Should I help my ex financially

We are a team of dedicated love and relationship coaches and we work with people on a daily basis who need help in either restoring a relationship and reaching its full potential, or getting back together with an ex. When I’m working with someone who wants to be with an again, there’s a common theme that arises in many of my coaching sessions. They ask me, “Should I help my ex financially and keep giving him/her money now that we’ve broken up?” In the majority of these situations, it is a man that is an inquiring about this type of situation because in many cases it is the man who supports his partner financially. That said, I have worked with women who wanted to know if they should still help their ex partner during the separation or divorce process. I wanted to write this article for any person who is wondering about this, so let’s dive right in!

Should I help my ex financially: the different types of situations

One of the most obvious cases is when two people have a child together and finances are required help raise the child.

Today’s article is going to be for those of you you don’t necessarily have a child together but you have been supporting your partner financially, or at least helping him or her out with money.

So the answer to the question of whether or not you should keep helping your ex financially after the breakup is going to reside in who made the decision to end the relationship.

If you two do not share children and the money you were giving your ex was helping them, it is still important to hold on to your humanity post breakup.

I know that very often, tensions and negative emotions get the best of us, so it becomes easy to want to abandon your ex.

A lot of people come to me and say that their ex cheated or did something hurtful, so they wanted to just stop helping them.

The thing is, a break up is never going to be easy and there will always be heartache involved. I don’t want you to lose track of your humanity – especially if you’re hoping to get back together later on.

Spiteful, vengeful, or any type of hostile behavior might feel good in that moment but it can lead to complicated repercussions.

Now I am not saying that you need to support your ex financially forever, especially when you’re separated. The important thing to keep in mind is the importance of handling the situation with compassion and grace.

This will help you to feel better about yourself and it will also put you in a better position in the future. Be careful to avoid behavior that can lead to regrets.

Should I help my ex girlfriend or boyfriend financially: The answer

Should I help my ex girlfriend or boyfriend financially

The simple answer to this question is that if you are not with this person, you should not be obligated to support them financially speaking. That said, your approach to the situation is of upmost importance.

If you’ve been in a relationship with this person and you have been helping or supporting them financially, it would be cruel to just pull the plug overnight, EVEN if they were the one who chose to end the relationship!

I recommend weaning this person off of your financial support, and allowing them to get back on their feet gradually.

The person you were with needs to understand the financial help you are giving them is an element of being in a relationship with you, and if you are separated, it’s not going to continue.

If they no longer want to be with you, your financial support for them will slowly begin to subside as well. Again, I know that you might be hurt and angry, and your ego might be very bruised right now, but this is not the type of thing that should end abruptly.

Holding on to your sense of humanity will serve you greatly in the future.

For anyone who is wondering, “Should I help my ex financially,” just keep in mind you never want to do anything that is going to shoot you in the foot later on.

If you had been in a relationship with this person for a long time can you were providing financial stability, then they need to understand that that financial stability is part of the bargain of being with you, but also that you are compassionate and are not going to remove that support from them the second they decide to leave you.

This shows them that you are good hearted person that is not doing anything that would make them think less of you. For all of our clients who are trying to get back together with an ex, I want to hammer this in. Your ex needs to see you in a positive light if they’re going to take you back.

That said, there is another important concept to explore when it comes to giving your ex money

Should a person help his ex financially if they want to get back together?

I got an email from Patrick this morning who it told me that he had been in a four year relationship with his ex-girlfriend, and he had been supplementing her income for last two years.

His question for me was something that I am often asked by clients in this situation: “I really want to do everything in my power to make her understand that I would do anything for her.

This woman is the love of my life and I can’t just let her go, so I need help in winning her back.

One of the things I’ve been wondering about is the fact that I had been helping her with her bills while we were together because I was making more money than her.

A lot of my friends told me to cut her off financially because she left me, but I’m not sure that’s the best idea. I want to keep supporting her so that she understands that she can count on me.

Do you think that by being there for her financially, it will help me win her back?” I bring this up because a large part of the people who asked me about helping and ask financially ask me something along the same lines.

Will helping an ex money ill earn them points in the breakup recovery process ?

Will helping an ex money ill earn them points in the breakup recovery process ?

I’m going to go back to what I was saying before about weaning your ex off of your financial support. You need to make this person understand that there are perks of being in a relationship with you.

Though it is not the most important one, in your case, financial help is one of these elements.

Your ex doesn’t get to have their cake and eat it too. They don’t get to break up with you and still have access to the things they were getting from you while they with your partner.

Now, HOW you handle the weaning-off process can affect your break up recovery process. It’s kind of the same concepts as sleeping with an ex in an attempt to get them back.

If you hand everything to them on a silver platter, what incentive would they have to consider working towards getting back together with you. Now money is not the most important thing, but it is definitely something that plays a big role in our daily lives, and in our relationships.

So I encourage you to start working on weaning your ex off of your financial support, while working on becoming the new and improved version of yourself.

When you are able to become the 2.0 version of the person that your ex boyfriend or girlfriend fell in love with, they will start to see you in a new light. This is how you can make them start missing being with you.

The stability and security that they could get from you emotionally and financially will be very attractive, and it will help you to make them start gravitating back towards you.

Just make sure that you guard against people that only want you for financial stability – I know it comes as no news to you that that is no foundation for a fulfilling relationship.

So if you have found yourself in a situation where you are wondering, “Should a man help his ex-girlfriend financially” or “Should I continue giving my ex-boyfriend money” and you have found yourself in a sticky situation, I highly recommend reaching out to us for a one-on-one guidance. We can help you define a concrete action plan and help you from A-Z.

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Wishing you all the best,

Your coach when you’re wondering, “Should I help my ex financially”

Adrian