My ex boyfriend broke my heart but I still love him

As a coach specialized in getting people back together, I receive messages from people every single day saying, “My boyfriend broke my heart but I still love him and want to be with him.” The pain a person can feel after a breakup can feel all encompassing, and the panic you feel at the thought of losing the person you love forever can be debilitating. That is why it’s so important to take some time to put things into perspective, analyze the situation, and design an action plan that is suitable to your specific situation.

Anything is possible in love as long as you are motivated and patient, and can exercise self control! I always like to remind my clients that though this feels terribly difficult right now, sometimes a breakup is what was needed in order to set you on a new path to happiness with the man you love. Sometimes we all need a bit of a shock to stir things up and make the pieces fall into place in a way that can reinforce your relationship and help it withstand the test of time!

In this article, you’re going to learn the biggest do’s and don’ts of getting back together with your ex, even if he broke your heart. I know that it all might feel pretty overwhelming right now, but rest assured – by the end of this article, you’ll have a better idea of what you need to do in order to reach your goal.

He broke my heart: Paying attention to your emotions

He broke my heart

When a person goes through a breakup, their ego takes a huge hit. This is true for both people involved, but it is especially the case for the one who got broken up with. At this stage, you might feel that your self confidence is suffering.

I bring this up because one of the absolute, most important elements of making someone want you back is restoring your self confidence. This isn’t for your ex as much as it is for you, but the moment your confidence in yourself is restored, you’ll see that people around you are going to start to notice.

It’s also crucial that you guard against things like emotional dependency, which can really surge up after a breakup. You had developed a life with someone and it feels like you suddenly got cut off, so it’s normal that you would intensely miss your ex right about now. The thing I want you to be careful with however, is the feeling of needing your ex in order to be happy.

When you forget that you can make yourself happy and that you alone are in charge of your personal well being, there can be a shift and a huge imbalance in your relationship… which is often a cause of breakups.

If you feel like you might be experiencing some emotional dependency on your ex, don’t hesitate to reach out to us so we can work together on boosting your self confidence. It’s a win win situation! Not only will you improve your quality of life, you’re also going to make your ex notice.

There are things that you can start doing today in order to increase your self confidence. For example, filling your schedule up with new activities that you’ve always wanted to try. Think rock climbing, yoga, kick boxing, painting, or anything else. The more physically active you are now, the better. It will give you a surge of endorphins that will increase your mood and your energy levels, and on top you’ll feel good about getting even more fit.

When you’re thinking, “He just broke my heart,” you’ll be tempted to hide away at home feeling miserable. Now is the time to force yourself to get outside and start spending time with friends and family members that make you happy. Reorganize your space, and introduce all kinds of new things into your life. Check out new places, make new friends, give yourself a new challenge like beginning to learn Italian…

Don’t let the fact that your ex broke your heart and left you keep you from improving your life right now… Besides, it’s the key for bouncing back from this. It is also the key to making him want you back…

What to do when he breaks your heart…

When your heart is broken and you know that you still want to be with this man, one of the most powerful tools you can use is the no contact rule. if you are unfamiliar with this technique, I highly recommend you click the link, but to summarize it consists of cutting communication with your ex for a certain period of time.

The goal of doing so is to give yourself the opportunity to bounce back, but also to make your ex begin to miss you and wonder what you’re up to. Up until now, he’s been used to being the center of your universe and this makes it dangerously easy for him to take you for granted…

When you’re at his beck and call, even after the breakup, he can just assume that you’ll always be around whenever he feels like talking to you. When you break up with someone, your feelings for them don’t just disappear overnight, but people do have a terrible habit of taking others for granted.

A lot of my clients are very hesitant to use the no contact rule because they’re afraid of the time it takes to work. They think that it’ll be too hard to go for X amount of weeks without talking to their ex, or that it’ll be too easy for their ex to forget about them… like I just said, a person can’t just forget about you that fast. You’ve had a relationship together and you’ve both invested time and energy. Feelings don’t fizzle away that fast.

It is however up to you to give your ex even more reason to miss you. You can do this by actively working on becoming the best version of yourself. This will help your self confidence, and it will catapult you towards that moment when you know you’re ready to get back in touch with him.

When is that moment, you may ask?

Well, you will know you’re ready when he is not your source of happiness.

He broke your heart and you miss him, but you have to fill up your schedule and life with things that make you happy separately from him. Your joy should come from yourself – not from him.

My ex boyfriend broke my heart but I still miss him: The Letter

My ex boyfriend broke my heart but I still miss him: The Letter

Another fantastic tool that you can use when you’re thinking, “We broke up but I still love him, is the handwritten letter.

In this letter (that you should send once you’ve taken some time to heal) should explain what you’ve come to understand about the breakup and why things ended, and what you’re doing in your life now to ensure that the future is different.

You want him to understand that you’ve realized what needed to change and you regret not recognizing it in the relationship. You can thank him for helping you to grow and learn, and make the focal point of your letter the fact that you’re improving your future.

Later on, when you begin working towards getting back together, you’ll have to be able to reassure him that you two aren’t going to get back into the same exact relationship. Like I said above, sometimes breakups need to happen to get you on the right path, so make sure that this is what’s happening!

Take this time to really analyze the breakup and take the important lessons that are to be learned. While doing so, make sure you work on boosting your self confidence and becoming the best version of yourself.

Your ex fell in love with you once before, so you know it can happen again. If you can successfully become a new and improved version of the person your ex fell in love with in the first place, you are going to be irresistible to him.

As always, we are here to help. I know that each and every situation is entirely unique, so don’t hesitate to get in touch with us if you’d like one on one guidance. Together we can design a custom action plan that will get you to your goal of getting back together sooner than you thought possible!

Wishing you all the best in life and love

Your coach when you’re thinking “My ex boyfriend broke my heart but I still love him”

Adrian