communication is preventing you from moving forward, if he won’t stop criticizing you, you’ll have to thicken your skin and stand tall until your ex comes to realize that his behavior is unacceptable. The best thing to do is to not make any brash actions when faced with a cold, irritated, or tormented ex, and to take action when the time is right.

Under these circumstances, you have a tendency to worry too much, to become too needy or compliant so that your ex will be open to your improvements. You should never feel down about yourself because of a man, even if you love him, or else you’ll never be truly happy and after a while you’ll begin to resent him.

Of course you can make efforts to bring about change, but don’t carry the entire weight of the relationship on your shoulders. To make him respond positively, don’t underestimate the importance of giving him space, and take the time to work on yourself as well.

You don’t necessarily have to wait for him to make the first move, but fight off the depression that you are feeling. In this article, I explain how to deal with heartache in your relationship.

The coach when my ex is too proud to come back,



  • morgane

    Dear Adrian,
    my ex and I broke up after more than 6 years and he jumped immediately after in a new relationship…for moths we discussed about getting back together but in the end he chose her…he says he is happy and things with her are great…he refuses to have any contact with me, which is killing my heart and my self esteem…but then he meets my friends and tells them that I am the one, that he thinks of me as the mother of his children, that he will never find anybody like me…but still he is scared that coming back to me would be the wrong decision…so he stays with the OW…do you think I am in front of a case of stubbornness? how should a wise person react to such a behavior?
    Thank you!

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Morgane,
      You simply have to balance things out by starting to date or at the very least by putting yourself out there and potentially meeting someone else. He is way too comfortable right now as he knows you are waiting for him and that he could take you back whenever he wants. If he says that you are the one, he will look to do whatever it takes to win you back when he senses that you are slipping away.
      I can help you speed this process up and maximize your chances of getting back together, please book a coaching session with me if you’re interested.

  • Shai

    Dear Adrian,
    I was recently dealing with a man, not necessarily my boyfriend for over a year. A lot of things he did I ignored, especially in the beginning. I found myself apologizing for things that were not my fault, and begging for chances when I should have left. He lied to me about the amount of kids he had, he refused to be upfront about whether or not he was sleeping with other people without protection, so instead of walking away I looked in his phone. He found out told him I would never do it again. We recently ended it because I actually did it again, and I called him a few names. He said this time going in his phone was workable, but the fact that I said certain things about him told him how I really felt. Keep in mind for over 10 months I have been called every name in the book from, and I sat for the longest and took it. I thought I was defending myself by snapping back, although I truly didn’t mean the things I said. He never apologize to me about anything he has done, and trust me he has done a lot. I felt like I was forcing, but pushing him away instead, but I just wanted to know how he really felt about me, and still to this day Im extremely confused.

    • CoachAdrian

      Hey Shai, although many mistakes were made I think that I can help you turn things around.
      Book a session in order for us to figure how the best way to make it work!

  • Helen92

    Dear Adrian,
    Will my ex ever regret hurting me?
    I’m going to tell you the most painful moments I have had with him! We Have been together for almost 5 years! , are relationship hasn’t been stabil from the jump! He hasn’t been extra romantic in the beginning, he was cold and very Careless from the start! He even told me that, his attitude is going to be hard for me that I couldn’t handle him so! Dummy me wanted to play “ride or die” thru thick n thin ! Like I said this guy has been selfish, abusive, controlling, narcissistic! Whatever you name it he is! Til this He hasn’t. Changed! I was pregnant 2 times, both of those time I handled it by myself! He was busy working! One time he broke my ring finger because I accidentally deactivated his phone, so he was trying to get mine , because he was going to work! But the night before this happened we had a fight, his brother , mother , brothers pregnant girlfriend was there! So I was trying to get past him, accidentally shoved his foot and he got mad and attaked me in fronth of his family! We worked thru it! The next event was! The day before my mom asked me to help her, cuz my ex had a car! And he was like yeah all help, but the next day! When I ask if he could take me there he said, no you should a gotten up earlier! It was 10 min from our house! Btw I moved in with him and his mom!( bad idea) so I asked him for his car keys and he gave it to me and I left with his keys and he was going to work but he has to take the bus cuz I took his keys! I own that car as much as him! We shared everything! My money was his mine vise versa! He came home , he slept on the sofa! For 4 days then we started talking again! And he started changing everything like! Your money is your! And mine is mine! Don’t ever wake me up for school , I use to wake him up with coffee and breakfast and make him lunch for school almost everyday 6-7am I worked i didn’t go to school! I didn’t start before 3-4 pm! I did this out of love! But he has never done anything that I remember outta of love! So now I’m starting to get tired of this man! I trying to get engaged and stuff he agreed but he kinda said something that broke my heart! “Your not my wife I don’t need to drive you” the next day he left, I left to go to the library and there I set and was thinking , and made up my mind that I had to leave him! So I send him a msg saying! Don’t worry close your doors, I’m not coming back home! And I left like a gost, he tried calling, I blocked his phone! At this moment I have had enough! So I went to my mom and told her and she was like go on a vacation relax your mind and forget his dude! So this was on Friday and my flight leaves on Monday, and on Saturday my ex is at work! I went on Saturday and packed my shit in a black plastic bag! Because I gave his brother my bag! … I left everything I had ever invested in there home! There home wAs full of things when I came, before I came you could hear the eko in there house! Took my shit and left! So he called me when I got down where I was going and he begged begged begged!! And dummy me! Forgave his dumbass like that! And I had family’s in my ear saying! How do you know if he loves you? When are you going to open up your eyes etc! Me and him had different religious views! But for him I would be come almost everything because I loves him more then myself! I even took overdose because he was treating me so bad! Anyways so i was like let me see how much this guy loves me? So I said I can only marry you if you convert to my religion! And at first he was like noo we talked about this you promised me! So 2 weeks we didn’t talk, he called and said ok all do it! So I said show my family some respect and so as they tell you how you convert ! He was all in to it! But every day the guy was hot then cold! Gliding like Bambi on ice! And I cryied for almost 1 week straight! And he then said everything my family was asking was to much! So he broke up with me, he uses reverse psychology on me , and said you need to talk to my mother if she accepts us to be together, and I bagged him over and over again! At the end I was like BOY BYE! And we stopped talking and I started going out getting my confident back! It’s been 8 months since we have talked ! It’s been 2 months since I came back! Now we are in the same city! Haven yet to see him! We are 21-24! There are a lot more but you guys understand! I loved him with my heart! I loved him when I was broken, when I was hurt! Now his dating his brothers friends ex girlfriend! Will he ever regret hurting me? Does he know how much I tried? Does he even know how much I was doing for him!?

    • CoachAdrian

      Helen, many mistakes were made here…
      I would love to coach you over the phone, please book a coaching session if you can in order for me to provide you with some much needed feedback.

  • Kay

    Dear Adrian,

    Where can I go to book a coaching session?